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Gaol Time????
March 17 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
Blackstilettos i guess your gut will tell you the right way to go.If he agressive with you then get the flock out of there..And whatever you do,dont dress up as a copper !!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Id love to say i would be open and welcoming to someone who had served their time and paid their debt to society. .......... Unfortinately......... and i wrestle with myself over this.... I would be very guarded and cautious with someone who had been charged with a violent crime. I have a friend who served time for imbezzlement........ I visited him in goal ("jail" is so much better) he is a broken man from the experience (not me visiting !!) we never played before or after.....but we remained friends. I guess it comes down to how you feel about him....he has been honest and told you ...explore his feelings about his crime and jail time........Communicate........ and good luck.....to both of you miss b
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RHP User
16 years ago
Very hard one to answer, i agree with Taipan "case by case basis". I think you can tell fairly early on if a person is genuine, gentle, or a just a sociopath waiting to explode........ trust your instincts and intuition, wouldn't want to be the first one he has dated since getting out! He maybe needs time to find himself as well and adjust! init4sm
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RHP User
16 years ago
.....because I wonder how many men I have dated that didn't tell me their "history" because it was just sex. Bit scary when I think about it...but thats what horny does .... The moral conscience makes us wary, but it gives us a choice. I agree with the peeps...when the head fights logic, go with the gut Jx
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RHP User
16 years ago
This is highly hypothetical of course... but how people react to a stressful situation is a pretty good indication of the defense mechanisms that they have developed through life experience... Personally I'd be pretty guarded entering into a relationship with a person who resorts to violence of that nature... gaol time changes people I have no doubt.... so.. "how does this person cope with stress now" is the question I would be looking to answer before really committing..... something you just cannot ask... really I expect I would have to make those observations over a period of time.... my answer is obviously yes.... with cautionary note... so that's not really any different to anybody else really! Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
Leopards don't change their spots.
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RHP User
16 years ago
how do i say this tactfully....all i see in your post is...woman, weapon and assulti say.... "take off those stilettoes and run like the wind"but if you decide to stay....keep your eyes openand be very carefullgood luckroxxy xxxooo
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RHP User
16 years ago
Like you said Everyone deserves a break.. Or is that never give a sucker an even break Or is that a leopard never changes its spots Or was that cliché Go with your gut instinct Whatever it is just be careful either way
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RHP User
16 years ago
Did he get the $200 when he went past go ??
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am a little idealist... I believe in hope and that we can all change. I choose to believe society can become a better place if we all commit to helping each other. Yep... that's why I keep getting screwed by so many RHP guys and told I'm gullible. I'm not... I'm just NICE ! I'm always alert but trustworthy. I think it's a healthy combination. Hugs, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
On one hand I'd love to think he's learned his lesson and moved on in his life, maybe he was having a bad day... But a couple of things I have no time for: people who attack police (they put themselves on the line for our protection, even if they do get it wrong from time to time,) and; guys who attack women (thats just wrong) and that man attacked a female police officer with a weapon. I won't say "DON'T DO IT!" because I don't know how you feel about him, but be careful with him. I personally wouldn't classify him as a good reliable bloke. celts
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn'Yep... that's why I keep getting screwed by so many RHP guys and told I'm gullible. I'm not... I'm just NICE ! I promise not to call you gullible ;)Like the other idealists, I think people should be given a fair go - particularly without knowing the details of the case that sent them to gaol. I think you should be alert, not alarmed :) As stalky said, you need to jsut see how they behave under stress NOW, how people react to events changes over time and through experience. The fact that they told you now, rather than later or not at all is a plus IMO (unless they were proud of it)CeltsandBrits - you're in Perth so may not have seen much Mardi Gras footage, I guarantee you that there are some Dykes on Bikes who would absolutely make mince meat out of you (and that is not taking a shot at you). IMO the notion of women as delicate little petals is outdated, some are, some aren't. While I'd love to bump into Miss Saturn in a darkened alleyway (repeatedly ;) ) - I wouldn't if it involved a fight, have you seen the punishment Muay Thai folks can deal with their shins, it is absolutely bananas.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Firstly, I actually agree with everyone who's come before me here."A leopard never changes its spots" is one of my favourite sayings, however ... I met someone online almost a year ago now and he disappeared off the radar for a while. I just assumed he wasn't man enough for me (LOL) but it turns out, he was in jail for a few months. ARMED ROBBERY!!!Sooooo, being the open-minded, non judgemental person I am, I gave him serious points for honesty. He's lost friends, an entire social network, harmed his career quite possibly beyond repair and I feel for him in that respect. He has a voice that is pure seduction and something tells me we could have A LOT of fun together!!! We chat now and then on the phone or via text, but I have backed right away on pushing to meet him. Partly because he's headed back there after losing his appeal, and partly because common sense tells me there are plenty more fish in the sea who use the kind of weapons I love to see stuck in my face, as opposed to the less attractive, disrespectful-of-law-and-order variety.Trusting your gut instinct is often the hardest of all the lessons in life to learn, but mine has never put me wrong. Yet.Good luck. Be careful.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Any guy that can hurt and hit a woman doesnt deserve a break in my books! What sort of man would do that and to do goal time it must have been very violent so make it even worse. I say run!
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RHP User
16 years ago
run a mile lady and dont look back. speaking from experience, hes not a nice guy if hes been at the point where jail time is the only option a judge sees.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Please note, Newsflash "It's Not Me that is Dating this guy" Gosh glad that newsflash is out of the way...It is a close girlfriend of mine who is dating this guy. She is heavily leaning on me for advice, support etc..She is fresh out of a 14yr relationship only after 8weeks meets this guy. Second man in her life ever...... She is a great chick and I thought what better way find good/anonymous advice is to post the question here, so glad I did. Thank you for every single comment...She is heavily relying on her gut feel, although the gut feel is an ok gut feel. I have met this guy for about 5mins, quick chat and he seems like your regular guy. As long as she treats her ok, I am ok... Yes the other important advice I will be giving her on behalf of all of you is "How does he manage his stress" Now... Major question, needs to be asked. Yes yes yes thank you re gut feel advice, I am drilling her to go with gut feel. Not only dealing with Gaol time & offence, having to deal with him going to aa classes, anger management classes and checking in with parole officers...heck, to put up with all that also... Personally I would be supportive although I am not the person. It's a hard deal. The reason he got slammed (pardon the pun) is because she "the mrs" was a Cop!! Anyone who hits, messes with a cop!!! you are history in the court and to a jury. Hence the gaol term. No offence any Cops in here, luv a man/woman in blue...mmm Yes he did collect the $200 when he passed go....lol Exactly, what do you actually find out about whats gone on in a dates passed??? heck do we have to start saying, "So... have you been in Gaol recently"..... I generally stick with "So How Big's your Shed" lol....No my father does not own a Brewery.....seems a nice ice breaker. Thanks again everyone, your awsome and thanks for taking the time out to write...thanks for your personal messages. I had to clarify it's not me!!! bbs ps. I am so glad I don't have to take off my Stilletoes and run...lol pss. heck, If it was me, I would run like the wind in my Stilletoes........ psss. will be back to write some more when I get time..and hopefully reply to you in more detail.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Black stilletos, I have a lot of legal experience and you do not know what you are talking about, for this sentence to be administered there has to be a history, extensive violence and the sentence does not immediately mean goal cause they are cops. There are many many factors which go towards a sentance. Not a "You hit a cop your in goal". There is a lot more that this guy is not telling this girl. Its just screaming danger danger for this girl. Be careful.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Weareupforit Thank you for educating me. Well it is an extreme sentence for a single punch. Ok yes surely there must be more to it. If you can educate me further, I would be very appreciative. I am very concerned for my friend. Thank you again for your input/educated advice.
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