M57
GETTING FRUSTRATED GRRRRRR!!!!!!!
October 02 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
i agree..thats why i always reply...and not with just a no thanks
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RHP User
15 years ago
As you have eleven friends on your friends list. Your profile is fairy scrambled. It may help to decide what it is you want to say and edit it. You would be outside my distance range, although if I liked your profile that would not hesitate to strike up a friendship with you. I like to think I am polite enough to reply to all messages and flirts recieved. Fionabee
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Playful_days4you
15 years ago
Pls just to start with I know my spelling may not be so good as I am french and english writting isn't that good.In this day and age I beleive the women out there have choice and power to them for those choicesI can respect that but as the man said above I am always polite and never crass when sending msg's so why is it so hard for the women out ther to say Hey thanks for our interest but Your not quite what i am serching for. Save it as a template then you can use it multiple times.I know women get smashed with flirts and msg's every day but it is just common curtasy to reply to someone honest efforts.Now on the other hand I dont hold any grudge to women out there that dont reply to DICKHEADS who msg's women with vulgaraty and disrespect and if those men complain well you are dickheads in the first place and deserve what you getas you ruin it for us decent men that are genuine and respectfull.Anyway a short reply is only comon curtasy Best regard to all Unchained Frog
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Playful_days4you
15 years ago
There goes my spelling again LOUD and CLEARThank you for telling me the difference rachlovespete
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boots_69
15 years ago
As a person that does watch their spelling and does read the profiles, I understand where you are coming from. The two lovely ladies who have answered this post get a big thumbs up from me. It is unfortunate that they are the exception rather than the rule.I have belonged to a number of these sites over the years and they are all similar, and I can assure you its not just men who don't read profiles - I used to get about 10 messages a day from online sex workers from another site and it is annoying.Only hting I can suggest is hang in there and hopefully you will find the elusive 'sexysexysally and fionabee' out there
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RHP User
15 years ago
That there are LOADS of guys on here who ruin it for the good ones, it is also a fact that women on here are spoilt for choice and a sad fact that as a society in general we have lost the art of good manners particularly in the online world.There are many forum posts on this and similar topics and sadly it doesn't seem to change things but there are still plenty of great single guys on here and plenty of ladies (and couples) who do reply to messages, i feel for the guys who dont get answers to their well thought out messages but it is a numbers game and given enough time (and messages) you will find what you are looking for here.Happy hunting,Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
I understand women not replying to rude and vulgar men who hound them with terrible messages (unless that's what they are looking for), but if someone takes the time to send them a decent message, whether it be short, long or otherwise, I think it is the least we can ask for a short reply, even if as previously stated, it is in the form of a 'no thanks' template.Sorry for being a repeater, but I don't think there is any excuse for this, ladies. If you don't want to be bombarded by messages, hide your profile or lock your inbox. I don't think it's too hard to weed out the dickheads from the ok guysPeace
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RHP User
15 years ago
I do find with this site and i have only been here a short time that people don't reply but they really should reply back to others all it takes. is a diplomatic response just saying the way you honestly feel it saves the person wasting their messages on you for no reason. the only time i wont reply is when someone clearly hasn't read our profile or ignored what our profile clearly pointed out as in what we are looking for
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RHP User
15 years ago
I reply to all messages recieved....... The no thanks ones I find hard to send cause i know it always made me feel unloved and undesirable...so I go gently there Flirts however.......I dont even look at them.....the replys are so inadequate....and i have said so in previous posts that i dont do flirts ...except face to face.... (must go add o profile) But I agree wholeheartedly...this may be a sex site...but there is ALWAYS room to be polite and cuteous in sexual dealings.... it will make all the difference with this girl.................... and nearly all the others as well
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RHP User
15 years ago
i reply to every single email i get....i dont get many so i have no excuse not too haha i find it just plane rude not to answer iv spoken to you truescot and you are a funny bugga...how anybody would not reply to you i dont know some women have no clue...there must be some rude women on here cause this is a common complaint from the boys so come on girls...buck up..stop being so damn rude and answer the guys...its not that bloody hard, you should be thankful you have some interest roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'bjuice44' If you don't want to be bombarded by messages, hide your profile or lock your inbox. If they were to lock their inbox or god forbid hide their profile...how else are they going to get attention! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Great Post and absolutely a Great Point! I agree with you totally...had a lovely conversation with a 27yo this morning, friends from the start..all good. I am not interested intimately with the younger guys although find good conversation is so rewarding. When he messaged me, I thought gosh you haven't even read my profile grrrr but upon reading the message, he said he did and just wanted to be friends...great!!!! sigh of relief..I have many friendships of different kinds here. And, I like that! Both men & women etc..put all their sexy business "out there" and simply can't and will not just use manners. Sooooooooooo where is Roleystone ??? and will nominate you for best arse thread mmmmmm xxx Best of all, have fun with this site, there are genuine people on here... xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
TrueScot, mate I feel your frustration but unfortunately here on this thread you will only get reponses from women who swear on a stack of Karma Sutra's that the diligently read and answer every email - we will never get a reply from the majority of women who simply think they are above such trivial matters. Now those that are regular readers here will know I am fairly tame compared to many here and that I have given up contacting women. It just isn't worth my time nor effort anymore. Now I will admit I did occassionally get a reply, but most were along the lines of; *** Not in this lifetime *** You have to be joking *** Only if I am a millionaire (oh I loved that one) I am sure you get the drift. Hell I even had one so kindly take the time to reply and tell me that she considers me 'unfuckable', I was so impressed, so touched by her kind words. Strange thing is she was no beauty either but apparently that doesn't count. Please be cognizant of the fact I don't send out msgs to all and sundry, but to only those that I meet their criteria, or the majority of their criteria anyway. So I decided to give the game away and ventured out into the real world. Yes that scary place called reality. And surprise surprise, I found that not only could I actually meet women but heaven above, they actually enjoyed my company. So why the difference between RL and RHP. Simple actually. Some (notice the qualifier, I did not say 'most' nor 'all', just 'some') women here have got into the ego trip so much that they forget to look into a mirror. Just because they get inundated with msgs they actually believe they are worth all the adulation that those msgs contain. They begin to beleive the crap that is fed by them by some guy with one hand on the keyboard, one hand on his cock as he types. Whereas in reality, this same guy would probably walk right past her without a second look (or cross the road to avoid her). It is just a basic fact here (and actually on any site, vanilla or adult) that a fair percentage of women won't bother replying to a msg because they know they don't have to. They have that luxury of being able to pick and choose, and they really don't care if they hurt someone's feelings. But these same women will also be the most vocal if someone they are interested in has the hide to ignore them, he is suddenly a PLAYER. I mean how dare some guy ignore this God's Gift to Mankind!!! Just take all the non-replies, the rude, demeaning, belittling replies that we sometimes receive with the knowledge that you just dodged a bullet, those women just are not worth of your time, your effort. mooka
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RHP User
15 years ago
yep, i hear u mate.....im sure a lot of the women on here are overwhelmed with the attention!!!(and im sure alot are just here to get it, because they can't get it in the real world).....but totally agree......just reply with a "no thanks"....ive had it occasionally...and it's cool....wont send a msg to them again....but yeah...they read your msg, and you see they're online......nothin.....very frustrating.......we'll be right mate.....their loss!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hit it right on the head mate!!!.......
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RHP User
15 years ago
well i realy thought id get a few backs up with this one but no, all positive, just unfortunate im not the only one! though it begs the question, if all the decent people are the ones on these forums who is having all the funhahaha and Mooka, i could not agree more with your comments! there, that will upset a few lol truescot xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
i dont read the forums very often, but this topic caught my eye, i am guilty of not always replying to the emails i receive, sorry folks,.. i sometimes really dont have the time, so i have now set up an automated reply, which basically says thanks for the email if were intested we will be in touch...etc etc would that suffice do you think???
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RHP User
15 years ago
Amen to mooka!!! That is the best and truest thing I have read in these forums. The real world is a different place, and the fact is in 'reality' there are a higher percentage of women on the planet than men, but the pure weight of numbers on this site means that the girls bat well above their average.I'm glad you had the guts to say it all, someone had to!
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RHP User
15 years ago
There are way too many great posts for me to comment individually..but as I read them all all I could think was it's really sad and frustrating that some women ruin it for the rest and act the way they do. I have always said in my profile I find it hard to reply to all the flirts..i do try but sometimes they flood in like it's going out of fashion and that's not said to toot my own horn cos I don't think I'm above all the rest! But being a human being I'd like to think I treat people the way I'd like to be treated and that's with a response to my email. So anyone that has taken the time to sit down and write to me..especially the ones that really make an effort and there are so many (eg. One from bjuice last night). I admit sometimes or a lot of the time it will be a simple 'thanks but I'm not interested' but to the best of my knowledge (correct me if I'm wrong) I've always replied. I can see how it's frustrating guys but please don't let the rudeness of some women deter you because there are a lot of us who enjoy reading your funny emails and will have the courtesy to reply and the ones that don't, well theyre not the kinda girls you'd wanna be with anyway!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Firstly, thanks SDL, TrueScot and Bjuice, I just said what I feel and remember I have nothing to lose now lol But I do have a very simple solution. If RHP got off it's butt and added a very simple field on everyone's profile stating their reply percentage for messages (lets face it, flirts are useless). Just think, you click on a profile and see the lady has a reply percentage of 90% - seems like you would have a chance of getting a reply. But the next profile might show a reply rate of 3%, you wouldn't even bother contacting her. I bet if RHP did that, suddenly a lot of women here would start replying because only an idiot would send a message to someone with a very low reply rate. mooka
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RHP User
15 years ago
I remember there used to be a swingers site, Sensual i think it was called had a three strikes and your out rule. If you failed to reply to three messages you got booted from the site.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
That would be a great idea Mooka, lol I like it! Its really sad and frustrating to see that some girls or perhaps a lot of girls ruin it for the rest of us that do reply. Flirts are sometimes a handy tool...but I have had periods where my inbox gets flooded and like you i'm human and don't have hours to sit in front of a computer. However I believe in treating people the way I would like to be treated and that is with an answer to my email even if it is a simple 'thanks but i'm not interested.' To the best of my knowledge and correct me if i'm wrong I have always answered any emails I get sent within the month or so..If a person has taken the time to read my profile and write me an email that has gone to a little bit of effort it always puts a smile on my face even if I'm not interested..and the polite thing to do is reply. Please don't let it discourage you guys from making an effort with your emails cos they are appreciated by some and the ones that don't...well she wasn't the kind of girl you'd want to be with anyway! Happy searching :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' But I do have a very simple solution. If RHP got off it's butt and added a very simple field on everyone's profile stating their reply percentage for messages (lets face it, flirts are useless). Just think, you click on a profile and see the lady has a reply percentage of 90% - seems like you would have a chance of getting a reply. But the next profile might show a reply rate of 3%, you wouldn't even bother contacting her. I bet if RHP did that, suddenly a lot of women here would start replying because only an idiot would send a message to someone with a very low reply rate. mooka Mooka I said the exact same thing a couple of months back...I doubt that RHP would go for that...as it is all "numbers" for them. I myself think they are shooting themselves in the foot...as guys will pay for membership ONCE and then never pay again because of this shit. They don't even get rid of the hookers and Cam girls, why would they get rid of girls that don't reply...because they need the girls to attract the paying guys!! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mooka'If RHP got off it's butt and added a very simple field on everyone's profile stating their reply percentage for messages (lets face it, flirts are useless). Just think, you click on a profile and see the lady has a reply percentage of 90% - seems like you would have a chance of getting a reply. But the next profile might show a reply rate of 3%, you wouldn't even bother contacting her. I don't think that would be fair to those women who receive a real flood of messages - they may answer fairly diligently, but still have a low response rate. A better indicator might be:a) establish a factor based on the number of messages that the woman has received from individual men relative to the number that other women are sent,b) establish a factor based on the number of responses that the member has sent to individual men relative to the number that other women send out,c) divide them to come up with a fair ratio of their response rate relative to the rest of the women on the site.Of course, the problem with any such approach is that some women would game it. A low response rate would be seen as a way of keeping down the numbers of messages that they receive form men that they doubt they would be interested in anyway. They may believe (and may well be right) that only hot guys would contact them, as they would be the ones in with a real chance. Once men realise that's what's going on, they'd game it too, thinking that it may be worth their while to try the low percentage women, making the whole set of statistics irrelevant.In other words... I've got no answers, except to appeal to the girls to do the polite thing when they receive a message that isn't crass and did involve a reasonable effort to write. Good manners are the answer, not statistics.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekygirl73'BlackStil, Love you're comment about 'best arse' thread!! And you have absolutely NO idea how exactly on the money you are in this case!!! Clearly a woman of excellent taste.......... I have great taste ... Oh really Cheekygirl mmmm Goodgirl.. xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Firstly, thanks SDL, TrueScot and Bjuice, I just said what I feel and remember I have nothing to lose now lol But I do have a very simple solution. If RHP got off it's butt and added a very simple field on everyone's profile stating their reply percentage for messages (lets face it, flirts are useless). Just think, you click on a profile and see the lady has a reply percentage of 90% - seems like you would have a chance of getting a reply. But the next profile might show a reply rate of 3%, you wouldn't even bother contacting her. I bet if RHP did that, suddenly a lot of women here would start replying because only an idiot would send a message to someone with a very low reply rate. mooka I think this is an awsome idea! Bit like ebay, check out their history and feedback..similar concept...It would work well.. Girls just need to have some manners...Gosh if he is not what you are looking for for sexual reasons, friendships are great! No need for bad manners... Seriously guys, there are plenty of women on this site so please don't waste your time with the non repliers..so many more lining up..who will reply. Please everyone keep speak up, it's a woman's first complaint about a guy, "they won't speak up" Speak up loud guys and don't forget we do think you are awsome.... xxx If anyone is naughty they can go straight to my room...................................lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
There are only half a dozen active profiles for people in my area. The good news is that all bar one have responded. The bad news is that they all said no thanks, (polite but firm) Now waiting for new members.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ill be naughty Blackstilletos, how naughty do you want me to be?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'BlackStilettoes' Quoting 'mooka' Firstly, thanks SDL, TrueScot and Bjuice, I just said what I feel and remember I have nothing to lose now lol But I do have a very simple solution. If RHP got off it's butt and added a very simple field on everyone's profile stating their reply percentage for messages (lets face it, flirts are useless). Just think, you click on a profile and see the lady has a reply percentage of 90% - seems like you would have a chance of getting a reply. But the next profile might show a reply rate of 3%, you wouldn't even bother contacting her. I bet if RHP did that, suddenly a lot of women here would start replying because only an idiot would send a message to someone with a very low reply rate. mooka I think this is an awsome idea! Bit like ebay, check out their history and feedback..similar concept...It would work well.. Girls just need to have some manners...Gosh if he is not what you are looking for for sexual reasons, friendships are great! No need for bad manners... Seriously guys, there are plenty of women on this site so please don't waste your time with the non repliers..so many more lining up..who will reply. Please everyone keep speak up, it's a woman's first complaint about a guy, "they won't speak up" Speak up loud guys and don't forget we do think you are awsome.... xxx If anyone is naughty they can go straight to my room...................................lol blackstilletoes i thank you for the compliment, you make me blush xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
urw Truescot If more men spoke up, we may learn something..At my age I am still learning lol... xxx Adore a man who speaks his mind..Keep it up Truescot in more ways than one xxx
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boots_69
15 years ago
BlackStilettoes,would love to be able to learn with you. BTW folks this topic is running on another thread single guys.... I feel for themHas brought out some interesting thoughts and worth the look.Boots
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RHP User
15 years ago
You can join my class anytime...but if you are naughty you go straight to my room...and if you are lucky I will give you detention or is that detained!!!! :) For me, I love learning how guys tick..and love conversations that are open about anything...it's all learning...We are so so so different sexes and that's why we crave eachother...mmm xxx scooting to other thread mmm inneresting
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'GirlTuesday'Try not to take it personally...slow and steady wins the race but fast and furious gets u all sweaty.................but its true i've been on here on and off and i've only met 1 or 2 people im only a guest but when i here comments like this i think is it worth it paying that fee just to be rejected time n time again take care TRUESCOTT and i hope u find what ur looking for mate
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why do straight men put pics up of there arses?!?! I am not gonna do you arse matey!! I nice smiley face will get you a much better response! and of cause a nice sexy dick pic wont harm lol and long profiles scream desperado and boring! Get a life! Get of the forum sites and go live a life out there! I am over 40 and still enjoy a good night out! why not? and as for responding to emails. I get more then 20 a day! most guys dont even read my profile before sending flirts or emails! and if the profile pic dont get my attention I might not even waist my time to reply! Sorry! Sorry guys, I am new to all this and maybe just to old fashion! what happened to being wined and dined? what happened to romance? And Mooka, you have a great idea there! and they can add a place where woman can rate the men they have met and warn the rest to stay away from losers, fakes and time wasters'! and of cause the good lovers
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