Friends with benefits

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Many women on here seem to be open to fwb type relationships provided the men are single. Maybe they dont want their friends to have strings that could cause complications. I have played with quite a few guys in open marriages and relationships and found them to be more respectful and willing to explore and have fun.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think you had a similar post here recently OP,I suppose you are hoping for a different response. If you are looking for single women here, then you must realize that most are looking for single men.It is as simple as that. Why not broaden your search and look for an attached woman in a similar situation to yourself. Most single women in your age range are spoilt for choice here,there are many more men than women,so the odds are also against you. One of the problems with a fwb situation for a married man is the time factor.When, if you want an ongoing arrangement will you have time to see someone?People live busy lives and your primary relationship will always come first ,scheduling regular meets can be tricky. Having said all that,you are a good looking man and there will definitely be women who find you attractive.You appear to have represented yourself honestly and a woman who is not looking for an emotional attachment and who may have a few fwbs may be very interested. x Hugs H

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  OP - Hesione has nailed this for you....and there is not much I can add   Even though you have been honest about your status of which I applaud you for, your not an attractive prospect no matter how good looking you (and judging by your pics ) are....the bottom line is your not available   Now I dont speak for all women on here - for some women you are a dream....the perfect fuck and flee... but for many single women your not   Women do not like to think they are "second" best in any shape or form- and with you they always will be....you will always be in a hurry to get home to your life, your wife and your other commitments - after the deed is done, your never going to linger on.   Ultimately (and I speak for myself and some others) I hope to meet a great guy that will start as a FB and may develop to something else - one lives in hope but it never will be with you....I would always have to fit into your timing, your schedule, your life and honestly why should I ? when there is a plethora of lovely single available men on here...its pick and chose here for all us women...hooking up with you, well whats really in it for me ?, an hour or so of great sex and then your up and gone... ..many women will tell you that is not an attractive prospect - If I asked you to stay for say dinner, or a watch a dvd and have a glass of red, if I asked you to come to a swingers party the following weekend or lets go down the pub now to see a great band, and a stop over at my place later on (wink wink) , you are always going to say No.....so basically I would just be a warm pussy to you for a hour or so ...not a lot in it for me....and even though you state your in a open relationship ...well I will still have to fit in with what you wife wants, demands etc.....what about what I want ???   So No OP for the majority of women , you are a PASS... and click on the next profile   Dont get me wrong, there are women here who want nothing more (and more power to them I say) than what you are offering.. and there are those who are in similar situations, as Hesione says, partnered in some shape or form and require a lover - and thats the type of of arrangement that you should be looking for...I have a g/f whose husband is terimnally ill..no way in the world is that marriage going to break up, shes in there rite to the bitter and sad end, but she could do with some me time and your the kind of man that would be most suitable to her and her current situation..... so you have appeal but it is limited....   And remember this.   Women are wired differently, we are emotional creatures ...and it its within our genes to mate and settle......(not all) but most...and "open relationships" (and I speak from experience) tend not to be as open as one thinks, when one party is ever emotionally challenged.   So be realistic about what you want.......   As for me, and in this I speak for myself...   Although my mother taught me to share my toys, I dont feel the need....I love my toys, I like to play with them in my own good time and I will happily share when it suits me but most of the time I like to put them back on the shelf where I can see them and I then I like to take them down and play with them again , again when it suits ME...if this makes me somewhat selfish.....Shoot me...

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Salsa and I tried an open relationship We had got bored with the dynamics of the swinging, same room sex, girls play guys watch (yawn) and just wanted normal sex without all the bells and whistles and nipple clamps (okay keep the clamps) with other sexy people. Watching each other fuck or get fucked was just not our scene anymore. For her it was easy, top quality guys with big muscles and caps on sideways hitting her up on text messages all night when we were watching TV or in bed. It was like an SNL sketch, text messages like - "You up?"... "Hey, you. What up?"... "You out?" Another one: "You out?" Another: "You out?" And, finally: "What are those big boobs of yours doing right now?”or "You up?"... "You out?"... "You up?"... "You out?"... "You out?"... "You out?"... "S'up?" My phone remained silent all night. Even now unless i post a forum. I get zero views on my profile. I could have that I"m a axe wielding dwarf and no one would notice. This place is so top heavy with guys and single guys are bottom of the pile (which sounds like an oxymoron) Word from the wise I had more success with an open and honest profiles on dating sites. You never know your luck. And now I'm single RHP is exactly the same. It's not RHP's fault we just need to move to a country that has more chicks than guys :PAndy

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  RogueGeek

  13 years ago

  And have FWB. It's really not as hard as some women here are saying. In fact, it is quite simple. I have many interests that my husband does not share. Thus, I make friends with those who share those interests. Occasionally, I also get naked with those friends. Everybody has a hierarchy of friends - it's up to you where your FWB fit. Some ladies are OK with that sort of arrangement, some are not. Some guys are OK with that arrangement, some are not. I prefer FWB to FB because my time is limited - when I get a night off I don't like choosing between hanging with friends and visiting a FB. Having a FWB means I can do both at the same time. Cheers, MS

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  what a pity you are so far away...I am looking for a fwb however find a lot of men really baulk at my situation as it is a little out of the ordinary. As stated in some previous responses you are not unattractive, I am surprised you seem to be finding this difficult to achieve.Good luck, any time you are over east.....CheersDarkside

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Well, i NEVER thought i would be saying this, but i have been in a FWB situation for nearly 2 years with a married man!!! We talk nearly every day, but only see each other every few weeks due to time restrictions (for both of us) our situation is a little different because his wife doesnt know (a situation i NEVER thought i would allow myself to be in) but, the part time FWB thing just works for me! I have been single 4 years, have no desire for a relationship anytime soon, unless someone amazing came along that is... My FWB and i have the most amazzzzzzzing sex, great conversations, and talk about everything and anything.now, in saying all this, I still wouldnt choose to be in a FWB with a married man as a first choice, because no woman likes to feel second best. But if a spunky man came along, with his wifes blessing and there was a connection there, well im not going to say no just because he is married!My FWB and i had been chatting for over a year before we both gave in to the urges, and i havent looked back!So OP, I can understand where you are coming from, but you need to understand from a womans point of view, with so many guys available that a married man is rarely going to be someones first choice. Unless you have something really special to offer her, something special to catch her attention to begin with. My recommendation is just find yourself some sexy female friends, dont expect anything but i think that most women would be receptive to a good looking guy like you *once they get to know you* - just if you go in like a bull at a gate, theyre gonna think its just too much work!Good luck, and i hope you find someone that youre attracted to and who understands your situation :)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Don't give up............. I am also in an open relationship and i am honest about my situation both on my profile and when i make contact with a lady. Sure, i got a lot of "thanks but you are not what i am looking for" replies and i think there are two reasons for that 1) they simply didn't believe i am in an open relationship 2) they didn't want someone in a relationship. I currently have a fwb and have had some in the past. None of them have had a problem with me being in a relationship, infact they probably preferred that i am (and they know my partner knows also) because all they wanted was a fwb with no pressure of a relationship. There are women out there looking for us........ just keep trying and good luck!

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Reading through the comments some women have said that they dont want to be second best. Unless you have hopes of the guy leaving his wife or of starting some kind of permanent relationship then there is no such thing as being second best. You are friends because you like each other and get together occasionally for sex. It should be a mutual thing that you both get something out of and not just one putting everything aside for the other. Think of it this way. Would you still see your FWB as a friend if the sex stopped? If the answer is yes then that is a true FWB but if the answer is no then they are just a fuck buddy.

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  RogueGeek

  13 years ago

  Really need a 'like' button here :)Cheers,MS Quoting 'MadameZentai' Reading through the comments some women have said that they dont want to be second best. Unless you have hopes of the guy leaving his wife or of starting some kind of permanent relationship then there is no such thing as being second best. You are friends because you like each other and get together occasionally for sex. It should be a mutual thing that you both get something out of and not just one putting everything aside for the other. Think of it this way. Would you still see your FWB as a friend if the sex stopped? If the answer is yes then that is a true FWB but if the answer is no then they are just a fuck buddy.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I have finally figured out the problems with meeting women on this site, none are real in perth. I have had an endless amount of interest and meets from another site, so if you are real and want to meet, look for my pic in the oasis of the internet.

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  RogueGeek

  13 years ago

  Just because a lady isn't interested, doesn't mean she isn't "real" (whatever the hell that means). If you have interest on other sites, by all means go there, but leave the veiled insults at home. MS

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