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Friend Collecting....
January 19 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
That I have met offline and I aim to keep it that way
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erotictouch4u
14 years ago
Same as TR...Only those I have met personally ET xox
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RHP User
14 years ago
You see it on facebook too. lol What's it to a nice lady like you?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've gotten requests from people I've never spoken to, never chatted with, not even forumed with and definately fall outside my 'looking for' preferences. Can't say I leap at the opportunity to BBF with total strangers. Kinda leaves me with a big rubbery one.. I'm not xenopobic it's just that total strangers freak me out! At least buy me a drink! Tell me how nice I look. Put in some effort to know me first.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I was asking a guy last night about his "Friends list" as they are all hot sexy females with the size 8 figures...and he said that they are just people that added him and he said yes! I myself believe it was the other way around...he sent them requests and they said yes. You will find alot of guys have the same set of girls on there! Some people don't care...they just say yes to everyone! I think they see this as a kind of FB thing I guess! The more they have on their friends list...the less likely I would be interested! . My friends list consists of people from the Forums that I enjoy reading! xFunlovingx
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Innercircle
14 years ago
It's just like facebook really, where there is some pathetic competition to accumulate "friends".If you haven't met them, what's the point? There is a 'short list', and a 'hot list' to store your "potentials", so no need to have hundreds in a supposed friends list...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with everyone else. People with that many "friends" are just friends collecting and it could put people off if they are considering meeting them. I received a friend requst once from a profile of a 19 year old woman who has never contacted me previously. I was flabergasted and of course I didn't accept the request as her profile read something like "I want to meet hot men who know how to treat me like a slut". Unbeliveable.
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RHP User
14 years ago
This isn't RSVP!Plus it was probably a man.Quoting 'CHRISJM' I agree with everyone else. People with that many "friends" are just friends collecting and it could put people off if they are considering meeting them. I received a friend requst once from a profile of a 19 year old woman who has never contacted me previously. I was flabergasted and of course I didn't accept the request as her profile read something like "I want to meet hot men who know how to treat me like a slut". Unbeliveable.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I used to have friends but I deleted them all. It created too much conversation about why I "ranked" one friend higher than another and who I had been with etc. I'd rather keep my RHP business very private... give or take a few thousand forum posts ! Cheers, Saturn
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RHP User
14 years ago
1500 friends!!! Just clicking the mouse in the accept box 1500 times sounds exhausting.We usually tread with caution when we see a profile with a huge number of friends. I think some people feel that its like extra promotion for there profile. Having there profile show up on other peoples profile's friends lists.We have a rule that we only accept a friends requests from people we have actually met in person and we say this in our profile. This is met and not necessary played with. We don't ever send out our own friends request to anyone though. If they are already our friends there is no need to display them like badges.Tim
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DonnaBrett
14 years ago
We only accept friends we have met in person in the play scene. No matter how great a profile sounds or even if we've spoken to someone on the phone we will not add them until we can verify that they are legit and the only way to do that is face to face ..or other body parts LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
Humans are by nature, creatures who seek each other out generally.What harm are they doing?So what if they are "collecting", what sinister reasons could be behind that?Live and let live.THIS is the best we have to talk about here?! Seriously now?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have met with a good number of people on my friends list, some of them are intimate friends who i have known for 2 years now.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Reminds me of a song from the movie Jungle Book. Sung by a group of Vultures. I suppose having friends on here can be a negative thing. The community is so small and everyone seems to know or hear things about someone. So if you have a list of friends with whom someone has had a negative experience then that might reflect on you. It shouldn't,but thats how some think. We have a few friends listed, some we know well,others we don't. We haven't necessarily played with them,but we have chatted. We like the idea of making friends with people with whom we can discuss sexual matters without being judged. Its not all about having sex (did I just say that?). So having a big list of friends doesn't put us off, neither does a profile with no friends on it. We understand why some don't and sympathise with those who have hundreds. It must be tough having all those friends and being lonely too.lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'bfgmatthew' You see it on facebook too. lol What's it to a nice lady like you? who moi, nice?
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RHP User
14 years ago
My friends list are the ones i ACTUALLY met (numerous time actually) and became good solid friends... I fuck around with these things.. :P
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz'Humans are by nature, creatures who seek each other out generally. What harm are they doing? So what if they are "collecting", what sinister reasons could be behind that? Live and let live. THIS is the best we have to talk about here?! Seriously now? Yes I am one of those lazy people, it was becoming annoying clicking, yes yes, no, yes, no no no no etc blah so i thought what does it matter in RHP, they pretty much can see the same as everyone else anyway, FB is different with the security to your data. So i a). might make someone feel good by accepting their request, they are often guests so cannot send me messages anyhow. Plus at the time i thought, hey this is gonna be bloody good advertising! lol! But really, care factor ZERO! I think if people are gonna make a judgement call on something so pathetic when viewing my priofile then good riddence NEXT! don't want your stoopid rools anyway this is like a bible bashing, shoving ur ideas down peoples (who could care less) throats! (don't hate me just coz i have lots of friends )
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RHP User
14 years ago
I didn't think it was that big a deal. If I like the look of a profile, I send a friend request. If they don't want to be friends, they don't have to accept me and if they do, I can always see if they are online at the same time as me.
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smo669
14 years ago
You can accept and be online friends, chat and get to know each other and it may lead to a hot encounter 1500 is a wee bit over the top tho
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RHP User
14 years ago
we have maybe 5 people on our friends list...of these...only one is a playmate. the others were added for different reasons.... waiting for addition to our friends list are many hundreds of people who have indicated their interest in being addded...it doesnt happen............as we dont see this as a 'facebook' substitute.......and dont need a flurry of attention each time we post a pic, comment in a forum, or edit our profile...
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RHP User
14 years ago
We tend to ignore profiles with many friends especially those without pics. Figure they're either friends hunters, pretenders or bed hoppers who get a thrill from being accepted. Maybe they have to announce they are in the game and are good at it as well. Are they actually genuine profiles? We constantly get requests from interstate and from profiles we're not looking for even though we state we don't have a friends list by choice. Just goes to shows how many actually read profiles, it's on the first line ffs.Like rockercouple mentioned, make use of your short list and hot list.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I see a request as an indicator of interest if someone requests my friendship I check them out if I like their profile (I read them in full) then I accept if I don't then I don't. It is a way for me to show a potential playmate interest and a way to compliment them.I see it also as a way to express a purely friendship connection like someone you engage well in a forum with (even if you are not what they are looking for) and you have a mental click or someone that msg's to see how things are every now and then and you have a casual repartee- I like that...... makes me feel less lonely when my partner is a away every 2 weeks for 2 weeks. I don't like to just have people that I have played with because then everyone knows who I have and have not been with.FB is now thoroughly boring for me now- I just want to see everyone naked lol....the only thing missing from RHP is the ability to have a status (limited to a to100 characters I declare)
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RHP User
14 years ago
If you accept a friend request then their profile pic comes up on your profile ( well, six or so do anyway) which gives them more exposure. It may also indicate that someone with lots of friends has been on RHP for some time. It may also indicate they like to have heaps of friends(close or not). They may see everyone as a potential friend and that's cool too. I don't think it has to mean any more than I've already mentioned does it?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Most the those on my friends list have been generated from either the Chat room or here in the forums. I will admit that I haven't physically met many of them, and to be honest, I probably never will meet most of them. But I still consider them my friends, we chat and interact outside of the RHP sphere of interest.One thing that does piss me off about the chat list is insecurities. I have had one friend ask me to delete another of my friends from my list as she had 'words' with the other lady in the chat room. She kind of got pissed off when I told her NO, I and I alone decide who to add to my friends list. Funny thing is, she could have deleted me from hers but didn't and now knows better than to tell me who I can consider friends or not.It does make me laugh though when you click on a woman's profile and all you see is "NO SINGLE MEN, ALL SINGLE MEN CONTACTING ME WILL BE DELETED IMMEDIATELY, I AM ONLY AFTER WOMEN" yet her friends list consists entirely of single men with not one female listed. And they wonder why people get confused here .....
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RHP User
14 years ago
We don't accept friend requests as they are open to too many different interpretations. Does the list reflect the people you've chatted to? The people you've played with? People you like the look of but have never met? Or just to add another number to the list (the 1500 club)? We always appreciate when people have gone to the trouble of asking, we usually send a message to explain our point of view to try and avoid any offence.
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