Foot in Mouth..

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think it is great when you find something that you don't like about yourself.....Us as humans sometimes deny these faults until we are blue in the face...It is a good thing for the mere reason is that you have identified it as a trait you don't like so therefore you are no longer in denial and can make a conscious effort to change what you don't like about yourself! No use beating yourself up over it...Just accept it and do what you feel you need to do to make the changes! Now I have to stress that when I say "YOU" I don't mean you personally CrackUp...which is what I should have explained in your Compassion post! . Don't give up the Forums as you obviously love it...If you find that something makes you angry just take a few breath's, have a cuppa and look at it from different angles! If you feel that they are attacking you as a person then by all means go hell for leather on their arses lol...although some might get off on it! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  To change feet

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Don't go deserting us just yet, CrackUp. You're not going to find as many people kind enough to tell you you're a fuck up as you will in here.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  sometimes RHP is like a rabbit hole,and we are either the rabbit or Alice.The written word lacks tone,intonation,and sometimes it feels like if we open our mouths...ooops place our fingers on the keys, somebody may be offended...may not be our intention but it happens.. Climb back outat the rabbit hole,maybe we should all be on that tv show'''My strange addiction''....Freya founding member of RHP forum tragics.x R

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I spent a lot of my teen years on internet forums (no surprises there) so like a lot from my g-g-generation I've had a lot of practice at it. But for people just now venturing into online discussion it's more or less a new mode of communication that has its own rules, codes and etiquette to learn.Don't worry - no-one's really a natural at it, but it's something you'll develop the more you do it. It's difficult because you don't have all the clues you have in face-to-face communication like tone, pacing, emphasis, inflection etc. to determine meaning. Some of it can be added in with formatting, but for the most part you've got to pay more attention to context.As a general rule of thumb I just assume everyone is being sarcastic all the time, and work backwards from there. You'd be surprised at how effective it is to not take anything seriously or at face value on the internet, especially when it's from semi-anonymous sources!If it's any consolation I hate speaking on the phone for much the same reasons as you find online posting frustrating. It's just a different skillset.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Again, I say I don't overthink things. If there's a foot in my mouth my only decision is to suck or to bite ...

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Take Two dammit!!!! Bloody computer!That's just life don't you think? You give your opinion and sometimes you find you have inadvertently caused offence and need to apologise. Other times, your meaning is misconstrued and offence is caused regardless. Being the strongly opinionated person that I am, I've often found myself in this situation. And people tend to target others who are forthright, perhaps to try and bow them down or perhaps just to shoot them down. The thing you have to learn is what is worth defending and what you should just walk away from.I'm nowhere near as active here as I once was, simply because the forums have lost what I once found so attractive about them (and its been recently pointed out how much I was 'bleating' about this). Should I go on the defensive about this? No, because I do say it, but in the grand scheme of things, its not worth getting bent out of shape about.Funloving has pegged it in giving you her opinion. She's quite right, look at it from different angles, however, as I said before, make your decision as to whether it's worth going to war about. It can be hard at the time, anger is a powerful emotion, so step back until you cool down.A final comment - no-one likes having their bad/incorrect behaviour pointed out to them, myself included. All you can hope is the person calling you on it has your best interests at heart. If you feel it's for another reason, then still stop and look long and hard at yourself and decide could you afford to pull your head in just a little? I'm evolving into a bit of a tortoise from the practice, but in the long run it makes you feel better.Good luck with whatever you decide to do.Viking

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  An Ex LOVED "Foot in mouth"..   My 7 inches just never did it for her

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' There is a reason your threads are a place everyone feels confortable to post at.A good reason imo... xoXoxThank you for your very kind words and understanding nature Mrs PeachyP, your constant kindness means more to me than you can know. I should try and do something more constructive with my time aside from the forums but, it's hard being restricted to home a great deal of the time. I think that is where I am coming unstuck. If you have the time and the inclination, we should do coffee one day .

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Quoting 'VikingBitch' Take Two dammit!!!! Bloody computer!That's just life don't you think? You give your opinion and sometimes you find you have inadvertently caused offence and need to apologise. Other times, your meaning is misconstrued and offence is caused regardless. Being the strongly opinionated person that I am, I've often found myself in this situation. And people tend to target others who are forthright, perhaps to try and bow them down or perhaps just to shoot them down. The thing you have to learn is what is worth defending and what you should just walk away from.I'm nowhere near as active here as I once was, simply because the forums have lost what I once found so attractive about them (and its been recently pointed out how much I was 'bleating' about this). Should I go on the defensive about this? No, because I do say it, but in the grand scheme of things, its not worth getting bent out of shape about.Funloving has pegged it in giving you her opinion. She's quite right, look at it from different angles, however, as I said before, make your decision as to whether it's worth going to war about. It can be hard at the time, anger is a powerful emotion, so step back until you cool down.A final comment - no-one likes having their bad/incorrect behaviour pointed out to them, myself included. All you can hope is the person calling you on it has your best interests at heart. If you feel it's for another reason, then still stop and look long and hard at yourself and decide could you afford to pull your head in just a little? I'm evolving into a bit of a tortoise from the practice, but in the long run it makes you feel better.Good luck with whatever you decide to do.VikingVikining, I think I should follow suit , being a tortoise for a little while is good anchoring behaviour. Self analysis is best done in the safety of ones shell xx I always enjoyed your posts btw. Thank you for your well wishes.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I think the most important thing about any forum is not posting when you're angry. If something pisses you off, that's fine, but posting in the heat of the moment is what gets people in trouble. Plus I think that you can't get a sense of the way things are intended via a text like medium, simply because you can't hear the context. I'm hoping that makes sense. No doubt about it crackup, you post some emotive topics but we're all adults and can choose to post or not. You should be proud that you have the guts to apologize if necessary

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  What I wouldnt give for a sarcasm font.....   Kisses Focus

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  boots_69

  13 years ago

  Then stop before you hit the send button. Re read and the back space bar is you friend.Saves me from saying sorry too often and the vent is good too.

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