Flirt or message?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Well Doug Ive had some responses from both and many non responses from both. I have to have a bout 30 messages that where never even opened by the other person. However generally speaking i think most women would prefer a message over a flirt. Try both and hedge your bets.....youre bound to get a reply sooner or later. Good luck. Max.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Doug i have found flirts to be fun, but far less successful for attracting sufficient attention from someone you are serious about getting in contact with. Many ladies are inundated with flirts and mail and you need have something unique and genuine in their inbox to strike up a conversation.. Check some of the other forum posts for some great replies from ladies on similar topics that will give you a good idea of whats attractive.. From what i have found in my wanderings, a well worded email that is lightly flattering, somewhat witty and unique to the individual (scrap templates), genuine, and with lots of open ended sentences that prompt a reply, is the best way to begin a conversation with someone you are interested in talking with. Have a fun and specific message title that is likely to have itself opened and read... Many times have i flirted with someone, only to be ignored... and weeks later sent an email to the same person and ended up with a great conversation, a new friend, or meeting in person. Admittedly, i sometimes skip flirts in my inbox too, it shows a lack of effort on their behalf, and there are only so many people you can reply to... not every flirt or email will be responded to so make sure yours is a cut above the rest.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hi dougahole I am only new here myself, as I only joined a week ago, but I'm slowly working my way around how this place works. Personally, I like to think that if someone takes the time to send me a message, 99% of the time I will respond, a) because I think it's rude not to, and b) because I can actually say what I'm thinking, using my own words, as opposed to being forced to use some generic or automated template, which does not adequately convey the message I am trying to give. As a guest member, I am able to respond to emails, which is very refreshing, so I generally take that option, as often as possible. Even if the person who sends me a message does not meet my criteria, ie they are usually married or attached, or live a very long distance away, then I can convey to them that I am not interested, not because they don't appeal to me, (as often they actually do) but because they are married or attached or distance is an issue. You can address the issue and let the person know why, which takes some of the sting away and lets them know that it was not at all personal. Flirts do not give you this option. On the issue of profile content, this may sound old fashioned, but I think you reap what you sew. If a profile is rather scant in details, poorly written, or worse still, template driven, to me it screams "I couldn't really be bothered to give you information; and I'm just seeing what I can get out of this. I'm just here to pick up as much as I can as often as I can, and I'm not too fussy about the quality either". A more detailed profile, however, gives you the impression of someone who has given their profile some considerable thought, and who just may have a more discerning taste. And wouldn't you rather be desired because you are considered quality and not quantity? Personally, I am more interested in people who have ample information in their profile, and more so if there's a bit of humour thrown in. This really gives me a feel for what the person is all about, a hint of their personality, and the message they are trying to convey. I think a somewhat lengthy profile sends out a more genuine and sincere persona, and let's face it, sometimes truth, or more like the lack of it, is quite prevalent in the online dating environment. I wish you lots of luck and success in the online dating environment. If nothing else, the forums are very entertaining and seem very genuine, and such a great time waster too! Cheers :-)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If you've got something to say, you can't beat a message. I like sending flirts though, if for no other reason but to spread good will. Hugs gaz

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  playfulminx

  16 years ago

  I occasionally do my own window shopping and pop guys of interest into my Hot List to try and contact later. Other than that, it's quite time consuming to trawl so I use My Flirt list to see who has flirted me. If there's anyone of interest there, I'll let them know. Other than that, messages are the best way to get my attention I guess. I will generally always check new messages but I might not worry about new flirts until a quiet point in the week :P

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Messages all the way. flirts are a waste of time in our opinion. we've paid Platinum membership so anyone can get us, so we won't ever reply to flirts.If you're serious, you'll send a message. How would those people value our time if they don't put the time and effort into typing a message?

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  you mean people actually read the message that you said?! Get out of town!

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