M39
First thoughts
April 15 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Pulls up a chair, loosens his tie, pours a scotch, and dits back to observe :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL. Men do not approach you at a bar/pub/club unless they want to get into your pants or into the pants of someone you are with. They always have ulterior motive.
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RHP User
12 years ago
What took ya so long honey....best Mae thinking voice of course...:-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
My first thought as a single woman in her 40's......... how big is his wallet and is he wearing a wedding ring.
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RHP User
12 years ago
First thought? Depends on a lot of things. Is he under 20 or over 70? Does he wear a Salvo's uniform? He is bar staff? Is it DG with a loose tie, holding a Scotch? Actually, my first thought is probably always: "Yes?"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is he bar staff*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Will let you know if and when it happens as I've never been to a night club nor the front end of a bar, and have never been approached by anyone in public :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Here we go again..."*sigh* "No! Don't walk to me" "Another round girls?" "Not another one. Why me?" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I very rarely get approached by men in public, even back during those times when I did have something approaching a social life. So my very first thought would probably be, "what the fuck??"
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am surprised that women don't get approached in public. If I had a dollar for every time a man came up to tell me that God has blessed me ... while almost falling into my cleavage I would have almost $5!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
@ OP.... dont be such a pussy lol... (term of endearment in this instance.... exhale, and up-puff the chest.) The REAL question you want an answer to, is...... what makes a woman decide she's going to have sex with this guy. The rest is merely peripherals. Go on..... ask what you really want to know..
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madotara69
12 years ago
Why are the ladies not approaching the guy, that's what normally happens doesn't it? Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' They always have ulterior motive. Hardly an ulterior motive - we all know why we're there ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Because women are much more scared of getting a NO...... then men are, wouldn't you say so?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' The REAL question you want an answer to, is...... what makes a woman decide she's going to have sex with this guy. It was only after reading this I realised the OP is not a couple. Confusing pic.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I would start chatting away if they were pleasant enough and displayed good body language... I would talk to them just like I would any other person, I wouldn't think anything as I would see them as a person in the same venue as me. BUT then again I go into la la land...and don't see it like they are picking me up. Sorry I'm no help - unless of course I'm next to DG having a scotch. I would be thinking "Think I need another Scotch!! - make it a double" DG would you have the mermaid with you?? Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' LOL. Men do not approach you at a bar/pub/club unless they want to get into your pants or into the pants of someone you are with. They always have ulterior motive. Face it when you actually sit back and think hard about it, the first thought is always Huba Huba come here or Eu don't come here. No one approaches any one with the thought "I just want to be friends" sexual attraction is always the main thought that goes through any one head male or female. Tell me when was the last time any one in here approached someone in a cub/pub/bar with the intention of being just a friend. (Men will offer to buy a drink and attempt to start a conversation and be social to get into woman's pants if that woman doesn't find him sexually attractive straight of the bat she will social but will lose interest and move on, a women has two things in mind I'll get him to buy me a drink that way she gets something out of it, he looks good I wouldn't mind wrapping my legs around him. My sisters used to do it. I always had to listen to them say "I didn't have to pay for any of my drinks last night" its a game for most women see how many men they can get to buy them a drink, the fact they looked good was a bonus they had no intention going any farther) Sexual attraction is the main base for every relationship with out sexual attraction there is no going to the next step which is getting to know that person that's when you find out whether you want to go farther or not. It's no differentBeing in sites like this, in most cases the sexual attraction part is skipped and we go straight to the next step (unless you have seen their picture first then its the sexual attraction thing first) chatting with someone getting to know them, then it comes down to the first step sexual attraction through pictures how many of you have been happy with the chat but then seen the pictures and thought nah I'll just be friends. Now be honest! To state the obvious We are all human its life. There are a few women in here that are asking the question why they don't get approached in public well there are a few reasons for this one - you are very attractive and confident there for must not be single and wouldn't be interested. - (don't shoot me for this one) you are simply not attractive. - you are with a group and to approach a woman in a group would be to embarrassing for the gay to get a knock back.- the way you behave. - how much you have had to drink I could go forever the reasons why you don't get approached.more women get approached when they are by them selves. From Meeka100 "LOL - you have to look friendly and approachable". Try this experiment next time you go out sit at the bar buy your self and see what happens it might take an hour or so men like to look around and see if you are with some one before they approach. "Approaching women in the real world with all to see is very intimidating... from an ancestral point of view, approaching the wrong woman could have resulted in death. So if no one sees your approach & the girl liked it cool. But if the partner saw it or the girl rejects you & tell someone you could have been in serious trouble. " from Balllard topic Guys - liking women on here vs in public Litonya "Because women are much more scared of getting a NO...... then men are, wouldn't you say so?"No I would say so. Why would you think it is any different for men. Men would get far more rejections than women. Women have the power men don't Dang Is he bar staff* More bar staff get picked up than the average patron. They get to see every thing that goes on and know how to work the crowd it becomes second nature to them if they do it long enough. They know which women/men can and can't be approached. Think about it they serve every one chat with every one at some point of the night, a good bar person knows the crowd. Well I've ranted long enough.To conclude Every one will have their own view of it, but in my point over the last 2 years this is what I have noticed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmm, can he dance? :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I can't speak for another women DG, but unlike men as per a lot of your responses, I don't go out and look at every man as a potential root. I never go out with the express intention of picking up, however I "think" that a lot of men do. This is why women get defensive OP. We just want to go out and have a good time and not be hassled.
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Let's say he can ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
And that is why women get defensive. But a few of you have confirmed it... You can't even talk to a man because he is trying to get in your pants. Best thing is to be a bitch and hope he goes away. Is that right?? Men. Seriously do you think of anything else?
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' Hmmm, can he dance? :-) He might be a good Salsa dancer ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
:P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'allsorts72' There are a few women in here that are asking the question why they don't get approached in public well there are a few reasons for this one know about the other women, but I know why I don't get approached much.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' Because women are much more scared of getting a NO...... then men are, wouldn't you say so? I would have been really sad for ever, if Tara said no to me That is a scary thought. It was my birthday party, but she still came up to me, gave me the biggest smile, a hug, and I never let her go ever again, I would be just as afraid as any lady too things like that. I personally feel like it is a bit seedy to look at women then approach them just as something to fuck, I don't see women that way, I see them for the friends they could be first, then sometimes it works out that way (fiends), never had sex with any woman, since the day I met Tara, have had a dabble with her and another lady once, but got interupted, by some other friend, that was that, but still have plenty of lady friends, by either way with aproach. So Litonya, I value friendships enough to let down my guard, leaving a little time to see how things go. Then there is nothing to be afraid of. Though when I asked Tara if I could kiss her, ( I knew she would say yes)
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madotara69
12 years ago
***(friends)
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RHP User
12 years ago
With all due respect, you brought this thread way off topic. Maybe start your own on why women don't get approached?
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' And that is why women get defensive. But a few of you have confirmed it... You can't even talk to a man because he is trying to get in your pants. Best thing is to be a bitch and hope he goes away. Is that right?? Men. Seriously do you think of anything else? Yes Meeka, go look at: ....... Dude perfect, ping pong trick shots. We do have other things we like to do getting our balls into things. Sorry Meander, just saw the chance too, sneak that in. But men will be men.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'maturiser' Quoting 'looking4quality' Hmmm, can he dance? :-) He might be a good Salsa dancer ;) ..
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am surprised that women don't get approached in public. If I had a dollar for every time a man came up to tell me that God has blessed me ... while almost falling into my cleavage I would have almost $5!!! but if you had a dollar for every time a guy looked at your profile pictures you'd be a millionaire !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' With all due respect, you brought this thread way off topic. Maybe start your own on why women don't get approached?
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' First thought? Depends on a lot of things. Is he under 20 or over 70? Does he wear a Salvo's uniform? He is bar staff? Is it DG with a loose tie, holding a Scotch? Actually, my first thought is probably always: "Yes?" Fair enough ! I am wondering if you have ever decided having sex with a guy on the spot because he approached smoothly and had a great body language (and met your other standards) ! Or it takes
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Frankly, If I have something to say to someone in my vicinity, I usually just say it. I don't have an automatic ulterior motive. Standing at the checkout overhearing a conversation... And I might pull a face to the person next to me... To see if they heard it too... This leads to a conversation... Not usually a long one, and not usually culminating in a "do you wanna fuck"? Same thing at the bar. Different thing in a naked crowd at an orgy. If I approach you there, I'm more than likely thinking about rooting, so brace yourself. Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'maturiser'I am wondering if you have ever decided having sex with a guy on the spot because he approached smoothly and had a great body language (and met your other standards) ! At swingers clubs/orgies maybe, but otherwise never. I may think "Hubba hubba!", but it takes a lot more for me to want to get naked with a guy one-on-one.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You can't even talk to a man because he is trying to get in your pants. Best thing is to be a bitch and hope he goes away. Is that right?? Men. Seriously do you think of anything else? I completely disagree with Meeka. Now what do I do? But seriously, I don't get the feeling every guy is trying to get into my pants, and I'm certainly no naive little lamb.Not everyone has an ulterior motive. Taking people at face value can be very liberating.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Meander, I thought Meeka was having a dig, by her comment. And just would like to be friends with guys without the bullshit. Help me Meeka, help help me Meeka, or tell me to get fucked
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RHP User
12 years ago
for the cognoscenti.... Remember the Wedding Singer:-) :-) :-) :-) xxQ
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I am surprised that women don't get approached in public. If I had a dollar for every time a man came up to tell me that God has blessed me ... while almost falling into my cleavage I would have almost $5!!! LOL, but with this pic in your profile, I am sure you will be so popular, you do not need to get approached in public ;)
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' First thought? Depends on a lot of things. Is he under 20 or over 70? Does he wear a Salvo's uniform? He is bar staff? Is it DG with a loose tie, holding a Scotch? Actually, my first thought is probably always: "Yes?" Fair enough, I am just wondering if you ever go out with the intention of getting laid or there must be a rapport on the basis of trust which takes time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'maturiser'Fair enough, I am just wondering if you ever go out with the intention of getting laid or there must be a rapport on the basis of trust which takes time. Neither.
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
I haven't be approached by a man of any description in years, I'd probably faint.......💋 it's seems I don't ooze that sex appeal thing, but I ooze the fuck off and don't annoy me thing, I don't do it on purpose, it just must be me.......😒
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just sit. Have my few bourbons and leave. For the exact reason meeka said. I don't wish to be seen like I'm trying to get I to their pants simply for acknowledging them. Or striking up a conversation. There's more to me than being a cock on legs. But I do love people watching, and watching guys fail time after time after time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
12 years ago
I think I would miss all the signs that anyone was interested these days as I'm not looking for it. I have had a guy start a conversation in the chemist recently, I figured it was idle chit chat....maybe I missed it :(
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RHP User
12 years ago
"does he look do-able"
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' "does he look do-able" Awesome thought inspirit ;) just make sure you give "yes" as an answer to the question especially when approached by young guys ;)
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I think I would miss all the signs that anyone was interested these days as I'm not looking for it. I have had a guy start a conversation in the chemist recently, I figured it was idle chit chat....maybe I missed it :( Having seen your profile pics, I am pretty sure that the guy missed you !
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HotMocca
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Meeka100' You can't even talk to a man because he is trying to get in your pants. Best thing is to be a bitch and hope he goes away. Is that right?? Men. Seriously do you think of anything else? I completely disagree with Meeka. Now what do I do? But seriously, I don't get the feeling every guy is trying to get into my pants, and I'm certainly no naive little lamb.Not everyone has an ulterior motive. Taking people at face value can be very liberating. Agree with Meander, I do not always approach women with an ulterior motive. I remember my ex telling me that I was a girl in a boy's skin since I need to be mentally stimulated before having sex ! Otherwise I find sex superficial and denigrating. I love conversing with a sophisticated and smart lady who trusts her own mind and is not afraid of holding unpopular ideas !
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was lost at loosens tie ;) As for the actual post, I don't automatically assume a bloke is trying to get into my panties if he approaches me in a club. Unless he's blatantly obvious, I just think he's friendly :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey Meeka get over yourself
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do get approached by guys at nightclubs and bars and it's a mixed bag. Some are really nervous. Some are arrogant and rude. Often they ask to buy me a drink. I don't like chessy pick up lines. I just like a Man to be straight forward. I need to be attracted to him and feel a connection. Ive never found a lover in a bar or nightclub lol xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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