Finding it hard to explore submissive side

June 23 2024

It seems that a male wanting to explore his submissive side with women or couples is about as popular as the plague. Where is the happy medium between Fetlife and regular swinger play....I would love to know. Any ideas?

Comments

  • peter196921

    peter196921

    5 months ago

    I know what you mean 😞

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 months ago

    Hello,
    Might help if you refered to your couples profile on your profile and add a nice smiling facial pic. Readers prefer a choice before anything and transparency.

    Ms Foxy

  • Andrea_Sydney

    Andrea_Sydney

    5 months ago

    I would rewrite your profile to be honest. I had a look and I personally believe that it’s not a successful strategy to outline disappointment about not having found what you are looking for yet. It can sound a bit huffy and I believe that this does not induce people to message saying don’t worry, I can do that for you.
    I think it would be better to just outline what you like, maybe a bit more specific how far you want the submissiveness / the control / the play to go. But just in a sexy and playful way.
    Regarding your couple profile, I would just mention that briefly, along with saying that your partner is available to join if it suits all parties.
    If you are out to fulfil this fantasy on your own through one on one or mfm, then the profile would better read luke that too.
    Lastly, shift from “Mr/he” to “I”. That will make it hugely more personal, especially seeing that this is not your couples profile.
    I get replies to my profile from men wanting to join me and my partner, who sometimes turn out to be submissive. Mostly they disclose that in the course of the messaging with sentences like “I will service you both to your utmost pleasure” or “I will let you both use me however you see fit” (if they are bi) or “I will service you and pleasure you in any way your partner tells me to” (if they are straight).
    You could think about putting something along those lines in your profile but also keep something up your sleeve for your messaging to move the conversation to that level after the initial few contact messages have been exchanged.
    Good luck!