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F*ck Buddies & The “F” word
August 06 2018
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
and invite another, into the bedroom, we always ensure that (a) it is never at our home (b) they don’t ever have access to our surnames , mobile number and other info and (c) that we keep our personal lives very much private . We have kids and thus value our privacy, anonymity and of course our security as a family. Whilst we have become good friends with some of those we have met (and played with ) on here, we don’t allow any feelings to develop. We value our marriage and the bond we have nurturers over the past 22 years. We don’t do pet names, nor do we do dirty talk. We however do kiss as long as the dental & oral hygiene of the other party is impeccable :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
To get a happy medium where both are in a comfortable non feeling zone. Is it fair to stay in the fwb arrangement when the others feeling have escalated? Or is it ok to keep going until their feelings are becoming a problem? It's ok when both are on the same level of increased attachment, things just evolve into a normal relationship. But in our world intimacy comes first and then the juggling of remaining grounded for all the reasons you wanted a fwb in the first place. You walk from that arrangement and it feels like you have hurt someone which you had no intention of doing . You receive the messages denying their attachment and wanting to continue. You end up with feeling bad, the one thing you wanted to avoid because getting a fwb makes life easy right? Nah.... .
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
I had what you would call fu@k buddies/FWB/NSA arrangements. The difference between each, was the extent of the agreed connection between us. Some wanted friendships that extended beyond the bedroom, and others didn’t. Communication is huge for me. It can make the difference between mutually satisfying arrangements, or crossing the line and possible becoming possessive of the other person involved. If you have a ‘sex only’ arrangement, it helps to keep in mind that sex will always be intimite and passionate when you’re with a great partner. It’s just sex though. Great sex, yes. But just that. If you’re only meeting for sex, then that’s where the connection starts and ends. This probably sounds clinical, but it’s what worked for me. Ms HNP XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
FWB is just a message to meet up at a place & time for sex. No conversation in between those meets, or hang out only meets. I believe that's once you start thinking about the other person in other ways, such as with non sexual tendency then your getting close to crossing that line. But if in doubt talk to the other person, communication is a MASSIVE concept that sooo many of us don't practice enough of. Good luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
By some of the responses thus far, especially from the married profiles. Great topic btw OP, thanks for posting it. I'm not a swinger, but am one half of an open marriage couple. We have solo playmates and threesomes etc together. Ive had a few long term Fwbs that ive played with regularly for a couple of years and then there's those one off encounters or those men you only meet a few times before depinning. I can honestly say I have never developed even an inkling of s feeling beyond genuine interest/care/fondness like i feel for any platonic friend. I 95 percent of the time play at my own home, my own bed, pool, wherever as does hubby usually. I also ALWAYS kiss and cuddle. This is madatory for us both as its part of expressing intimacy for us. Have never given out my surname but also never been asked so would have no issue if I did. Ive usually gotten to know alot of personal information in regards to my Fwbs, their family and kids, work, hobbies etc and i share equally. I've been told by a handful of playmates that i am diabolically pragmatic in my approach to playing, lack of feelings.. I guess i just see no need in attaching myself or my feelings to someone other than my hubby so i just don't. Ive had some wonderful connections with playmates and I think they're made stronger by my absolutely stoic outlook towards them. Happy to be a fuck buddy, happy to be a friends with benefits, happy to have an affair..... but I'll never view another man as anything more than a friend because all my love I give to my hubby and kids. If there had ever been any doubt of my or hubbys ability to maintain a complete NSA play environment..... we would never have started. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I really don't think there are any hard and fast "rules". There has to be some sort of boundaries that why communication is important. IMO putting labels on relationships can put a lot of pressure and expectations on the people involved. If one is confused where they stand maybe its not the right relationship. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
If I am having intimate relations with anyone, I think the most respectful thing is to call them a lover, rather than labelling them into some type of relationship. Ms Foxy
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
“Fuck Buddies” sounds vulgar and crass - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
7 years ago
With above statements that mention, communication. Being intamite with a lover is at the base level showing u have intimite feeling for them and connection. Lines can become blurred without good communication.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Annie ... well said. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'JillyK' FWB is just a message to meet up at a place & time for sex. No conversation in between those meets, or hang out only meets. I believe that's once you start thinking about the other person in other ways, such as with non sexual tendency then your getting close to crossing that line. But if in doubt talk to the other person, communication is a MASSIVE concept that sooo many of us don't practice enough of. Good luck - Posted from rhpmobile The F stands for Friend ....with benefits. You can hang out with your "friend", dinner, movies etc then sex, perhaps stay the night for some spooningFuck buddy is a very disconnected arrangement.But of course it's a labels and all relationships are different.And too much communication is what leads to problems. My last connection was far too much messaging. Juggle...juggle
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RHP User
7 years ago
are soooooo different....fuck buddy is literally a booty call...friends with benefits is hanging out dinners movies, weekends away lots of sex without the commitment of a relationship
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Everyone seems so scared about feelings! Hells bells, you some of you sound like black hearted, uncompassionate folk who dress 'fwb' up with trite words and strict and complicated boundaries which will undoubtably be broken simply because of their complexity. If someone is a friend of mine of course there are feelings involved. I care about them, I want them to be happy, I enjoy their company. When 'with benefits' is added - which means sex - my feelings don't change. I don't suddenly develop intense feelings - OMG, that word "love!" - for them just because we are having sex. It doesn't mean I am more attached, it doesn't mean I am going to suddenly develop a desire to move to relationship status. It doesn't mean anything more than I have a sexual relationship with a friend. FWB is my preference. I don't particularly enjoy fuck buddies as I find passion and intimacy are lacking, but I recognise some are able to achieve these with a fb. Have I ever strayed into the dangerous territory of wishing/hoping a fwb would develop into more? Once, quite awhile ago...about 6 years ago from memory. Trust me, it wasn't something I developed by myself, there was some significant language being used by the other which indicated the feelings were mutual.... only to have the other rip the friendship apart some months later. Does communication help? Of course. Always listen with the intent to listen... not with the intent to reply (active listening). For me, the words which are uttered are a clear indicator of what is happening, far more than actions, which can be misinterpreted so easily.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Could not have said it better myself.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thats exactly how I feel - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
7 years ago
On pointe there. Why are people so scared of their feelings? Feelings are normal and great as being happy and sexually aroused and content in the moment with people we like, regardless of label, is euphoric and make the meets worth while. I'm secure enough to accept these feelings and smart enough to know what I want and search to fullfill my desires. Having feelings for fwbs are normal but for me, it's not a sign if neediness but fondness. If the last meeting was fun for both, why not repeat it? As long as we're both clear that we are looking for the same thing. Fyi, one on my long time fwb has progressed recently beyond that. Not sure what it is now but not labelling it. We started as FB, then fwb. 3 years on, the friendship is solid and we are enjoying each other's company. No contrived paths or fear of the unknown. Just seizing the moment.
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Seachange73
7 years ago
The idea of not talking between sexual meets for fear of intimacy is ridiculous. Seriously you're just chatting to someone you have connection/chemistry with. Not your bf. It's natural to chat with people you like . I don't see a correlation between chatting casually as friends and falling for the person. Why is the word 'feelings' such a dirty word? Aren't we grown ups and secure enough to be in control of our feelings and destiny? And no kissing? Lol. Sorry but. I won't fuck anyone that I don't enjoy kissing. Part of the package. I'm more into the holistic approach to an experience, sexual or otherwise. That is just organic for me.
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RHP User
7 years ago
...that language may convey feelings yet is limited at times to its own scope. It’s kind of like “I love turkey” on Thanksgiving and can only hope you understand the prep time, the scent of the roast and finally diving in! I may be a bit of a precocious Neanderthal but happy to say out loud... I truly love every woman I’ve found here and yes we make love and yes we f**k just for silly fun. Happy daze... ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
...that language may convey feelings yet is limited at times to its own scope. It’s kind of like “I love turkey” on Thanksgiving and can only hope you understand the prep time, the scent of the roast and finally diving in! I may be a bit of a precocious Neanderthal but happy to say out loud... I truly love every woman I’ve found here and yes we make love and yes we f**k just for silly fun. Happy daze... ⚡️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
With the exception of DC36. That sounded very austere to me! I think we all want the Ms/Mr?Mrs right now. Girlfriend/boyfriend experience, not a deep and meaningful relationship. I want you to be a warm human being. I want to kiss you. I don't want smelly breath, stinky pussy or a sweaty arse. Without a few qualifying questions, it's just gunna be a root, rather than a good experience. An endurance until I can get out of there, rather than a mutually enjoyable activity. Let's choose our partners by common vanilla interests, rather than who wants a golden shower! If you laugh, love animals, like good food, like the beach, shower each day, like to chat, and be funny and like people, there's a good chance I won't look at my watch or phone! M_D4
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