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Fathers Day 2014
September 05 2014
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
To all those "Step-dads" out there.....I take my hat off to you. To all new dads - welcome to parent hood! Your life will be full of bliss. To all Grand-dads - you're included too (we can't forget you as well) HAPPY FATHERS DAY! Foxy
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6exxy
11 years ago
Thank you 💐😘
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RHP User
11 years ago
!!!!!!!! DITTO. !!!!!!! To what she said..... And to the Single mums, who ate both mama & papa - extra kudos to you.. HAPPY FATHERS DAY to one n all... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My papa died when I was 18. And yesterday would have been his birthday so he is very on my mind this week . I miss him so To my friends who are single fathers, may you all have happy days tomorrow.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My father was an alcoholic and absent even when he was present. He was a dreadful role model in my life and from when I was a very young child I developed deep, painful beliefs about men that I'm still trying to sort through now as an adult. I disconnected from him and mostly felt numb for a very long time. More recently anger, grief, sadness and distress have risen to the surface, for all the things I lost and for all the pain and heartache he caused. I'll work through those too, in time. There was no other positive male role model or father-figure anywhere in my life so I never saw good fathering. Never believed it existed, to be honest. Some years ago I met someone who was/is an extraordinary father. It took me a very long time to process what I was seeing, to believe it was real, to accept that a father could love their children as much as this man does. That the love was real and natural and beautiful and that his children genuinely were the most important people in his life. Seeing him as that kind of father opened a door within me to start to think about men, fathers, fatherhood and even love completely differently. It started a process of terribly painful but important healing within me, which continues. I now watch fathers everywhere I go, looking for evidence of that deep parental love. Each time I see it, it seems to heal another little thing in me as I learn over and over how wonderful men can be. I know plenty of fathers are a**holes and that's all I ever knew or believed. When I see loving and attentive fathers now it brings me balance and peace, and I let go of a little more of my own hurt and anger. Sometimes I think I should just be able to flick a switch but, with these hurts being laid down as a small child and taking me such a long time to acknowledge, it's all a bit of a process now. I can be patient :) So thank you to that man who showed me, for the first time ever in my life, what extraordinary fatherhood looks like. Thank you to all the Dads who love their children and who make sure their children know it. Thank you to the present fathers who are there for their kids. Thank you to the Dads who see being a father as a gift to them, not a punishment. To Dads who can't see their children, I'm sorry. I hear so many stories from men about being shut out of their kids' lives, legally, emotionally, physically. I've heard the pain behind so many stories, and again, have learnt to believe it's real. I hope your situation is resolved and you find peace. To all the Step-Dads who love their step-children as their own. You rock :) And to the single Dads doing it as tough as any other single parent, thank you for keeping on. Men, please never underestimate the effect - positive or negative - you will have on your child's life. Whatever you do will be amplified in their mind, heart, psyche, spirit. Please do good :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why thank you super foxxxy....i lost my dad when i was seven and work away on a FIFO basis so very rarely home for days such as this...nice to know someone is thinking of us lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
My step father was my "old man", my father checked out when I was young.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for sharing such a personal story. Brilliant post also. Just want to share a thought for those dads who lost a child. They are the fathers that do it the hardest. Bless.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Thank you. Yes Fathers Day means a lot to me for that exact same reason...losing a child is heartbreaking, but on Fathers Day is something else. I will have my 5mins to reflect. XX Foxy BurningLove - Great Post! I can relate to your words...that rings a bell. You're not alone. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Great post. Single dad here, could be earning heaps more down south but choosing to stay so I can spend (some) time with my boy. Won't see him tomorrow though :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I doubt I will get to see mine. But thanks for your thoughts and to the dads that do get to see their kids love them like there's no tomorrow - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
My thanks Foxxxy - very nice of you to bring forward the subject. I am a dad of 3, grand-dad of 3 living (and 1 passed away), and my own dad passed away at the beginning of last year. I love them all, and my kids and grand-kids never have any doubt about my sincere feelings for them, which I am glad to say they reciprocate as well. My dad was a bit different, being of the older 'league' who didn't really know how to show affection to his kids, but he was always part of my life in many ways. There will be many thoughts running around tomorrow. Hope all dads of all types manage to have as much love shared with them from all tomorrow. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
I lost my dad about 10 years ago now so that's bound to be on my mind a little tomorrow. My kids are off to their dad's and he's a great father to them despite being a crap husband to me :-) On the down side, all my FWBs are fathers so I'm finding it really hard to get a date tomorrow night ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
to be honest , i behaved badly as a young man a terrible relationship.i have matured thankfully. recently my oldest daughter had her 4 th black eye.........its a long story.i have been un friended on facebook , she was under my wing. i cared and looked after her.i am devastated. one day a work colleague, female, told me to go to her immediately. i didScarlett finally fessed up. i asked her to come with me........the partner came out to say hello and shake my hand.....not knowing she had finally told me.I thew him to the wall and slapped his face really hard......( which is VERY VIOLENT) for me.........then i called the help line .......then the police.........SHE HATES ME NOW......!!!!it is sometimes hard being a good father.i have had a police interview......and a police psychologist one too, to assess me!it is sometimes hard being a good parent and man.i am in tears writing this........grant x
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RHP User
11 years ago
fathers day brings joy and grief to me.i lost a daughter. she died in my arms......i am crying but have kids here.i will never forget Angelina.........and i miss Scarlett.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i am me .........isnt this what a forum is for?love x
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RHP User
11 years ago
appreciated..........x
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RHP User
11 years ago
.....some beautiful posts and some very sad ones too - my heart goes out to the later. Foxy very very sorry to hear of your loss(if im reading you correctly?) that would be an incredibly difficult journey x. Im Known a little bit as a fighter - not now - when i was younger. Something happened to me that took me completely and utterly by total surprise. Unconditional Love. Where did this soft hearted caring devoted man come from? Must have always been there i suppose. Now as a single father my role is even more crucial. My two closest friends depend on me - unconditionally - and i offer myself - unconditionally. Its the core of my being. Again where does this come from? Primal id say. Andrew.
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SpikeDownunder
11 years ago
My ex suggested we swapped the alternate weekends I have my three girls so that I am looking after them this weekend. They had a school free day on Friday, so I took the day off and had a lovely day together. It has been wonderful to have this time together, and I am grateful. I only had rare days like this with my dad, as he worked too much, and still is unable to express his feelings. Such days were golden to me, and I try to make it the same for my children. - Posted from rhpmobile
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SpikeDownunder
11 years ago
Grant, sorry to hear about your situation. If you would like to talk, please message me. Charles - Posted from rhpmobile
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missy_mo0
11 years ago
Happy Father's Day to us single mums being daddy as well as mummy too - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
11 years ago
So many stories you have all shared, personal and some painful ( on a number of levels). Grant, my heart goes out to you, yet despite all the trauma you have experienced, you continue to be a father and make the tough calls, your family is lucky :). To the other wonderful people on this forum in a similar condition, my love to you all. BL, I read your post and cried, because I thought you were describing my life! You are not alone, and like you a great man showed me what a father is really like. My beautiful husband is an incredible man and father. His unconditional love for me and our children astounds me. Sometimes I'm a little envious ;) because you know why can't every kid have a dad like him. It is beautiful to see him hold hands with our daughter when we are down the street ( she is 14!), our 18 year old son kisses and cuddles him all the time. They go to the gym together even! Every conversation ends with 'I love you'. To the men (and women dads) today is your day, you make this world a very wonderful place. Hugs, kisses and well wishes to all. Mary xx PS, Andy I love you xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
That sounds like a lot of pain and hardship for one heart to handle. A beautiful thing about these forums - you can find support, encouragement, love and acceptance here, among strangers. I see some great forum folk have reached out to you. I hope you reach back :) And I hope you find some peace today, and every day x - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
There are so many wonderful fathers out there who deserve to be spoilt rotten today. Being a father means more than being a biological father; all you step dads and role models do such a great job too. I hope you all receive hugs and kisses whether it be in person or by phone. It's over two decades since I have been able to spoil my Dad on this day (or any other). Time only eases some of the pain of loss. I'm spending Father's Day with a family where the Dad (who is also a grandfather and great grandfather) coincidentally shares the same birthday as my Dad. They've lovingly included me as part of their family even though in reality its a tenuous link!
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madotara69
11 years ago
Fathers day in this house, is Tara having her beauty sleep in, while our twenty year old son, also having his beauty sleep in and our three year old daughter is teaching me how to play Bubble Witch. Would not change it for anything. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
twas a good post .love grant x
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RHP User
11 years ago
xxxxxxxx........love grant
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes i have had an ok day..........support has been wonderful here.my heart is still heavy.......but ok.thank goodness for friends......for what it is worth..........thank you and i love you for showing me this forum xgrant
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RHP User
11 years ago
my father died, holding my hand.................i said all the good things.............cherish your parents.........time is limited and grudges fade.love is the strongest and best thing we can do.x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thankyou for your honesty and bravery.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi gorgeous one, sending enormous hugs. That is so young to lose your PaPa.I'm sure where ever he is he is smiling down on you beaming with pride at what a beautiful Woman you have grown into xx I got to spend some time with my son today which was delightful. I take nothing for granted.I would give anything just to have been able to spend some time with my Papa today.I lost him in 2002.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And to those single parents out there :-) Cheers, W.
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RHP User
11 years ago
...mate my heart goes out to you. As a loving devoted father i can feel your pain. Ive had a battle too - not now - before my separation. Mate obviously i could have no idea about your circumstances & im no counsellor but i do believe with positive self control and persistence we can shape our future the way we want it. We have the power within. Nothing is permanent. Persist my friend and persist some more, do not stop. Try different engagement tactics with you daughter. We're in a marvelous technological age, email, twitter, mbs and so on...Post her letters and tell her how much you love her and what she means to you. Send her flowers any way to keep in her mind. Best luck mate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
grant x
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RHP User
11 years ago
thank you.........today is a new day........for what it is worth ,i love you and thank you for support.grant x
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Fathers Day and Mothers Day should be everyday, not just one day of the year to acknowledge. Parenting is not an easy role. Foxy xx
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Smilingwithfun
11 years ago
Great Post.
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