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Falling for your Best Friend

February 10 2010

I don't really know what to say about this... but here goes...My best friend, is one of very few people I can say I truly care for, we have been incredibly close for a long time, and would do pretty much anything for one another... but recently I've come to realize that I have romantic feelings for her.  There's a few problems with this, firstly she has a boyfriend... secondly she lives over 1000km away.Any suggestions on what I should do, or people with some experience with things like this?I just keep thinking that it will end an amazing friendship, which is something I'm not sure I would be willing to risk.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    I suspect your feelings for her are feelings of affection...very powerful in nature and very real :-) However, your friend has a boyfriend...and you live a couple of days drive away. So the reality is, your feelings for her will remain as affection but in friendship only.   If you need to let her know your feelings - you may want to casually ask her, "do you think we could be anything more than friends?"   If you value the friendship...let the answer guide you.  Push a point and you risk losing the intimacy of the friendship.   Who knows what the future holds...but for now, enjoy your friendship with her :-)   Just my thoughts....   Jx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    It is easy to be friendly with a friends friend..But if you cross that line while they are still seeing eachother you have to live with it..I go by , i would not like it to happen to me..If you can ttrust your friends and your partner who can you trust..Thing about it Grasshopper..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Quoting 'OneBrightStar'   If you need to let her know your feelings - you may want to casually ask her, "do you think we could be anything more than friends?"   If you value the friendship...let the answer guide you.  Push a point and you risk losing the intimacy of the friendship.   JxNot much more to add to that really.  Noone likes a grasscutter.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    16 years ago

    Dingo.. you need to have a Bromance... I mean c'mon.. a woman can never be your besty.. and now you know why... you have to come to us turds to give you advice instead of your besty and we suck cause we don't really have any emotional connection to teh advice we give you... except for me.. I don't suck... oh and Jeano blows.. well, that's all beside the point... you know in your heart you have always wanted this woman and now that she is happy, you are jeolous. You're not in a movie... so Dry your eyes mate... there's plenty more fish in the sea.    Hugs Stalky