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FWB - Am I expecting too much?
October 03 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
FWB means the same to me as well. And I have a few. 😛 Don't worry I am sure you will find some soon.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As for sex, yep agree. I can abuse my toys for awhile, put a smile on my dial and still get to have a cup of coffee and read my book. Better than sex with a random. 😎
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes but Meeks you must agree they are not easy to find as often with friendship come strings and men are hopeless at defining these things so they often fuck and run and keep things fb. I have had a few fbs that are nice but I wouldnt hang out with. I'm just a bore after all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well first you must ask yourself , And be honest ? What Benefit?? Is that benefit clear in your mind? If it benefits you then there is not often but always strings and things that both must define ? So if you accept all your strings and you want to share with mine ? So hand me all the things hidden deep in your mind bunch up the strings theres a shitload you will find !! You call em benefits bunched up strings , thats what i find ? An Answer? Afraidknot!!!!!:-))- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry OP, It is not just a FUCK to me.That term Fuck, just sounds wrong in my eyes.I would not like it if someone spoke about me in the term "she's just a fuck".They can fuck off if they speak about me like that.I would never say that about anyone I was intimate with.I would like to think they are a person first.Yes they are a friend, but more that I like them for them. I have to like them to even hang out with them and just chill and do things together.They are a friend first more than anything.Someones company I like.There has to be some sort of connection and common interests.I don't care what anyone else says, but it is some sort of relationship with emotions/feelings invested.After all we are all we are all humans, wanting the same needs and wants met.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
That hasn't been my experience. Although most of my FWB's I have met through meet and greets or through other friends ... And we like group play. Nothing like going out for dinner with a few of your "friends" 😋
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like the word fuck. I say it often. 😎
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think also it depends on the sort of attachment style each person is.Some people can attach and others do not.To me, it is a special emotional relationship which exchanges comfort, safeness, care and pleasure.It's a mutual arrangement through open and honest communication that makes it work.IMOE...as for putting a label on the relationship, throw it out the door.It just makes things more complicated.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
Really? She hasn't said any different has she. That's what friends are, aren't they? Open and honest, etc. As for special emotional bonds... I think you take it all too seriously. You are making assumptions too, we don't know how the OP is with her friends.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think you have to put a label on things but you do need to make clear what you are after. Being able to tell someone you want FWB that easily gives the other person an idea on what you are looking for.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It took me a while to find my FWB, however there was no social outings. Just several hours of great company and awesome sex. I believe that going out socially is different thing altogether.From my experience thats friendship. However in my current situation I'm not putting any label on it. As it is many things and I'm just very happy so no need to to pigeon hole it at all. You do what feels right for you and just communicate that well. Good luck he is out there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont think you are expecting too much, just dont take it to heart when your expectations are not met.Try to be very clear when you are chatting with someone here what YOUR expectations are....that you are just not here for a root & run.The men who are looking for what you are after usually will make an attempt to stay in touch, the others will just disappear.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The danger is not in the labels, applied or not, but rather in not communicating the expectations both parties have of the relationship. Hang in Curvi, there are lovely guys on sites like this who are looking for exactly what you want. It might just take a few attempts.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
FWB is about the friendship and going out and doing things socially and outside the bedroom. Hell you can even hang out without the sex too. I do.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can have a chat about all your lovers, show them pictures, even meet their other "friends". Or is this just me?!? 😳
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Really? She hasn't said any different has she. That's what friends are, aren't they? Open and honest, etc. As for special emotional bonds... I think you take it all too seriously. You are making assumptions too, we don't know how the OP is with her friends. Naaaah I didn't.The OP asked a question and asked for everyone's opinion on what FWB means to you? I answered and put and in the way I see it.Can you please stop replying to any of my posts (now or in the future) just because you do not agree.If you do not like it, don't reply, move on.Thank you for your cooperation.FOXY
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RHP User
12 years ago
With pleasure.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Plenty of options out there. Most guys just fuck it up. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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Beachlover1999
12 years ago
Men do fuck up and don't communicate clearly their desires sometimes...... Also things do unexpectedly change and become something different...... Women also muck up....... Foxy....... Sorry OP, It is not just a FUCK to me. That term Fuck, just sounds wrong in my eyes. I would not like it if someone spoke about me in the term "she's just a fuck". They can fuck off if they speak about me like that. I would never say that about anyone I was intimate with. I to hate the term, no issue with the word fuck just in the derogatory context, I find it very offensive......especially when said by a woman! ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are a GOD, DG. :)YEP..Well said - open and honest communication sucks sometimes. It's the way it is said and how said, just does not come out right.Say one thing and act another.Confuses me.FOXYOK, I confess, I too have fucked it up sometimes!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm with you on this DG... Men sometimes fuck it up, women sometimes fuck it up... is only human nature. Unless both parties are on the same level with the same understanding of the intent there is risk it can all go tits up.To me (and my opinion only... ducks for cover):FB = Give me a call if you are horny and we'll meet, maybe have dinner and drinks but the meet is for sexual gratification on both peoples behalf. FB's are almost like a sex service without the payment or non sexual social aspect.FWB = Want to go see a movie and have a few drinks, sure. Want to watch TV, eat pizza and catch up with whats been happening in the last few days/weeks, sure. Want to have sex, sure. Want to do your own thing without me, sure. FWBs are like normal friends where if the mood takes you you have sex, like FB's however there is just more non sexual social aspects to it.Happy to stand corrected but that's how I see things... I'm not a label kinda guy but when trying to ensure both parties are on the same wavelength it always helps to have points of reference.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For the record.. 1) I mentioned nothing of labels. My question was, what does FWB mean to you. 2) I love the word Fuck. I have had a couple of FWB's in the past, 2 in particular were just as I described. Even though it was casual, we genuinely enjoyed spending time with each other whether it was seeing a movie or simply Fucking all night. I guess when it comes to myself, I am more open to exploring an endless list with someone I have formed some kind of friendship with. Are benefits really considered strings? If benefits are strings, they're a pretty damn good string to have strung ;) Thanks for the replies and messages :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
we think we are on the same page but really we are reading entirely different books ...so a FWB might in my book,not be the same character in yours.Relationships of any kind are never static,circumstances and feelings change, often from go to woe.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And looking at profiles for fwb's.... some peeps say they are interested in couples they say scroll down further and it goes on about meeting someome for a relationship... come on. Really?... misleading and clearly only interested in the man. If you want a fwb get your preference correct cause you aint getting a relationship with my man ;) then theres the men who clearly see the profile states not interested in men so why send messages to be fwb. Argh.... this is in general not targeting anyone on this thread :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
A fwb for me is more like a partner in crime.. I'm looking for a man who plays well with others. . Preferably both male and female. . I don't get attached easily to others but do enjoy nights out.. but beware anyone wanting to fwb me.. I would want every meet to involve some intimacy.. wheather its a bj at the movies or a romp in the park.. or a three some at the beach or just a night in..
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