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FB or F#$% Buddy who has one and are there rules.
October 12 2010
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
Yes we both have fuck buddies that we see separately (or sometimes in 3 some situations). We don't have set down rules or anything, they are just friends who if the mood strikes we can call up for a bit of fun. No dramas, no issues.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I had one, was ok for awhile but I started to feel that it was all about what he wanted when he wanted it. Solution: ended it. Would I have one again? No because I know myself well enough to know it isn't want I want at this stage of my life.
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RHP User
15 years ago
There are so such thing as rules or guidelines, every one is different, it's whatever works for you. x K
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'WildTassieGypsy' I had one, was ok for awhile but I started to feel that it was all about what he wanted when he wanted it. Solution: ended it. Would I have one again? No because I know myself well enough to know it isn't want I want at this stage of my life. Many years ago I also had a fb/fwb but like "WildTassieGypsy" it was one sided and after a while the fun was gone. He was never available when I wanted to see him and when he would call and I wasn't able to meet him he would get really annoyed.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hmmm I think everyone will have a different take on fuck buddies depending on their relationship dynamics, likes, dislike, boundaries etc..I'd prefer "friends with benefits, as I'm not into having sex with any Tom, Dick or Harry. I need some kind of connection... so I've never had a "fuck buddy". I have had friends with benefits. BUT Im sure a lot of people have fuck buddies, who they meet up JUST for sex. Which is awesome if that works for the individual...1. What are the rules of a FBYeah, for us there are. Mostly about respecting boundaries that we have set. 2. how many people have one.I think a lot of people have a fuck buddy or a friends with benefits. 3. Are they common.Very... 4. What do you women think of the idea.I love the idea, it's a nice break to hang out with a friend... even if we are not having hot lusty sex every time we catch up ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I prefer friends with benefits. To me a FB is a wombat meet - eats, roots, shoots and leaves! Nope. I like to know who it is I am getting intimate with. I take a bit of time to build up the friendship. Yes there are rules and I dont own them or get all territorial about them. Infact I can ( and do ) discuss their other play friends with them. But at the end of the day they are my friends. If I (or they) decide that we will no longer have the sex side of the relationship then the friendship remains. Just like all my other conventional friends, I care about them, they are people with lives, loves and problems, highs and lows. They are more than just a fuck!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Thanks Rainbow My thoughts excactly !! 1. I think both parties need to be comfortable and enjoy each others company,that makes for better sex anyway. 2. Yes I am sure many people do just not alot admit to them .. 3. they have to be common but for some reason no one speaks of them 4. its nice to know that women are open minded about it .. you don't have room for another friend do you rainbow ... lol. I am available :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Our situations was based on friendship.. We cared about each other .. it was never just about the sex (well maybe the first few times) ... lts like the relationship you have not having a relationship if that makes sense. We shared an amazing intimacy that was I believe more so because we both knew where we were. Everything we did was completely honest because it could be. Now 6 years later ... and a number of years since we have been together .. we are still good friends. It was also though the place my mind was in at the time... Not so sure it would work the same for me today. Sassy xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' I prefer friends with benefits. To me a FB is a wombat meet - eats, roots, shoots and leaves! Nope. I like to know who it is I am getting intimate with. I take a bit of time to build up the friendship. Yes there are rules and I dont own them or get all territorial about them. Infact I can ( and do ) discuss their other play friends with them. But at the end of the day they are my friends. If I (or they) decide that we will no longer have the sex side of the relationship then the friendship remains. Just like all my other conventional friends, I care about them, they are people with lives, loves and problems, highs and lows. They are more than just a fuck!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Rainbown Bright...there would be little that I could add to you list and explanation. Of course, that has rarely stopped me from making comments in other posts. | As for me, and at this stage in my life... I doubt that I would enjoy "the benefits" without the greater benefit of friendship. With a true friend, it can be an emotional experience shared physically...and not simply a physical experience that we somehow try to rationalize emotionally. I would take the latter for a miss. Besides...a friend also talk to me about things that matter and sometimes even listen to things that don't. I like that part too...along with the laughter shared between friends. | Of course, if the physical is all someone wanted...they can always simply pay for it.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have a couple FB's and we have a great time. I wouldn't really call them FWB as we don't socialise. We'll see each other at parties but wouldn't call them more than a FB. No rules really, just mutual respect and a mutual good time. Sweet
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi All, I'm new to this site so hello to all of you.I have had both FWB and FB and quite recently moved from FWBs to just friends as the lovely lady in question has decided that she wants a more conventional style of relationship and is moving on. I have to say that a FB is good but it seems very mechanical and I personally prefer to hang out with someone and have a laugh as it is far more conducive to great sex.J.
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RHP User
15 years ago
They are both great as long as there is mutual respect for each others wants needs desires, Know were to draw the line and have good clean fun. What more could you want
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Rainbown Bright...there would be little that I could add to you list and explanation. Of course, that has rarely stopped me from making comments in other posts. | As for me, and at this stage in my life... I doubt that I would enjoy "the benefits" without the greater benefit of friendship. With a true friend, it can be an emotional experience shared physically...and not simply a physical experience that we somehow try to rationalize emotionally. I would take the latter for a miss. Besides...a friend also talk to me about things that matter and sometimes even listen to things that don't. I like that part too...along with the laughter shared between friends. | Of course, if the physical is all someone wanted...they can always simply pay for it. Well said Mr MIdnight. I like the friendship. The intimacy is greater the better one knows the friend. I too like to share laughter, god and bad time. Lets face it, good lovers are hard to find, good friends are even harder to find. If you can combine the two, it is fantastic
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RHP User
15 years ago
1. Our rules are safe sex with others, letting each other know that we have been elsewhere. 2. Lots. 3. Yes. 4. She likes it, however I think sometimes our thoughts and body languages mix the signals up a fair bit as to level of attachment. We argue like a married couple but knowing each others sweet spots kinda outweighs the negatives. That and because she's not attached to me in a boyfriendy kinda way, it means that she's much more open to a little mono-e-duo experimentation.
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