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Eye Contact.
October 30 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
As I alighted from a train today i noticed a lady struggling to get her double pram off the train so i stopped and helped made sure she and the kids got out safely then asked her if she needed any further assistance - she thanked meprofusely but other passengers arond me looked at me in shock - sheesh it doesnt take much to help someone or to say hi or be friendly at the register but hopefully because we have done it it really brightens up someone elses day Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have always been one for eye contact ,,,,,, be it in the shop or on the street ,hell even in the bedroom why not there is little effort to say hello or just smile at others in passing ........... and as for shopp assistants they all wear name tags mmmmmm yes why not next time you get groceries or anything that you get served by someone wearing a name tag say thankyou and then their name ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,followed by have a good day works for me everytime they always smile and say thankyou back Andy xxxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
My nine year old sone does that Andy. It brightens up the shop assistant no end. Never fails to get a smile or a laugh from them. He can be a bit precocious!
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RHP User
15 years ago
No it does not take much to show a bit of kindness and consideration. Your mother must be proud of you!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' No it does not take much to show a bit of kindness and consideration. Your mother must be proud of you! Yes focus must have a proud mum, no doubt kindness and consideration passed on to a new generation. Its a shame that this type of kindness seems to be rarer to find these days.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee'No it does not take much to show a bit of kindness and consideration. Your mother must be proud of you! its all in the way in which I was raised and besides that I would hope that if I was ever in need of some help like that (heaven forbid) then someone would stop to assist....as for eye contact just connecting and a smile can often make someone elses day... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
I once spent a long time in an extremely remote and small community, on return to the big smoke I had a hard time of it. Walking down the street I had a natural urge to say hi to everyone, got some strange looks and found it completely overwhelming as there were just so many people. Yep we've lost that connection to people in the wider community and it's a damn shame!
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tank__girl
15 years ago
A remote farming town in NZ, pop. 2000 I think? 120 in my school.. It was wonderful, so many fun memories! But yeah, everyone knew everyone, everyone was friendly. Mum was very strict on manners and 'speaking up' from a very young age. So I was never shy, we were made to answer politely if asked how are you or spoken to. Not like the parents who speak for the child. But yes, years on people all over, friends colleagues etc. Just think I'm 'nuts'... For striking up conversations with random people etc. Often saying "Do you know them?!". I do now..?! We did alot of caravanning and traveling NZ as nudists actually, growing up in NZ. Mum and Dad still do to this day! And they have SO many friends and SO much fun..! People from alllll over the world.. They're always having friends from somewhere staying, or traveling all over the world to stay with them. Growing up we've had a German Christmas and a Swedish Christmas over the years with random back packers and travellers, who've been lots if fun. Mum and dad do not judge anyone, the last couple they bought home were younger than me, dreadies, piercings everywhere, covered in tarts from head to toe.. But cooked the most amazing spread for the family and are now great friends! So, it does pay to talk to random people... Never know who you'll meet..and what exciting things they could bring to your life. I'm taking a 60 year old lady to lunch on Melbourne Cup day with the girls... Cos chatting to her down town, I found out she has no one. At all. The last conversation I had with her, it was very touching, maybe a bit much for me to respond to, but hanging up etc. She honestly said I love you. Her son committed suicide a few years back, then she lost her daughter. She was so sad...But I can definately see her starting to break free from her sadness. Got her into Avon too hahaa.. Random acts of kindness go a long way :) But yes, how hard is it to make eye contact and smile..even...?!?! Had my good ol rant about this in the 'What upset you today' forum. It does upset me people are all so darn cranky and impersonal these days!? I had a guy throw a fucking DONUT at me in the shopping centre carpark a while ago.. Cos I accidentally parked half over the crossing he wanted to walk across but had to wait 3 seconds for me to wait for the other car to back out so I could drive in?! Physco's! :( "Everybody get together, try n love one another right now!" :D Yup, I know...." I was born too late, into a world that doesn't care...!?". My brother has just lived in London for 9 years, you think Australians are rude??! Shhheeeeshh....
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes it is upsetting what we, as the so called civilised western society do to our old people. Many of them are put into a home and left there by thier families. They have just become a burden on them and it is too ahard to look after them. Old folks homes a full of these people. The homes are understaffed and the poor old dears sit in a chair...if not mobile...and often only get one visit each year from thier families. The ones that they spent thier youth raising!!
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tank__girl
15 years ago
Please don't start me on 'Old peoples homes'! :(. My grandmother lived in one for the last four years of her life.. I worked nearby and was there every 2nd day, without fail. Let's just say, I was an unpaid staff member!!! .. And adopted grand daughter by many...... So sad indeed, but someone had to do it.... And be there for them!?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes it is a sad reflection on society today. Hopefully out of all the kids I have raised or given a home to so far, and the many yet to pass through my doors, there will be at least one that will ensure I do not end up like that. I am glad that you were there for your grandmother and brightened the day of some of the other oldies. Good on you!
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tank__girl
15 years ago
Good on you...! There should be more of you around, my mother in law is 'one' too.. I couldn't do it. As I read your post just then.... I am listening to Triple J Hottest 100 No. 5 from like '98.. Love my golden oldies!! But anyway, I especially love this song 'Everybody's Free' ( To wear sunscreen) by Quindon Tarver. Do you know it...? It'd be a good to play/drill into the 'youth of today'?! It covers everything......if you don't know it, check it out! It's just a feel good song that makes me stop and think about how 'small' I really am in the scheme of things, but how important the 'small' things really are..?! But it also makes me emotional thnking about the family I don't see often enough, and the family I can't see anymore :( but makes me appreciate how much they love me, what we've all been through, the memories... and makes me want to contact them for a chat!! :D. .... Then floss, whack on some sun cream and do something that scares me! Today.... I just decided I'm off to get a tattoo!!! Wish me luck... Might pop a piccie up on the 'pro when I'm done X
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RHP User
15 years ago
I always say "Howdy" to everybody, just a shame when in the big smoke how everyone seems to spend more time looking at their feet than at people around them. I'm definitely not gunna get down on me hands and knees just so i can look up into their eyes and say gidday.JACB
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree Fionabee. I was raised in rural Scotland where everyone says good morning and makes an effort to get to know each other. We left our doors open and people dropped by for a chat, it was great. I was rather overwhelmed when I moved to the city and nobody looks up, especially during rush hour. I often chat to sales assistants, people in the street, sometimes to be nice and other times for a laugh when I see their reaction! I love that my daughter is totally uninhibited and does the same. I see peoples eyes light up when she says hi to them as if it is what every person should be doing. So everybody, make an effort and say hi, you might even get lucky if you talk to the right person...
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RHP User
15 years ago
I've been a "City Chick" all my life. I always say hello to my neighbours and all the shop assistants know me by name and I know theirs by name. I have no problems with people smiling back at me or even them smiling first. I always lend a helping hand if I see someone has dropped something or are struggling with something and have had the same done back to me. I accidently bump into people and I say sorry, other people bump into me and they say sorry. Don't know why you "Country People" have to always say we are rude in the "Big Smoke". I have rarely come across rudeness and if I do, I just wonder how bad a day they are having or how hard maybe their life is for them. xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was never so much one for the chatting to strangers (grew up in central Sydney) until i spent a few years in Brisbane. Now that I'm back living in Sydney, I am more relaxed, slower and take joy in talking to strangers...in the street, at the train station, in shops...wherever. I like it and it makes me feel good too when someone is nice back.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Good for you and no I do not think city people are rude. I just notice the difference in eye contact when I am down in Sydney. Nearly everyone scurries around with thier heads down. I am gad that you do talk to people and shop assistants know you by name becasue you make the effort.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I grew up in Sydney, and back there now, but had 5 years in Cobar (western NSW). The strange thing when moved back was walking around Sydney thinking "I know there are all these people here that I know, but where are they?"I do try to smile as I walk through town. But really as a commuter I blame all those wierd collectors and survey people. When I'm running towards Wynyard station at 5.15 its not much point shouting at me "Do you have a minutes to talk about...." I'm gone by the time you get to the topic. If you want to get my attention, put your cause on letters 20cm high so I can see it way down the street.Just too many wierdos in the city to talk to everyone.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I found that people in the city seem to have that habit, of being very reserved, not making eye contact and being very disconnected when you talk to them. But the great thing is, if you take the effort to say hi!, bring a little energy to the situation and strike up a real conversation with them, it's amazing the the response you will get. Most people have a lot to offer, sometimes you just need to help them feel like it's ok to be forward and open.
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RHP User
15 years ago
If someone smiles at you randomly; um it generally means that they're high, or about to mug you.
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