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Exploration - what path are you on?
January 12 2015
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Hottie1
11 years ago
I don't have a predestined path but I'm open to most if not all things. I have a fuckit list and on that list I want to explore BDSM - I like the idea of surrender, so I'll probably take on a submissive role but as a switch that isn't a problem. I have been watching porn in relation to this, however I don't want what I see in porn, I'm just educating myself to what is out there and when I'm in a situation to try in a safe and consensual manner, then I'll decide further what my kinks truly are, though I suspect they'll continue to evolve :) I have two playmates who have spanked me, one left delicious bruising which I wanted, the other more erotic. I like both depending on the circumstances. A gorgeous playmate is taking me to a BDSM workshop, no playing just going through elements of the lifestyle, once again I'm educating myself. My biggest concern of porn (understand we are adults and can discriminate) is the influence it has on the emerging sexuality of young people. I'm a teacher and I have had to counsel girls and boys on the effects of porn, especially on young girls who believe that they should have a clean shaven pussy, give a BJ to remember and to take it up the arse, even at 12 years old. My first porn experience was accidentally finding my dads porn stash (yep yuk) however it was an eye opener, at least he had good taste. And guess what, it was in magazine form, well before, Beta, VHS, disks etc. where there was a good old FFM going on and every one of the women had hairy pussies :) now that's old! Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Either laughable and or boring.I prefer written erotica...And you are correct OP.humans get bored,monogamy is not our natural state...but it can be a choice..As can having lots of sex with multiple partners,or living vicariously by watching porn.How has that affected your view of women OP,do you get disappointed when they don't live up to your porn fantasies and expectations? Variety can be the spice of life or it can desensitise you to human connection xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP, I ask you... if you had never seen porn, would you be dissatisfied? If you had no clue what people do to each other out there, would you feel like you are missing out? It is all so in your face now I feel like people are just doing things to keep up with the Jones'. Sometimes ignorance is bliss and the more extreme porn gets the more we have to try to live up to. The basics of great sex is being lost. I find most kinks boring, they do nothing for me, give me a good sensual lover any day. I don't mind doing different things for the sake of variety but I am a bit sick of the expectation that I need to be a performing seal every time I have sex. I would like to relax and enjoy the throws of passion instead of being someone's human toy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My priority path is not sexual...... I am seeking to dominate my zone.... sex, is merely something that happens during the adventure.... and porn, is a minuscule part of that journey
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Op, You have an incredibly involved post in that you have asked a lot of questions I assume some may be rhetorical. To me I don't think your question really does actually relate to pron. In today's society with the instant accessibility of information we are all more knowledgeable people. Your path is focused on sexuality and while video pron will tweak some interest you can find out so much about certain thing or aspects of sex. I think tolerance as well is at a high level. So while BDSM may have been a taboo in the past now it is to some a little ho-hum. Being placed in hand cuff is almost a vanilla thing. Knowledge is every thing, the more you know the better a person you become. I prefer to read my porn rather than watch it. I know several great sites for erotica stories and enjoy them very much. LC
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ralf, can see and understand your point about the joneses but for me I know I am kinkster so kink and sexual variety is part of who I am and my sexual DNA. If there was no porn to corrupt me to begin with I would end up on the kinky end of the scale eventually ..... just would take 20 years longer. As for porn and corruption, the problem a lot of people have is not having the emotional intelligence to be able to see porn for what it is ie and its limitations of entertainment v real life but it has its uses and is not the evil menance that people make it out to be. Cheers, W
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just to clarify I'm referring to exploring my sexuality, and the part that porn has played.... Ag4mg94 - your path if exploring BDSM is just what I'm referring to. Seeking to explore an aspect of your sexuality though porn, education and experience. I'm with you around our youth though - porn is unrealistic and creates the wrong sexual foundations for the young who don't have the experience to filter it... Question is how do we protect and educate? I think it comes from a healthy view and forum to discuss it wether with parents or respected adults - isn't that what helps us grow and understand? He he and I still remember the hair :) that's my first memory too discovering the old mans stash. Which leads me to ralf and Freya... It's hard to imagine not seeing porn and how I'd view sexuality but yes I think I'd be where I am today (only now I realise how much sexuality means to me) ... No I wouldn't feel like I was missing out. For me it's about the moment, the partner, the dynamic of great sex is intuition and passion. Sensual, rough animalistic all come and go, and sometimes happen at the same time mmmm ;) I see life as an opportunity to experience - for me porn isn't about a competition to aspire to emulate but an observation of sexuality. Taking the bits I like and noting the bits I don't. Ultimately it's about fun and excitement doing things you want to do not what I there's expect (unless that's what gets you off he he) Correct Curvie as I said it's not all about porn but more so sexual exploration with porn being a path... And yes most are rhetorical :) Oh and on exploring this is my first foray into forums and I've already discovered something new - OP = original poster ? PS literotica is the top of my porn favourites - imagination such a wonderful thing :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
People have corrupted me and I now do my best to corrupt others. Mwahahahaha! I don't really google many diverse things in porn.....only when a person has told me about something or if I have read something on this forum. So my first point of contact or learning about something new is via people, therefore talking to people and hearing their experiences, and then trying things for myself has been instrumental in my growing sexuality.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Describe the first porn scene that comes to mind... Instantly its f/m/tran. Thats what im currently into watching. I really do enjoy porn. I also found my dads( or brothers, dont know) stash of porn mags hidden in the garage when i was a teen( good old ribald mag). So forbidden, yet aroused such strange,new sensations in me. I remember watching my first porn movie at 18 with my boyfriend, i was embarassed at first, but couldnt look away. Was fascinated and turned on. Since then, I have always watched porn, alone or with a partner. I am visually stimulated.Obviously I have changed, and so has what I watch over many years. Must admit though, I also watch hardcore stuff as well, more for the "omg really!!" And many things I would have considered hardcore a few yrs back, are now quite normal for me.So thats my sexual journey. I often wonder though, what it would be like to be a young unaware girl in this day and age, and start watching some of the porn thats available. What sort of impact it would have had on me. But back to what the original poster is saying, I know I have changed a lot in the last year in regards to my own sexuality and desires. Im loving my journey and what im learning about myself, especially through other people. But sometimes it scares me a little lately,because I dont want to end up always searching for that little extra something to keep topping where Im at. Things I was quite happy with 12 months ago are now too bland and boring. I didnt intend this to happen, but it has, and it does worry me. Especially from reading some womens posts on here who are now bored with playing and seem to be left in a sexual limbo of sorts, where they cant find the satisfaction or connections they used to. That scares the crap out of me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
porn hasn't anything to do with my sexuality except to express what I already find exciting. I don't understand why anyone would say it is another sexual avenue to explore? To me Lustmexcitiment, I would say, get of the internet and get away from the porn sites and actually go to meet and greets, and swingers and sex clubs and parties and actually talk to people, observe real life........... then join in. Life is too short to be constantly watching other people doing it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Plain280
11 years ago
That naughty bit, about in the end ultimately enjoying the pursuit and its attendant exploration for down right exploitation and degradation. Yes some of us have gotten to where they thought they were quicker, being exposed to it on a more regular basis and realising there are more people with the same interests. Some of us have just found it plain laughable to watch or downright disgusted in the treatment of human beings as animals. Recently happened across late night on one of the Foxtel Studio channels the original Emmanuel movies, the one where Bjorn and Benny from Abba make an appearance and had a quiet chuckle to myself on how we smuggled ourselves into the late night drivein in the boot of the car. Yes I am talking MA in this day and age but back then it was considered borderline pure porn. By the way in this day and age the film is very tame.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Araps' Ralf, can see and understand your point about the joneses but for me I know I am kinkster so kink and sexual variety is part of who I am and my sexual DNA. If there was no porn to corrupt me to begin with I would end up on the kinky end of the scale eventually ..... just would take 20 years longer. As for porn and corruption, the problem a lot of people have is not having the emotional intelligence to be able to see porn for what it is ie and its limitations of entertainment v real life but it has its uses and is not the evil menance that people make it out to be. Cheers, W That is a good reference to my point, kink is fine but where do you keep going when you discover your kinks and conquer them then get bored with them? More risque behaviour? What's the rush? A natural progression of sexual evolution to me is great, keeps things going on a steady stream of discovery. Porn has it in your face and everyone must do everything right now because it looks so taboo and exciting, then what? Been there, done that, got the postcard. It doesn't make sex any less fun and exciting to not know what may be in store in the future, to me that is the joy of sex, evolving, learning, trying and teaching.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm chasing my inner child. According to some, I may have overtaken him.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are definitely Buttoning😘xxFreya
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madotara69
11 years ago
Pressing all those buttons is like sitting in the cockpit of a Jumbo Jet and working out how to start the fucker. There is some fantastic instructional porn. Mado Tara xx
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madotara69
11 years ago
How do you do that? your post was not there, Buttoning. Was thinking the same thing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My imagination is far more interesting. Oh, and remembering what and who I've already done ...
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