Exploration expiration.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Like this one Mistress T and to answer the first part, Im sort of on that road now, not too sure why now but I think it may have a lot to do with finally being comfy in my own skin, at a stage where Im a lot more confident to try and experience my kinky side instead of just thinking about it. . The fear of exploring I found was in that initial decision to 'give it a go' rather than just thinking about it, you know.... taking that first step. And the scary part as with most things is the fear of being judged perhaps but have to also give credit that finding that certain person you can put all of your trust in, has its own fears or concerns as well. . I haven't been over the top brave with anything yet, but Ive always been a careful creature , my positive result so far is that Im really enjoying giving up a bit of that carefully controlled side. As you would know, it's quite a liberating feeling

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  In a past relationship my partner tried to make me into a Dom. I tried and tried to be what he wanted but as I am a naturally submissive person it was always doomed for failure. I can smile now about how pathetic I was at it. But there are a few little kinky things I have enjoyed doing. Like tying him up and dripping wax on him................ umm maybe that wasnt sexual tho. I just probably enjoyed hurting him because he was an arsehole. x

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I have a dominant side (stop laughing now forum regulars) and I have yet to explore this sexually. It is at odds with my nuturing nature which means that basically I am a marshmellow with a steel backbone. I dont know how I am going to go about it and I do realise that being dominant is not about hurting someone, more about being in control...and I do that very well with just a look. I have been contacted by several experienced male subs, the timing has just not been right yet.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I am very much into the exploration and trying something different. Bdsm is not quite my cup of tea although I have attempted it. I'm very broad minded and never judgmental so my path is more the helping or assisting the lady in things she would like to try. Toys, dress ups, fantasies etc. I have in the past couple of years carried out doctor examinations which not only provide an avenue for the lady to explore some of her fantasies but I have found it quite thrilling as well.The main glitch I have is finding ladies who are willing to admit and prepared to give their desires a go. Most if not nearly all either really don't have any fantasies or at least won't admit to them. Where are you all?Ladies in heels, stockings, suspenders, lingerie, bustiers, corsets are my following. So I guess going out with the lady and buying these and then her wearing them is my kinky side. Is that a kink?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We have been there and done that in terms of exploration into the BDSM world and through that we have found our limits within the scene along with our preferences, all that we put into play as time permits.We have BDSM in our profile and it is funny how many times we will be chatting with people who will mention that it is a turn-off for them as it means (in their minds) that we must be into pain and humiliation as that is the perception these people have of BDSM. When we try to outline what we do or even ask 'have you ever tied your partner to the bed' we often get a look of disgust, although sometimes we also get a look of pure intrigue.BDSM, the letters seem to turn people off because of perceptions that they have built up from media and elsewhere, yet it is our belief that a component of BDSM will suit every person out there, it is just finding that component.We love what we have found and continue to explore it.Shell and Gaz

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  You know a topic close to my heart and my bed I was introduced to varying aspects of BDSM early in my 20's and decided to pursue some of those. Have since found that I love varying parts and am a natural sub. I did try to dom once upon a time to see what it was like - and nope definately not for me. yes I know shock Throughout my exploration I have taken some along for the ride - some have really disliked it (even something as simple as tieing a person to a bed) and others (1 in particular) have taken to it so well they have (and still do) push my (and their) boundaries. Still aspects I want to try and boundaries I want to push but luckily for me I know the person (people) to call to help out... and I don't want anymore thankyou The scareist part in the beginning was learning who were wannabes, who were people that held a grudge, who hated women and who actually knew what they were doing. As trust and communication are key elements to any successful BDSM relationship (long term or in the short) anyone not willing to take the time to chat with me and learn my boundaries (they are there I am sure of it...I think) just isnt the person for me and have had some 'doms' take offence when I wont play with them because for me they have breached that trust - or I feel that they will. Lucky me I have found a person (after much searching) that enjoys pushing my boundaries and is happy to explore all of my kinks with me (and even some I didnt realise I had/woudl like until mentioned). In this my exploration of my sexual kinks has been successful though this took a long and often arduous search to find the right person. . Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Had a lady who wanted me to be a Dom so bad, but like others, it's not naturally in me. I was willing to develope that, but she wanted immediate results. Had a guy spank me while he fucked me, once. I liked it!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  watching some friends before & during their journey into BDSM, I think it was fear of the unknown and trust were issues to start with.... but they soon got over it ;) I could say they learned to expand their comfort zone, but some of them learned to expand their uncomfort zone... ;)

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