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Escort dating
February 15 2019
- Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
He is allowed to feel the way he does.
He's got two choices.
1) continue to be with her, support her and her choices. Or
2) walk away.
What he chooses to do, just be his friend and not take sides.
Ms Foxy
FeistyFatty
6 years ago
I feel for your poor mate. What a blow. All you can do is support and listen and not sway his decision either way. He will have alot to digest considering he's not of the "lifestyle" and as you say has never been interested in anything other than a monogamous relationship.
RHP User
6 years ago
...home to his mother and introduce them more intimately over dinner.
If mom spits mashed potatoes half way back into the kitchen then...well, that's be a "no" from the family.
Always listen to your mother, boys!RHP User
6 years ago
Ok...
Up until she mentioned she was a sex worker, everything was fine....
So that suggests organically the relationship is fine, but his issue is that clearly he doesn’t accept her occupation...
He needs to ask himself why HER occupation matters so much to him....RHP User
6 years ago
No doubt feel very conflicted...an unexpected bombshell indeed.As others have said,just be his friend and listen without judgement,hard I know but the decision is his to make and sometimes when we give advice the recipient won't really appreciate it.
I wish your friend and his girlfriend well for the future.
Hugs QRHP User
6 years ago
Your mate is probably going to have make a decision soon about where he stands with this. She probably should have let him know of her profession straight up on their first date, as much as I don't have a problem with sex workers at all it would be an absolute deal-breaker for most men. He's either going to be able to deal with other men ploughing her fields regularly, or it's going to absolutely do his head in. If he can look at it in the same way as others look at the caring professions though, he might be okay.
RHP User
6 years ago
Your mate is probably going to have make a decision soon about where he stands with this. She probably should have let him know of her profession straight up on their first date, as much as I don't have a problem with sex workers at all it would be an absolute deal-breaker for most men. He's either going to be able to deal with other men ploughing her fields regularly, or it's going to absolutely do his head in. If he can look at it in the same way as others look at the caring professions though, he might be okay.
mango69er
6 years ago
If he isnt into shearing his partner. And its only been a few weeks. Drop her like a hot potato
RHP User
6 years ago
Shes a person with a job like any person with a job.
Is he insecure because she has sex with other people? What is the basis of his concern?
If she’s a wonderful person who treats him right and he has feelings for her then at the end of the day he’ll talk it out with her.RHP User
6 years ago
She chose him for own time
RHP User
6 years ago
Id date a male escort.
RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks Guys
wildcrazyloving
6 years ago
Unfortunately Adult Industry Workers have to approach dating in a different manner. We need potential partners to see us as a whole person before we can provide information regarding work.. This assists with reducing the impact of the stigma.
How would you feel if someone you were interested in suggested friendship with a view to dating? ..It can be difficult to intiate.
A few years ago, i had a meeting from a dating site. The guy greeted me warmly and said, "I have something to tell you, I am a stripper". Relief washed over me as i laughed, "Wonderful, i work in the Adult Industry too". ..Such a happy moment, to be able to express oneself without judgement.
Mask_007
6 years ago
Hi OP. I really think is no harm in that. She is a person, human and have feelings like all of us. And she have chosen him. What is a big thing.
I meet a many many girl in my working carea at the hospitality industry, and something i can tell you. They are a great bunch of people, very funny, intelligent and interesting. I don't see nothing wrong about. But is not up to me.
And if is really your friend, don't judge just suport.
All the best.Sawadee
6 years ago
He has no issue with her lifestyle , can accept her for who she is and is mentally capable to handle whatever pops up... Then carry on.
But if it bothers him mentally and he stuggles.. Best to move on... Some can cope , others find it way too much... Best he does what his heart tells him..RHP User
6 years ago
Told me once that he was dating a working girl, she broke up with him because she thought he was weird for not minding!!
RHP User
6 years ago
I said I didn't mind, sounds interesting, she said she took various drugs, I said I don't partake but that it didn't wry me either.We texted for a while and it seemed to be going ok so I invited her to lunch, arranged a venue closer to her place than mine, Showed up on time (she didn't), paid for the drinks and the food, then we texted for a while and it looked promising. She said "come over", so I said "ok whats your address". Then the weirdest thing happened - within 1 minute she then said "no I've changed my mind" and listed a series of personal criticisms about me. Maybe some women in the industry are spoiled for choice and see themselves as top shelf
RHP User
5 years ago
I’d marry her and make babies with...
But that’s just me.
Anything out of the ordinary fascinates me, as long as it’s between consenting adults.
Only problem I see here is that some occupations affect people in ways normal occupations don’t.
Had I am not talking about sex.
So I’d be curious if that was the case.
I would get approached by people online via another dating app quiet popular amongst sex workers, only reason I’d reject people was always drugs. Lot of sex workers on that app seem to be pro-drugs and I am not ok with that, I have seen people destroy their lives because of drugs, no more.
Acucullophiliac
5 years ago
I've engaged the services of sex workers, both male and female. I know from my interactions with escorts it's always been purely physical, with a bit of company and conversation thrown in.
I'm pretty open in my relationships. And I know that if my significant other worked as an escort, and his/her business dealings were anything like my business dealings with escorts I would not be jealous.
Maybe your mate should try engaging the services of escorts a few times so he can see for himself that escorts are just doing a job. He shd prob discuss this with her first. But I expect she wd be OK with thisRHP User
5 years ago
Heaps of good points here!
Definitely be supportive. It doesn’t sound like you, or your friend, are in a judgemental mind set about this which is good. I’m sure she’s appreciative.
Acucullophiliac makes a good point. Maybe it would help to understand her work more. Maybe spend time with an escort or talk to her about her work.
Try to familiarise yourself with her work in an attempt to normalise it.
Escorts are normal people. That’s obviously how you guys got so far before she dropped her bombshell.
I hope you guys work it out!RHP User
5 years ago
Yes they are people just like everyone else, would I want to date an escort? No, an ex escort, well if we are being honest with each other and that is history then it is history. Just like anyone who has been in a relationship or once identified as gay but is now heterosexual or straight while in that relationship.
I’m not in the lifestyle, I would consider it but if I was in a relationship where whatever goes is accepted, whatever , whatever might be as in sharing, hot wifi get, groups or bi activity then that is on a personal level.
Does being in a relationship and doing sex work fit the lifestyle? Possibly not.
How was your day? How many people did you sleep with tonight? Is your std test clear?
No , sorry I’m not feeling like sex tonight, I’ve done a few clients!
I’m sure that is different to a couple who share partners or have playmates or have a kink where they discuss a partners play meet because it’s part of the lifestyle that brings they share,
Nothing against the sex worker. Some may like the role others just prepared to do it but I also figure there might be times they would not choose the client or see my attraction to that person and just have sex to please the client, just suck a guys dick and let him fuck them because it’s the job.
I’m sure most people want to choose who fucks them or have an attraction to. Person to have any intimacy or be penetrated. A sex worker would possibly only turn down a client for good reason not just because they are not fussed on the looks or body type.
I heard a story of a guy who dated and the girl told him she works reception at the brothel, he was ok with that but unsure. When she later visited the house his mate recognised her as a sex worker he had been with once or twice. Something misleading in her story.
I don’t want to sleep with friends wife’s or ex’s . Then none really appealed to me. I don’t want my mates sleeping with my Mrs,
If I/we were to play with others I would likely want to meet new people who are meeting for that reason, look for an attraction or just hope we find it hot to meet Nd hookup for that reason knowing full well they have slept with whoever and that is their story. If we got with. Sex worker I think the scenario would be different and our preferences might change. Would you want to go down on a sex worker half way through her shift? Would you think your Mrs would?
Again they probably leave that work as they age and hope for a relationship and company without pleasing strangers on demand.RHP User
5 years ago
I dated a female escort in Darwin years ago. She told me the first night. I couldnt care less, none of us are virgins.
Different story for your mate, if he's done his nuts over her.
But she obviously likes hime enough to be honest with him.RHP User
a year ago
I knew a woman who was an advertising exec,
for Phillip Morris, yeah That Phillip Morris.
Tough sell, every social gathering was like fronting a royal commission, have a thought for her and what she is going through to be with him.
I’m not envious.
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