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Dumped!

May 29 2011

I dated a receptionist for 5 weeks and she dumped me for spending too much money in her opinion. I was willing to take care of her for the rest of her life and accept her as she was and she dumped me with no feeling whatsoever. It makes it harder because i still care about her :(So im back here to start again...at my old age lol

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  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I doubt very much if that was the reason that she dumped you at all. After five weeks you loved her? Sorry sweetie but this topic is a little hard for me to believe. First off, it is YOUR money and you have the right to spend it how and where you decide. If you were buying her numerous gifts she may have felt a little uncomfortable by the attention especially if she felt that she did not want to reciprocate the gift buying extravaganza. You did not say that you were spending the money on her though. Were you taking her out and then spending all night sitting at a poker machine? I would dump you for that. Secondly I do not believe that a person can build up THAT much feelings for another in five weeks of dating. This is still the lust stage and love takes a lot longer to build. Perhaps the feelings are more for the one that got away and you are a little disgruntled that she dumped you. If she dumped you with "no feelings" then clearly she did not reciprocate your "love" Move on....NEXT!!!

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Mate. Usually people do something emotionally driven and try to make up a rational excuse for their behaviour later. You can't know she had no attachment whatsoever because you only got the rationalisation.. perhaps not the sleepless tear filled nights that preceded it.... for whatever reason, she decided you weren't for her.... the reason itself is irrelevant, probably distorted by her self image and life perspective and really, you should not take any of that to heart... at your age. ;pPlenty of fish in the sea, right@!HugsStalky

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I am very sorry that you have been left wounded, I know that connections can happen quickly and you can fall hard, but 5 weeks, come on... After give a good man the last 5 years of my life, supporting him emotionally and financially so he could follow his dreams, cook cleaning working and keeping house, I was recently informed that he just no longer know what hews Ted out of life, that included me! Now that is heart break. I am not saying my pain is or was any greater then yours, I am simply saying, at least it was only 5 weeks...

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    You say you were only with her for 5 weeks, so it's probably better to know now that it wasn't working for her than in a year, or more, time when it would be that much harder. Your only 32, try starting again after 7 years with someone and being 47yo, trust me when I say your lucky (even though I know it feels like shit right now for you)As stalky says, plenty more fish in the sea and the next catch will be much better.....you'll forget this girl in no time and you have a lot of life ahead of you.Good luck

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    you sound so sweet, I hope you find the girl for you, I'm sure she's out there.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I am very sorry that you have been left wounded, I know that connections can happen quickly and you can fall hard, but 5 weeks, come on... After give a good man the last 5 years of my life, supporting him emotionally and financially so he could follow his dreams, cook cleaning working and keeping house, I was recently informed that he just no longer know what hews Ted out of life, that included me! Now that is heart break. I am not saying my pain is or was any greater then yours, I am simply saying, at least it was only 5 weeks...

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    darryl_andrew and I know that 5 weeks of dating can feel a lot longer when you''re right in he midst of it, but a decision about the rest of her life , may have felt a bit early for her. She may not be so decisive about what she wants 'forever' right now as you seem to be. I can sort of see where she could be coming from on the money spending deal, especially if she has spent a bit of time regaining her independance it can be a little overwhelming when somebody thinks they are doing the right thing and showers her with gifts or pays for everything. Its ingrained in us women to think something is then 'expected' in return. sadly because of screwed up old ways of thinking. . And as for the 'without feeling' part of her dumping of you, geez it's a bloody hard thing to do isn't it? definately no nice way of doing it, perhaps she had to get herself all fired up before hand and thought, "Nope if I show I care it'll make it so much harder". Do you think there might be another chance in the future if you backed off a little? You could try asking her this, perhaps an email or a real honest to goodness letter (who doesn't love getting one these days shows you've taken the time and put thought into it). If not , well you'll know for sure then that you'd done all you could and that maybe she just wasn't right for you afterall. Best of luck xx

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I don't think the 5 weeks part is at all relevant. When you feel connected to someone, that's it, you're accidentally hooked. That can happen at any time, for instance in a chance meeting late afternoon down a winding path to a beach... or maybe it can sneak up by accretion over a long work related association... really... the five weeks criticism is unfair. Relationships that don't last years don't hurt any less when they go sour... just saying.HugsStalky

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'stalky'I don't think the 5 weeks part is at all relevant. When you feel connected to someone, that's it, you're accidentally hooked. That can happen at any time, for instance in a chance meeting late afternoon down a winding path to a beach... or maybe it can sneak up by accretion over a long work related association... really... the five weeks criticism is unfair. Relationships that don't last years don't hurt any less when they go sour... just saying.HugsStalky I totally agree with you...I myself was shocked when I heard the criticism about the 5 weeks! xFunlovingx < Stalky speak well for man with forked tongue!

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'stalky' I don't think the 5 weeks part is at all relevant. When you feel connected to someone, that's it, you're accidentally hooked. That can happen at any time, for instance in a chance meeting late afternoon down a winding path to a beach... or maybe it can sneak up by accretion over a long work related association... really... the five weeks criticism is unfair. Relationships that don't last years don't hurt any less when they go sour... just saying.HugsStalky agree...none of us know the history of how he came to the point of dumping...perhaps these 2 were friends for a long time...perhaps not... besides, its about darryl-andrews feelings, not something inconsequential.....

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    sounds like its time to leave notes on her car .. buy her more gifts and propose marriage ... or accept this one was not into you like you were into her ... The unobtainable is always so much more attractive

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    A thought just popped into my head as I read your 5 weeks posts.........what if they only saw each other on a Friday ? I mean people do have busy lives , still I guess anything's possible these days. I'm rarely that surprised at anything anymore.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'D_G_T' A thought just popped into my head as I read your 5 weeks posts.........what if they only saw each other on a Friday ? I mean people do have busy lives , still I guess anything's possible these days. I'm rarely that surprised at anything anymore. No. She would come over every night on weekdays and go out to the movies or golf course during the weekend.I could talk to her about anything, she used to lay in my arms and talk all night about anything and everything. I just assumed i had found my perfect match thats why it was so hard. Even the night before she dumped me she said she had feelings for me :(

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I wouldn't let a few weeks send me into a downhill spin...I am sure there were few good take outs from those few weeks so grab those and just get over it. Could have been worse... | ...she could have stayed for 8 weeks.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I agree with all that has been said even though some is conflicting. Sure you can fall hard in 5 weeks BUT deep love does not happen in that time! THank your lucky stars she worked out you were not for her so soon or you might have continued on lavishing attention on her for years only for her to work it out one day and really hurt you!Affairs of the heart are wonderful things and even a little hurt lets us know we're alive. Suck it up mate, it's really not that bad!

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'HotSexyChilli' It always hurts when you feel mislead emotionally but try to focus on the benefits and what you've learned from the experience... Great advice!!!

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    maybe shes a bit unsure...has cold feet..is testing you...and wants you to chase her?Just make sure it doesnt become stalking.JMO...BJxxx

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    if your heart broken and looking for love... what are you doing here? hardly a good place to meet anyone for a relationship

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'AdventureTime' if your heart broken and looking for love... what are you doing here? hardly a good place to meet anyone for a relationship dangerous words.... we've been pilloried and crucified for saying almost the very same thing.... but we still agree... not here, not for healthy wholesome and loving relationships........

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I actually met my husband on here, so I guess there are exceptions to general expectations :) Quoting 'AdventureTime' if your heart broken and looking for love... what are you doing here? hardly a good place to meet anyone for a relationship To the OP, perhaps it's a good thing she said it straight up to you and didn't put you on hold wondering and waiting. You valued her companionship and it's hard to adjust when it's no longer there. . Cheer up big guy...I had to fall many times before I found what I was looking for :)

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I'm not surprised that you were deeply connected after five weeks. People do fall in love , and more than that ; actually have very DEEP loving feelings for another even in a few weeks sometimes. -sure it's very rare but it does happen. Past life connection? Something written in the stars? A freak occurrence? A special opportunity? All of the above? No-one can tell me it isn't so coz I've been there. As far as this site is concerned , I'd take a guess and say there have been heaps of people that have found a lasting love on here , it's a fuck site sure , but it's a melting pot and a meeting place , so it's gonna generate real connection too sometimes. Both brothers of a close friend of mine have met their long term partners like that ; Internet chatting , a Finnish girl and a yank girl. And they were completely in love long before they ever actually touched , this sort of thing is becoming common-place because of technology. I feel for you man , I know these things suck ass , but yeah you'll be sweet , power on and kiss some serious fucking ass out there. Loz

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I'm not surprised that you were deeply connected after five weeks. People do fall in love , and more than that ; actually have very DEEP loving feelings for another even in a few weeks sometimes. -sure it's very rare but it does happen. Past life connection? Something written in the stars? A freak occurrence? A special opportunity? All of the above? No-one can tell me it isn't so coz I've been there. As far as this site is concerned , I'd take a guess and say there have been heaps of people that have found a lasting love on here , it's a fuck site sure , but it's a melting pot and a meeting place , so it's gonna generate real connection too sometimes. Both brothers of a close friend of mine have met their long term partners like that ; Internet chatting , a Finnish girl and a yank girl. And they were completely in love long before they ever actually touched , this sort of thing is becoming common-place because of technology. I feel for you man , I know these things suck ass , but yeah you'll be sweet , power on and kick some serious fucking ass out there. Loz

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Yep I meant to put 'kick' instead of 'kiss' , fucking spell-checker thingy :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    My phone knows my heart , damn Freudian app , I LOVE TO KISS ASS , there I said it. So many nice asses around....Mmmmmmmm....and btw I wasn't suggesting for a moment that he should kiss the ladies asses ie suck up to them n buy em stuff lol ....only coz he'll make me look bad coz I'm too cheap :P

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I'm sick of these smug couples with their happy relationships all up in my face n havin sex with me , I mean sure I'm jealous n lonely as anything , but can't they just pretend that they're miserable for a sec , just while I'm there???? Lol bastards!!!! All smoochey woochey and nice to each other , huggin n opening the door for each other , how was your day baby? , can I give ya back a rub? ----uuuugh it's enough to make ya sick!!!! It's enough to make a groan man cry. It's enough to make me fuck the wife so much harder!!!! -ahhhh those fuckers can't lose can they???? Lol :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    How degrading chasing after that crap. She deserves to rot lonely if that's her caper. Nobody should have to play these silly games. Life's just too short and there's plenty of fish in the sea! Make her beg you back mate if she's pulling this crap.HugsStalky Quoting 'MissBJ' maybe shes a bit unsure...has cold feet..is testing you...and wants you to chase her?Just make sure it doesnt become stalking.JMO...BJxxx

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    A Freudian slip? hehe....I like being a groan man too.HugsStalkyQuoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' I'm sick of these smug couples with their happy relationships all up in my face n havin sex with me , I mean sure I'm jealous n lonely as anything , but can't they just pretend that they're miserable for a sec , just while I'm there???? Lol bastards!!!! All smoochey woochey and nice to each other , huggin n opening the door for each other , how was your day baby? , can I give ya back a rub? ----uuuugh it's enough to make ya sick!!!! It's enough to make a groan man cry. It's enough to make me fuck the wife so much harder!!!! -ahhhh those fuckers can't lose can they???? Lol :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    or I did it again???? Grooooaaaan.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    well buddy, i agree wholeheartedly with stalky.. im in the same boat.. went on here not looking for anything but fun.. found someone outside of here.. fell head over heels for this guy and then whammo.. its over because he couldnt keep his dick in his pants, even after introducing him to rhp and allowing him to play with me with others on here..He says he still loves me, but doesnt want to hurt me anymore because he knows he has some sort of sex addiction.. He still calls me flat out and texts me.. WTF... i dont know what runs through the minds of some people.. but all i can do is pick myself up, dust myself off and move on.. Im now back on here to once again sex myself silly.. I wish i was the tin man right now.. Oh p.s i also wasted 8 years of my life and the whole part of my twenties with a guy.. Thats life...Time is irrelevant when feelings are involved, so i feel for you, but get back out there buddy!!

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'stalky' How degrading chasing after that crap. She deserves to rot lonely if that's her caper. Nobody should have to play these silly games. Life's just too short and there's plenty of fish in the sea! Make her beg you back mate if she's pulling this crap.HugsStalky Quoting 'MissBJ' maybe shes a bit unsure...has cold feet..is testing you...and wants you to chase her?Just make sure it doesnt become stalking.JMO...BJxxx Nah...sometimes its not game playing... its insecurity. I for one have been fucked over enough times to make the guy at least put some effort in. And regarding the spending of too much money... it really depends on how hes spending.. coz if its frivilous and silly... with little regard for paying what needs to be paid... then yeah... id ditch him too.JMO....BJxxx

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    nawww sky cuddles XOXOXOXO

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'AdventureTime' if your heart broken and looking for love... what are you doing here? hardly a good place to meet anyone for a relationship Haven't you read all those testimonials about the ones who have found their 'soul mate' here? don't be so cynical!! LMAO

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'AdventureTime' if your heart broken and looking for love... what are you doing here? hardly a good place to meet anyone for a relationship some of the best advice i have ever heard in any of these forums - this is NOT the place for love .

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    thats hardly anytime at all...do you think you could have been to forward for her in such a short amount of time...just from reading the part "I was willing to take care of her for the rest of her life" tells me that you could have pushed her to run for her life

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    you are sweet and sexy. xxx

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'wowwow09' sounds like its time to leave scratches on her car .. buy her more gifts (dead rats) and propose marriage (to her sister / daughter) ... or accept this one was not into you like you were into her ... The unobtainable is always so much more attractive

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    oh thats good Jean i like that pick axe through the bonnet of the beemer

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    man you got of so lightly stop complaining

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    This is a Swingers website...isn't it? I mean that's what we're here for. Why is it that we now have people pining for the one who got away? She gave you a try and after five weeks decided that you aren't what she wanted....beats divorcing her. But please answer my first question.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'fionabee' I doubt very much if that was the reason that she dumped you at all. After five weeks you loved her? Sorry sweetie but this topic is a little hard for me to believe. First off, it is YOUR money and you have the right to spend it how and where you decide. If you were buying her numerous gifts she may have felt a little uncomfortable by the attention especially if she felt that she did not want to reciprocate the gift buying extravaganza. You did not say that you were spending the money on her though. Were you taking her out and then spending all night sitting at a poker machine? I would dump you for that. Secondly I do not believe that a person can build up THAT much feelings for another in five weeks of dating. This is still the lust stage and love takes a lot longer to build. Perhaps the feelings are more for the one that got away and you are a little disgruntled that she dumped you. If she dumped you with "no feelings" then clearly she did not reciprocate your "love" Move on....NEXT!!! You so Right , This is just a pity post , not even a good one . mmmm maybe i should write one , To all the hot girls out there I,m so sad , i just got so much money , love & little dogs to give away (-: ever day i wake up & try to give it all away to the woman in my life but can,t , can you please help.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    I would have to say after 5 weeks you might have come on to strong and she used an excuse to dump you. But believe me i know how it feels to be dumped and feel lost no matter how long the time has been. I dont doubt you had real feelings but she might have wanted to take it slower or just got scared for some kind of emotional reason. Chicks can be weird. I was dumped in January after 9 years and 2 gorgeous lil girls and now she is living with a guy 12 years my junior and 7 years younger than her self. Its hard to deal with and at first i didnt. Now i am 32 and single and most people i know are married with kids and settling down so i am flying solo when it comes to getting out there again as a single guy. But dude if i can do it i know you can. Its far from easy but i do have more money than before. And my house looks sweet now and is a total kick ass bachelor pad except for my girls bedroom.It might take a bit of time to pick yourself up again but trust me when i say that any girl you meet from now on will not want to hear about your ex. Women like your focus on them but just keep it a lil detached until they bring up they Love you stuff. If they feel that way the will generally try to slide hints to you like looking at rings or something like that. Correct me if i am wrong ladies but in customer service management you do tend to see patterns in behaviors of people.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    I moved to QLD and my girl was supposed to come soon now she isn't and I am on the other side of the country alone and heart broken. toughen up you soft cock

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    I have just been split up with my wife on our 6 month aniversary she told me she wants independence even though the years we've been together she has stayed at home while I've looked after her now I have to pay her out for half the house I owned befor we met. The moral is shit happens and the best thing you can do is look after yourself do what you need to keep your sanity. Get out have fun and enjoy life the best thing you can do is be happy and not give her the satisfaction of falling apart. I feel your pain and the time together has nothing to do with how you feel. Chin up!

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'darryl_andrew' Quoting 'D_G_T' A thought just popped into my head as I read your 5 weeks posts.........what if they only saw each other on a Friday ? I mean people do have busy lives , still I guess anything's possible these days. I'm rarely that surprised at anything anymore. No. She would come over every night on weekdays and go out to the movies or golf course during the weekend.I could talk to her about anything, she used to lay in my arms and talk all night about anything and everything. I just assumed i had found my perfect match thats why it was so hard. Even the night before she dumped me she said she had feelings for me :( Oh man , this sounds so familar its not funny , been seeing each other for about 12 weeks ,getting on like a house on fire , one Saturday night tells me im the best thing since sliced bread and then the following Monday rings and says its all over WTF, that was about three mths ago , its hard but you have to move on ,

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'readytwoplay'This is a Swingers website...isn't it? I mean that's what we're here for. Why is it that we now have people pining for the one who got away? She gave you a try and after five weeks decided that you aren't what she wanted....beats divorcing her. But please answer my first question. This is an adult social networking and dating site. If you wish to use this site for swinging then please...go right ahead but many people are on here for various different things. Advice is freely given, maybe not always by qualified people and it may not be the advice a person is always looking for, but it is generously given for many topics. Lovelorn , bleeding and broken hearts only a few.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    I am same as Andraxx was 45 after 16yrs left alone, life still goes on and yes plenty of fish in sea but I understand what your saying, but something will come along if not just enjoy life, people who love you and it will happen mmmmmmmmmmm one day!

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'readytwoplay' This is a Swingers website...isn't it? I mean that's what we're here for. Why is it that we now have people pining for the one who got away? She gave you a try and after five weeks decided that you aren't what she wanted....beats divorcing her. But please answer my first question. yes this is a site predominantly for 'swingers' and 'players''....for 'dating' RedHotPie has its affiliate site called "YES Dating"....specifically designed for those who are here for something other than 'just' sex.........both fall very loosely into the category of 'social networking' but they were designed to cater for two very different sets of people.............

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    @fionabee: Thanks. It does sound very much like there is a breakout of the very much more dangerous variant of Mad Cow Disease in the love lives of the plaintifs....Silly Cow Disease.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    theres someone for evrybody its just a process.in the meantime in the words of crosby stills and nash,if you not with the one you love ,love the one your with xxx

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    ...about how a heart got broken. But what really breaks a heart is the loss of the dream, whatever that dream may have been.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    hey paris_j13, my profile has been blocked for some reason so cant post photos. you can contact me on [email protected] if that helps? marky

  • GoodVibesInside

    GoodVibesInside

    14 years ago

    Let's quote the 8yrs were with a loyal partner and a family was started, a beautiful child is not a waste, it's been within 2months since a miscarriage and becoming a single mother, then one is on a sex site, not normal behavior.. What do you expect being on this sex site, your meeting people that can't keep their pants on, it's a SEX MEETING SITE, not a bridal waltz..

  • GoodVibesInside

    GoodVibesInside

    14 years ago

    Quoting from comment on page 1.. (-:

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    we dont expect everyone to agree with us :) But this is a forum where you can give your opinion.. hopefully WITHOUT idiots trying to force THEIR ideas down your throught.   Yes, of course you could find a nice wife/husband here... but , "generally" this is a place for players...not romantics. and you could get hurt falling for some of the singles here B

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I just do But I usually manage to avoid complications... usually You feel what you feel and you are who you areSuch is lifeThey feel it, too... or they don't...If they don't then at least hope they have the honesty to tell you :)You.... got lucky. Trust me.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Toughen up Princess ... this is not womens weekly

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Fionaabee it is entirely possible to meet someone and develop feelings after a short time. It only took 3 weeks for Angel and I to develop strong feeling, we're now living together, engaged to be married and having the best time of ours lives. You really do know it's the one when you meet them :-)

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quote by VengeanceByName:I am very sorry that you have been left wounded, I know that connections can happen quickly and you can fall hard, but 5 weeks, come on...Many years ago, a friend asked me to take care of her cat (in my unit at the time) for 5 weeks while she was travelling before she was to relocate to another city. Over that time, this cat and I became good friends, as you do.After five weeks, I'm at the airport with the cat in a cat-carry box checking her in with the lady over the counter for the flight. The cat was meowing in a crying sort of way and I was crying while I checked her in too. The lady behind the counter was so sweet, she was very sympathetic and obviously touched by this sad scene.At one point, she asked how long I've had her and I told her while tears were running down my face "Five weeks".I'll never forget her reply..."...FIVE WEEKS??!"All her sympathy went out the window in an instant, heheh!

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    this all happened back in may.....the guys had 7 relationships since.............or more....

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Develop strong feelings for yes. Fall in love no. That is still the lust stage. Love grows over time. (The only time it is instant is when it is a child.) Your eyes may meet across a crowded room. birds may begin to sing and violins can be heard in the back ground, you may think "Yes s/he is THE ONE for me. It was meant to be"...that is still all lust as you have absolutely no idea of what the person is like at that stage. Five weeks is barely the "honeymoon stage" in a relationship. You are still "playing nice" after five weeks.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    "lust stage'?......is there a 'time-table' for love? we thought love was an individual thing...that everyones experience is unique and different. for one person to take 5 weeks to fall in love is not unusual or strange. we fall in love in different ways...each time can be different from the previous...all it takes is 2 people who are ripe for it at the time......after 1 date with my wife, we knew we would be together...falling in love with her was as easy as falling of my chair..........and it happened within weeks of us meeting......it wasnt about sex, we never went there......that happened much later, after we had seen each other a few times....instead of falling into bed , we fell in love.....without either of us smothering the other, by being normal and natural and becoming friends first. the old fashioned way.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Of course there is no time frame for lust and you know as well as I do that love is something that grows over time. It is not instant so do not try to pick an arguement for the sake of it. It may have taken you both just weeks without sex but then...we are all aware that your relatioshiop is damn perfect and your wife one in a million and if I remember correctly you knew Shel previously...before your first marriage anyway. So it was not a matterof weeks at all was it? It was a mater of a life time.

  • contemplating1

    contemplating1

    14 years ago

    You were chasing different things out of the relationship at that point... One seeking true love and a fulltime partner.......The other well maybe just wanting a good time, maybe not yet looking for a long term relationship at that point. Nothing wrong with either position if you are both on the same wavelength!   My guess is after 5 wks (hehe and this is usually portrayed as being the lady wanting this) she was frightened off by your "fulltime" commitment and did the runner!   Anyway, dust your self off, and continue on your hunt, g'luck!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    a lifetime? no. we knew of each other but that was it. we were never friends. i knew the postie better..i hadnt even glimpsed her since 1976 and didnt know who she was when we did meet again, she had a different surname..lol and no theres no argument...just an alternate view..remember...you yourself champion the right of people to have differing views..........