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Drowning my sorrows
September 06 2014
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I turn to chips and crappy tv if I don't want to face the world. If it's just been am exhausting week I pamper myself with a mani/pedi. And sometimes just a good hard fucking is called for and changes my mood. Or a night of it that leaves me exhausted and totally distracted the next day.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like to hit the gym or go for a bike ride, walk... I enjoy staying active and I feel this is the best way to rid me of all those feelings...and it stimulates all your good hormones and clears the brain... Having good sex also rids me of feeling down... Secret is to be more positive than negative grab life with both hands and go for it..:) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tales72' I like to hit the gym or go for a bike ride, walk... I enjoy staying active and I feel this is the best way to rid me of all those feelings...and it stimulates all your good hormones and clears the brain... Having good sex also rids me of feeling down... Secret is to be more positive than negative grab life with both hands and go for it..:) - Posted from rhpmobile Positive and active is situation normal. Drowning my sorrows has called for something entirely different. I've found that sometimes it's OK, and even necessary, to sit with uncomfortable feelings rather than push them aside with busyness. Just my experienced. It worked for me over the past few days. I'm about one packet of chips and a block of chocolate away from being completely (if momentarily) healed :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
And go out and look to poke someone in the eye. if that failsginger beer and dark chocolate
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Seachange73
11 years ago
To feel crsp or good as what ever hapoens on the day or week. We arw alliwed to mop around once in a while because that is how we feel. Acceptance of hiw we feel n then move on. I might give kyaelf some thinking space to reflect buy I find that u nkally would go to tge gym to hit the bags or workout and if.it is a nkce day, a good run clears my head and I woyld think of scenarios on how to move forward. A giid lomg walk is always good too. As a nice reward for my hard sweaty exercise I may indulge in a good dollop of Aldi triple choc mudcake ice cream and watch Bridget Jones or The Bodyguard dvd. Or Russell Crowe in Gladiator. Haha. Does the trick each time in ridding self pity. Hope you feel better sweat. Big hugs. Xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I want to avoid thinking about what's upset me or if I'm just feeling down for no reason, then TV and chocolate is the way to go because I can zone out and not think. If my problem needs a solution and I need to think about it and wallow in it for a while, then going for a good long hike in the bush does it for me. The combination of fresh air, nature and no people allows me to think and usually knocks me out of my funk by the time I'm done. Fortunately for me I am very happy for the most part so I don't have to worry about it too often.
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6exxy
11 years ago
Yeah that works for me. 90 minutes of bikrum and then white chocolate mud cake! 🍰lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
My week has existed of Foxtel, Netflix, cuddling my dogs, a little whiskey and far too much junk food. On top of that I dyed my hair, gave myself a body scrub, put on a face mask and topped it off with a home pedi. Might as well look pretty while feeling petty.
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RHP User
11 years ago
On whether you've just had a stressed and crappy time or there is something that's niggling and needs to be worked out......... Crappy time is definitely a hot bubble bath, scotch, chocolate and a trashy book or a relly sappy movie and a box of tissues, cause if I feel like crying, might as well have a reason.............. Working something out, meditation, quiet corner, book or movie that I've seen before and don't need to concentrate on and then just let the mind flow over anything and everything until I face the problem......... Don't distress to much and if you do, reach out to someone, don't shoulder it alone......
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RHP User
11 years ago
me an some black j d is the best way to for get
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RHP User
11 years ago
Were all entitled to a good mope around every now and then. My fallbacks are always fatty food, carbs and some nice red wine. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me I lose my appetite for days and find that exercise is a good way to fight the blues. Using your disappointment kind of drives me forward. After all what choice do we have. Also there is nothing like just hanging out with your best mate to help get passed the worst and bring you back to life once again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go and be a volunteer clown at your local children's hospital. Doing something for someone else, especially the disadvantaged and especially when it comes at some personal cost to you (your time/energy), is a pretty potent way of lifting your mood. So is being grateful for what you have, and cheering up sick children subconsciously makes you grateful for what you have. Or you can mope around for a few days eating ice cream... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' For me I lose my appetite for days and find that exercise is a good way to fight the blues. Using your disappointment kind of drives me forward. After all what choice do we have. Also there is nothing like just hanging out with your best mate to help get passed the worst and bring you back to life once again. I'm the exact opposite! My appetite goes nuts when I'm feeling blue. And my motivation disappears. Luckily I've learnt to mope for 1-2 days and then snap out of it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I Hug my daughter.... long, and tight, and she hugs me right back. Here, B_L... ((((((((((HUG))))))))))
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OzRednecks
11 years ago
I, too, am an emotional eater (Hence why in your other topic about self body image I wrote about not liking what I saw after seeing myself on a video) Why does fat and sugar have to taste so good?? Grrrr. Well, like in my other post, I have made some changes because if something upsets me and I comfort eat, then I'm making myself even more unhappy. I now write down 'To Do Lists' and I concentrate on those. Not only am I distracted from food but I'm getting jobs done so it's a double thumbs up :) I hate feeling unorganised so I really am doing myself a favour. But everyone is different. If you want to shut the doors and windows, do it. Just remember that you need to open them again soon to carry on. Sorry to hear you had a week from hell. Hope next week is better for you, Burning_Love xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have had annual horribilis I just try and stay positive and bunker down. But it's bend a shocker of a year. I hope we all have amazing peaceful times ageaf - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I appreciate the concern and kind words :) And the big hug - thanks DG ;) It's interesting how different people handle tough times. I'm known for being very strong and independent. If I take a few days to wallow it's generally a conscious choice with a time limit before I shake it off and get back on with things. While I'm currently wallowing alone, it was kind of nice to know I'm not alone in the WAY I wallow :D To those who said - get physical, be grateful, help someone else etc. Yes, all valid. However I don't believe this world is about always doing for others and never doing for me. I also don't believe it's always about pushing through. Self-nurturing and being gentle with myself is important to my well being, and it's important to honour what my heart is telling me I need. Emotions are real and it can take time - time out, even - to process them. That, and a bucket load of ice cream :) I've had to come to terms with some pretty big things this week and sitting quietly with my thoughts and feelings had been a treasure. So your advice is well-meaning, and I'm thankful for that. But I encourage you NOT to give advice to friends who are blue. My suggestion is to give your time, love, your presence and your acceptance of where they're at. Be with them and be there for them, ask them 'how can I be a good friend to you right now'. Don't tell them what to do or how to be. Don't minimize or trivialize their hurt with your solutions. That kind of advice - especially when not requested - often reinforces a person's sense of inadequacy. There's a time for giving someone a boot up the bum and there's a time for giving them a hug :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll build something then give it away to a needy person :) then my girls will give me a big daddy hug :))
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'redhot666' me an some black j d is the best way to for get in life you are placed with mountains to climb and things to face, do it with joy and fun enjoy life and be happy.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' I turn to chips and crappy tv if I don't want to face the world. If it's just been am exhausting week I pamper myself with a mani/pedi. And sometimes just a good hard fucking is called for and changes my mood. Or a night of it that leaves me exhausted and totally distracted the next day. Yes its so true life places in front of you things to face and enjoy live life to enjoy, be happy too ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I got awesome cuddles from a friend last night, it was lovely and just what the doctor ordered.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ktulu100' Go and be a volunteer clown at your local children's hospital. Doing something for someone else, especially the disadvantaged and especially when it comes at some personal cost to you (your time/energy), is a pretty potent way of lifting your mood. So is being grateful for what you have, and cheering up sick children subconsciously makes you grateful for what you have. Or you can mope around for a few days eating ice cream... - Posted from rhpmobile All that wisdom. So little time :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
as it was mentioned earlier, volunteering is great whether its with kids in hospital, being on the committee of a social group, etc give yourself a bigger purpose, it wont change what has past, but it will fill you with a lot of joy to know your life is making a difference to the lives of others
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RHP User
11 years ago
I too have had the worst few days thanks to a phsychotic ex ! I'm the opposite.... I can't eat It's now Sunday and I haven't eaten since Friday lunch :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
11 years ago
Good for you gurl! 😀😀😀
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RHP User
11 years ago
We usually go to family to bring us up from our sorrows. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree that you need to give yourself permission to just feel sad... Feel crap! Get it out! Then move on, don't let it define you. I've found mindfulness meditation to be really good in helping me deal with my feelings. Also just having a really, really good cry. Cathartic sometimes!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissBlissBomb' Also just having a really, really good cry. Cathartic sometimes! I'm also eying the Whiskey, Vodka, Patron, Beer, Wine and Liqueurs in my cupboard right now.
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Force_of_Nurture
11 years ago
... offer this as a suggestion or advice.. just as something that resonates with me When the heart Is cut or cracked or broken, Do not clutch it; Let the wound lie open. Let the wind From the good old sea blow in To bathe the wound with salt, And let it sting. Let a stray dog lick it, Let a bird lean in the hole and sing A simple song like a tiny bell, And let it ring. (thankful for the wisdom of Michael Leunig)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Drowning the sorrow in isolation and sad movies... sometimes with a good bottle of wine and chocolate. Recently had the biggest mind fuck ever and thankfully my incredible friends saved me from going under. So for those who are down... try drowning your sorrows in a friends shoulder... will make you feel oh so much better! SG(Blessed with the best friends)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Great Leunig piece. Love it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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