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Dress to Impress- NO HIGH VIS!
March 11 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is fricken hilarious.....I can understand an opportunistic meet at short notice, and turning up in hi-vis, but this.....this is a whole new level of stupid right here.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Clothes do not maketh the person. At least he turned up! I don't see what the issue is. Pusscat xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
That is absolutely hilarious, what would make someone think that's appropriate. I work in Hi Vis gear, and I'd joke with workmates about hitting the clubs in it ("When I step out, I want to be SEEEEEEN!) but to actually do it? Bloody Hell
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RHP User
10 years ago
and the trouble you went to but surely you knew he was coming off a 12 hour shift, surely he mentioned it ? If he didn't, I'm surprised. I used to work 12 hour permanent night shifts and many a time, guys would suggest to meet for brekkie or mid morning coffee etc. after I knocked off but I always declined cause all I wanted to do was get home and shower and sleep was my priority. I got myself sorted and then would arrange a meet later but then, we are all different. Personally, I think its a bonus he rocked up and there's worse apparel than Hi Vis.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Breakdown.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What a charming gentleman he must have been
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RHP User
10 years ago
Huge effort I think. Did he have to work back? I guess if he had of turned up late coz he had to go home and pretty up, he would been scolded too. Although out of courtesy he should of said he was in his sexy hi viz. Win some/lose some. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
A couple of years ago I arranged to meet a man for coffee,not only did he turn up in work gear but he was covered in bitumen,even his face. To make matters worse a friend of mine arrived at the cafe to meet some friends, the look on her face was priceless. ..I'm with you OP , I think no effort is totally unacceptable xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
He couldn't go home, to get nicely dressed up to go on a date ...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yeah, I wouldn't be that impressed either. SOME effort is needed, and a LOT with hygiene having said that, I don't worry if they're wearing a pair of boardies whatever, I'm casual, usually in a bikini and shorts, so casual is all I need, just poor hygiene is right up there as a deal breaker for me
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RHP User
10 years ago
At least apologize? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
the best dressed, I can't really talk on here about, but holy shit, that body in those body hugging pants and shirt, and amazing shoes omg took my breath away and it was a quick hookup at midnight with a guy I'd seen before, unbelievable. Yes, he'd been out, but completely sober and dressed to kill
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RHP User
10 years ago
I may be old school here .... but for me first impressions count. If I go on a date I think it's a given that everyone goes to some effort on presentation to put themselves in the best light. It's respect but it's also some common sense here. That being said lets hypothetical here that I had to work back and was going to be late if I go home and get ready. Well I could talk to my date and let them know what has occurred and they might say yeah not a problem turn up straight from work or they might say lets make it an hour later. Either way, communication ...... It's not too hard is it ??? Lol perhaps not.
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RHP User
10 years ago
He's got a job. But if that was me, and I was meeting someone after work, I would let them know I would be in high vis gear. If its just for a coffee, that is. But if it was a dinner date, then no!!!
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I would never agree and arrange to meet someone straight from work for the very first time meet! I would be tired and not 100% presentable physically because my concentration level would have dropped from the exhaustion, which is a disrespect to my date regardless of whatever effort I made to turn up to the agreed meeting. Hence, I have always avoided meeting someone straight from work for the first time. Would be flexible after the first meet though as my date would then know what I'm like when I'm not tired :-) and I would expect the same in the reverse position :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Andremmo
10 years ago
Perhaps he couldn't go home to freshen up first because his wife would have gotten suspicious. Better to turn up home after the date in his work gear and telling his missus that he had to pull a 12.1 hour shift today.This guy is a genius - definitely a keeper.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...he didn't expect to be wearing them for long? Or maybe he thought you'd be turned on by the rugged show of masculinity...and then proceed to rid him of those filthy work clothes and give him a shower? So many possibilities... 😁
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RHP User
10 years ago
The respectful nature should override their clothing on a first date?? I get the point in that clothes don't have to be classy or expensive in price tag, so in essence clothes mean fuck all in the big picture.... But surely an appropriate context is deserving right?? Otherwise wearing budgie smugglers to a funeral would be acceptable.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Its so frustrating when you put in a lot of effort for a meet and he wears what ever looks remotely clean off the floordrobe.
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RHP User
10 years ago
my first thought was "really? he did that?" but on reflection... was it that he was dirty and smelly? or that they were hi-vis - and if it was just that the fluoro is mandated not fashion, would it have been acceptable to roll out of the office and over to a date wearing your bag of fruit after a hard day of driving an office desk? Surely someone makes a hi-vis suit so you can roll out of the work site and into that wanky "Friday drinks" bar with the other suits? I'd expect anyone going straight from work should say that's what they're doing - I'd do the same if I was going to turning up in suit and tie because I had to go from work. (I dislike wearing a suit in case anyone couldn't tell, maybe I've just endured the "no hi-vis" argument too many times over on the frequent flyer discussion about what is and isn't acceptable in the airline lounge)
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RHP User
10 years ago
we all work and i have meet some great guys straight after work and i work in hi vis and where steel cap boots and end up having the best time
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RHP User
10 years ago
He should have told you he was coming straight from work. To get dressed up for a meet is a big plus for me. Not talking evening wear, just neat and clean. Nor a lot of consideration on his part.
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RHP User
10 years ago
different if they tell you and bring spare clothes, maybe for an overnighter, that kind of thing, that's happened before and wasn't a problem. Particularly when he emerged in a towel mmm
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Andremmo' Perhaps he couldn't go home to freshen up first because his wife would have gotten suspicious. Better to turn up home after the date in his work gear and telling his missus that he had to pull a 12.1 hour shift today.
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
To be a good lover, you need to make an effort. If you can be bothers showering and changing how much effort are you prepared to make. I used to fly to Newman from Brisbane. On the rare occasion when I had to leave Newman in hi viz I would shower and change in the Qantas club in Perth. Even if I'm wearing a suit, after a day at work I shower before we go out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lol what if it was him/her dressing to impress 😃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'woody_pusscat' Clothes do not maketh the person. At least he turned up! I don't see what the issue is. Pusscat xx One does not need to dress to impress but thereare standards besides it means he has not even showered.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For me it would depend on the context. Morning, day or night meet? How far in advance was the meet planned - if it was during his 12 hour shift, then I wouldn't have problem with it, type of place - cafe, restaurant, local pub, train station? It might be like Andre suggested, does he live a fair distance from the meet/work? He might not have been able to meet if travelling home to get primped and then travelling to meet you took a few hours. He might have liked you so much he didn't want to miss his chance? Was he clean or filthy? I don't have a problem with it necessarily but if would have been nice for you to get a heads up!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I sent a text message before making it rock solid that read:- "I must warn you, I'm in hi-vis lol :p"lol She hadn't read this thread at that time, and my lil joke went through to the keeper lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
He has a job. Tick. Has work ethic. Tick. I recall many a sex fantasy involving a tradie being sexuced on site... Even in his vis... Less sexy in a "going out" setting I guess)... But if it was a long term dating thing... This outfit would be a reality. I'm sure if he worked in a suit in an office... It would be fine for him to turn up in work clothes. I never dated in my 20's but it must be nice to spend an hour getting ready...! It's great fun and an ego boost. Expectations are never based in reality; having been formed in ones own imagination. ; Bonus learning curve! This sound like you are ahead!!!!!!! Perception has everything to do with expierience. Expierience has a lot to do with building character. I hope both of you didn't sacrifice the value in the expierience regardless of outcome. Time is a precious thing to waste; with many an Rhp member having had time wasted on less. .... Sometimes extremely circumstances can still foster chemistry! My partner of 17 yrs spilled his drink on me. And was sick and dressed badly on one of our first outings... But we Love each other. If they are good hearted. They are worth it. Dressed to the nines but shallow as a puddle..... Pass ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Or a date. A meet implies no sex. Just conversation and a drink. I have taken a long backwards glance at - good with their hands- dirty tradies.... And had some pitifully unimaginative conversations with "intellectual" white collars. ( and vice versa) But those people who have the ability to slice through pretence and peer into my soul. That's priceless.!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
PLEEEEEEEEASE tell me in his profile... he claims to be discrete/discreet.... and turned up wearing high viz BAHAHAHAHA
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' PLEEEEEEEEASE tell me in his profile... he claims to be discrete/discreet.... and turned up wearing high viz BAHAHAHAHA hi-vis would suit a discrete person, it'd make him more obviously distinct from the crowd, no?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree. But if for some reason they absolutely HAD to it would be nice for them to give a heads up, if they need more time id be happy to wait - Posted from rhpmobile
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skatters
10 years ago
personally I also think it depends on how long you have been talking before you meet also....I am a fairly casual girl so I wouldn't get hung up on a guy turning up in his fluros (can be rather sexy really). But it only been chatting a short amount of time some effort is usually needed from both... but from past experiences if you have been chatting to the point of really really getting to know each other to the point of feeling like you know everything about them then I don't think that first impression is as important....
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RHP User
10 years ago
When I arranged to meet a woman for a coffee for our first meeting I said it would be easy to meet after work but I would be in hi viz work clothes, I don't get dirty most days so I wasn't going be all dardy. She replied it was me she wanted to meet not my wardrobe, since then we tend to discard our clothes anyway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm with you Stirry!! Words fail me. Although ladies, it is very necessary to have a ROBUST filtering system on this forum. If you haven't....then sadly, this might happen to you!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
i have met a couple of woman straight after work for coffee or drinks and it's not hard to have some deodorant in the car and a change of clothes and let your date know you are coming straight from work,high vis on a meet of any kind is a no no 👎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some people work for a living...but yes I agree. High Vis is a NO NO! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Unless he showed up stinking of sweat and with dirty fingernails, I'd have no problem with it. Was he on time, respectful and good company? Than I'd say you're ahead. Agreed... it would be the smell that would be the problem... not the H-Vis... is you are into that... I remember many moons ago when Hi-Vis first appeared I swore that it would never be me in it... only once have I succumbed... setting up a trade show... an exhibition hall... forklifts etc. zooming around... but so much Hi-Viz that it all blends together...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Complete lack of respect and self-pride. Unless it was like 15 minutes prior notice or some other extreme circumstance, there's no excuse for that.
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Have2befun
10 years ago
Well he could of turned up in a car salesmans suit or budgie smugglers. But a serious note, sounds like a communication breakdown. Did you even give the person a chance to explain or did you turn him away at the site of him. Was he meeting you for any sure promise where he may of misunderstood the meeting. Was there anything planned like going out for a meal or coffee. He may of just been a down to earth guy and treated the situation just like turning up to a friends house. - Posted from rhpmobile
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joanne1991
10 years ago
I work everyday on call 24/7 and wear high vis, steel cap boots. If a meet not sex is organised after a 12 hr shift at a local where others will be wearing the same I don't see a problem so long as your clean still smell nice, have done it myself many times, hair in pony tail, high vis, no makeup. I think you should be grateful ths man even turned up after 12 hrs, thats a long shift working outside in the heat. Im presuming as you are at uni your in aircon sitting for 7 hrs a day maybe. It's not the clothes that make a person. I'm sure the sex meet would be different, stop judging working men or women, have seen many hot hot men in hi vis that I would say yes to.
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RHP User
10 years ago
This town is full of "glow worms" (they glow in the dark 😊) Lots of FIFO workers who obviously have left their "going out" clothes back in their home town.
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RHP User
10 years ago
So I expect the same. If I turned up to meet someone, they would expect me to be trying my best to impress them, otherwise I wouldn't even make it to a second meeting! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We'd be talking about this if he was wearing a suit? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Boduk' This town is full of "glow worms" (they glow in the dark 😊) Lots of FIFO workers who obviously have left their "going out" clothes back in their home town. yeah, going out clothes are a clean set or a new set, they really shine then, bit of aftershave, good to go
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'woody_pusscat' Clothes do not maketh the person. At least he turned up! I don't see what the issue is. Pusscat xx I understand her predicament though....many years ago a first meet with a man and we were meeting for play he turned up dirty scruffy and unkempt.......after working all night....well that wasn't what I asked for..........I on the other hand I was well groomed to make an impression. Most women do tend to go all out in preparation for a date, nails, hair, makeup, even new clothes...I have and fussed about my appearance, yet often most men turn up in t shirts and shorts.
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RHP User
10 years ago
At least he wasn't wearing cat ear headphones.
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