'Don't knock it, until you have tried it'

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Intimacy is what a lot of people crave for, so they will throw words like that in there to get the attention. To be honest. I feel sorry for guys nowadays. They are bombarded with ads for products to prolong erections and "give you a better sexual experience". I imagine it might start to make some men feel inadequate. Ive dated 2 guys over 45 and they did not need any enhancement for performance ( although I know some people with medical issues do rely on these products) Its like the marketing for beauty products for women. "Spend 150 dollars on this tiny tub of miracle cream and youll look 20 years younger" Sign me up! Intimacy is something you cannot buy. It occurs naturally between people who are enjoying being in that moment of closeness. They are putting fancy pants on all of these miracle sexual aid products that cost the earth and unfortunately people are going for it. Men have been giving women pleasure for thousands of years, I dont think anything has changed, and intimacy has been enjoyed for that same amount of time. Its natural and cant be bought online.

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  madotara69

  10 years ago

  Koko, your honesty precedes you, it was a pleasure of a read, cracker for a start, thank you xx

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  AnnieWhichway

  10 years ago

  Nice topic. Now getting on in age, the body and mind changes. Lucky for me i can still get it hard and keep it going for prob too long. For me, the drug that makes me orgasm is intimacy. Sex is sex. But intimacy, caught in the moment with a special one. Cant beat that. And when you orgasm at the same time...... . There's no drug or substance that could compare surely? Not that I've been far down that road. But i get it. If you need a viagra to be able to go, no shame in that. Whatever does work, just do it.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  my take on this is there's far too much importance put on how long a man stays hard for. Whenever I see the 'stamina' word, I cringe. What does that mean exactly, that he's capable of banging away for hours on end? Best partners I've had stay clothed and made sure I get my pleasure first, their dick stays in their pants until they have me going crazy, then they get the payoff, and that payoff if worth waiting for The actual penetration part which requires staying hard, is the icing on the cake, not the main player, not for me personally anyway. The hottest thing is when I can't stand it any more and try to get in their pants and they make me wait mmm just makes me thirst more. So I don't associate being able to stay hard for hours as a requirement. I'd actually be a bit the opposite, wouldn't be too impressed if I found out a guy had taken viagra and I had to work my arse off to get him to come for hours on end. I'd rather go a few rounds if each party is up for it and it feels good. Break in between, bit of a chat, chill for a bit, then slowly get horny again

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Just to add to that, I've had partners where all the activity has been oral only and it's amazing, and doesn't require the guy to be hard for very long. So long as the guy doesn't get his pleasure first, neglecting the woman in the process, if he gets off getting her off, it's then a win win for both people, it's as hot as. Also a huge help for men who do have erectile dysfunction in the sense that they don't have to stay hard for long, they can give and receive pleasure and have an amazing experience without the worry of that hanging over them. Most of the time, my partners are young and this is not an issue, but I do feel for those who have a problem with it. There are old fashioned attitudes towards sex but fortunately they are changing

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Mado, but if you cant fuck solid and hard for hours, women wont be satisfied. joking of course but sadly there are many males who have this mindset and it can effect their ability to enjoy the journey, not the destination. Yes a hard dick is so much better to nibble and feast apon, this is true. From my experience with partners that I had a relationship with, sexual intimacy had nothing to do with how long his dick stayed hard during intercouse. If there is a problem with sustainability, no need to throw the towel in, give the ol' boy a rest and use a toy on your lady. Hands and mouths and playing with the little nobbly bits on your woman dont need a dick involved anyway. A tongue connecting delicately with a rosebud can be more erotic, intimate and loving than a dick pumping in and out in a race to the finish line. Who wants an actual finish line anyway? But yes have the little helpers there,and keep the "have in case you need it" as a mental backup. Intimacy is a mind in the moment connection, with or without intercourse. Nice to read you Mado. 👋@Tara

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Thank you, its an interesting topic. And I love your posts! xx

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  madotara69

  10 years ago

  We did have an ongoing concern, recently where I was having trouble getting an erection, it was a first and at first a mystery as to why, soon it became apparent, I had lost a connection with Tara and without that, it effected me was all it was, we had a family matter where the mother in Tara and her love for our kids is and in all ways first instinct, I care to that and would not wish it different. Like a switch we learned how important that connection is, it has feelings and emotions that were suppressed, the whole package, our intimacy.Pills may have helped things up, but without intimacy, rather address the cause and fall back on our friendship, trust in Tara and work through and we did. (Taking a pill in that incidence would be IMO betraying the spirit and feelings reason, seek meaning, understand and learn something by facing into the storm and believe. Anyhow Annie, I have taken the few different types, a friend was part with developing Cialis (tadalafil) an expert in the field and advised me for educated choices. With our connection switched back on, our intimacy and mates I get hard just looking at her and in no way what so ever did any of them have influence with intimacy, blood flow, at the ready, some effects with erection, nothing exceptional, we get way more benefits from amino acids and both our brains pumping arousal, (big word, lot in it) naturally. Me taking a pill to get an erection would have no baring on Mothers instincts, love and priorities, children foremost, she was not enjoying any sex enough to let go with passion, it comes with the package too. I get off on her getting off and intimacy in the realms of emotions and feelings in the balance, a hard penis did not help, but he still enjoyed the sex on a positive note, that we enjoyed, not all doom and gloom, everyone has their own story and agree sweetie xx

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Great to hear this kind of honesty. It helps other people to read this so thanks for sharing it, and putting yourself out there, not easy to do. The key thing I picked up on in your last comment was that you get off getting her off, that's it, that's the different between sex and great sex, builds arousal for both, and fuels that, has a snowball effect. I wish I could bottle that and give it out as required lol some just don't get that

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  madotara69

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Deep_Purple'From my experience with partners that I had a relationship with, sexual intimacy had nothing to do with how long his dick stayed hard during intercouse. If there is a problem with sustainability, no need to throw the towel in, give the ol' boy a rest and use a toy on your lady. Hands and mouths and playing with the little nobbly bits on your woman dont need a dick involved anyway. A tongue connecting delicately with a rosebud can be more erotic, intimate and loving than a dick pumping in and out in a race to the finish line. Who wants an actual finish line anyway? But yes have the little helpers there,and keep the "have in case you need it" as a mental backup. Intimacy is a mind in the moment connection, with or without intercourse. Nice to read you Mado. 👋@Tara I have wanted a finish line, it's a bit embarrassing being with a mate and while he is fucking your partner aside them standing flaccid leaving all the work on him and a distant feeling like a stranger perhaps, intimate lost connection, better over and done with. On the other hand we have been edging for a few years and that is intimacy taken from state of deep relaxation and each time an exchange in foreplay in keeping each other on the edge of orgasm and passing reality into euphoria, altered state, overwhelmed by chemicals being produced and as feelings of arousal, intimately reaching higher intensity orgasms, works in progress, we have not found a finish line, intercourse or none, foreplay alone, intimacies in their finest of times. Thanks, lovely to read you too, and Tara's favourite colour Deep Purple.

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  madotara69

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Great to hear this kind of honesty. It helps other people to read this so thanks for sharing it, and putting yourself out there, not easy to do. The key thing I picked up on in your last comment was that you get off getting her off, that's it, that's the different between sex and great sex, builds arousal for both, and fuels that, has a snowball effect. I wish I could bottle that and give it out as required lol some just don't get that May I ask you a personal question, enable a reply ?

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