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Domination Sex - The rough stuff!
December 24 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
So many questions Andy! *giggle* I'm definately into it...love love LOVE being dominated in the bedroom! Bound, tied, gagged, choked, spanked, slapped, hair pulled, pinched, flipped, pounded....mmmmmm. I can be demanding when I need to be, but dominating in the bedroom definately does not come naturally to me. There is nothing hotter than someone deriving as much kinky pleasure dominating as I do submitting. As to how often...well, variety is the spice of life ;) Don't be too concerned about stuffing up the womens lib movement because I'm thinking most subs feel the same as I do and find it actually very liberating to just be able to let go!! Merry Christmas to you guys too! S xox
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi Andy....As for the cord bit...not my idea of erotica...only conjoures up bad memories.fingers down the throat same deal...i cant even do that to make myself sick....lolso for me..to go even there with anyone....id have to have complete trust....as these sort of things can go wrong.Yet i say each to his/her own..and they get their ecstasy from it...who am i to judge..not that i do..pfft to those that dobut its not something i do all the time...as it's then still enjoyable to do thus not get bored then...lol.Oh i dont mind taking it in turns..to be dominated /dominating...hehexoxoxmumma happy xmas...keep kinking a long...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was first introduced to the scene six years ago by a very experienced former pro domme and now dedicated lifetyler. What a ride!!! She taught me things about myself that I had previously thought was 'bad' A woman can have a career, family, partner, etc BUT essentially men were 'the boss' I was not comfortable with any of that...being a strong minded individual I encountered a lot of resistance, particularly in the workforce. BDSM provided variety, acceptance of ones natural predisposition (or manufactured for that matter) opportunities to test oneself and convictions, dress up in some really cool gear....and THE TOYS!! The psychology behind the lifestyle is what appeals to me the most tho. Abandoning of stereo types, convention and insecurities really allows one to extend their imagination and exact pleasure in so many ways! In essence, sal and andy, if you want to investigate further, I suggest you explore the stuff that appeals to you both, research the topic on sites such as elisesutton.com, understanding submission & other related links. Once you have a general idea of your hard limits, let the search begin for a domme who 'fits' within ur criteria. Wishing everyone a wonderful Christmas and safe New Year xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
It is 12 hours and Sophie our devine , magnificent , wonderful , delectable sub has NOT replied! WHATS GOING ON! We are yet to meet anyone that knows more than Miss Soph on this art form. Sooooo much to learn in this area, every experience teaches us more. Which is most definantely part of the attraction. From finding your hard limits to pushing your soft limits. Even to finding people who tick the way you do. We will leave it to Soph thou to explain more. Soph time for you to explain. Say please ;-) Brae and Miss Sarah
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RHP User
16 years ago
She's probably happy for someone else to take over and dominate the thread Personally I prefer to dominate in the bedroom, and Kilee prefers to be dominated..albeit she still has the control. I'm probably similar to Andy, albeit we haven't used the electric cord/or ropes (yet). Maybe we should get together and Andy can show me a few tricks on Kilee while I reciprocate on Salina We could make it an instructional video, "Light BSDM 101" Trev <<
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RHP User
16 years ago
I've played around with a bit of both - but I'm not as interested in the whips, so much as the chains, ropes, and manacles - leave a piece of rope near me and i'll end up tieing it around something and trying to make a pattern with it. (Note: put cuffs and ropes away after playing, its oh so easy to forget they're laying about till your sister has dropped round during the middle of the day to grab something and can't help but make comments lol)I'm better suited to being dominant in that area - the gagging, throat holding, hair pulling, holding down, etc and obviously the ropes and cuffs. (Anyone get out to the fetish japanese bondage classes Midori ran in 2005? I wanted to but was but of the country)
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insatiablerogue
16 years ago
It certainly has a place in our playtime. Both of us have jobs where we need to be a little 'assertive' at times, so we take turns in who plays what role, which makes for interesting fun when we're both feeling dominant. I personally find it a little bit of a release to NOT be in charge and just do as I'm told sometimes. For us, trust is probably the biggest factor along with having a 'safe word' as we push each others boundaries!
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RHP User
16 years ago
we're not into all that kinkyou perverts
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sorry sorry sorry she has replied on this type of forum soooooo many times, sooo many threads .........................Buuuuuuuuuut interestingly we never get sick of hearing her explain it again and again and again....................... We also learn something new every time she responds. (thanks Soph) Well then your just gunna have to listen to me then!!!!!! Sonsie ................ oh you with jam..and cream......... mmmmmmmm oh dear oh dear!!!! We have learnt alot from Uber and from other internet sites. We went to an amazing workshop in Liechardt this year, on domination and spanking. Another Syd boy on roping as well. Midori ran more last year. I (Brae) love playing in a dom role and find the depths you can play with it are amazing ............ agree with the breath play , gagging chocking , is exhilerating, when done consensually and the right way for all. Restraints and holding someone down again awwwwwh stop it! No dont ....... stop ..... stop.......... (oh shit I need a safety word)! Its interesting , one of the quotes from a workshop this year was about being a dom........... " it's in your life , being a dom, its around you. Look around you do you dominate things in your work place , do other look to you for guideance. Most Doms have leadership roles way outside just their play life....." We have also been playing restraint with visual deprivation, and are keen to try sound deprivation as well. Role playing ................ so many to choose from. Andy I agree with the "I always worry that I'm somehow stuffing up the women's lib movement" BUT its not if it is each and everytime consensual. I have read Sals post and am feeling it safe to assume if you forced things on her she'd quickly make sure your "boys" were sore for a week! Sonsie hit it again! ( the idea, not your "boys") Oh the depth to this , so much fun so few free weekends! Peace whips chains and a good old spanking to all sexy swingers.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes please! N xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
yeah roughfukr.... my thoughts exactly.... I'm not into any or all of the above, either.... and I like totally resent the implication that I am.... I really don't know where anyone could have gotten that idea from.... You are all very naughty people... xxx sophie.... completely vanilla-flavoured miss... will that be one scoop or two? ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Geez Soph, that trip to Sydney really changed a lot of things around here..no submissive Soph, Gaz Awol..what's next ?
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RHP User
16 years ago
*sighs* 7 sleeps to Headmaster is home. Thinkies me is about to get another complaint in the letterbox bout me pleasure squeels from the neighbours when he does teehee. Agree with Kiltrev there are plenty of others that add value to the discussion, tis what the forums are all about, lots of input and views. Finkies lovely Soph would agree as well. This is certainly one subject that gets different opinions too lol. As for me Salandy, it is about the teaching and pushing of those boundaries, which takes time and patience with Sir and respect...oh and loads of communication and trust. It is a very different to the domination rough play you two are exploring. Peachy may be able to lead you to the long thread previously on domination, there was some really good responses in there. Finkies you were both bouncing the doona for those few weeks and missing from the forums teehee. Love and sunshine and a very merry christmas to all, wiv special extra slurpie kisses and wiggles for Tam and Jose. Stay safe. 3 : * ) xxMiss Honeyxx <<< watching time tick away at work until me can get home for some Chrissie fun.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Me with jam and cream? Hold me down! Oh yes please! *blush* It's funny because I am soooo not submissive out of the bedroom, although, I wouldn't exactly say that I'm dominant either...perhaps more that I am depended on and the decision maker so it really is wonderful to let someone else take over and to be told what to do. Andy...I would never hit you in the boys *giggle* ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm a submissive, and I truly adore being dominated by my Master. He can tie me up, tie me down, flog me hard, flog me light, use clamps almost anywhere on my body, tickle me, pull my hair, gag me, almost suffocate me, grab me by the scruff of the neck, put his fingers down my throat... and generally fuck me any way he wants. I love it, can't get enough of it (or him) and he tells me that having me submit to him, watching me drift off to another place, watching my eyes roll back in my head really does it for him. And because we're into D&S more than S&M, he can (and will) dominate me anywhere, anytime we're together. I've had orgasms in cafes for him, in (secluded) public places, and on occasion, he has mind-fucked me so well, without even touching me, that I don't know where I am or what I'm really doing. As for women's lib, anyone, especially my Master, will tell you that I'm no shrinking violet or doormat, I'm actually quite an assertive, professional woman and heaven help you if you dis me, anywhere. If women's lib is all about women being empowered to make their own choices, then hell, yes, I've made my choices and I wouldn't have it any other way. Toys, did someone mention toys? Oh, yessssss, they are so much fun, whether you've paid a small fortune for them, picked them up cheaply, made them yourself or put something completely innocent object to very nefarious use...
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have to agree with all you have said Scarlet.Womens lib to me is about being all YOU want in every way possible.Submissive does not mean meek and mild!!!And god help anyone that thinks I amIts about being a strong enough person that you can totally let yourself go. The hardest part is finding some one worthy and trusted check out the handled 1 faceted cheese graters next time yr in a good kitchen store Good luck to me and anyone else wanting it in 2010dev xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don't mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don't mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.~ Anais Nin Women's lib and feminisim are interesting arguments which I hear often from both non-submissive women and some men who struggle with the concept of dominating a woman. I'm an outspoken, opinionated feminist who just happens to be aroused by being submissive in bed. For whatever reason, it's part of who I am. This quote by Anais Nin sums me up pretty perfectly.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yep...I like to be dominated...Not all the time though....pick me up.,.throw me around..tie me up...choke me...slap me ..make me gag! bwahahhaha... BUT NO Whips! Happy New Year all.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx sweetpetite41...<<< waits on her friend to come back to do all these lovely things to her.lol..9 days to go....I am climbing walls here!!! agghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ask me what is the most beautiful thing I can imagine and I would tell you that it is a sexually submissive woman. A woman so enlightened that she is comfortable in her skin and knows that her pleasure is linked to the ability to give pleasure to another. Make no mistake, in my experience, sexually submissive women tend to be intelligent, worldly and knowledgeable. Many have positions of authority, sometimes with high stress and are very in control of both their lives and their destinies. Sexual submission allows them to let someone else take control, release the pressure and provide levels of intensity in lovemaking that help them become more centred individuals. I believe that we are circular in our natures and that when we are hot we desire cold, when we touch something sharp we imagine how soft our flesh is.....we come back around to what we find rational, what we know or feel....others include: Wet/Dry Fast/Slow Pleasure/Pain Rough/Smooth Thick/Thin Heavy/Light There are of course many others and the sexually enlightened Dom and sub tend to explore these in a sexual way either in the flesh, roleplay, fantasy discussion or in dreaming. I stress "sexually" submissive because I think it would be a mistake to link submisiveness to peoples day to day lives.....equally for dominants. For example, day to day I am an easy going person, only in my sexual life do I feel most comfortable in a position of control. Again, this is circular - the things I struggle to deal with daily, running a business, dealing with banks, difficult people manifest themselves in my sex life where my frustrations and stresses can be directed in a controlled way with someone who also wants release from their daily grind but in the reverse manner. Daily I am non-assertive. A submissive may be assertive. Turn that on it's head and sexually I desire to be assertive, the assertive woman desires someone assertive sexually to relinquish that control. What this all comes down to is Trust. The submissive woman needs someone she can release herself to, safe in the knowledge that he will give her what she needs but knowing that she has safe words or actions and the complete trust of her Dom. I abhor "Doormat Doms" who dont seem to ponder the intracacies of this type of relationship and simply see sub women as fodder to be abused sexually and also mentally....sadly this tends to be seen by wider society as the norm in a BDSM relationship.....when nothing could or should be further from the truth. I'm not sure whom is the more ignorant. I consider myself a Gentleman Dom as I believe that there should be a sense of romance, honor and calm dignity in a BDSM relationship.....a woman who entrusts her physcal and mental being into your care, ostensibly for your pleasure (of course this release gives her exptreme pleasure too) deserves the highest respect, caution and care....whilst still being hot ! lol However, without getting too deep the most pleasurable times for me are when there is a loose plan (like a role play scenario) and then the sex ebs and flows where both become in-tuned with each others breathing, energy flow and orgasms. It should be sexy and it should be fun.....of it's not then these are danger signs that the play may trancend into unsafe areas. I'm probably off topic with these thoughts but I wanted to stress that sexual submissiveness is beautiful, often misunderstood and far far more common that we realise. A woman may want to be held down, pushed to her sexual limits, be controlled and it is not dirty, or wanton or sick.....it is in many cases a healthy release from the stresses of a hard day, or week or month or year....and that it can be as light as a blindfold and some ice cubes or as heavy as complete bondage suspension, cutting, restriction of breath, caning or humiliation.....and then some ! BDSM is notfor the feint hearted but for the explorers of sensation... What we do to help us through the day is often linked to our sexuality - as it should be and as it always hads been for we are sexual beings, indeed the only animals that we know of to actively seek sex for pleasure alone. There IS a fine line between pleasure and pain and BDSM practitioners are the ones who explore that fine line, that grey area because they know that the rewards are great, the sex is intense and fun is extreme. We all enjoy sex but some of us need more....and more and more. BadDog.
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RHP User
16 years ago
You really turn me on. Bwahahahaha.
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RHP User
16 years ago
As a submissive gay male I agree with a lot of the females in this thread! haha. Being dominated can feel incredible, although I'm not really into anything too heavy. BadDog is spot on as well. I am a pretty assertive person in my everyday life, and I don't think of myself as inferior in any way, but there is a lot of pleasure in relinquishing all of that. I'm also fairly staunchly political when it comes to identity - gender and sexuality politics especially, but have no qualms with my sexual desires as it is entirely consensual, and ultimately if I'm not respected (roleplay aside!) then it's not on!
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