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July 09 2012

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Hi all, been a while, how have you been? I'm fine thanks. Recently I received a message on here saying - "i really need a dom who knows what they are doing." And I thought 'that's strange. do I look dom like?" (dominate role play thingo, not a condom) I know on my profile I say 'I don't want vanilla girls' this simply means that I don't want giggly inexperienced, repressed types (aka muggles or straights). I don't want it to mean that I'm a big dominate call me Sir sort of guy (but i am, a bit) So first question is this, Am I wrong? If i say I don't want vanilla girls does that automatically mean I'm your next Mr Grey? Secondly even if I was to be a big dominant man. Where the hell do you learn this. When she messaged me, I was going to respond with 'Hi :)" then i thought, No damn it, I can't put a smiley face. So I started to Google, "dom text messaging for beginners' but nothing came up. So anyway I threw in the towel admitted I wasn't a 'treat you like a dog and take you out for walkies' dom, and that I was infact and normal (ish) guy but am willing to learn. No, not good, she didn't want to know, and wished me well. So the question is, if I'm supposed to be a DOM who knows what I'm doing, where the hell do I learn all this? I mean in the bedroom, I'll be a right ape man and turn you around in all sorts of positions, but really is there lessons in domdem??Kind Regards :PPrip

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    it's that simple. even the most experienced dominants make mistakes. if you're hung up on being perfect, you're going to miss the fun and you're going to be no fun to be around. also, a genuine interest in domination helps as well as an acceptance of what comes with the territory. i'm tempering my dominant proclivities as i find that i don't respect men very much if i regularly dominate (and often, humiliate them). once i lose respect, interest goes soon after. the person may end up being the toy you play with a lot for a day or two before tossing it in the bottom of your toy chest. if you're fine with that, more power to you.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Yes you can learn....I believe everything you need to know you find today somewhere....just put it out there and it will come. Goggle it.... and read as much as you can. Join a site..for doms....and of you go. Cheers

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Google domination and submission. First rule of thumb, don't be an insecure wanker like the majority of self proclaimed "doms" and "masters" out there, who haven't actually spent time mastering their craft...A true dom naturally attracts people who want to play the sub / slave / pet role, whereas a jackass or bully tends to repel them. There are bdsm websites that introduce aspects of it, and loads of info out there. Some doms say you don't need to learn anything, "you are or you aren't" but like all arts, to mastrr something you must first learn technique, and master yourself... No good playing dom and mishandling a whip on someone's back after all... That's what training is for, to know how far you can safely push anything, for example without splitting skin, and if you do split skin,how to apply good after care. Additionally most self untrained and inexperienced doms will make the mistake of thinking submissive equals :- stupid, weak, automatically yours.. where nothing could be further from the truth. Most experienced subs don't just submit to "anyone" they will check you out and make sure they can trust, respect, and feel safe with you long before they actually submit. Also taking on a sub is a responsibility, not.just a right... The sub has needs and desires too, they aren't there purely for your entertainment (but I know you know that) but if you are just playing at domming in the bedroom, and not collaring your sub, then you probably just need some fluffy hand cuffs, a few other toys, and to keep thinking ahead for what you will do next and how to push their limits without going too far... I think you will be fine, as at least you aren't just assuming you have super powers and a god complex. Good on you. Have lots of fun... I will pm you a good educational website.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Well I just read your profile and don't get why someone would think you're a DOM. However without having read this OP first, and just your profile I'd take you for being a tad aggressive. Maybe she tapped into that?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I would Fuck you ... Just Saying xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    And I you..

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    But that means you'd have to be my Sub so I could show you the ropes......I can see you glad wrapped on my bed!! Hugs roxxy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Fifty Shades of Vanilla..... Doesn't sound like your thing Prip and I doubt you could be a half hearted successful dom. :) But I understand... I was talking to a gorgeous guy who I thought was pretty all right.. Then he mentioned that he wants me to abuse him, slap him, spit on him and use him as my personal toilet. Now I don't have an issue with that but I just don't know if I could do that with any conviction. Well certainly not on the first meet!!! Lol. Meeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    use your eyes, a low calm voice and long pauses between instructions..google is my co-pilot LOL..

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    By any chance could I have that blokes number....I have some pent up aggression I need to get rid of ;-P Hugs roxxy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Unless you have the urge I would give it a miss. Doms are born not made.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Free Dom   Con Dom   star Dom             Fuckem Dom and keep on Domming

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Is a puff ball.   And the book is so bad its funny. with its ohhh my, and blush blush blush and the inner goodess. Holly shit batman   You look like an alpha dog, but then you may just be a puff ball in real life.   Alpha males are just that but you can never tell, until your up close and personal.   Alpha men make me feel like a rabbit in the cross hairs, in a good way. Pretend Alpha males just give me the giggles.   Doms not sure if they have dom 101 , I am sure there are places to go Mistress T would know

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    There is dom 101, places to learn and train. Alpha guys make me wet, and I agree, giggle if they are pretend alphas... The pretend alphas just get my panties in their mouth. Shuts them up, for those times when you can't be bothered with a ball gag... Bdsm on a budget eh. LOL

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