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Does appearance matter? Does there have to be attraction?
May 10 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the connection is the most important thing to any hook up..attraction helps but attraction can come in different forms..hey when you turn the lights out what is left but to feel your way !
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think there has to be physical attraction, it just makes the experience so much more enjoyable, and you don't get as much regret straight after you cum and wanna get out of there as fast as possible lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
there has to bean element of physical attraction to begin with.......for us at least.... or theres no point...
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is a matter of personal preference and also how desperate your 'itch' is - for many people, a body is simply a body, but if that were the case, I'd rather have sex with a blow up doll. I've tried one nighters, and even when there has been physical attraction, there was an absolute lack of attraction on a personality and mental level (they were simply, to put it bluntly, stupid). Without that attraction, I don't particularly feel like pleasuring the other person, and as most of my satisfaction from sex comes from giving pleasure and knowing/seeing/feeling that they are enjoying it, the whole thing is just quite pointless for me. Personally, I'd rather have no sex than sex without attraction.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'City_Kitty'It is a matter of personal preference...for many people, a body is simply a body, but if that were the case, I'd rather have sex with a blow up doll. I've tried one nighters, and even when there has been physical attraction, there was an absolute lack of attraction on a personality and mental level (they were simply, to put it bluntly, stupid). Without that attraction, I don't particularly feel like pleasuring the other person, and as most of my satisfaction from sex comes from giving pleasure and knowing/seeing/feeling that they are enjoying it, the whole thing is just quite pointless for me. Personally, I'd rather have no sex than sex without attraction. | ...and even if it happen to be a "One Night Love Affair - Bryan Adams" for me the attraction to everything else besides the physical has to be there. Sure, looks are important...but we all have our preferences and those can be as unique or eclectic as we are as individuals. | I would much rather spend a night or several or more with Ms Average (my average...no one else's, thanks) who can be relaxed, laugh and enjoy her company than Ms Stunning whose lacks those qualities. Pass the blow up Barbie Doll and the foot pump please. | Charlize Theron is the exception...she could even call me names.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Quoting 'City_Kitty'It is a matter of personal preference...for many people, a body is simply a body, but if that were the case, I'd rather have sex with a blow up doll. I've tried one nighters, and even when there has been physical attraction, there was an absolute lack of attraction on a personality and mental level (they were simply, to put it bluntly, stupid). Without that attraction, I don't particularly feel like pleasuring the other person, and as most of my satisfaction from sex comes from giving pleasure and knowing/seeing/feeling that they are enjoying it, the whole thing is just quite pointless for me. Personally, I'd rather have no sex than sex without attraction. | ...and even if it happen to be a "One Night Love Affair - Bryan Adams" for me the attraction to everything else besides the physical has to be there. Sure, looks are important...but we all have our preferences and those can be as unique or eclectic as we are as individuals. | I would much rather spend a night or several or more with Ms Average (my average...no one else's, thanks) who can be relaxed, laugh and enjoy her company than Ms Stunning whose lacks those qualities. Pass the blow up Barbie Doll and the foot pump please. | Charlize Theron is the exception...she could even call me names. Count me in here. Charlize would be tough to turn down, but it's Scarlett Johansson that's my weakness, I'd do her even if she was duller than a doorknob.Mr C
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm still trying to work out what THAT means to me. It's a good question and a good post DominantBarb'I can have a list of must haves.. then I'll meet someone like that and feel under whelmed.. usualy because of somthing i'd not thought of.. then I'll meet someone who ticks hardy any boxes, and feel all out of breath.. why is that??so bloody confusing..~face palm~I think for a little fling or one night stand. there has to be something that floats your boat. not the complete package. but something you really like about your casual lover. otherwise you'r not going to feel very satisfied afterwards.after all, a fling should leave a good memory.LRE
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RHP User
14 years ago
But you do look lovely Barbie. hugs and kisses, Jen.
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RHP User
14 years ago
AND..I love the Denis Learly quote in your profile. Are you sure you're only 30 LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
sorry
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RHP User
14 years ago
When I first started on here it was just for sex at the park. I didn't need to know their name or what they looked like. I just needed to be bent over and fucked. I know it sounds awful but I really don't care.....but if I was spending the night or weekend with someone then yeah there had to be some attraction. I mean I had to talk to them a little lol Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hmmm, horses for courses and all that jazz, but for me, there has to be attraction. Now that's not to say that 'attraction' for me is based purely on physical appearance, though that has its place. I find all sorts of qualities attractive and I've known men who are beautiful to look at but have nothing beneath it; likewise, I've known men who are nothing special to look at but their actions and inner beauty have made them entirely fuckable.Ask yourself this: Have you ever found yourself in the situation where you met someone new and were not attracted to them at all, but the more time you spend with them, the more attractive they become to you until suddenly and seemingly without any warning, you realise you are fantasising about shagging them on your desk?My point is that attraction works on many levels and whether you want to be attracted to someone you plan to fuck or not is really your choice. If you can separate attraction and sex, then surely it doesn't matter. If you can't, then the answer is simple: of course you need attraction.Just my thoughts though xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I wish there was a recipe for awesome sex.It doesnt seem to matter how many texts,phone calls,coffee,dinners,drinks you have,it is only when you actually have sex that you know. However I personally believethat the kiss is a very good indicator of what the sex will be like ,fabulous kiss ,fabulous sex. You Barbie are gorgeous,men will be drooling at your feet....lot's of threads here about that...x Hugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
You guys are too kind.I guess it's just a matter of suck it and see!
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RHP User
14 years ago
love your work roxxy..talking is good :-P Quoting 'roxxyrose' When I first started on here it was just for sex at the park. I didn't need to know their name or what they looked like. I just needed to be bent over and fucked. I know it sounds awful but I really don't care.....but if I was spending the night or weekend with someone then yeah there had to be some attraction. I mean I had to talk to them a little lol Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
..nothing to loose Barbie girl, If you have had contact (obviously), see how the wording is then from opening up your gallery to them is the wording a little mmm more or is it shorter and sweet, if you have both seen each others pics and have a full late body and face pic in there and still in chatting - then you have nothing to loose and nothing to be afraid of if it happens it happens if not then not you just go back home, come on here go to the live cam chat and relieve your self there LOL Later not meant in such a way just saying, If you never met you never know always better to try and know than to not try and never know. If a performance thing your bothered about surely the person your talking to understands this is your first meet, could be there’s too if you are attracted one way or another and doesn’t quite go as good as either expect maybe hook up again few nights later once the butterflies have left your stomachs give it another go. One night stand with sex on the table is usually to relieve each other sexually not to fall head over heals in love, if it all works out well you both may move forward to FB's of FWB's if not cast your line and get another fish to try. If he/she seems a decent sort of person when you chat then surely both would also understand and respect each others decision and thoughts, just don’t expect it to happen and follow the flow, and heat of the moment. Not after all details but nice to know how you took it all the experience from initial contact to the day after if to personal I understand, but there could be many other females that look at these threads, posts and asking the same thing in there mind though every one is different in there own way, it may help or not others to make a leap of faith or to fly low and never know. I wish you all the best with it x
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RHP User
14 years ago
of course there would have to be an attraction! In order to have sex with someone there must be an attraction or how else would you get aroused? LOL
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LemonDance
14 years ago
Ofcourse I always say that I would only ever have sex with someone whom I am attracted to! However there has been more than a few times when I've arrived at a meeting, already arroused which is pertty much my normal state of being, only to realise there is just no attraction... but my out of control addiction to being licked gets the better of me! Licking is normally followed by a quick dash for the car, half tripping over my panties as I pull them up with one hand, keys in the other! :o)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' | I would much rather spend a night or several or more with Ms Average (my average...no one else's, thanks) who can be relaxed, laugh and enjoy her company than Ms Stunning whose lacks those qualities. Pass the blow up Barbie Doll and the foot pump please. | Charlize Theron is the exception...she could even call me names. LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Kinky_Charlie' Quoting 'missopenminded'of course there would have to be an attraction! In order to have sex with someone there must be an attraction or how else would you get aroused? LOL yes - you young ladies are different these days - some of you don't even kiss....!! .. how is that being different?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree there has to be physical attraction if you want to have a fullfilling hot session with someone and really enjoy it all. Especially if it is spending then night or a whole day in and out of the bed, shower, spa....But yes sure there are times when you're just in the mood to get down and dirty and you'll turn a blind eye....i think most of us could be guilty there lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine'love your work roxxy..talking is good :-P Quoting 'roxxyrose' When I first started on here it was just for sex at the park. I didn't need to know their name or what they looked like. I just needed to be bent over and fucked. I know it sounds awful but I really don't care.....but if I was spending the night or weekend with someone then yeah there had to be some attraction. I mean I had to talk to them a little lol Hugs roxxy you dont need to talk....unless im telling you to fuck me harder of course!!! Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'roxxyrose' Quoting 'LittleRedEngine'love your work roxxy..talking is good :-P Quoting 'roxxyrose' When I first started on here it was just for sex at the park. I didn't need to know their name or what they looked like. I just needed to be bent over and fucked. I know it sounds awful but I really don't care.....but if I was spending the night or weekend with someone then yeah there had to be some attraction. I mean I had to talk to them a little lol Hugs roxxy you dont need to talk....unless im telling you to fuck me harder of course!!! Hugs roxxy Who ever said the devil is man...LOVE it Roxxy, By Devil I dont mean the one below - Lol depending on possition you take upHaving engine seize on my van today, work coming out my ears not had the best of smiles on my face BUT Roxxy, you sure have cheered me up ready to fight the world againThanks (meaningfuly, thanks)
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RHP User
14 years ago
after doing the timing belt in my mummy car i understand completely i mean shit what the fuck is a timing belt? and why does it fuck your whole engine when it breaks?....piece if shit timing belt, someone should tell a girl they need fixing!!!! i want my wagon back.....i miss the old EH :-( glad i could make you smile Headless by the way...i am the devil, no matter what possition im in Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
I find I'm usually approaching girls (sorry, "ladies") who are attractive to me but are not the media image of beautiful...It's more about how a person carries themself. Confident people who are having a good time, laughing and carrying on a bit draw more attention than a drop dead gorgeous wall flower...So Miss Barbie, I think if your out to have a good time and just let things happen naturally you will be pleasantly suprised by the attention you get...Happy hunting ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
And I don't care if I get kissed or not....don't get me wrong there's nothing better than a great pash session. But if the kissings crap. I don't want it. To me it doesn't take anything away from a great sex session if I kiss or not.....Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
To some the attraction to a person is necessary for them to want to have sex with that person.But then again a swingers party will fill the need if you just want to have some fun and get laid.I personally find the connection to a person is as important as the physical attraction......stimulate my mind and the body follows...ChasingMidnight......you might be rightQuoting 'ChasingMidnight'
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RHP User
14 years ago
if its worth saying, then its worth saying again and again and again hahaha HEEDLESS im sorry ive been spelling your name wrong ....Headless made sense in my own head haha im like one of those men that doesnt read your profile and just looks at the pretty pics Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
Gday dominant_barbie. Dave here. U never know what ur gonna get with 1 nite stands. i have had many 1 nite stands in the past before i met tan. U have to give most people a chance but the MOST!!!! important thing is u have to be 100% confident that u can say NO and leave the situation if things go south or u are un sure. there are great people out there and alot of the time the " average jo/ jane are the ones that u have the most fun with. so go for it!!!!! we only live once. try it and see what happens. we are up for a no strings one nite stand all the time. u must stick to ur rules. ours are NO means NO, both of us or none of us, girls only, either party can walk away at any time so no one gets hurt and respect boundries. anyway hope my info is useful to u. we are free for one nite stands and on going no strings fun if ur interested. check us out and see what u think. good luck in ur naughty adventures. xx
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Genius_Ironman
14 years ago
Pretty frequently alcohol & rampant libidos are a factor in one nighters. Looks still count somewhat, but typically a guy sporting an erection & beer goggles would shag a warthog if it were cute enough.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'roxxyrose' if its worth saying, then its worth saying again and again and again hahaha HEEDLESS im sorry ive been spelling your name wrong ....Headless made sense in my own head haha im like one of those men that doesnt read your profile and just looks at the pretty pics Hugs roxxy Hey roxxy, for the cheering up you gave me and laughs reading some of your other posts over time, the angle from which they came and quick wittedness, you can spell my name any way you want - actually when i first had the name it was spelt that way any way but don't tell every one.MMm engines, yes they can be a pain, funny i was only 150m from the garage to get more oil, not that the oil light ever came on just thought time to get some and check it then boom, love it though as gives me yet another challenge/hurdle to over come then to see how soon I can put it behind me and move forward. Only at that moment in time I like many others probably don't think that way but a bad word or two look up to the clouds, no not for that but to see if a bird is above that might polish the moment of and drop one on me LOLCM - doing some work in a bottle shop next week so will see if i give them a discount they may give me one lol get some real special stuff in to add to the collection. Should get back to the post - not fair pinching it for personal communication
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'missopenminded'of course there would have to be an attraction! In order to have sex with someone there must be an attraction or how else would you get aroused? LOL exactly!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
When you ask 'Does appearance matter'? i wonder if your really asking whether or not your appearance will make the cut or your asking something else. I look at your profile photo and am in no doubt you would not dissapoint anyone who spends an evening with you. Surely you know your an attractive woman. I'm wondering if your a bit worried about the appearance of your one night stand. I'm pretty sure most women on rhp are looking for Mr tall dark and handsome. I can guarentee Mr tall dark and handsome gets more flirts, messages and replies than Mr short pastey and ugly does. Its only natural. Its a shame thou because Mr ugly's middle name is usually 'Genuine'.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I said nothing.... | Quoting 'Jazzxoxo' ChasingMidnight......you might be right Quoting 'ChasingMidnight'...and see, you can't even quote me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' I said nothing.... | Quoting 'Jazzxoxo' ChasingMidnight......you might be right Quoting 'ChasingMidnight'You quote was removed.......you know it, I know it and KC knows it.......lol...and see, you can't even quote me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Physical attraction?...if it is dark then it has to be their minds .cos you can't see 'em Morning glory? a whole other story...left over from the night before.....just burn the toast and scald the coffee...they wont be back. Afternoon delights..oh definitely about the body,cos you can see 'em Return dates...I suppose requires a conversation....has to be both.....body and mind. So,if you just want a one night stand Barbie,practice burning the toast.x Hugs H....always outta bread and coffee.
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twowithnolimits
14 years ago
@missopen by what they do!don't tell me you find your favourite vibe "attractive"?if risque sex is your thing and mr ugly has you over the picnic table in the park, shagging like crazy and you know the japanese tourist party is only 10 minutes away, heres betting your aroused
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RHP User
14 years ago
It's an individual thing I believe. Personally I like a lot of mental and physical chemistry and would rather scratch my own itches than settle for an encounter where there isn't all that much chemistry or attraction. Looks obviously aren't entirely responsible for that.. But its usually where it starts. After the initial "hi..how're you goings" are out of the way..I find the lead up to what could happen next is the key for me in deciding if I want take it further or not. No interesting lead up = no excitement for me. However as I learned.. if you scratch an itch enough times and feel zero chemistry/excitement (according to whatever gets you excited) it really does make you scratch you head afterwards and wonder why you didn't just break the toys out and fantasise about Jonny Depp instead..mmm
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RHP User
14 years ago
and fuk as many as you can while you can
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Jazzxoxo'...you're an angel, sir. | Thanks for that though.
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RHP User
14 years ago
make sure you carry a paper bag if you're not worried about attraction and never chew your arm off in the morning.....not a good look. for me there has to be some kind of attraction. In all cases it starts with the way a person articulates themselves in correspondence. Physical attraction next and the rest follows.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Different stokes for different folks, as long as you get mindblowing sex it doesn't matter. A lot of hot women are dud roots and I hear hot looking blokes can b duds to, I'm far from good looking but my partners always leave with a smile
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'us2pierced' Quoting 'missopenminded'of course there would have to be an attraction! In order to have sex with someone there must be an attraction or how else would you get aroused? LOL exactly!!!! what we said as well! there has to be an attraction.....and not just a physical one...we arent the sorts to have sex for 'sex's sake'....we have sex because we are attracted .......and aroused......and if a persons got a head like a smashed crab, or a body we cant look at....its not going anywhere...............
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'twowithnolimits' @missopen by what they do!don't tell me you find your favourite vibe "attractive"?if risque sex is your thing and mr ugly has you over the picnic table in the park, shagging like crazy and you know the japanese tourist party is only 10 minutes away, heres betting your aroused what if the only thing mr ugly arouses is her gag reflex?
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