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Does anyone understand Polyamory?
April 28 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
1. Everyone will assume you are lying about your polyamorous relationship and cheating - so it doesn't matter. But you are married - so I guess that would be the box to tick. . 2. I would assume most will choose the single man over the cheating... sorry, polyamorous man (see what I mean... stupid assumptions!). Unless you are able to bring more to the table and bedroom than the fact you have a wife that is!
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Letsgetcrazy09
16 years ago
It is good to hear you have been able to come to a polyamorous arrangement. I truly hope it works out for you both. I hope you have both put in your boundaries as to what can and can't occur. As to your profile, I think Open Relationship is your best description. Just my opinion. Cheers Lets
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Letsgetcrazy09
16 years ago
Oh and Bill The other thing about would people here go for this.....well I think a read of the forum will give some insight.....but basically YES....with questions! As to how to get around the negative.... yeh your cheating type stuff, you could always add that your wife can verify this. Given that your lovely bride wishes to keep the extra enjoyment to yourselves, this may be an issue. It could also be an issue with the long term effectiveness and continuance of your 'new' relationship. Just my additional opinion Lets
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think what you have described is an open marriage. A polyamorous person "loves" more than one... a "polyamorous relationship" is a relationship that involves more than two. An open relationship is just as you describe it. In any case, people around here will simply assume that you're a cheating scumbag.... but if you were a woman.. they would take you at your word. That's how it works. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
and the one thing you can absolutely be sure about.....your wife will get a lot more action than you if she so chooses! be prepared to be spending a lot of time at home twiddling your thumbs while the lady of the house is out and about!Cheers Nev.......hope it all works for you mate.
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RHP User
16 years ago
You will be playing as a single yes? You Are a single I was on herea few years ago, as someone else... well.. when I/we were here b4 - WE had a couples profile, SHE had a single profile. IF she chose to disclose her relationship with her sex toys, that was her perogative. :)\ dont complicate things :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
just didn't find out till after........ahahahahahahahahahahaahahahahahaha Quoting 'NevandKj' and the one thing you can absolutely be sure about.....your wife will get a lot more action than you if she so chooses! be prepared to be spending a lot of time at home twiddling your thumbs while the lady of the house is out and about!Cheers Nev.......hope it all works for you mate.ahahahahahahahaahahahahaahaEarl
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' I think what you have described is an open marriage. A polyamorous person "loves" more than one... a "polyamorous relationship" is a relationship that involves more than two. An open relationship is just as you describe it. In any case, people around here will simply assume that you're a cheating scumbag.... but if you were a woman.. they would take you at your word. That's how it works. Hugs Stalky Saved me making the same point. There is a distinct difference, usually centring around commitment and the heart (JMO).At any rate, I agree, assumptions will be made and the double standards are alive and well, as the inbox on each of our individual profiles would show! LOLIt is, unfortunately, how it works.
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RHP User
16 years ago
YesMaybe RHP should put in a "Conforms to Double Standards" tick boxlolMr SR. XX
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have do and would entertain a married man after discussion and understanding of circumstances I do not tolerate "single"men who are married I would be suspicious of a married man who says my wife says its ok I would (i think) meet with a married man off a cpls profile after speaking to wife..... I cant imagine ever having a monogomous relationship again I can totally understand polyamourous - love comes in different forms shit i dont know.....a cpls profile that states you are playing singly and separately ?? Nuns dont realise how easy they have it !!!! more confused than ever miss b oh oh oh i know ....both come to a drinks night and then we can all write a thingy on your profile for you .....perfect !!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Have had a good chat with my wife and she is happy if someone wants to meet to come along and tell them that she is ok with it... God i love my wife... I think that will work! Or should i make us a couple profile where she doesn't want to play... yet... Don't get me wrong at the moment we just want to explore beyond ourselves... After being married for 16 years and both of us not having a lot of experience when got together we both want to play separate for the moment... when we get more comfortable with the other playing then we may play together. I know that we both may get jealous if we play together in a the same room with another couple and just want to explore our own sexuality... not blow up while another couple is having fun with us. Well what do you think... Couples profile or she get her own profile and endorse my profile or just put on my profile that she can verify if someone wants her to... Thanks for your feedback so far.... keep it coming.... so to speak...lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thanks for your comments.. I have spoke to my lovely wife and she has said she is happy to confirm our relationship to anyone who asks... She is the BEST.... anyway... Should i make our profile a couples profile stating that for the moment she does not want to play or get her to set up a her own account and post that people are most welcome to confirm with her if they are worried about my sincerity on having permission to have some fun. We both may play together in the future but after being together for 17 years we just want to explore by ourselves until we a comfortable seeing the other person having fun without the other party... What do you think guys... Keep it coming.... So to speak...lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't think it will make a lot of difference how you set up your profiles. At the end of the day, some will make assumptions, some won't believe you but many will accept your situation, some may even prefer it!We have chosen to be deliberately open and straightforward in all 3 of our profiles. And they are all linked in - we mention our couples profile on our individual profiles. Anyone who wants to can (if they feel they need to) contact either of us for verification of our situation.If you want to be transparent, say all this in your profile. Then leave it up to the person to do with this info what they wish.Quoting 'bill69007' I have spoke to my lovely wife and she has said she is happy to confirm our relationship to anyone who asks... She is the BEST.... anyway... Should i make our profile a couples profile stating that for the moment she does not want to play or get her to set up a her own account and post that people are most welcome to confirm with her if they are worried about my sincerity on having permission to have some fun. We both may play together in the future but after being together for 17 years we just want to explore by ourselves until we a comfortable seeing the other person having fun without the other party...We play separately but we are keen to play together. We are well-adjusted and open in that area and there are no insecurities hindering us so we say this and thereby opt for full disclosure. Many people may be deterred by the married status I guess, and assume there may be issues there that may not actually exist, regardless of whether you mention it.All the best
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