Does a promiscuous highly sexed man/woman ruin their potential for a lifelong lasting relationship?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  as long as you are evenly matched.... I am taking a punt here and say most here have a higher than 'normal' sex drive and from my experience if their sex drive is not in the same ball park, then the relationship has a potential for disaster... To steal someone's sign off JMO cheers

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If someone doesn't want to have a long loving relationship with someone that is promiscuous...then I say go marry a virgin! < The past is the past and if you meet someone that INSISTS on knowing how many you have been through...then .. NEXT! None of their business and none of your business! xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'xFunlovingx' If someone doesn't want to have a long loving relationship with someone that is promiscuous...then I say go marry a virgin! Amen! The past is the past and if you meet someone that INSISTS on knowing how many you have been through...then .. NEXT! None of their business and none of your business! If only I had kept a journal....

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If your potential partner has issues with the number of people you have been with in the past then they are not for you. They should be more concerned about whether you practiced safe sex than the number of people you have been with.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  ...Sounds more than reasonable aniceone71... just a little food for thought..

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  ... Fair enough xFunlovingx... but do you think it de-sensitises the "love" feeling associated with great sex...... as it has been done many times before..

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Are you doomed to the single life? I don't believe so. People that are in love are often very understanding of their partner's needs and desires.... and also you discover that your lover is every bit as naughty as you are, or more so. What you do risk is your health and that of your lovers... and that advice is free. :)HugsStalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Potential Ruin? .....Only if you let it.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  .. So with our ever increasing sexual experiences.. does our response to the "love component" of sex (attachment love-drug) become less sensitive? Remember your expereince with your first few partners.. how you felt.. has that lessened? and does that mean we may experience less attachment to future partners?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I see where you're coming from Mr Peteisi, and I feel that the 'love component' can be de-sensitized by many experience based interpretations that the person holds 'True and Valid' as a result of those experiences along the way. . Ever-increasing sexual experiences would be one, like the dynamic associated with being 'over-sexed' and insistence on quality sex that you know exists and become inflexible to anything less than that value. . Perhaps a more common de-sensitizer to attachment would be a few too many broken hearts or unfavourable outcomes and failed ventures, leading to a pre-set cut-off point or fear based sponsoring thought pattern, designed to protect from further trauma. Thus limiting one's will to be involved with another and thwarting future happiness while upholding this point of view as necessary, and resigned to it's constraints (even though the events are past based). . We all have our Reasons for How we be in life, and as I have mentioned in other posts, Reasons are, by default, the very things that stop us from having stuff. All in the function of the self-belief that we are not able to have and abundance goes out the window and we operate from a "Things are scarce" mode. And that's how you be. . Well we all have to be something, Right?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I understand your points, and yes they are quite valid...the search for great sex, the fear of future trauma based on past relationships, and one's need to satisfy one's desire. Here's another thought- brain chemistry... when people have sex and orgasm, a natural drug is released called oxytocin. This drug is what gives the sensation of sexual love and maintains attachment between respective partners (so our species can procreate and raise children). If a male/female is highly sexed with many partner, perhaps an form of addiction takes hold, while decreasing the brains sensitive to oxytocin and hence decrease the feeling of attachment to future partners... and hence decrease the probability of a long lasting relationship.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  not sure if it is baked by scientific research.... but makes sense to the common an DR Stalky??????

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Who's DR Stalky???

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If true, me and my right hand are going to live happily ever after but without children. . consider, away from body peptides and anatomy for the meantime, that you love a partner because of how they are with you and what they do with you and for you and how they look at you and conduct themselves and how they dress and all you have in common.... . Then love can be defined as a set of values about that person and how that makes you feel - in love with them. And when those values get corrupted, fade or that person falls out of favor too many times... Where is Love then, then? It's nice to know there's a brain/chemical reaction supporting the union, we need all the strengthening we can get in the way of support coz there's so much else going on and when lovers have no where left to turn, they turn on eachother. If you also have a lack of oxytocin then your missing a link of strenght before you even started. Clearly I don't have much faith in relationships, mine or others, so Im going to donate any Oxytocin left in me to science in the area of human relations.

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