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Do you really want to know???
August 03 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally I have never had a 'thanks but no thanks" response but then again I'm a guest so I don't send messages out... but yes have had MANY MANY guys ask why I've said no.... sometimes I've been nice about it saying they are too young...too old.. etc etc.. sometimes I've been a bit nasty... like when they have a pic in budgie smugglers I just have to let them know its a no go zone for me! or also when they've sent pics in G Strings.....ewwwww..... some have taken it in their stride and said thanks for being so honest..... and sometimes they are nasty back... but oh well... I am just of the opinion that if a guy wouldn't come up to me at a bar why try and approach me online? Anyway i might get caned for these comments so maybe I'll quit while I'm ahead?..... xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Of course I would be interested in why the answer is no expecially when everything in her profile suggests that we could be compatible; maybe my fault for actually reading the profile. I think that for many women, it doesn't matter what the profile looks like or says, if the message doesn't hit the nail on the head, then the profile is next to useless. I also notice that many women don't even look at my profile when I send a message so I assume its as much what I write in the message as anything in my profile (false assumption ladies?). Without having a fail safe generic message, all I can do is try to be light yet interesting and try to show that there is something in their profile that actually appeals to me rather than just the fact that they have a vagina and a pair of breasts, a formulae I am yet to discover! And of course, we know you women can be a fickle bunch and what doesn't get a reply today, may work tomorrow.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If we say Thanks: but no thanks, it what it means NO... Two letters... if its yes this is Three letters.... We find guys that cheat on thire pantner dont like no... Look at it this way if someone does not want to have sex with you, your better off moving on (get over it)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would rather know why it's a "thanks but no thanks". It might be something which may be able to be corrected (mis-communication, crappy photos or whatever).
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Lovesfrogs : I actually have a template 'no thanks' message that i use to cull through the bulk messages, pretty much the ones i know straight off are not a match, the one liners and the just plain waste of time messages (ones i have already said no to or like you said have sent the flirt first and got a no) this seems to work wonders for me.fleurtatious81 yay for you not getting any 'no thanks' it does happen to some of us lol i dont think you are too harsh at all you make a fair comment, i don't think people stop to ask them selves 'would i approach this person in a bar/public place to ask for a date' I think it is the nature of online dating really, it is another form of dutch courage, people are more inclined to think 'hell why not give it a go'Mrpollux: A well written message will take you a long way but don't assume that a lady has not even looked at your profile, there is actually a setting to not show people that you have looked at them and a lot of ladies choose that option so that they can check out a profile without getting hit with a flirt/message in response. It is often a case of physical attraction as much as anything else (i mean most guys on here are attracted by the pretty pictures and us ladies are no different) i hate to say it but at 47 years young you also have age against you with all the younger guys on here, sad truth is that the ladies your age often want the younger guys and the younger girls want the younger guys (generalization i know but there is some fact to it). All i can say is hang in there, and keep being a nice guy and you will find what you are looking for :)gtibi_mm: so true.
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RHP User
14 years ago
no...we dont particularly care...this is a sex site.... and we dont muck around with the whys and whatnots of an apparent rejection....its not that importatnt.......
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think it would be good to know why. I read a profile and if I feel that we would be compatible, I contact the lady concerned, however I get a lot of thanks but no thanks replies. I am happy that ladies take the time and trouble to reply, however I would like to know why they have said no as it may alert me to something in my profile that is not quite right. I used to think it was because of my appearance but esperience has taught me otherwise.
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Quoting 'ThickHardCock69' I think it would be good to know why. I read a profile and if I feel that we would be compatible, I contact the lady concerned, however I get a lot of thanks but no thanks replies. I am happy that ladies take the time and trouble to reply, however I would like to know why they have said no as it may alert me to something in my profile that is not quite right. I used to think it was because of my appearance but esperience has taught me otherwise.Sometimes it is not about you per say, sometimes it is just as simple as a numbers game, ladies get bombarded with messages on here and it is just plain impossible to meet EVERYONE
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RHP User
14 years ago
I do quite a bit of 'rejecting' on this site. Do I feel bad about it? Not at all.I see it like this....If you are clearly outside the listed age bracket, haven't made an attempt to read my profile and send me messages like "hey babez, wont 2 fuk 2nite?" - I'm not even going to dignify it with a responce. If that makes me a bitch, then I am a bitch. I have always needed someone to captivate my attention before they can captivate my sexuality.And there is something to be said about people that don't take the polite "No thank you, not interested" as serious, and continue to hound me with mail. That's where my handy friend 'the block button' comes into play.Am I rude? I don't think so. I think I have respect for my preferences, and respect for people that try to be different than the norm."I mean come on how much time can you spend log on and there is 50 to 60 messages 3 maybe people you wish to chat" - This is actually a reality to many of the females/t-girls on RHP. If you have study or work commitments it begins to feel like you are this bizarre kind of secretary. Sexretary? :)And.... "Anyway i might get caned for these comments so maybe I'll quit while I'm ahead?..... xx" - Babe, keep talking! You are truthful and honest, and besides in that profile picture you look so much like Dita Von Teese it's spinning me out.-K x
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RHP User
14 years ago
Occasionally and depending on the wording of a "no, thanks" there may be a dialogue that would lend itself to asking about a bit of self-improvement...male and female, and it's almost intuitive. That is sometimes helpful and may even lead to a bit of entertaining banter now and then later...you don't have to do the horizontal boogie with everyone that says hello. | Outside of that...leave it be and move along. Your graceful acceptance may be later remembered favourably and if not...does it really matter anyway. Naaaa...just keep the wheels rolling and don't fall off.
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RHP User
14 years ago
its incredibly easy to say 'no thanks'....but so much more 'challenging' to say 'yes please'....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I totally agree with you wannabyummymummy about it not being about individuals and I completely understand that some ladies do receive a large number of messages, but it can be frustrating at times. I must admit that it is not as easy to meet someone as I first thought it would be.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would just be happy with a thanks but no thanks instead of just no reply at all. I dont care what their reasons are but its just nice to get a response either way. I know there are jerks on here that might not take rejection to well but at least you do have the option to block them if they become nasty. Manners on these sites seem to go out the window. Maybe its just me but i still think old fashion manners are nice and will still open a door for the lady and walk on the curb side of the road so the girl does not get splashed by the carriages .Oh and xtraspecialk i would love to chat. You are one gorgeous girl.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Totally agree with what both you ladies have said in your posts!!! Oh besides the looking like Dita Von Teese... but hey I'll take any compliment that comes my way! Thanks hun! x
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RHP User
14 years ago
I find it very frustrating when you dont get a reply full stop. Especially if they look at your profile but still dont reply! I know people get bombarded with messages/flirts, when I was on here as a single female i did actually take the time to answer as i thought it was rude otherwise. I know some people put on their profiles "if i dont answer its because im not interested" which does make it a little easier, but nothing at all just makes it frustrating!
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Quoting 'openminds1920' I find it very frustrating when you dont get a reply full stop. Especially if they look at your profile but still dont reply! I know people get bombarded with messages/flirts, when I was on here as a single female i did actually take the time to answer as i thought it was rude otherwise. I know some people put on their profiles "if i dont answer its because im not interested" which does make it a little easier, but nothing at all just makes it frustrating! Agree with you 100% I find it hard to believe that it is impossible to reply to everyone, after all lots do manage to do it. Besides that you can lock off your profile to not receive any new messages if you are THAT swamped and you can set a template reply of 'thanks but no thanks' or a 'thanks i'll get back to you' kind of response and you can reply to flirts in bulk for sodding out loud!! but that is really a different issue and has been done to death on here.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't care if i get a no or sorry not interested i can live with that...what really peeves me off is getting no reply at all...It takes 2 seconds ladies then its done. You'd kick up a fuss if it happened to you, so what makes you think that us guys are any different. Its a little thing called manners which can go a long way in the end, and makes life incredibly easier.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hurts the ego a little bit but you have to respect other peoples choices. They may not be here for the same reasons you are. Its all good.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Do guys actually pick up girls on this site?? if they do fuck me their lucky its like winning a Monday or tuesday lotto, i send about 50 flirts a day without a response like come on be nice and atleast a fuck off would be nice or a no would be even nicer
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Quoting 'Anichabe' Do guys actually pick up girls on this site?? if they do fuck me their lucky its like winning a Monday or tuesday lotto, i send about 50 flirts a day without a response like come on be nice and atleast a fuck off would be nice or a no would be even nicer sadly the reply flirts are somewhat lacking and there is not a 'fuck off' option the best you can hope for is 'the short answer is no the long answer is nooooooooo' or 'sorry i don't see our planets colliding' In fact it is my pet hate to reply to flirts (though i always do) because a simple 'i loved your profile' does not mean the guy is actually interested it means he likes your profile!! and a 'thanks flattery will get you everywhere' is not exactly what i want to say if i don't necessarily like the profile of the guy in question a 'thanks for the compliment' would be a more appropriate response in that case.So frustrating as it is for you guys i think girls do tend to ignore the flirts for a number of reasons, lack of appropriate response, too many coming through and not enough hours in the day
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ok, I understand the POV of "a response is better than no response" *but* in the 6 days I've been here I've noticed this: if I reply to a flirt or a message from someone I'm not interested in, I automatically get further mail. Ok, not automatically, but definitely more often than not. What happened to "no means no"? I'm sorry, but I worked a 14 hour shift today and my 10 minutes of downtime here at the end of the day does not automatically include replying to ppl I'm not attracted to (for whatever reason). I do have an automated response of "yes I'd like to get laid but no I don't have the time to reply to everyone so if you hear from me congrats" (paraphrase). Should I remove my profile because I'm busy and work for a living? Or because I'd rather spend my downtime fucking the one person that makes me go "hell yes" than talking to the 30 "hell no"s? I've done my best to politely decline. Can it not just be enough?!? (having said this I need to rewrite my profile *when I have time* as I realised I'm much pickier than my profile let's on. In my defense I did not expect to be dealing with up to 50 flirts/mails a day!) on a side note: I'm very curious as to the *average* hits that girls get per day. I'm assuming alot?!?!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'its incredibly easy to say 'no thanks'....but so much more 'challenging' to say 'yes please'.... I concouR !! its very easy to say NO, YS, is the best, challenging ANSWAER... not very commoN.. perhaps its My **approacH** ... >.< Quoting 'mikeandshel'its incredibly easy to say 'no thanks'....but so much more 'challenging' to say 'yes please'....
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RHP User
14 years ago
u look so georgous thats why ya getting so many hits here :)
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