Do you find me attractive?

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  but attraction is so much more than looks ..If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won even before you have started. -Marcus Garvey-You have no control over other people's thoughts ....only your own

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  is another bump OP

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Yes.... Kiwi.... you have a head like a dropped pie. If you were a bird your mother would have kicked you out of the nest upon hatching.There.... does that make life easier for you? OK.... jokes aside.... mate... Im going to say a few things here.... but please know...... I have your best interests at heart, brother.Look what youre doing to yourself!If someone you didnt really care fore said you were ugly... which you're not.... why would you bother listening?! Why would you internalise the throwaway comment of someone else who is more likely more insecure about themselves thatn you?!!! They dont know or care about you... why do you care about their valueless opinion?!And asking an internet forum isnt the right way to go about validating yourself either.So what is?Well... youve already provided half of your own answer!Can you see it?! "I find it hard to get relationships with woman because of this notion over my head. I can talk to them just not go so far as ask them out."If you were as repulsive as your battered self esteem suggests..... they wouldnt talk to you!!!RIGHT!!!!!!So... you are behaving in an attractive manner...... and contrary to what modern media and the majority think..... being an attractive person is more about how you behave, than how you look.And if you dont ask them out.... you cant expect a relationship to develop from nothing, right?!!! First things first my friend, you need to re-frame this belief that you have inside your head... because its flat out wrong, self destructive, and going to deal you a shitty hand for the rest of your life until you address it!Heres what I want you to do..... and its going to get a little uncomfortable.... but you MUST get out of your comfort zone of believing that youre ugly and that allows you to blame this untruth for all of your woes.Because bluntly... its crap.... and its an excuse.So heres your assignment.I want you to approach 5 random women today, and every day this week. Just walk up to them, say "Hi...Im just wandering around meeting new people, you look interesting". Smile, extend your hand, and shut up until the respond. Then engage them in conversation, have no agenda.... just see how they react.Now dont expect them all to stop and chat.... because approaching people in the street is a bit hit and miss if you dont know the best method.....and most people arent used to confident guys walking up and engaging conversation without a purpose (like directions)..... but those who do chat, observe them. I have specific reasons for telling you to do this. Report back to me with your Homework when its done.DGPS.Additionally, check your PMs... Im sending you a link to two books I think you need to buy... read, learn and grow from.

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