Paradisepair

Paradisepair

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Do we have a secret handshake?

July 19 2012

I just met someone in a social setting who was discussing human nature and monogamy, there were a couple of other cues which left me wondering... How does one identify a swinger? Besides agreeing with him and dropping in a reference to sharing is the only option openly asking? Have you ever definitely sussed someone out as being into it?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    but we need one ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Adventure you beat me to it... would def come in handy next time I meet someone and think "damn I could tap that!!" but don't know how to go about it as I'm partnered with kids   I ran into my neighbour a couple of months ago at the supermarket, we got to chatting, he mentioned he had a delivery guy come around the previous week who candidly said in conversation "Theres swingers living around here somewhere", we live in a very small country town, so I have to wonder was he referring to us, or other couples in town (some of whom are very tidy I might add.) or was it a BS story and my neighbour has been on one of the sites (either secretly or with wifey) we are on and seen the pics... so yes, a handshake or something would be good.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I understand what your saying I don't think you can tell just by looking at someone when I think of the times when we have been out having a good time and woman often may give me a complement or ask to use my lipstick or love your perfum maybe they were signs to see my reaction I,m not sure but we do go to the Swingers Club , always have a great night BUT when we look around I,m shocked because I look at people and think ( there is no way I would pick you as a Swinger ) but then again they are probable saying the same thing I wish there was a code ',,,,,,,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    figured 2 of my work colleagues as into it within the first 2 weeks of starting there.   A few topics of discussion, a quiet word here and there and it was confirmed to me.   Ok Im a little more straight forward about my choices than most (yes I know forum regulars and those who know me are shocked by that statement lol) so its a little easier for me to figure it out then get it confirmed (I did end up asking both of the people involved - seperately)...not sure if they're sure about each other though ... hmmmmmmm   Kisses Focus

  • Zsuza69

    Zsuza69

    13 years ago

    Yes please someone come up with something that would tell us that who we are talking to are swingers.   Handshake?????maybe but then how complicated that would be trying to do a gangster type handshake.......   Quick kiss when first meeting you know that peck on the cheek. maybe a kiss on the lips but then thats too forward for the unsuspecting lol   A wink???? or is that a facial tick.....   maybe a code word like "do you cum often"? and then they say "yes we cum" to acknowledge that they are swingers. That way if they say what?????? you can say again do you come here often lol   that works for me.... pass the words around lol   Mr Zsuza

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    13 years ago

    What about dropping in that something is as rare as a unicorn and how hard it must be to be a single male.

  • Zsuza69

    Zsuza69

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Paradisepair' What about dropping in that something is as rare as a unicorn and how hard it must be to be a single male. How to drop in the word 'unicorn' into an innocent conversation mmmmmm1: Excuse me but i have to go and check my unicorn isnt shitting all over the place ill be back in a minute.2: Did you catch the bus to get here? i just rode in on my unicorn.3: Do you believe in unicorns? 4: Does your unicorn cum often? nah thats a bit dodgy5: do you like horses? I love unicorns but i cant find any latelyI dont know Paradisepair any suggestions?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Unicorn unicorn unicorn..... May as well be into sci-fi!!!! What about a word for... wanker, mike? for instance....   I was looking at my unicorn the other day and.... Virgins are as rare as unicorns? I was thinking the other day about the tassie tiger and realised they are as rare as unicorns? My unicorn got run over by a space ship? Mike

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    13 years ago

    Ok that is a challenge... If there was an innocent phrase that RHP could stand for I suppose you could ask 'do you use/are you familiar with rhp?' I guess if you were met with a blank look you could say it's a band. We were out on a date over the weekend where a single male 'busted' us. Something to do with the other lady mentioning her husband while hanging off mine :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    i like unicorn... iam sure i can make up a utube story about a unicorn called RHP or AMM or playself etc... haha..its fun holing someones leses wives hand at the shops...till you see your Neighbour ;)

  • Letsgetcrazy09

    Letsgetcrazy09

    13 years ago

    Have you ever been the The Unicorn Hotel in Sydney?   Yes........I haven't, heard its trendy though....are there any Unicorns there ....... .... .. . mmmmm the story continues?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    "have you tried buying a whip and wearing jodpurs and some knee high high heels and keeping your little unicorn over then in line better that way may may be...could be fun...and you know he will probably like it anyhow. After all. Men love surprises..well nice and slightly naughty ones that is..... But as an artist I am going to think up all kinds of ridiculous ideas like that now aren't i? " this has caused a couple if new friendships. And I've been asked to run a workshop for a group of very proper (? LOL) ladies to learn how to handle a whip on their boyfriends.. hahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    He says, "Pull my finger."   Eeeww, that's not sexy, is it? lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    You can never be 100% certain about this but we've generally found that if you're fucking a married sex partner and they can reasonably accurately identify their spouse elsewhere in the room you could just be dealing with a swinging couple