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Do couples need to swap in order to be fun? Can non swapping couples still be part of the fun?
January 22 2025
Love your thoughts, people.
At play party where both the M/ and G are fun, respectful, know how to party and highly sexual, and dressed sexy, not ready or unwilling to swap on the night, should they not be included io the private party?
Can non swapping couples still be a sexy and integral part of the party?
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RHP User
2 months ago
They can.
Abi and I have attended parties and I've just a scene with her and been content with an audience.
Well, heavily got off on the attention.
I also enjoy watching a couple play at parties. Seeing the love element is quite a sight.
Margo_Lover
2 months ago
100% couples not swapping can and still are part of the fun at parties. We've been to parties where we don't swap, but play together. Margo plays with the ladies a bit, and everyone has fun. Margo doesn't play with guys she doesn't have a connection with, so swapping at parties is pretty much never gonna happen... unless there's people she knows there, and wants to play with already.
I will note, the parties probably should be a bit larger, so there's plenty of people who are swapping. The parties we've been to had 10-14 couples - Alex.
MrandMrsEss
2 months ago
Hallelujah!
We have been very slow to get out there as MrsS feels like she can’t help but feel pressured to play.
I think parties where the emphasis is on sexy voyeurism is the way to go. If people want to take it further then so be it but it shouldn’t be the focus.
We have been to a few such parties and had a great time but they seem too few and far in between.
Beachlovers50
2 months ago
I agree the best sex we ever had is with each other, we have swapped and enjoyed ourselves but not a much. We have only been slyly watched on the beach and enjoyed it very much, would love to watch and be watched at a private party
ComfortZone
2 months ago
This is not uncommon at all and your desire to simply watch or be watched should not be frowned upon. I know of a couple who host private parties and they are strictly exhibitionists and voyeurs.
CandiKane
2 months ago
Absolutely, yes!
Clubs and the bigger parties are best. When it comes to the smaller private gatherings, many would tend to prefer attendees that are looking to swap but not always. When talking to hosts, just be open and upfront. You are never obligated and no one should ever make you feel like you are.
bnkinky69plus1
2 months ago
Love this! Great question..
As one of the other comments mentioned; we ‘as an intimate pair bond’ have the best sex together. My lover loves what we have and isn’t interested in other men and the expectation however manifested, can be a huge turn off for both of us. Just being in the same room, fuelled with lust and desire , to be watched is hot all one its own. I guess we all have our own safe space in the journey. It’s nice to know we’re not the only ones who feel this way.. thanks 🙌MrandMrsEss
2 months ago
Alright I hope some party organisers are reading this post, surely looks like there’s a market for a “Look but don’t touch, touch but don’t fuck” party. I hope to see one in the events soon :)
Asian4Glazin
2 months ago
Fully gree with the sentiments of this post and the replies from others. Recently attended a party where one couple were just spectators (coincidentally of South Asian origin and very demure). I was happy to have them as an audience whilst my loving partner was deeply involved in a three way. Definitely room for respectful voyeuristic couples for sure! See you at the next event!
funcoupleaus
2 months ago
We have had issues in our situation as my wife is Bi and wants experiences with other women and I yet that is not acceptable generally at swingers events. We went to a few and were made to feel awkward when only interested in this aspect. I have no idea how to give my partner what she wants in a safe and non-consequential way now. Any suggestions?
lilcurvysuccubus
a month ago
It doesn't have to be a full swap. I was in a physical relationship with someone where we swapped and we had fun
Pineapplexchange
23 days ago
Okay guys, as a party organizer I thought I should share my views on this subject, thanks to @vivdamien for bringing this subject up, I organize parties in the greater Sydney area, I normally invite 10 to 15 couples and everyone is screened, every one of my events clearly states "normal lifestyle rules apply", I also make it clear nobody is under any obligation to play, and if you do end up at a party where there are expectations, just walk away!
I screen everyone who comes to my event and one of the questions I might ask is, "are you full swap, soft swap, or voyeurs, I would not exclude anybody from attending because they are voyeurs, the reason I ask is because I have a responsibility to the other couples, most if not all the comments on here are yes we love to be watched, yes we love to watch, but what if you're a couple who is uncomfortable being watched, these are the couples I need to consider, so I simply say, if you want to watch a couple ask them, if it's okay, they will say yes, but if they say that they would rather not, then that's a no and politely walk away, this might seem like common sense to most of you, but to some it's not.
I regularly have couples that do not play with other couples attend my events, they do not get excluded from anything and are welcome back, the event is as much a social night as it is a play night, a well organized, well hosted party should be fun for all, no matter what your level of play is!
Lookng_4_fun
23 days ago
We have gone to clubs and parties, played just us but among others and slowly when comfortable you might kiss someone etc etc. what we have loved is there is expectation to anything and you just seem to find people you click with. Just give it all a go and communicate with each other.
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