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Dirty laundry!!!!!

April 04 2012

Ok Just a question that is frustrating me........... I been chatting to a bisexual guy in Perth who sounds nice and like the hobbies that we do.. Who is supposed to be separated from his wife but they live in the same house WITH the mother in-law and has his own business... But when he came to our town (Gero)to meet which we are 400km from Perth he got here at 7pm, we invited him around for coffee and chat but his so call x-wife was ringing him every 3 minutes to find out where he was, as this was very off putting and extremely uncomfortable for my wife and self and on top of all this he wanted me to lie to her on the phone why he was up in Gero, as we had not done anything at this time I just told her we were having coffee and a chat about hobbies which we were... To me I did not lie to her but did not tell her why he came to Gero and she did not hold back with the mouth full of abuse of shit to me, I felt like telling her to put head in a bucket of water three times and only take it out twice. She sounds like a right bitch but I only have haft the story.. He left at 9.30pm and went back to Perth (very quick trip) and now I get a msm this morning asking me to send a e-mail to his home computer about my hobbies so his wife can read it..... (sounds a little to suss for me) I am at that point where I just want to tell him: This is too hard for me sort your own life out then get back to me, or just sorry: thanks for coming but No Thanks..... Am I being to hard on him doing this??? As I do not need this kind of stress I just need a friend I don’t have to play hide and seek with. But it is hard to find someone who likes the same hobbies and wants a friendship..... What would you do??? (help)

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RHP User

14 years ago

Tell him to bugger off and have no more communication with him. He can sort his own shit out. If his wife emails just tell her to talk to her husband and it has nothing to do with you.Bloody drama queens!! (The bloke, not his wife). I can't stand them.

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RHP User

14 years ago

hehe though i'd say we have dildo's and nakid camping in common. Why bullshit

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RHP User

14 years ago

I agree with Polar Bear...I undestand that it is difficult to meet likeminded people sometimes, but this man and wifey seem like TROUBLE to me....he made be separated in his mind but I doubt his wife believes they are,phone calls asking you to cover for him,verbal abuse...no,no ,no....don't have to be a psychic to predict this future.

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RHP User

14 years ago

sounds to me like ex wife aint ex wife.. other wise why would he have to lie or get you to..why else would she be ringing him every 3 minutes..he could have quite easily turned phone off for night..i myself being from geraldton know the trip ,so to drive for four to five hours and back again .unless he travelling salesman ,why not just say why he travelled. like i said ,now i know people in perth work ,she aint his ex

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RHP User

14 years ago

You've wasted enough time.As soon as it becomes complex, it a sign to move on. There are so many nice people about, in time they'll surface.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Chalk it up to experience and move on. I think he has been somewhat less than honest.Felonius

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RHP User

14 years ago

Maybe time to fine-tune your bullshit detector :) He's hard work and full of crap. Time to walk away.

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wannabyummymummy

14 years ago

Sorry but seriously?? are you really THAT short of people who match what you are looking for "But it is hard to find someone who likes the same hobbies and wants a friendship....." that you would tolerate this kind of behavior? like everyone else has said dump and run, NEXT!!!

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RHP User

14 years ago

Yes we did tell him not to call us again, I also told him and her to get help from someone who can help them...... But thanks guys for the input................ Need now try and find someone who no full of bullshit Dam thats going to be hard

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RHP User

14 years ago

As others have already said, sounds like it is more hassle than what its worth. It also sounds like he is either still with the so called 'ex' or he lacks the cohonas to stand up and tell her that his life is now his business. All in all, best not to get caught up in other peoples messes. If he is as nice and like minded as you say, simply tell him to get his life sorted and then come and talk to you.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Geez did you have to change his nappies too..what is he here for ? too weird and too hard for mine..

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Lifes_great

14 years ago

You don't need to get caught up in his affairs......he needs to sort out his own before moving on....'tis only my opinion though

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RHP User

14 years ago

A FB I have Close to Perth met one similar... your OP wouldn't be a pest control person by any chance would he? *chuckles* Just what you need.. MORE hassles!!!!!! Better luck next time mates: cavman

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RHP User

14 years ago

...for what I imagine his plight to be. My first marriage was a mess. We seperated then, for convenience, I moved back into the house, taking the back room. I'd convinced myself that it would be best for the boys to have both parents raising them. We were livng together but emotionally seperated. I'm not saying that this is the case with this couple. Wth the mother-out-law in the house, they wold have to be sharing a room. If he's trying to explore his bisexuality but she's closed minded then it may well be merely a story. If he's unhappy with this woman, he has the right to pursue his happiness. Whatever his reasons are, they are HIS reasons. If you like him, just ask him to be straight with you. If you had urges demanding to be filled and a partner unwilling to assst you in fullfilling them, would you act diferently or would you leave the partner out of the equation and go for it? You only live once.

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RHP User

14 years ago

Yes I do agree with you as he is unhappy with his marrige, but if so dont get other people to lie on the phone to ya wife whether or not she your X or still with her... It was lucky at the time we had only had coffee and a chat as I will not lie for people to help them.... But I do feel sorry for him and his wife as they must sort this shit out between them...

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RHP User

14 years ago

I'm only sympathising with hm. At the same time, I'm agreeing with you. In the period of my life when I was the philandering husband, I didn't hide my situation from anyone (except, ofcourse, the wife).

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