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Did we ask to many Questions just to play?

March 24 2011

We recieved flirts saying" Loved your profile. Want to meet and see where it goes?" We responded with a message: "Thanks for your flirts a while back. Did you guys notice we are both straight? Can we ask why the male there uses a condom sometimes and the lady always? Are you married to each other? Cheers" And got this Rude reply back what does it matter weather we are married or not? why the questions? we are here to have adult fun and good times ,but not with you we will now put you on our block list Happy days. Thats no big deal to us but we did want to know how come the guy wears a condom sometimes but his partner says allways and where they were intending to go with us with that policy. Reckon we know the answer .....two FB married but to others! , It it unreasonable the questions we asked?

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RHP User

15 years ago

Well, asking people questions about their personal life like that... is confrontational;.... people might just want to root, and don't want to have to confront a cross examination just for the opportunity. Life's short and their options are open. The message from them doesn't seem that rude... I mean, they seem to be saying you're too much work, at least for them. No doubt there are other couples who would love to answer all your questions and exchange responses and questions until they're certain you could be right for them, subject to actually meeting. It's a beautiful world huh? HugsStalky

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RHP User

15 years ago

How else do you determine if a person/couple is what you are looking for???? We only have the written word afterall....I always ask lots of questions before meeting someone - gives me an idea as to the type of person they are and if they are worth my time...obviously this 'couple' wasnt worth yours . Kisses Focus

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RHP User

15 years ago

It amazes me that a lot of people on here seem to equate "adult fun" with rooting anything that breathes. Romance you're questions are valid and they resulted in you knowing exactly who not to bother with. Stalky, always love your sensible views from both sides

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rupamohan

15 years ago

Very few questions by itself are wrong to ask. It does matter how u ask nd how you answer. if both sides explain how a question or answer is important for them to make play decision. Then it is better. Just because you are curious may not be enough reason to ask any question.

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RHP User

15 years ago

The other guy wanted condoms if required, but his wife? wanted condoms always. If she was doing that for safe sex that does not add up because anything I have my wife will have as well, so when her husband had sex with my wife or oral with condoms optional whatever I have will be passed to him via my wife and then to his wife via her husband. So by his wife insisting on condoms no protection is really there, safe sex is flawed with their style. Or is she so Bi that she cant stand to feel another guy inside her? and girlie play is the main attraction? Offering our reasons were more than curiosity, our minds were pretty well made up not to play, due to our safe sex requirements plus in our books swinging is about partner swapping with couples in long term committed relationships, that's where we prefer to go. But thought we would offer them the benefit of the doubt if they came up with a realistic believable reason why their husband goes bareback and wifey wants a raincoat.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Perhaps they meant different things. The man might have meant that he doesn't wear condoms when with his partner, but does with others. The woman might have excluded the normal sex they have from the question? So perhaps they were answering the question different ways?One has to be fairly careful with how one phrases things though, it can easily seem confrontational. I've noted my girlfriend while not intending to be rude, can be so to an extreme when asking questions by email. That counts for business and personal communications. In the written form one must be very careful not to come across rude. At first reading your message that you replied to them with looks rude and abrupt. Sorry...

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RHP User

15 years ago

You were right in asking them and we would too. Without open sharing of thoughts and information, trust cant cant be built. Without trust you can't swap. You did the right thang.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'Romancefor4' Or is she so Bi that she cant stand to feel another guy inside her? I believe that any questions asked, should be answered - I mean, we're relying on that to work people out on here, aren't we?? This comment confused me though... What does that even mean?? I am a bi woman myself, I will fuck my own man... but have no interest in fucking another male... This doesnt make me 'SO BI that I can't stand the feeling of another guy inside me'. It's just personal choice.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'foreverlove7985' Quoting 'Romancefor4' Or is she so Bi that she cant stand to feel another guy inside her? I believe that any questions asked, should be answered - I mean, we're relying on that to work people out on here, aren't we?? This comment confused me though... What does that even mean?? I am a bi woman myself, I will fuck my own man... but have no interest in fucking another male... This doesnt make me 'SO BI that I can't stand the feeling of another guy inside me'. It's just personal choice. Well Foreverlove, If you guys winked at a couple where both are listed as straight, there is no reference to any Bi play, only swapping partners for sex as in swinging. As you have no interest in playing with the opposite sex apart from your husband? Why did you wink us? (as a example only) So tell us what is the reason you play? We agree its a personal choice but what is the reason why you make that personal choice as it is not the opposite sex? Maybe both husbands are good little puppies and sit there and watch or the guys are bi too? Do tell ? We say from what you say the driver for you playing is the same sex and you dont want others of the opposite sex. Which is fine.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'JustEnough' Quoting 'foreverlove7985' Quoting 'Romancefor4' Or is she so Bi that she cant stand to feel another guy inside her? I believe that any questions asked, should be answered - I mean, we're relying on that to work people out on here, aren't we?? This comment confused me though... What does that even mean?? I am a bi woman myself, I will fuck my own man... but have no interest in fucking another male... This doesnt make me 'SO BI that I can't stand the feeling of another guy inside me'. It's just personal choice. Well Foreverlove, If you guys winked at a couple where both are listed as straight, there is no reference to any Bi play, only swapping partners for sex as in swinging. As you have no interest in playing with the opposite sex apart from your husband? Why did you wink us? (as a example only) So tell us what is the reason you play? We agree its a personal choice but what is the reason why you make that personal choice as it is not the opposite sex? Maybe both husbands are good little puppies and sit there and watch or the guys are bi too? Do tell ? We say from what you say the driver for you playing is the same sex and you dont want others of the opposite sex. Which is fine. I must have missed the bit about both partners being straight?? Sorry! As for your questions - if anyone were to ask them, I would tell them that clearly they havent read our profile! Driver for playing is absolutely same sex for me! We do not yet have any experience with another couple, and have stated we're after girls play/males watch and same room sex - for the simple reason that, we want to start out where we are comfortable. We are open to changing the boundaries - depending on how things go... but the not fucking another male thing won't change. Good luck... Hopefully you don't come across to many more like that couple! And I still agree, wholeheartedly, that the questions were not too much! Ask away I say!

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'foreverlove7985' Quoting 'Romancefor4' Or is she so Bi that she cant stand to feel another guy inside her? I believe that any questions asked, should be answered - I mean, we're relying on that to work people out on here, aren't we?? This comment confused me though... What does that even mean?? I am a bi woman myself, I will fuck my own man... but have no interest in fucking another male... This doesnt make me 'SO BI that I can't stand the feeling of another guy inside me'. It's just personal choice. Hi Guys , nice to meet you , thanks I thought we were the only ones that thinks all they post are confusing lol

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