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DAMN LIES!!!!
November 19 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
In a good relationship lies are unnecessary. In fact a good relationship by definition is one that is open and honest. Personally I can't see the need for any lies in a relationship, even the little "white" lies. I've never lied about when I bought a piece of clothing or how much money I've spent. Lying reflects a flaw of some kind either in the individual or relationship. Okay time for my next prayer session and a few "hail Marys". Miss "Angel" Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's not always necessary to lie is it? A little pursuasive encouragement from day to day is mandatory. It's always pleasant to feel loved and appreciated and I just can't see the need for totally brutal honesty day in and day out. This world needs poets. It needs people who see this drab and burdensome miserable world, colourfully.The biggest lie of all has seen humanity struggle through the worst lives imaginable. Hugs Stalky
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tamworthguy46
15 years ago
Well Fiona.....I think it would be very immature for someone to say that they never tell little porkies every now and then,we tell little lies in regards to work and every day things, so it's only natural that we are going to tell little lies to our, lover spouse or children, ......lies in regards to hurting someones feelings etc .......shows compassion......rather than being arrogant......!..........and sometimes I think we all don't want to hear the truth ? In contrast someone who lies about everything is probably doing a better job of fooling themselves, than someone else anyway......... People only do to you what you let them ! Love and peace Tam
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tamworthguy46
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' It's not always necessary to lie is it? A little pursuasive encouragement from day to day is mandatory. It's always pleasant to feel loved and appreciated and I just can't see the need for totally brutal honesty day in and day out. This world needs poets. It needs people who see this drab and burdensome miserable world, colourfully.The biggest lie of all has seen humanity struggle through the worst lives imaginable. Hugs Stalky Reply......I love you like a Brother Stalky !
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think sometimes some people have to lie just to keep the peace over issues that aren't that big. I have seen some really unreasonable and insecure people and because they have some bad wiring they see threat in some pretty innocent things. Because they go insanely jealous their partners lie or withhold information etc and personally I don't blame them for the odd fib.
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RHP User
15 years ago
The other day I told one of my kids I was fine when in fact I was crook as a dog. lie' I told my beautifull wife her arse looked good (lie) in a bad fitting pair of jeans because she liked them... ( it was the jeans ) I told some friends I couldnt come to their xmas party because I had to work... lie' ( already accepted another friends offer ) But when I think about it' I lied so not to hurt the other persons feelings... is that so bad ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
sorry I got that wrong its lies isnt it ,,,,,, sometimes just a little one is good but always comes back to bite the teller I find ............. so if there is a need to fib make it BIG and hat way nobody will believe you anyhow wisdom from andy XXXXX
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RHP User
15 years ago
AS i see it if you tell one lie you have to have a bloody good memory to remember the last lie you told to that person.Lieing only gets you in trouble it is better to speak the truth and wear it if you have done something wrong. You start lieing to the one you love then the trust in the relationship is gone .Honesty and trust builds a better relationship in loved ones,family,friends. One day the truth does come out and the person who have lied to hurts even more and it is had to really really trust again,I know i am there and i dont trust at all now.I will get of my soap box
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally I feel its true a good Relationship neds to be one of Communication and Trust without these there is no Couple. However I also think that a minor white Lie for the right reason is ok ie tell your Partner they look sexy in an outfit, even though it's not your first choice for them They adore it and want to wear it on that occassion.They are happy you haven't lost anything by being kind. White Lies where if they came to light can offend the other or even affect the Foundation of a Marriage. ie Guys on here saying their unattathed when they're not.This is certainly not accepable Lol LU:)
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RHP User
15 years ago
im an honest person...yes sometimes brutally, if your arse looks big in that, il tell you BUT....i also tell my kids that "ofcourse theres a santa cause mummy couldnt afford all the things santa gives you...mummy is always broke".....they dont need to know that mummy is broke because she is that fat bastard, but i do tell them i hate him and if i ever find him il hurt him, but i also tell them if i ever find the easter bunny im going to marry him hehe i dont think that makes me a bad person roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
In my view, a relationship really just needs a common goal. Ultimately we all want peace and harmony, enjoyment and fulfillment. For me personally, a lie means not being truthful to myself. I sow the seed - I reap the consequences. A good outcome and everything is sweet. A bad outcome - time to reflect. Life. Morticiaaa...xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
There is no need for Honesty to be Brutal...with a little tact it can be delivered in such a way that both the giver and receivers feelings are taken into account.When someone Lies to me...It shows me they do not think i am Worth Telling the Truth to.Despite it being a Fib Or White Lie or blatant misleading of the TruthHow can you trust or respect someone that Lies to you....? I couldnt.....Not ever...therefore i could not have a solid friendship/relationship with anyone that Lies.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I can't be bothered lying. It's easier to remember the truth. Fibs? No. Merely tact and discretion!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
....a littlle white lie , as to not hurt your loved ones feelings , but not to hide anything that may hurt them in the long run is ok..... like when i have been making roast for family all day and we all sit down to eat , and my hubby says fantastic , delicious! ...and i know damn well the meat is a little dry and the gravy too runny.... or he we decide on dvd night so i go to get the one we decided on, but see the girly movie that i have been wanting to see for ages on shelf next to the action one we decide on, and get that instead and say the other movie wasnt in..... or the kids ask who ate the last bit or chocolate , and i say it looked like a mice had been at it and i had to throw it away.......but as we get older i think we all try to be honest , and want to be the best person for our partner and ultimately dont want to hurt the ones we love. Lying may be easier in the short term , but will always come back to haunt you... now if i can just remember where i hid that damn chocolate ! ! ..ms c x
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' im an honest person...yes sometimes brutally, if your arse looks big in that, il tell you BUT....i also tell my kids that "ofcourse theres a santa cause mummy couldnt afford all the things santa gives you...mummy is always broke".....they dont need to know that mummy is broke because she is that fat bastard, but i do tell them i hate him and if i ever find him il hurt him, but i also tell them if i ever find the easter bunny im going to marry him hehe i dont think that makes me a bad person roxxy I hve been told I behave like a rabbit sometimes Roxxy does that equate to me being like the easter bunny lol Andy xxxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's not only lying if you tell someone something that isn't true - it's also lying if you don't tell them what you feel, or something that may matter to them. Lies of omission can happen dozens of times a day - you don't tell your spouse that her ass looks fat in those jeans, you don't tell your mate to wash his hands after he pees then walks out to rejoin the bbq, you don't tell your boss that he should never, ever wear spandex bike shorts again, etc.The secret is to combine respect, sensitivity and good judgement, and decide which things to keep quiet about and which ones to raise.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'andreweagle' Quoting 'TassieRose' im an honest person...yes sometimes brutally, if your arse looks big in that, il tell you BUT....i also tell my kids that "ofcourse theres a santa cause mummy couldnt afford all the things santa gives you...mummy is always broke".....they dont need to know that mummy is broke because she is that fat bastard, but i do tell them i hate him and if i ever find him il hurt him, but i also tell them if i ever find the easter bunny im going to marry him hehe i dont think that makes me a bad person roxxy I hve been told I behave like a rabbit sometimes Roxxy does that equate to me being like the easter bunny lol Andy xxxx if you bring me chocolate baby im all yours forever and a day roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I much rather use some common sense and provide a response that keeps me in the good books whether I tell a white lie, or tell the truth. Whatever the occasion calls for. Sometimes the truth just hurts too much and some of us just don't want to know. Heard of the saying, "ask no questions, tell no lies".
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RHP User
15 years ago
Wikipedia - Lie 1.1 Types of lie 1.1.1 Big Lie 1.1.2 Careful speaking 1.1.3 Compliments and false reassurances 1.1.4 Bluffing 1.1.5 Barefaced lie 1.1.6 Contextual lie 1.1.7 Economical with the truth 1.1.8 Emergency lie 1.1.9 Exaggeration 1.1.10 Fabrication 1.1.11 Jocose lie 1.1.12 Lie-to-children 1.1.13 Lying by obsolete signage 1.1.14 Lying by omission 1.1.15 Lying in trade 1.1.16 Lying through your teeth 1.1.17 Misleading/dissembling 1.1.18 Noble lie 1.1.19 Perjury 1.1.20 Puffery 1.1.21 White lie
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ruggedly I agree with you having been living under the oppressive regime for near on 20 years. Sometimes it is easier to just lie than face the fall out. Stalky the ability to lie is indeed good and does require a good memory and I like "persuasive encouragement" This is what I use. Roxy my kids are beyong the Santa age and their present list runs to the thousands...yes I am broke and ready to kick Santa's arse as well. As for the Easter bunny...the cat got that one years ago but the little menaces still want the chockie. Andy acting like a rabbit and hopping from hole to hole does not make you the easter bunny...as Roxy said - just bring chocolate!
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RHP User
15 years ago
My recent ex it has turned out spent most of our relationship telling lies as I've found out now, but it comes down to the one biggest lie of all that he couldnt be honest with himself as to his ability to be with one woman only thats, where it became wrong because at that point he involved me in it and that is where it went wrong very very wrong.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I spent 15 years living with a man who had an aquired brain injury due to a car accident. He turned into an alcoholic, a chronic gambler and abused me emotionally. I stayed because I would have been the worst person in the world if I had walked out on a man in a coma, taking my two children and leaving his two behind. I lied. Each and every single day as a matter of survival. I hid my own personality so deep that even my own family did not know the real person I was anymore. The funny thing about emotional abuse is that it sneaks up on you slowly until , after many years you actually believe the crap that the other person is saying making it incredibly hard to break away. It was when the abuse turned physical, for the sake of my then five year old son I left. I am sharing this with you all so that you are aware that there are times when honesty is NOT the best policy and it wont matter if the lies are little or big. Admittedly mine was not a healthy relationship and many aren't. It is not always easy to just pack up and leave.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' I spent 15 years living with a man who had an aquired brain injury due to a car accident. He turned into an alcoholic, a chronic gambler and abused me emotionally. I stayed because I would have been the worst person in the world if I had walked out on a man in a coma, taking my two children and leaving his two behind. I lied. Each and every single day as a matter of survival. I hid my own personality so deep that even my own family did not know the real person I was anymore. Be that as it may, you stuck to your morals and ethics, so I can't imagine that anyone is going to stone you for the way you behaved. Ultimately we answer to ourselves, not those around us. Is it fair to say that your circumstances and morals forced you to be untruthful? If so, I don't categorise that as a lie - you were dealing with something totally outside your control.The fact that you're willing to share your painful story makes me think that you're satisfied that you did everything you could before the situation became totally untenable. You were dealt a shitty hand and have every right to be proud of yourself. I bet your kids are the better for it and very proud of their mum. If you're a liar, the world could use more liars like you.
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RHP User
15 years ago
i lived for ten years with a man that would lie about every dumb little thing about whether he packed a bottle for the baby...a number of times if we were going out i would ask him to pack a bottle, he would tell me we had, we would get where we were going, be having a great time just to find out when the babies screaming that he hadnt packed it at all and then he would argue about having even said it...so off we would have to go with screaming baby back home he would tell me he had paid bills when he hadnt...he would say he liked tea when he didnt...he would lie about the weather when we were going out, id dress the kids in summer stuff cause he would tell me it was hot, just to have to change everyone into winter gear because its freezing cold when we walk out the door i dont get that stuff...stuff you will find out about...why would you do it??? i was talking with my daughters teacher last week and she told me she was surprised she hadnt seen more of my ex now he was back in town...HUH???? he had been working away for months and had just got back into town he had told her...the bastard hadnt been anywhere hahaha but the one thing he didnt lie about which makes me laugh now...."yes i did get a head behind the pub last night" so he cant tell me its freezing cold out so i can dress the kids accordingly but he can tell me some bitch sucked his cock work that one out hahaha roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
why is everyone underlining text ??????
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have no idea. It is not underlined when I click the send button. The site has had a melt down and is now telling lies
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'andreweagle'why is everyone underlining text ?????? im so glad somebody asked...i was thinking maybe it was my computer haha roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have never been one not to ask the question no mtter how silly it may sound //////// just underlined mine so it may not be different to everyone else lol Andy xxxx
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