M55 F50
Curious after a post now
February 28 2025
I have my thoughts and that’s the women get sick of the guy very quickly ,With what we see and experience once through the door , but I’m always happy to be proven wrong ,so come on how many successful long term relishes have blossomed from men only looking for another swinger to party with rather just a partner for partners sake ,I know dozens that last a week or at best a month or two but all fail quickly ,which in my opinion is understanble and not rocket science
Mr b
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boobsandbusted
a month ago
Would love to hear , from women in particular how they found it ,if they entered into an arrangement ,good ,bad, used indifferent ?remberimg I’m asking about a relationship with intention to hit party’s and swingers events together ,not just a relationship that formed from rhp or dating site and naturally grew from there
friendseeker
a month ago
I have been on and off RHP for a long time. Here is my experience.
Many of the women (and couples too) I have met on RHP are here looking to enjoy the swinging lifestyle. That might have been to meet couples, to enjoy MMF or FMF, or to go to parties or events together. But they were after more than 1:1 sex with a man.
So it wasn’t me as the male seeking a female to partner me in the lifestyle. It was a joint mutual decision we both wanted together as a ‘couple’
I still am friends with 5 of the women years later. Four have dropped out of the lifestyle but we are still good friends.
I was on here for a long time as a ‘couple’ with 2 of the women. One in Sydney for 5 years and one out central west for 6 years. I am still friends with both. As you can see, I have a single profile - because we are no longer a ‘couple’ in the swinging lifestyle together. Just good friends now.
You might wonder why those relationships didn't progress to a life partner for me. Well the Sydney woman was married and I was her lover - with the complete knowledge of her husband, her family and her friends. Long story. The second woman has had a number of significant personal life changing events and I was happy to support her through those and that is why we remain friends.
I guess my main point is this is primarily a site for swingers. It not just a hook-up site like Tinder.
Flirty2020
a month ago
A good post, Boobs&Busted.
We too have thought about the tactics used by many a single male.
Based on our observations at several swingers clubs in Melbourne (some have since closed down) over the past 12 years, we can confidently comment as follows:
1.WHY DO “SINGLE” MALES USE A FEMALE TO GET INTO A COUPLES CLUB EVENT?
Swingers clubs / parties charge single males a higher entry fee than couples & females. There is a club in Collingwood that charges $350 for a single male.
The higher fee is partly to make more $ and partly to discourage single males from swamping the club in high numbers and then becoming a pack of predatory wolves as they compete for the attention of the limited supply of single females and or the females of a couple.
Most single females and couples prefer to go to a swingers club / party on nights that single males are excluded due to the above mentioned predatory behaviour.
The single males have found a loophole to save money and gain entry to a couples only club / party, masquerading as a female.
2.HOW DO SINGLE MALES FIND A FEMALE TO TAKE TO A COUPLES ONLY SWINGERS CLUB?
Generally they advertise on here, and on the personals sections of similar platforms. We have seen and commented on the adverts over the years. They also advertise & solicit in the chatrooms of this site.
3. WHAT HAVE WE WITNESSED & OBSERVED
Over the years, whilst sitting at the bar of various swingers clubs, we have noticed a “couple” come in.
Typically he ushers her to sit at the bar, gets her a drink and then vanishes into the darkness of the club, where the play areas are, to hunt for pussy. In essence he becomes a “single” male once he gets his foot through the door. She was just an entry ticket for him.
We often strike up a conversation with the female half of this “alleged couple” and the majority confirm that they hardly know the male. He is a stranger. They are not having sex. He paid her (a drink ) to attend. He placed an advert looking for someone to take along etc etc….
4.HOW HAVE THE CLUBS REACTED TO THIS BEHAVIOUR?
They have beefed up security.
They have changed their rules.
The male half of the couple is not allowed to leave the female alone. He is not permitted into the play areas without her.
If she leaves then he must leave.
Any single males seen playing without their partner and or following couples/ females around , generally get booted out and banned.
They don’t care. They are opportunists not swingers. They think if they gate crash a swingers party that they will get some pussy. That is all that drives them,
All of the above is based on our experience in this “scene”boobsandbusted
a month ago
The extra chstge works and it doesn’t work ,yes it curbs numbers of single guys but the ones that do pay the price want their pound of flesh for the money and are much more determined , ,so I’m not sure what’s worse so do overcoming fists or a flood of stalkers who are just chucking a line in the water hopefully
boobsandbusted
a month ago
But flirty you jumped in your canoe and went down river from the question ,have you from your time in the lifestyle ever known a couple to succeed from basically putting up a wanted add for company into swinging and clubs etc ,
Mr b
RachWandered
a month ago
In 5 years I’ve brought a couple of dudes to play parties and flat out refuse now.
Going solo is way easier (in fairness I’m not really that active atm).
I like to make my own decisions and go at my own pace. I hate having to factor another person into my decision making.
Sounds cold but I’m happily divorced and I’m single by choice. For me, even play-based relationships encroach on my autonomy and I don’t like it.
seekandplay
24 days ago
I actually met an amazing guy at my first ever party, he was single M, I went as single F. We clicked pretty much straight away and didn’t form any relationship, other than he would come to parties and venue with me. Why? Because sometimes it’s nice to go to these things with an alpha male by my side and not gawked at as a unicorn. He is such a respectful guy and it’s never caused a single issue. Single M get such a bad wrap, and I understand why, but I have also had pretty poor experiences with couples too. Really poor. It’s finding the good and they do exist. He’s since moved to another state for work, and then scene is almost non existent there, so he will come here from time to time and be my plus 1.
Lookng_4_fun
21 days ago
We love to add respectful experienced single males every now and then into our adventures, but went to an event that promoted single males but good guys we knew didn’t get a ticket but some small little weird ones did. I understand screening might be hard but it put us off completely.
Caryphelps
15 days ago
Hi all . New here . I'm Cary. Love to chat n see if any door opens . Live wynnum . Have days free . And nights for that matter . Lol
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