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Couples with young kids - What do you do?
June 04 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
Really the only option you have, i to try and find a good babysitter to look after your little one for you
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RHP User
15 years ago
babysitter...........the only way to go... hire someone, or hand pass yr young'n to the mother/in law...........young is easy..... try and be discreet in a household of inquisitive teenagers..... lol...now thats 'challenging".........
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RHP User
15 years ago
You just have to find a babysitter to look after your little one
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RHP User
15 years ago
Is the only way to go. It may be tempting to play at home while the baby is asleep but it is realy tacky. What happens if the child wakes up ect are the concerns. You will find that some do not like to play with those that have kids but most couples are accepting as they are in the same situation. I suggest that you advertise, ask work collegues and generally find a good, regular babysitter whom you are all comfortable with. Not only do you need someone for when you are both wanting to play together, but it is also important for peiople to spend time as a couple (without child) in order to maintain the closeness of the relationship. Try the Family Daycare Association as many of the people who are employed by them also can care for the children overnight occassionally and they work in thier own homes. The importnat thing is that both you and your child are comfortable with your choice of babysitter.
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RHP User
15 years ago
We use to get a babysitter. Never have played at home with our children in the house.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have same problem.. would be great to find a cpl in Perth as friends that I could come up for a cpl nights with my lil boy.. Take turns on the Fri n Sat night to sit the ankle biters..lol Least then I would then have some freetime once a month! lol... sweetpetite41 xxxxxxxxxxxxxx What is ME time
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RHP User
15 years ago
What is difficult about this question?? I'd have thought nothing. My youngest is 3 years old, and I recognise that you guys are most likely coming into a time in your relationship and your life where you can finally envisage spending your "me-time", should you be fortunate enough by circumstance to actually get it, doing something other than sleeping. It's like a revelation!! .. As Fiona and the others say, you only have one option. Find someone suitable to look after your child. If this isn't an option, then you don't play. It may suck, but it's pretty simple. It isn't a hurdle, it's just one of the shitful realities of parenthood. Yes, time away from your child is vitally important and often, not enough parents realise this one until it's too late, but children = sacrifice. The only way children = adult individual satisfaction is through time without them. .. If you can't find a babysitter or a friend or relative to assist you in finding time to nurture your existing relationship, then swapping will most likely need to take a backseat on the priority queue until such a time as you can find someone. . Good luck, I too would recommend Family Daycare or a good babysitting network. . Flirty x
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RHP User
15 years ago
i know there are agencies that will baby sit at nights. for example in brisbane its dial a nanny. you pay them to come to your house to look after your children while you go out. they have strick checks for the carers. one of my girl friends works for them. so if you dont have anyone who can sit maybe try an agancy. Mrs B
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N4November
15 years ago
Kids in the house = NO PLAY with others Don't even go there!! So suck it up and accept that that at least you have each other to play with!!!!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Although getting a babysitter is obviously the best option, when you are new to an area, sometimes that can be reasonably difficult and extremely expensive. One option, that we have used to great success, is to meet with the kids! Now I know some people are going to be gasping in horror right now, but hear me out. When you first message someone, let them know that you find it a little hard to find time as you have a young family. Often, people around the same ages as us will also have a family and will tell you so in their message back. Then put the idea out there for a meet and greet only... "we could meet up for a coffee, or at the pub for a drink, or take the kids to a local park?". Obviously you would choose somewhere that you know will be busy so that there are plenty of other people around if they turn out to be serial killers (which we haven't come across yet, touch wood). This idea will only work if you are looking for people to build relationships with, rather than just one night stands. It is not the most romantic of situations, but more than adequate to get a feel for if you would like to meet up with the people again in a sexual setting (minus kids of course). Some people will say no obviously, it will not be their thing. But others will jump at the chance. Mrs W xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Get a babysitter. Play elsewhere. Having said that, some people will not play with you, solely based on the fact that you have children. We wrote a post about this recently... It's called 'Kids = Dealbreaker?'... Check it out.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'foreverlove7985' Get a babysitter. Play elsewhere. ^^THIS^^The only real solutions.
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liketofunk
15 years ago
Quoting 'baygirl2315' Kids in the house = NO PLAY with others Don't even go there!! So suck it up and accept that that at least you have each other to play with!!!! except in cases where you scored a 9 or higher right ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
we are also new to australia and dont really know anyone well enough to look after our children so playtime with others is very limited at the mo but we will def be trying dial a nanny
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RHP User
15 years ago
its hard getting any free time when you have commitments like a young family.i am fortunate to be self employed which means i can create time in the daytime on weekdays if i make it up later.this suits some mums who have kids at school etc,who need a bit of tlc and an outlet.i enjoy my day encounters and as a trady can come and go vitually unnoticed, so no gossipy or sticky nosed neighbours to answer to. if your interested let me know your only down the road xxx.crazy mexican
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RHP User
15 years ago
ok so we have children 6 in fact but lucky 3 dont live with me but i have a 16 n 2 n3 yr old at home.i always make time to play. this is how i do things in my house.sum1 cums over my hubby watches the kids while i play.then if n when sum1 wants to play with hubby i watch the kids.or if we want a 3sums which we do all the time we wait til the kids r in bed then we play.c so there is ways of getting round playing while u have kids...plus i work also so u c i have a busy life style but i make sure i have time 4 me to play.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'baygirl2315' Kids in the house = NO PLAY with others Don't even go there!! So suck it up and accept that that at least you have each other to play with!!!! we absolutely agree.... to expose children to any of this, even by 'accident', is irresponsible and reckless, and a line of behavior that none of us should cross........
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RHP User
15 years ago
yeah get a babysitter or some one u trust to look after ur little one we have a 14 month old
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RHP User
15 years ago
Put them on e-bay while they are still young, you can get really good dollars for them at the moment! hey its not as though they are rare, people are still making them lmao
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe some of the professional swinger establishments could take a leaf out of the Ikea catalogue and they could put a room full of coloured balls at the entry and hire some dude in A Humphry B Bear suit to entertain them!
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