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Couple/ Couple play- Who makes the first moves?

June 27 2011

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Been playing for a few months now and find when it gets to that time of the night when you know its on but don't know who is going to make the first move. Now I'm (male) happy to make the first move on the other woman but I won't if I think the other guy won't or isn't confident enough to make a move on my wife. Its the same situation for my wife with moving on the other guy. So the best and probably most common solution is for the girls to start it off but in our experience its often my wife who has to make the move as the other girl isn't as confident or as confident with same sex play. What do couples do when the girl/s are straight? What is the most common way of getting the ball rolling? Are people confident in making that first move? Some people say they are but when it comes to that moment......

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    We like games like 4 way strip poker, boys vs girls but allways all 4 involved taking clothing off swapping partners at the same time....get the idea....and let the girls win for while etc its interesting how you control the game. End of the game...well the winner gets to nominate like....lets have fun. Go to the bedroom swap on the way....or play with own partners and when all having sex, get the girls nice and wet and ...just come up with" Would anyone like to swap?"........"Wouldnt mind" could be a responce lol. Other times the other guy went and had a shower came out naked and took my wives panties off and started with oral........well no guy is going to leave the other wife just watching for longer than 30 seconds ?? Yummm that was a good night sex from 9-30 pm to 11-45pm both guys on Viagra, performance and wet pussies not a issue...hehehhe

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    If you're at the stage where the 4 of you are together somewhere intimate then you obviously have already decivded that you fancy each other. Flirting is SUCH a fun way to start things up, a verbal flirt can soon turns into all kinds of fun things. Have fun with this, draw it out for a little while. Flirt and tease and enjoy the fun. You don't need booze, this doesn't have to be awkward if just one of you is confident enough.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Oh we suck at the first move! Not because we're shy but we are probably overly respectful and like to know everyone is comfortable. I think we're actually getting worse at it. When we first started Mrs Pup was so eager that after a nice chat she would just grab the other girl stick her tongue down her throat and tear her clothes off. Now we're more relaxed and sometimes I think we miss the cues. It's all fun though and we'd prefer a little uneasy nervousness with a get to know you chat than someone who wants to just fuck right away.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    I once asked a Swinger friend about this when my partner and had just got into swinging and she said if they are at her house or at place she is familiar with she will say "let me should you (insert whatever here) in the bedroom" takes them off shows them whatever then says something like "while we are here...." I used it a few times and it has worked well, helps if you actually have something to show like a sexy toy though. Another way I have started play is by comparing pubic hair styles. Then there is the easiest which is just saying "shall we get things started?"

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Well i think that if you meet in a public place and then end up back at either persons place it can only mean one thing LETS GET READY TO RUMBLE. Because if you both agree on going back to someones place then thats the start of a good night for all and dont hold back and be shy about it. I mean c'mon for fuck sake you did'nt agree to go back to the other persons place just to look at the flowers in there garden did you, i wish people would be more out there because we dont join sights like these just to have chat friends did we. Because if you did your on the wrong site and you should be members of e'harmony, the way i see it if either couple agrees to go to another couples place there was a sexual attraction there for you to agree to going back to there place. SIMPLE isnt it well i think so.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    A couple that we play with, said to us in the beginning that they leave it all up to the women - and then follow from there. I had no idea how to make the first move either, but found that light, flirty touches were enough to set things off. (Having said that... I had to consume a few alcoholic beverages to gain enough confidence to do said touches! LOL...) I think it should be left up to the women - it worked extremely well for us! Not sure how it would work if the women are straight - not an area I'm familiar with, sorry! (MRS)

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    We agree with Puppy, its even when you know its on and your back at the place of play and then it still takes ages to make a first move. It seems everyone is too respectful, well over respectful. The mrs was also confident and would always make the first move but she got a bit burnt by one girl and now its shot the confidence and she prefers the other girls to make the move. Only a few have had that confidence and she LOVES IT when they do. As the guy I'd be happy to start it off but it seems that the sequence of events always goes 'girls play first, guys watch'.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Perhaps one of the guys should say "dayum you girls are hawwwwt, how about you kiss already!" lol... this may have worked for me once hehehe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    ... "dayum you and Mrs Pup would look hot together, how about....." he he he

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    i dont usually have a problem with coming on to girls, i find if it is a pre-arranged thing that turning the tunes up and dancing with the other girl works well, we get all hot and bothered and the guys get a show, a kiss mid dance works wonders.. :D When it comes to the guys though i sometimes hesitate only because they are usually someone elses "property" so i like definate permission first.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    My wife and I are new to this scene, but have met up with a male twice recently, it was awkward to start off with, but i went to the toilet and left them alone for a couple of minutes to get it started, and it worked nicely. also it was a massive turn on hearing the conversation go silent, knowing that they were starting off without me.

  • RHP

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    15 years ago

    Quoting 'bundybabe4u'i When it comes to the guys though i sometimes hesitate only because they are usually someone elses "property" so i like definate permission first. Exactly! It feels a bit weird to dive in with the opp sex partner, well not weird but you know. So how does it work when the girls or girl is straight?? So obviously the girls don't start it off. I'm thinking they both duck into the toilet, talk to each other, decide its on and then jump each others partner :-)

  • sunnyfun

    sunnyfun

    14 years ago

    Our first play-night was with a very attractive young couple, we were nervous and nothing happened in the motel room for 30mins or so - eventually I turned to my wife and said " isnt it about time you undressed him - you know you want to" that lightened it all up and it was on for a very hot steamy night.Like everyone says -if your in a motel room or back at someones house its pretty certain they wont kick you out if you offer to help undress them.. great topic.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'want2tryUout' Quoting 'bundybabe4u'i When it comes to the guys though i sometimes hesitate only because they are usually someone elses "property" so i like definate permission first. Exactly! It feels a bit weird to dive in with the opp sex partner, well not weird but you know. So how does it work when the girls or girl is straight?? So obviously the girls don't start it off. I'm thinking they both duck into the toilet, talk to each other, decide its on and then jump each others partner :-) Couple to couple dates : We both are straight, We go out to play or we go out not to play, there is no deciding on the night. Someone suggests "should we have some fun now?" Should we swap partners? These questions are directed to all four! not girls in the loo! Clubs and parties: We wont know if we are playing because we wont know if we like anouther couple and visa versa: But before hitting the bedroom we would let the others know we only play couple to couple and neither are Bi.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Yes we have had that problem. Mrs is generally shy/not confident or afraid of rejection to start with so when the lady (and/or male) from another couple is the same things normally take that long to start that in the end, nothing ends up happening. If the other lady is confident and flirts and compliments her, it brings out a wild side in the mrs as she loves knowing that she turns them on. Shyness gone lol ;-) Yumm As Pup and want2try said,, most of the times it comes down to, too much respect for the other couple/person. Games are a good thing to get the ball rolling as are spas. But talking about it through flirting and general Adult conversations about likes, wants, fantasy's etc are a kick starter aswell. Just my 2cents worth :-) Mr G

  • playfulminx

    playfulminx

    14 years ago

    Spin the bottle!!

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Great topic...some realy interesting comments have been made. Although my wife is bi, her main focus is the guy, so we like to pair up with the other member of the couple while having a chat onthe couch. This enables us to have some touching, hand holding etc. that often leads to kissing and then...yum!! We also had a couple at our place that brought a CD with sensual music that we swapped partners to have a dance. We did this stripped down to next to nothing and found that was a great way to get things moving, Cheers to all who have contributed to this fascinating topic.

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

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  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'This_n_that' My wife and I are new to this scene, but have met up with a male twice recently, it was awkward to start off with, but i went to the toilet and left them alone for a couple of minutes to get it started, and it worked nicely. also it was a massive turn on hearing the conversation go silent, knowing that they were starting off without me.