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Contraception and the male rold
February 10 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
You mentioned your partner is off the Pill and yet experiences low libido? Normally it's the reverse - when the wife was on the Pill, it literally killed off her libido. When she got off it, I was hard-pressed to keep up. But then again, we're not doctors, and everyone's different. To answer your question, it doesn't sound reasonable. Sounds like your partner has deeper issues rather than just worrying about contraception - it feels a bit like a smokescreen. But also bear in mind that libido decreases naturally with age, your partner could be pre-menopausal, or even menopausal. Or there might even be some other cause. Suggest you two have a sit-up and calmly discuss this possibility. Couples counselling may help. Also look up the new under-the-skin male contraceptive - no idea at what stage it is at, but I remember reading about its trials some time ago (maybe last year?). That'll give you a couple of options.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Compared to a tubal-ligation or a hysterectomy which are the permanent solutions for a woman. The pill can do lots of damage to women's health, as can most of the other methods of contraception available to women. If you want to be totally sure there are going to be no more accidents, take responsibility for your sperm factory! I personally don't think its unreasonable to ask you to have vasectomy. Contraception is NOT just a woman's responsibility!Whether you get more sex is irrelevant . . . its about you accepting responsibility for not wanting more kids (note, she indicated she was on pill but wasn't and timed occasional sex leading to last child a few years back)Wildly applauding her stance
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi curiousalso...id would have preferd my husband had the snip..as i fell pregnant with last child while on the pillboy what a shock that was at the of 38..but have no regrets.We then weighed up the pros n cons....we came up with for him...its easierthan a woman having her tubes tied.cheaper in the long term...but can be reversable if need be..unlike a womans tubes..plus its safer to have doneI had a dear friend who fell pregnant at the same time..like me loved her baby once we got over the inital shock.lolShe went into hospital to have her tubes done....died due to the doctors mistake.Some dr's wont/reluctant perform the operation on younger women..or pass the age of 40 somthing.Also if the guy is playing with others..it's.safer as we all know condoms break...chances are if the playmate isnt takingprecautions...and falls pregnant.it can open a can of worms...Remember guys can still produce after male menopause.The pill has so many possible side affects...which can out weigh the benefits.xoxoheymummaonly you can decide.wish you well
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think you're crazy. What do you want kids? You can have mine.. they eat too much. Vasectomy.. there's nothing to it.. over and done in half an hour and you can spray jizz into any hole you desire without the risk of creating another sprogget. Best thing I ever did. It may not make your partner more receptive, but it certainly impacts you less than all that crap she's been doing to prevent pregnancy. Your turn sport. Man up. Stalky
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RHP User
16 years ago
im with stalky...man up...come on us woman go through hours of pain giving birth too YOUR children and you cant even do that for her...come on why even ask....JUST DO IT!!!!!!! why should it always be up to the woman men are such wuss bags when it comes to there cocks....try pushing a baby through it...then we would hear you lot winge just get it done...think of your wife instead of your cock sorry about the rant...DO IT!!!!!!!! roxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Here here stalki...just think how much money we have in the bank for every child we didnt have.we would be soo wealthy..hahaha..we have to suport them from birth to at least 21...I could have owned my own salon n day spa...a mansion,boat,at least two motor bikes,carthe list goes on..hahaha.But..silly old me wouldn't be with out them...as ive been blessed with wonderful, respectful children,we have an unique relationship..as we are friends..I agree with stalki..if you dont want any more kids..it would be your only option thats relyable.
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Letsgetcrazy09
16 years ago
Have to agree with all on this topic, much easier for the guy to have it done, much safer than the female having it done. Gee had it done, got to lay up all weekend and watch Clipsal 500 coz the Doc that did it gave specific instructions that I wasn't to do anything but lay on couch all weekend (shame he is a petrol head too!!!) Missus fell for it as well, left me alone - had a great weekend watching the racing. Time wise,4 days later was out riding MTB again - no shit. Would go to specialist to get it done personally (I did anyway). As to the sex, well I was promised more - didn't happen, but hey no worries about another rug rat.....lol.....had a few scares and whilst you would end up being fine with it, you do get used to your lifestyle and being almost kid free.....oh well that never happens....they all ways come back, money, food etc.......lol. So have a concrete milkshake, make the call. Cheers Lets
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm thinking of adding a new clause to my profile: "Will ONLY fuck guys who have had a vasectomy.(proof required)" I'm not on any contraception for various personal reasons. I take an element of risk everytime I have sex. I don't want to get pregnant. I have OCCASIONALLY had to resort to the Morning After pill which is not a preferred option. Of course, you should still use condoms if you are having sex with anyone else BUT having the snip is just that extra protection. Didn't you notice how much pain your wife went through giving BIRTH to your children ? The snip is nothing in comparison. xxx Miss Saturn
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RHP User
16 years ago
Get the snip.... Simple preceedure compared to the much more complicated equivalent for a woman. Just have a good think about whether you want children going forward.....I was certain, having had 3 already so that was an easy decision for me....even though it MAY be reversable, you should assume that the snip is putting the cue back in the rack as far as that is concerned You will find no effect on your performance, amount of ejeculation etc...well I didn't anyway...and I was up an about the next day for a round of golf....I think I shot a 77 with a spectacular birdie on the 12th, a long water carry on the drive and a dogleg left...I had to draw my second around the overhanging tree........my wider than average stance also improved my putting on the day ! So lots of added bonuses..... In all seriousness, get your partner off the pill.....it's not good for her health long term.... The other thing....if you are only having sex around once a month.....there is lots more attention need to be given to your love life than contraception my friend.....you BOTH need to put some quality time in..... Time = care = lovin. You do the math. Best wishes. Dogism.
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RHP User
16 years ago
No I don't think it is reasonable to demand you have a vasectomy to 'perhaps' have sex more than once a month lol. I did notice you said that the reason you are getting sex every other month is only 'partly' due to the contraception issue though. So perhaps work on the other issues too.I would only do something of such a permanent nature to my body if that was something I wanted to do. Vasectomy is reversable but not necessarily successful in all cases {googled that fact hehe}.But if you don't want more babies and considering the discreet nature of your time on RHP, it would make sense to me to make absolutely certain you have your end of the birth control sorted.I also think it is up to we women to make sure we are doing our best in that area. Mr P' has had the snip, so I don't need to worry with him {woohoo!} but I do worry when we go out and I play with other fellas. We've had issues with broken condoms several times. So I had a Mirena {bit like plastic iud} inserted which took some getting used to but, if anything, it enhances my sexual experiences these days! Well worth the effort.Cheers... Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'WildTassieGypsy' Compared to a tubal-ligation or a hysterectomy which are the permanent solutions for a woman. The pill can do lots of damage to women's health, as can most of the other methods of contraception available to women. I'll admit that I haven't done much reading up on the topic, but what are the health dangers of diaphragms or the sponge? Obviously they're not 100% methods like getting the snip, but what other health problems do they bring. I'm also assuming anyone adult enough to use a sponge isn't going to be leaving it in for days at a time, TSS is well enough known by now.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' men are such wuss bags when it comes to there cocks....try pushing a baby through it...then we would hear you lot winge roxy xxx You should be careful here Roxy - I've had some of posts taken very literally of late... and quite frankly I don't know whether this would be more traumatic for the baby or the guy... a And let's say he managed to push it through. NOW WHAT?? How do you get it out?
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RHP User
16 years ago
on if you think you want more kids. if you are reasonably sure that you don't then you may as well have a vasectomy. However, I do think that there are more underlying issues than this and perhaps they need to be addressed.
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RHP User
16 years ago
yeeallahahahahahahahahahahahaahaaasnip workd fine buddy. takes a weight off.sympathetically, Earl
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RHP User
16 years ago
I do hope you realise how totally selfish your post sounded... as everyone else has pointed out... WHY SHOULD IT BE JUST A WOMANS RESPONSIBILITY!!!! We carry the brats for 9 months, trash our bodies and pelvic floor and are then expected to continue the pill or tubal ligation (yes I'm bitter at the moment as my own bun in the oven is overdue!) I think the least you can do is go to a day clinic... yes that's how easy it is... and get the snip Ever thought the reason you're not getting more is because your lady is just so buggered after a day running around caring for kids that she just doesn't have the energy to do more! how about a nice surprise for her like take the kids for the day, spoil her to a day spa massage and then maybe she'll be a bit more obliging... works for my hubby Overdue and cranky Mrs Sassy
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RHP User
16 years ago
To be completely synthetic-hormone free after a long time of taking contraceptives is a great feeling (including depo, and iuds and the rod). It sounds like your wife is done with her bit. Dude, go and do your bit. Cheers, T.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Quoting 'geturroxyoff' men are such wuss bags when it comes to there cocks....try pushing a baby through it...then we would hear you lot winge roxy xxx You should be careful here Roxy - I've had some of posts taken very literally of late... and quite frankly I don't know whether this would be more traumatic for the baby or the guy... a And let's say he managed to push it through. NOW WHAT?? How do you get it out? chops his balls off...that should get it out hehehe roxy....mwahhh
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' Quoting 'Jean_Girard' Quoting 'geturroxyoff' men are such wuss bags when it comes to there cocks....try pushing a baby through it...then we would hear you lot winge roxy xxx You should be careful here Roxy - I've had some of posts taken very literally of late... and quite frankly I don't know whether this would be more traumatic for the baby or the guy... a And let's say he managed to push it through. NOW WHAT?? How do you get it out? chops his balls off...that should get it out hehehe roxy....mwahhhHehe - Also known as a 'B Section'. I'm a bit scared about that procedure - ever since Ridge mentioned his balls bouncing across the bathroom floor with Mitzy or whatever his cat is called in hot pursuit after a waxing gone bad..
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RHP User
16 years ago
oh jean....you are a wonderful man you so make me laugh.... it was just what i needed tonight thank you so much roxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
There are definately good argumaents for both sides. In my case though, my wife said she didn't want any more kids. I would like more children. So, it was decided that she would have her tubes tied, which I think was a fair descision. On the other hand though......I don't think any ONE person is responsible for contraception. If either or both of the people are sleeping with anyone else, I feel it is just as important for both sexes to be responsible for contraception. Please correct me if I am wrong, but from what I read most of the comments were about stopping pregnancy??? As everyone knows neither the pill or a vasectomy will stop STD's (or whatever they are called now). Basically it boils down to me, as being, who wants kids and who doesn't. Mind you this topic could carry on for the next three millenium really. Just posting my thoughts Mad Mick
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