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Coffee
May 13 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
You just gave me a great laugh. They want coffee first because they are lying shits and think we are too. Whoops...thats a bit harsh. I guess they dont really believe that all you want is to meet (for whatever) and maybe assume we want alot more from them so they need to check we are not nutbags. Good luck Lx
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RHP User
15 years ago
hmm didn't you ask me for coffee
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe that's what they think they're meant to say to get a bit? Have you said "Look, I'd prefer not to meet for coffee, lets just shag?"Or maybe, on receiving your pic, they've decided they want to get to "know" you becauswe they want more than a fling?Or... who knows!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Lol that's funny maybe they want to talk but their feelings or something seriously it might also be let u know their not a nutbag either ?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Basically it's a get out plan , you agree to meet somewhere , they say they'll be wearing a blue shirt but really wear a red one , they see you walk in and recognise you from the description of what you'll be wearing and don't like what they see , they get up and walk out. Problem solved for them..... Please note I have never used or ever will use this 'plan' :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
....the equivalent of the "Get out of jail free" card. . Had to use it a few times myself...other times I wished I had used it...lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
I am not sure if the folks at the latte' shop will tell you this...but caffeine is highly addictive. Maybe the guys just want to make sure they don't start suffering... | ...withdrawal symptoms. | | Quad espresso in a take-away cup...go or come as you please.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I suppose you could arrange to meet at a hotel/motel and just give him the room number. But then if either of you weren't attracted to each other you are in a bit of a bind because you are expected to have sex.Most people opt for the lets meet somewhere (coffee shop) where either party can walk away safely if they want to.
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RHP User
15 years ago
if one or the other doesn't want to share pics, but i agree if you've seen what someone looks like you should at least know if you're physically attracted to them.i guess there's always more than they physical, and some people might want to get a feel for the vibe that they have with you first. but it sounds like in your case merrywife, that they're probably looking for something different anyway!
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RHP User
15 years ago
My get out of jail? Well I've never needed one!! And yes Chilli I am slightly married! The other option is to chat on msn?! Don't get that one either - if you dont want to chat in real life then you are probably a really bad shag!! I don't need an out - I'm female and can fake it!! ;>
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RHP User
15 years ago
Photos are fine, but you never know if they are recent photos and I've had low-res images sent that end up looking quite different when you meet....no reason the coffee can't move straight to "lets get a room" if there's chemistry and I'd assume most guys would love that - I sure as hell would ;-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Merrywife your profile, is kind off a dead give away, and I think if guys took the time to read and understand your profile they would be less inclined to want the coffee, and go straight to the action, unless to them its inconceivable thata woman could just want sex from them, which is possible I guess, I can remember a time when I thought that.Cheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
I would be pretty comfortable to skip coffee if I had received a few pics first via phone first, after all both parties now what they are looking for! FUN!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Our profiles are like an advertisement! even with pics theres no body language on there, I say meet for Coffee is great! We are real people in the real world!Got to like who you fuck! xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Just had a thought, maybe these guys are potherwise attached and believe their own partners are cheating on them, and trying to get your pics so they can scope out if you're their partner or not!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well aren't all the public servants and pollies in Canberra - makes sense as they have time to waste! Pusscat xxx (slightly cynical today)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Maybe they read that it's the thing to do ... I mean.. we all learnt the difference between latte and cafelatte in my coffee thread.. so now us dudes can show off.. seems such a waste of information to just set all that preparation aside and just root randoms. :)HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Morticiaaa' ....the equivalent of the "Get out of jail free" card. . Had to use it a few times myself...other times I wished I had used it...lol lmfao.... you're wicked and I love it.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
yes it always seems to be coffee first,which is cool.seems to be plenty of 'weirdos' out there (m&f) so i keep hearing,so happy to have coffee first! to reassure themwith a head like mine its nice even to get to the coffee stage lol.....i make a great coffee! but better orgasms B xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally, I can't be bothered with email tag and MSN ping pong...and if you use that regularly, you really should run a serious malware program on your system along with the right virus scan program. You will find that MSN has left a few visitors...it will be about like bentonite clay and lots of fun building little statues with what it poops out. | I am old school and like the phone...voices tell a lot, and sometimes more than the words being spoken. Besides, you can hear someone blush if you listen close enough. | Hell...I like the idea of just meeting at a nice hotel, with the option to stay or go. If you are not that confident then maybe you should be there in the first place. There are times when I can't be bothered commuting in or out of the city anyway...and if doesn't work out, there is always the Casino. And who knows, you might just find lady luck... | ...playing off the button right beside you. | | Keep your head about you...and never go all in before the flop.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'merrywife' I don't need an out - I'm female and can fake it!! ;>Hmmm. Think you might've just answered your own question there. If only you were intending to meet OTHER females...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Me neither. But there's this guy..... . It's not just a get out of jail free card because the guy is worried you might have freckle in the wrong spot... While men are predominantly guided by their penis, their other brain might question the perfectness of a scenario that goes like "I'm married, after nsa sex with a fairly random guy in a motel room. Meet me in room 34 at the Holiday Inn at the corner of such and such." . Sure the odds of this happening are probably not as bad as lotto....but... There are no doubt psycho women who want revenge on men and men who want to rob, rape or even punish other men who will help a married woman 'cheat'. And what better lure than what you are offering. And what better place than behind closed doors and in a situation that some men might not be able to divulge to the police if they needed to make a complaint.. . So maybe they are just wary and making sure you're not luring them in for something they hadn't ordered off the menu. Safety on the internet swings two ways. . ps - not saying for one minute you're not genuine or part of a russian crime gang...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Have tea, have hot chocolate, have a bloody glass of water for all they care. They just want to meet you to see if you are who you say you are and to make sure that there is actually a spark before they fuck. That is all it is. Nothing secret, nothing sinister and nothing time wasting about it. I dont want to have sex with someone I dont like and I guess it is the same for most men.
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RHP User
15 years ago
merrywife - you are a woman, seemingly intelligent, so should not need to ask such a question... if someone does not get your drift from the first message why bother with them..? Move onto the next victim - it is not procreation that you're seeking therefore you do not care about the genetic material passed onto your combined offspring, and as such could mate with just about anyone... pickup the guy at the bar - you know the round and funny one that sits at Moe's most of the time :-)Anyway, seriously - if you click after a few messages no prob organising a room - I've done it with somoeone that was 200 km away, and it worked like a charm - but there are situations that you would not want to get yourself into, including those when you can be worried about your safety.. even men have to think with more than just their hormones you know...
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RHP User
15 years ago
So you are ok with just meeting and shagging anything you meet.How do you get out of it if you don't like the guy, OH thats rightNo means No.
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RHP User
15 years ago
well said!! spot on!B
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RHP User
15 years ago
men want a coffee meet because theres no way to gauge what the gal looks like without doing so. you may be surprised to know that the majority of men actually have 'standards' and wont have sex for the sake of just having sex. the fact that you are married and playing makes your honesty already questionable, so men wanting to see for themselves what you look like and are all about is entirely reasonable.you should feel privileged that they are willing to invest the time, as sex with someone who doesnt care what you look like cannot be good for the ego or soul...........
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RHP User
15 years ago
No fling.Its that simple.Coffee is serious business.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Can you host or do you expect them to pay for the hotel room? If that is the case...then yes, I don't blame them for wanting a coffee first! That is their hard earned cash that they are forking out! Quoting 'Feel_Me_ACT'hmm didn't you ask me for coffee I do need to ask though... How come you never answered Feel_Me_ACT? xFunlovingx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Everyone is after different things. Merrywife knows what she is doing and it works for her. Guys have the choice of doing it her way or not. But as for wanting to meet over coffee first there are a few guys who dont need that, the just want to jump right in. They are around. Personnaly I like to meet first to check the vibe/click/whatever.
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captainkaos
15 years ago
But if they want to meet at their house, I am ok with that. I dont want to be rude or offend anyone but maybe the guys feel like it would be like going to a prostitute when there is no or very little interaction. I messaged a woman once and she replied with her phone number. She said that we could meet in town and in a hotel room. She had to have been a prostitute. When we spoke she wasn't very friendly and it was all too business like. I am not saying that you are merrywife but this woman definitely sounded like one. I had fallen for it once before. I didn't actually pay her for the sex but i paid for what she said was half of the room. Even though it was in town I thought that it was quite expensive. I asked at the front desk what the rates were and sure enough she ripped me off. I will bet you anything that she worked there as a cleaner and got the room for free. The sex was crap. I said that i will walk with her to her car but she said that she couldn't even be seen leaving the Hotel room with me.
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RHP User
15 years ago
lol definitely no need for coffee first....!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Coffee well I am probably going to cop abuse from this but it’s cheap. Most men do not want to spend money on someone they have just met. Whatever happened to lets meet for a drink or dinner it does not have to be over the top. Let’s face it if all actually read a profile they would see what the other is looking for and vise a versa. Talking on the phone a real conversation you should know if you are going to get along or if there is some sort of connection. As for meeting at a hotel and splitting the cost alarm bells should be ringing. Maybe I am lucky to have my house and live alone, people should keep it real.
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RHP User
15 years ago
If you don't want to met for wasted chit-chat put it in your profile, I used to have a profile that was very specific about what I wanted, which was met for ONE drink then if all is good play at his place. When men messages me I checked with them, that they were interested in one drink then play if all is good. it worked very well, I wanted to have sex with new men but did not want to spend the night chatting. So be very clear in your profile, if you want day time mets, are there days that are better then others? If so state that, the other thing that might work for you is to list a date in the date section.
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RHP User
15 years ago
im happy to skip the coffee if you are and get right down to it :)get in touch and i am happy to meet!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi MerryWifeI am in Canberra today & tomorrow and would love to catch up at my hotel (Realm in Barton) for a "coffee" with you ;-). I think a woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to ask for it is very, very sexy. Call me on 0413599397 if you are interested in catching up. Would love to hear from you.DKPLAY
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RHP User
15 years ago
As has been stated not all men just want to shag it because it breathes and moves. Coffee or a drink is more about meet in a public place that makes the female (and some men) feel safer about the first meet. It is a chance to get the all important first impressions. I am sorry but no chemistry no sex, and I get a strong feeling that I am not the only one thinking like this. So next time he invites for a drink first just consider that he may actually be thinking about you as much as he is thinking about himself. It is not always the little head that does all the thinking contrary to popular belief.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I may be too cynical. The profit margin on coffee is about 70-80% roughly depending on size (oh no, not the size thing again) and having here or take-away kinda stuff. Invite all the women you can from RHP to coffee at the same shop. Lots of beautiful women might attract more business, boost profits or at least get you a free coffee from the owner. Then again it's a lot of work just for a free coffee when you could be having sex. ... I am too cynical. I guess it just comes down to no matter how many txt's, messages, pics, phone calls nothing compares to face-to-face. But for me if you're going to go and meet someone then you're pretty sure about it already and I probably would leave the coffee and get more interested in... err other things involving less clothing. Arrange to meet in the hotel lounge and if all is well then go and have some fun. I'm just sorry I'm not anywhere near canberra right now
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RHP User
15 years ago
Merrywife, maybe some of us think it's a simple, informal way to meet face to face - and see if there's a spark! Guess I would like to feel there is a mutual attraction. Still, it's always open to either to say let's skip coffee and see what happens. I'm in Canberra regularly, so we could catch up and discuss further ... over coffee?
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RHP User
15 years ago
coffee?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I just love coffee.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Any opportunity for a coffee sounds good to me :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Dont know what they're problems are ..must be the wrong guys !
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee' Have tea, have hot chocolate, have a bloody glass of water for all they care. They just want to meet you to see if you are who you say you are and to make sure that there is actually a spark before they fuck. That is all it is. Nothing secret, nothing sinister and nothing time wasting about it. I dont want to have sex with someone I dont like and I guess it is the same for most men. I love the you think, you are exactly right......you hit the nail on the head, nothing more ,nothing less.......... I just wish a lot more people thought the way you do, it would make things a lot simpler !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'jdex72'Any opportunity for a coffee sounds good to me :) Yes jdex i agree ..... LOL... Well back to the question, coffee is always a good starter and gives people and idea for you too see if any connection is there unless your not bothered of course. Also if you have no pic up would you meet anyone for sex with no pic? My rule was always to have coffee first and a few times have broke it and been in a situation where there was definatley no connection then you have to get out of it, and then of course there are those who dont show up LMAO but im sure theres a good explanation maybe run out of credit, gas,puff, whatever!!!. and theres nothing like a good coffee to get the hearted started whoooooooooooo xxxx ms twoozfun. mmm a strong black sounds good right now haha.
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RHP User
14 years ago
God those people that fail to show up for whatever reason for a pre arranged coffee meet should be given the cane.......terrible individuals....(winks @ twoozfun)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'jdex72'God those people that fail to show up for whatever reason for a pre arranged coffee meet should be given the cane.......terrible individuals....(winks @ twoozfun) A good caning never hurt anyone in my day!!! bring back the cane i say..... a good bout of discipline just what the teacher ordered....... coffee wouldnt go astray either lol white and one thanks your buy!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I would fly anywhere for a good coffee and have been tempted to fly as far as WA for one, a coffee that is of course PMSL.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'muzza141'I would fly anywhere for a good coffee and have been tempted to fly as far as WA for one, a coffee that is of course PMSL. GEEE YOU MUST LIKE YOUR COFFEE MUZZA LOL HOPE SHE IS WORTH IT LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
I love coffee. And if I say I'll show up, then I'll show up. I'll even buy the coffee! Just need someone to invite me now ...
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RHP User
14 years ago
twoozfun, in respose to your comment, I unfortuantely havent had the chance to have a coffee with this wonderful woman but from all indications I am certain she will be worth it lol :) I will be sure to let u know when I meet up wioth her!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with having coffee first. A relationship between people (even if it is only a one night stand) isn't going to work unless you like and respect each other. You don't achieve that by pics or what is written in a profile. You achieve that by meeting face to face, discussing each other's likes and dislikes etc. etc. Pics can be fake and profiles full of lives. Not everyone on RHP is genuine. Meet first in a public place, then play later, the only safe way to go.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Merrywife - I agree, why have coffee first when you know what's coming..... why not just get to the good bit!
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