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Cocky or Confident?
December 08 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would say neither I would say empowered would be closer to the mark. just Rock it
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RHP User
16 years ago
There are so many things in life that people achieve through hard work that some would not appreciate, be it career, sport or physical appearance. The reward for the hard work is having confidence in yourself and a sense of achievement. When it comes to body image, there are plenty of people out there who are arrogant and cocky - but as a reasonably attractive guy (I like to think so anyway - too cocky??), I find it frustrating when others who have issues with their appearance feel that it is acceptable to label me that way - and it happens everyday of my life. If anything, it couldn't be further from the truth. I consider myself to be very laid back, fun loving, sensitive, intelligent guy - yes, I have big arms but that's because I've worked hard in the gym for more than 5 years and the reason I work hard in the gym - I enjoy it. I find it a great stress-reliever and I've made lot's of friends in the process. It's amazing how many people with body image issues have pulled the "don't judge a book by it's cover" line on me but at the same time, consider me to be arrogant - hypocritical at it's best! What is also funny is that I've actually been physically attractive to alot of these people - I love a girl with curves in the right places. Keep up the good work Sal and don't let the opinions of others get you down. If you feel good because you feel like you look good, more power to you!! Dom
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was laughing about this the other day.... I ride my bike to the gym.. motorbike that is.. and when I get there I ride in a cycle class to manic music for 45 minutes like a maniac... and then no matter what... I always seem to ride my motorbike home slowly and reflect on stuff. Why is that I ask? Oh by the way.. if other than riding home from the gym I go riding my motorbike and some cycle classes music just happens to come on my ipod... I ride like a maniac. :p HUgs Gazza
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playfulminx
16 years ago
Confidence is a good thing. I think some people fear that their confidence in themselves may get misconstrued as cockiness or arrogance but F%^k them lol In fact, is there anything really wrong with being arrogant or cocky even? As long as you aren't making assumptions about being better than anyone else, I think self-confidence or self-love is all good.Enjoy it! Especially if you've worked hard for it.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its so important to be proud of yourself and your body, no matter what. Even if youre not exactly where you want to be physically or emotionally, everyone has the power to change it and as long as youre working towards a goal there is no reason why you shouldnt feel amazing for where you are in your life. As a strength coach, the feeling I get when I see my clients achieve their goals, and the satisfaction they get from being able to fit into that dress, or push out the full set of 8 of their target weight on the bench press for the first time truly motivates me to work harder to acheive my goals. No, I dont think its cocky to feel great about yourself. I wish everyone felt that way about themselves!
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RHP User
16 years ago
First of all....I don't know what it is Gaz about a good workout that puts you in the reflective type, ponderous mood, but I like it. I love that you ride a motor bike to a gym so you can then ride a stationery bike....then motor home again :P And I love your profile pic too...I think dirty thoughts every time I see it! It is great to see people on here thinking like you all do...I like the word empowered. You all rock ! xx Sal
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree with the term "empowered". I know that sometimes Kilee & I feel we brag about our fitness/training (and how that must bore the pants of some)..but we too feel empowered by our achievements, and the results we get from the hard effort. by the way, we just teamed up for Ironman WA this weekend, and finished in just over 11 hours... talk about feeling empowered...yep that does sound like bragging... but hey ! I was so proud seeing Kilee smash her marathon time. Sal - you should feel empowered for your efforts and the results you have achieved physically, mentally and emotionally. Trev
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey everybody has to have something to make them feel good and occupy your leisure time, and i know a few people who it really is there hobby i guess. Personally Its not my thing, between work, the farm, and carting mr 15yo around for mx training/practice and racing there aint a lot of time left, but occassionally i climb on the mountain bike and go for a treddle, or better still have a session on the mx bike, but i ride fairly sedately these days, just don't bounce anymore, bones just break!Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
Its a fine line between pleasure and pain and also between "cocky" and "confident". You sound confident which is sexy and attractive. For me confident comes from knowing yourself well and realising that you may not be perfect but have lots of good points. Not taking yourself too seriously but but being self assured and empowered at the same time. For me cocky is may be taking yourself to seriously and not recognising your bad points ( and we all have them) and being arrogant and smug. To me definitely not sexy. Its a fine line but usdually sticks out like dogs balls
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RHP User
16 years ago
Can i just add the thought processes you have described as you made your way safely home from a work out, to me is the persistence of our minds to consistantly question our own search for contentment and usefulness.Before enlightenment, chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment, chop wood, carry water.You are a beautiful woman Salina, you are not cocky but a woman full of esteem and respect for herself...Now i have rambled dont know if this is even relevant..lol...But iam not deleting...andy said i had to press send regardless!!mwah xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
No, not cocky. Cocky to me makes you a bit arrogant, a bit pretentious, a bit presumptuous, a bit conceited. You seem to be more thankful and aware of where you were and where you are now and all that has happened in between. Sounds cheesy, but the attitude of gratitude makes a huge difference. Cheers, T.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sal, i think that is awesome, and you sound like a very confident person, but a bit cocky too! Adn belive me cocky is a great thing, cause to me it shows a bit of spunk. Bit of gusto! I think a little cockiness is greatin a person.Gaz, i believe the reason you may ride slow from the gym, is a Ailment called - CBF, or better known in medical terms- Couldntbefucked.Usually strikes after a hard session at the gym, and you jump on your bike feeling so knackered, that you" CBF Lfting that foot and knocking her up a gear" or "CBF droping twisting the right wrist"Used to get it after a big leg session, i'd just ride home in first
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RHP User
16 years ago
Being a husband to a sexy milf who used to weigh in at just under 110kgs.....Yes she really did top the scales. I know how confidence helped mrs Fitn to drop those kgs.Once the weight stared to fall off I noticed her confidence grow and grow. Other people giving her the time of day and in some cases thier phone numbers. Hmmmm. Now she is a Personell trainer too and she competes in bodybuilding shows at a ripped 58kgs..Not at that weight all the time though,not very healthy . Offen people see Mrs Fitn as being cocky just because she looks fantastic and is a confident women.They dont bother to ask her how she got to that size and shape. She would be glad to share her story and to have a chat with anyone who has the confidence to ask. Yes I am confident too and yes sometimes Cocky just because I have worked bloody hard to look how I look. Gee I would walk around naked most of the day if i could...Wouldnt get much done buttt,anyway could talk for hours on the subject but im going to ravage my wife now. Nothing beats a great pump in and out of the gym .. Rob xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
A personal trainer too hey. That is cool, we will have heaps to talk about when we met. I love being a PT and I too tipped the scales but at 96kg to be precise...pregnancy weight gain i just did not shake for a long time. Andy never new me back then.I have never got into body building or sculpting but I love and admire those that do it. Good on you Mrs Fitn and you too Mr Ftn for being fantastic and wonderful and supportive of your wife. Wow, the changes she would have gone through...and I don't just mean the physical! Mentally, emotionally...regaining or finding that confidence for the first time is a huge deal!! My previous relationship in part broke down because my ex liked the less confident, easier to control me.I completely understand what you are saying about her being perceived as cocky, I am quite reserved it takes me a while to open up so people peg me as stuck up or snobby very quickly...But then as Roughfkr says, perhaps being a bit cocky is not all that bad...After all as The Skyhooks once sung...."EGO is not a dirty word" hehexx Salina
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RHP User
16 years ago
Some bad typos...sorry :P
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RHP User
16 years ago
being confident in who you are regardless of race, color, skill/status, ethnicity and/or looks is up there ffor me and can be considered as sexy when looking for a partnereveryone comes with baggage but its how you lug it around that makes you...well youhaving played league most of my teens to adulthood, I've never had to worry about my physical appearance and with my background and hereditary, my metabolism is on steroids coz as much as I eat i can't seem to gain weight....i guess that can be a good thing coz i never have to worry about weight problems(if the cholesterol don't kill me), but even if I were to gain a bt of meat I'd still be confident on who I am, because of what I do and and how I got there....not because of how I look...dig? If you have baggage, whether it be physically or emotionally, keep your head up high coz most likely that baggage(I'm talking about your very own history here) is whats shaped and defined you to who you are today(empowered?)If you love how you look & feel, then be as cocky as you damn like....just don't get too cocky that its mistaken for arrogance
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RHP User
16 years ago
I love that. I am so stealing your quote :) This forum has really got me thinking...new topic tomorrow I think, following on from the theme. xx Salina
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RHP User
16 years ago
lol.. I dont mind.. I get to see you rpretty face Sal. :) Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was just reading your post in another forum. "Breaking the rules" I think it was called.I must be pmt'ing because I cried! Some of it brought up so much emotion, some I have not felt for a long time and it is funny, because I look now at this forum topic and think, Wow, I really talk the talk. I am just not convinced I always walk it. Guess that is only human.Hugs right back at you!xx Salina
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