Chronic pain - how does it impact your sex life?

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I used to, thankfully I found the cause (fibromyalgia my arse!) and therefore found a cure but it was horrendous when I was in it, I found sexual stimulation helped a lot while I was doing it but I’d often be even worse off afterwards so it did have an impact. It also caused me to stay in the situation I was in for too long because I believed no-one else would be interested in me as a person or a lover and that just made my health worse. Pain can impact you and your love life in ways you’d never imagine. Nobody wants to go without but how do you find someone who’s going to be understanding physically and mentally? It limited me in many many different ways, I didn’t want to meet new people and explain it only to have them reject me because it’s too much hassle, that loss of confidence saw me stay in a relationship that was extremely toxic and in the end down right abusive (because I got better and started standing up for myself 🙄). Unfortunately I think when you’re unwell it’s very rare to find someone who genuinely cares, you’re more likely to find someone who has munchausen by proxy and actually enjoys your pain or a narcissist who’s going to use it against you. I think my partner was a mixture of both 😂 and that’s why I lost my shit ladies and gentlemen.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  A year ago I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. Until I saw a specialist and was prescribed medication, it was very debilitating and painful, I honestly thought I might have to give up sex. Thankfully I am now mobile and supple again, ( apart from a couple of flare ups ), but it really makes you appreciate your overall health. Im still a bit wary and have written off wild sexual acrobatics ..... but I still enjoy sex and focus on the positives x

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I do suffer from endometriosis, my phone can't even spell this... Kinda shows how taboo it is. In fact 1 out of 10 women suffer from this condition, many not knowing. First time I heard of it was my previous gp, she asked me to google it... a few years later and I'm much wiser. Yes sex can be painful, but also pleasurable with a considerable lover. Its stopped/hindered me in some situations but also made me accountable in others. Its made me feel much more connected to my body as it responds very sensitive in some positions... any other questions? 😅 Lulu xxx

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  FeistyFatty

  4 years ago

  Welcome back LD👋

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I have rheumatoid arthritis and polycystic ovarian syndrome I haven’t told anyone on here I was too apprehensive to say anything because of judgment and then there is the fatigue from both diagnoses being in an inconvenience with socialising and dating and my diet as well to keep up with people so I don’t run out of energy and because when I eat I am a bottomless pit at times I haven’t experienced a flare yet from people who I can’t stand

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Definitely not sure if it counts for chronic pain but I have IBS and because of the randomness of its flare ups, and the horrible cramping pains it can cause, it makes sex hard to be able to try, and experimenting with a strapon etc is super hard as IBS can make that super inconvenient

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