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Chat Rooms and lack of manners
August 18 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
you gorgeous sneaky woman!! am I one of the ones to be blocked??? :O If I havent said hi babes its just cause well like I'm blonde and stupid, I tend to look for familiar names and I say hi back to those who speak to me. I will try and say hi to some newbie that comes in and says "hi room" or "hey everyone" but yeah sometimes I give my fingers a rest sometimes. It is hard for new people to come into a chat though will admit that. Nice test though babes, shows what ppl can be like in there. I find it funny that without cam, the guys don't wanna know some of the girls in there. I know I don't cam in there but I am too big of a big mouth for them to ignore me lol but I am sure I am on lots of blocked lists pmsl oh wells :) love ya guts hunny Kaito xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
... for the reasons I do not go into chat rooms. I'm not into competitive games and cannot stomach rude people. Clever girl, whatever you choose to call yourself and for whatever reasons. Thank you for the reminder. Cheers and have fun xxx
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Trent_23
16 years ago
ill chat to anyone as long as they respect me and not be rude to me or my friends then got no probs
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree that the lack of manners is amazing. I have been on here a bit and in and out of the chat rooms most nights. I hate seeing (and i hate to say this but its mostly guys) people pressuring or strongly requesting people to show skin. That said, it is a adult cam room which has certain disclaimers but I really think that there is a nice or propper way to say things.Wrong way : Want to show us your tits hunny?Better: Hey ..... you look amazing! I'd love to see more... (or something similar. Make it a request not a demand)When i go into a chat room i watch the conversation for a little bit, respond if its relevant and then go through the list of people in the room. If any of them live near me i generally look at their profile. As a matter of principle, I make a point of never making personal attacks on people in the rooms because it makes me sick when others do it.Last Saturday night i was in the CI chat room on and off through the night. At about 2am i joined again, saw that it was quiet (ie. about one thing typed every 5 min) and proceeded to go through the list of people in the room. I saw that one lady was from Shepparton (the fifth biggest town in VIC; rural area) which was near where i went to school. I thought to myself hmmm, that's different, someone from VIC talking late at night in a chat room based in Brisbane. I wonder if she has been to the club before?This is how the chat went:Me: Hey xxxxx (blanked out here) what brings you to the ci room? Shepparton is a long way away.Her: Whats it to ya dick head?Me: No need to be rude, i was just asking.Other person in room: No need for that language xxxxxx.Other person in room: Its a room for everyone Xer02.Her: But he was rude to meMe: I know that its a room for everyone, i was just asking if there was any reason in particular that she was in the room.Other person in Room: If you dont like him xxxxx just block him.Her: I just found the block. DoneMe: what did I do wrong?me: hello?me: To xxxxx i'm sorry if i offended you in anyway ...... (I went on to type out a massive appology for something that i have no idea for)After that no one would respond to anything that i said. It was like evryone had blocked me.I sware that what is written above is the full extent of the conversation. I did not say ANYTHING ELSE. Worse still people went after me including a lady on the cam from CI (will remain nameless) telling me off. I got threats of being banned etc... I want to say, How the f@#$% was what i said rude in any way? Why did this girl/lady not get told to calm the F^*# down by other people in the room?All i wanted to do was start some form of interesting conversation other than the usual "show us your tits," dribble that normally comes out of men's mouths in the room ( i know i am going to be smashed for saying that. I know that it is a GROSS OVEREXAGERATION but please bare with me, I'm pissed off),Another thing is that I have been blocked from some people for looking at their profile. For example, I use Firefox which doesn't let you just click on profile in the chat window. Instead I have another tab open with search username open. If i see that a couple or lady is from bris / Gold coast, I go and look up their profile. Same goes for is there is someone i am actually talking to, i will go and look at their profile regardless of gender / orientation. I read their profile sometimes just for interest sake even if it says that they are not looking for single men. One person (a couple actually) i saw was in one of the chat rooms was from brisbane. I went and had a look at their profile, which said that they were looking for men, women....... I sent a flirt saying "if i message you will you reply?" Go back into the chat room and a little message pops up saying that the user has blocked me. Now i get it that if the user does not want me to look at their cam or profile or just doen't want to be contacted by me then blocking seems to be efficent. However, it does come accross like I have done something to deeply offend someone if they want to exclude me. I think that a simple message (or whisper) saying no thanks not interested, is so much more polite. Thats my rant. Keep in mind that not everyone out there is out to get into your pants. Some people actually want to just chat. Tom
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree fun fun fun ... I am recently joined and I certainly did find it a little difficult at first and got many "crickets" and "tumbleweeds" to alot of my hellos However, with some persistance and continual pestering oh and a few gratatious cock shots, I am now kind of welcomed in some rooms. I feel loved
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RHP User
16 years ago
All of them are trying to get attention. What did you expect, everybody waits their turn? Of course its going to be a madhouse.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I said hey didnt i??I usually try to say hi to newbies...be friendly and allbut yes...it ican be clickybut in saying that...you did come on strong to those you knew...you knew who they were but they thought you were just a full-on newbie!!! LMAOBut as soon as peeps worked out who you were they were friendly right??The chat rooms have gone to shit....bullshit and shitstirring and crap going on Dont know what the moderators are doing....but they aint doing their job!!!Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeh I would agree with that. Just been in the adult room 2.44am Perth time (Can't sleep) Checked out a few cams and said hello to those I was viewing and tried to start and get into a couple of convos but just didnt happen. A general question was asked for all to answer (like a quiz) and I was totally ignored. Just plain rude and not very welcoming at all. So fuck 'em I say!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I know exactly what you mean. Some people seem to be very trigger happy with the Block in here. I can understand if somebody keeps harassing them which leaves them no option, but to do it for a little stupid reason like that just makes them appear like immature and bitter simpletons. People in here also seem to very quickly get aggressive towards males. I personally dont get the appeal of blocking. I like to hear other peoples point of views even if i dont personally agree with them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was there Feisty one, I did say Hi didn't I? But yeah, I totally agree with The Feist
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well..my first to to reply to a post. I was dumb founded because I said hi to funfunfun when she was using her new handle name..She said to me she was surprised I was talking to her.I asked her why is that? She then whisperered to me who she was....lol...I thought is was funny as we had not been talking for quiet a while...LOL...Well hope we talk now and it was a good test to see who has manners and who doesn't. I chatted to you..So maybe I have some manners..pmsl
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RHP User
16 years ago
yes the lack of manners sux, but ya gonna get that no matter where ya go. ppl dont answer back cause they cant keep up with chat or likewise i suppose, i cant get over the fact that ya cant do anything adult rated in chat 1! ya usually get ripped for it, isnt the state rooms for idle chit chat and chat 1 for adult/explicit talk, iI agree chat has gone to SHIT!! can go for a cuppa with friends and chat the same that we pay to chat for!!!! why the fark for???
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RHP User
16 years ago
i agree with quite a bit of what was said so i took the option of upgrading to enable "private chat " this has worked well although still find rudeness in various forms ..in particular people just quitting without saying see ya or bye... again just manners..
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RHP User
16 years ago
XER02. I actually whitnessed that chat. From memory I didn't respond because I couldn't believe the response you got and if I did respond it would've led to a confrontation. I agree with you about rudeness in chat, which seems to be more male on fems though.In General.FUNFUNFUN and Others. I am a person that comes into chat when I have a bit of spare time, often before going off to sleep and often while I'm doing other things on the computer and I glance back every minute or so. I kinow that we have "Hallo'ed" often. Only time you haven't responded to me saying hi to you personally was when the text in chat scrolls at the rate of the numbers on the fuel bowser when filling my car. It is quite possible to miss a hello or even miss the response in such circumstances.Some of the other people that replied here know for a fact that when I enter a room I first of say: "Hi EveryOne!" and after that I'll go down the names list saying hi to those names who have responded to me in the past. Same thing when I leave I'll first say " Nite nite EveryOne followed by sd or tc depending on the time of day. Only then do I say nite nite to individuals that responded to my hello etc by name.My point is that more often ( prob 80% of the time ) only people that have become 'friends' with me through my preserverance will respond to either my hello or nite nite. I don't chat heaps or but into other ppls convos but rather try and strike up my own. Should someone ask a question where I can help, I'll respond. More often than not there won't be an acknowledgement or a thank you for the response. Another reason why I don't chat like talk back radio is because I have a certain visual condition which makes it very painful for me when I concentrate on the pc screen continiously, hence why I alternate by doing something else and just catching up briefly with chat before it scrolls off the page.YES it is difficult for a newbie or someone not in a click group to make any headway or be accepted. I'm not a newbie, my 1 year Platinum membership expires in October and before that I've been some other lesser member for various periods. Quite frankly I am seriously considering letting my membership lapse when renewal comes up. I'm not here to get into anyones pants, I dont talk dirty and I often send a message to a profile along the following lines : "You look great and you have a lovely profile" Always end with: "Have a happy day/week or great night....., Regards or Take care" and my real Name.....depending on the time of day. I'm not into writing sleazy stuff and I am sincere in what I'm saying. At least 60% will ignore the message and maybe 10 % will thank me for the message. The rest come back with "I'm not interested mostly with some sort of abuse tacked on. I ask myself: What has happened to good manners or has society and/or our ability to communicate totally lost it? Next time you go to a shopping centre just say hello, or g'day to a few ppl and see the reaction you get. I'm sorry to say its not only here in chat......we have lost our manners......well lets say most have. The rudeness to ladies on this site is unbelieveable and quite frankly I don't blame them for reaching for the block button in many cases, but I don't have enough time to elaborate on that tonight.This is my first ever post in forums. I'm sorry if I bored you all and please I am not the Woody that usually seem to be active in the forum. Have a great time.Looking forward to saying Hi to you allTake care but have fun,Woodyguyperth
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have to say that i get so confused with people changing their handles all the time, that i simply cant be bothered asking who they are anymore.It gets way to tedious. But if someone says hello to me, i do say hello back, or at least i try as sometimes the room gets so busy with chit chat that you might miss some hello's.Yes there has been a lot of rude people in of late, but i just laugh at them and continue on with talking to those that chat with me.Life is way too short to get annoyed at a chat room, it is a really nice way to get away from reality sometimes and just be a simple person that chats to whoever she wants to without any crap and if the crap starts........just hit.....leave..lol it is so simple.Some people take the chatrooms way too serious, they should be fun so enjoy peeps and just go with the flow.If you do change your handle and have spoken to people for ages, let them know who you are please.As I for one, cant see profiles while i am in chat, i think it has something to do with firefox, so there is no way i can see who you are, so it is not me being rude, it is just that i dont have the ability to check you out until or unless i open another window, and most of the time i simple cant be bothered as i am just there to say hi and chill for a bit.Leesa
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RHP User
16 years ago
Seems there's a bit of a competition going on in chat to see who can block the most people!I myself have only 2 people blocked...both for being continually verbally abusive toward me.I dont block someone coz they arent what im looking for...chatting doesnt mean you have to fuck!!I try to say hi to most people that come into chat...its just good manners.But seriously....what ARE the room moderators doing???Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would like to add tha manners are a very hard thing to find any more, so when you find someone with them hold on to them.
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RHP User
16 years ago
There are chat room moderators???
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yes...apparently there are moderators in there watching all that goes on.Of course....I dont know this for a certainty...but what i do know...is that of late...some of the absolute shit that dribbles out of the mouths of some is just deplorable!Manners...respect....and good old self control seem to be alien concepts to many of them.Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
FunI thank you, as a newbie here it very hard to chat, or play noone givesyou a chance. Thanks for your comments. I have been thinking of cancelling this site, but might hang in for a while
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RHP User
16 years ago
Strange isn't it... how many come to RHP to 'play' and end up acting like children...Good will is another concept that seems to be lacking a lot of the time...Hugs allMrsP
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RHP User
16 years ago
I always say hi to anybody that says hi room or what every. If they say they are new i might say there is a virgin in the house but that is only to break the ice for them. xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
another thing to remember is lots of other people are already deep in conversation with others and dont really see others that they dont recognize ..ie; newbies ... its not always being rude ... sometimes it may take a little bit of patience with everyone in the room and remember its not all about one person
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RHP User
16 years ago
Eventually someone will come to the table.
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