Casual Ettiquette

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  i had something similar happen!! we said look listen when you next want to see each other. if you have already told her that relationships are out of the question then don't bother waste of time.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I had a friend stay with me for 4 days...He cooked ..cleaned ..washed dishes..helped make the bed too!:P  We went toy shopping and talked and talked...awesome!   I was so relaxed and happy!     It is made clear that is just FWB situation..   Friendship is there and time together other than sex.   huggies   sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hi Fly_boy,   The answer is "it depends" !   Firstly, ask yourself honestly WHY you want to cook dinner etc.  Perhaps you have feelings that are developing?   I can think of one RHP "friend" who I'd be totally fine with hanging out with, cooking dinner even sleeping with and it wouldn't feel any different the next day. The friendship is clearly defined and reasonably strong.   But that's just one....there are others I'd be very apprehensive doing that with.   I actually suggested the cooking dinner thing the other day to someone and think I gave them the wrong message ! I think they assumed I was suggesting more, I wasn't.  (I don't have anyone to cook with or for anymore...five year olds don't really count...and would like to share the experience occasionally. I'd be very happy if it was just cooking and NO sex!)   Hugs, Miss Saturn

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  cook me dinner sexy.lol

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  Letsgetcrazy09

  16 years ago

  Flyboy, that is the million dollar question really isn't it.  I have to agree with Miss Saturn here in that what are your feeling towards this girl.  If it is truly just a FWB type of arrangement and that is all and nothing more is being sought, just say "I'd like to cook you dinner just for being a good mate".  Surely there can be nothing wrong with that.  If eyebrows are raised, just play it cool and brush it off - if you're not playing games she should be able to see that?????   Oha and Miss Saturn, what did you want for dinner???    .... lol   Cheers Lets

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If its a "friend with benefit" arrangement....the operative word here is friend and if you consider her a friend then keeping in touch, and non sexual get togethers should be part of deal and you would look forward to seeing her. If its a fuck buddy aka booty call....then its a sex thing only, much like a prostitute but minus the financial incentive!Thats my take anyway! But only one way to find out......communicate!Cheers Nev....not into FBuds....i always want more....

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  tell her ya cooking dinner...and ask her what she wants...just DO it!theSHERIFF

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  ummmm...wtf!   Some are just a playtoy..But mostly they should be a friend first..that is why you are having fun together in the first place.   Any guy who just wants the sex and cant take me out..or cook meals together wont get my valuable time and my friendship or my cute arse.....lolololol   huggies   sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Making an effort speaks volumes for respect :-)   Thoughtfulness...so very underrated, but so very much appreciated.   And if there is respect between 2 people, then the communication is easy   Jx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Well the responses are vaired to say the least lol. The problem is that you can scare them off way too easy if they feel like you are pushing for it to be more than what it is. Onebrightstar- you're right. It is about respect. If she was just a booty call- then it wouldnt matter. But to actually want to have a decent friendship with a girl that you also want to keep sleeping with... it seems to be a fine line.Erzulie... get your husband to cook you dinner :P you forum stalker hahahaLove hearing all of your opinions on this!

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Communicate......i have been out to dinner, to the theatre dropped over and cooked dinner asked him over to hang a mirror......just dhill...relax and enjoy. It only gets complicated when you dont communicate what your wanting from the relationship. I dont want to have babies (OmG !) or paint picket fences with any of my FWB but i do want to be able to enjoy their company and do stuff, be a friend and enjoy them as a friend. Would you cook dinner for a female friend that wasnt sexual ????? ( The answer im hoping for is YES !! lol) so why would it be any different. If you have ruled out the posibility of a relationship you've done the difficult stuff....get on with it and enjoy each others company a hungry miss b

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  fuckin starvin manahahahahahahahahahahahahaEarl

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  If you are a bit hesitant to ask, make it easy for everyone. This is the easiest way to get everything you want and segue into whatever you want.   You invite her over for a [DELETED] after work at about 5 -530. After round one say "I'm starving! Good thing I had something lined up for tea! Come help me." Make sure you prepped everything beforehand.   If she protests, tell her you're not finished with her yet *wolfish grin*. Let her know at some point that her serve was going to be tomorrow's lunch. "tsk tsk tsk, that's gonna cost you!" figure out a penalty, say, $5 or a ffm threesome. J/K.   Then back to business as usual. A no-pressure taste of what eating together and talking would be like. Next time you ask her over for dinner she already has a nice (or not) experience in Memory Lane.   Random   Wow sticking your nose in other people's stuff is FUN!! Why wasn't I doing this growing up? That's right I was getting laid.

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