M42
CYBER = SOCIAL DEATH
August 17 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Pub for pool and beers! Let's go!I'm actually pretty busy and when I'm on here I'm also on a number of other sites and during the day working, at night studying. But I've cancelled the study for this year cos I'm sick of the bloody computer! The problem I have is with talking on the phone (it's a kind of phobia I developed in my first IT job and have never really recovered), which is a sucky one for me, but I'm happy to use MSN or SMS to say "pub, beers, now?"2 hours a day for three months though - that's just fucking ridiculous. Spending 2 hours a day for three months with someone counts as a bloody relationship! With someone you've never met! What a weird request. Besides, who'd want to waste all that time chatting with you? What a waste of good man flesh!
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RHP User
15 years ago
can i just say i love that word and if you dont mind im pinching it haha i agree although i do spend a lot of time on my computer...im on and off through the day but i will msn with people that are also on and off at work through the day but talking to someone for hours a day for weeks and months before you meet yeah rack her off i reckon id prefer to meet as soon as possible to see if things click and work out where to go from there cause like you said...you learn nothing on just with reading words on a screen good luck and welcome to the forums cybertard roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
perhaps this is more a symptom than a cause. a symptom of a disposable society.there's very little sense of community these days, of being part of a whole, that they have to find new ways of being connected to other people, hence the popularity of facebook and other online community sites. even in that attempt, there's still a massive distance, because these days, words don't feel as "real", nor the does the fact that there is someone at the other end of those words that could possibly be affected by it.long gone are the days when you used to have whole neighborhood barbecues, when kids used to play with the other neighbourhood kids, cricket and footy on the street. Now they're all kept coddled indoors playing computer games and watching tv. afraid that the bogeyman is going to attack, when more often than not the predator was someone already inside the house.gone are the weekly dances where people used to meet new people. I don't mean nightclubs, but actually dances where a boy and girl danced with each other. got to know each other instead of rushing all the time to get that momentary fix. when did courtship become such an unfashionable practice?we're so estranged to each other now that bystander apathy is rife, hardly anyone looks out for each other anymore. case in point, of the people that stood there and filmed someone on their mobile trying to successfully committ suicide instead of going for help. more interested in being the latest hit on youtube than concern for each other.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I live in a rural town. I know my neighbours. I know all the kids and their parents in my son's class at school. I can walk down the street and talk to at least ten people that I know. I also visit Sydney frequently and the first thing that strikes me is the lack of eye contact. On this and another dating site I have met and made some fantastic friends. Some of whom wil be friends for the rest of my life. I would never have met them if not for the internet, let alone had the chance to get to know these amazing people in real life. Many of the men I chat to are CEO's and General Managers of large corporations. These men do not get home from work until nine, nine thirty at night. They would like a little down time, a little conversation and at times some feminine company. Because of work commitments they have no time nor the inclination to go out and socialise. Therefore I conclude that the internet is a facilitator of social interaction and not the demise. Happy surfing people, fionabee
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yes, yes and yes s'more! But hang on...its gen Y that created this maelstrom of online antisocial behaviour...take your message to FB Youtube etc....reckon you would get stoned for espousing such heresy amongst your peers...lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
IF it wasn't for the net we wouldn't have had some of the most pleasurable experiances that we have had . It is no substitute for real life but im afraid we can't do without it NOW Yes the pub ,and a freindly game of pool is great , chatting over the fence , barbeque's with freinds you cant do without either. NOTHING BEATS FACE TO FACE REAL LIFE U NEED TO FEEL WHAT THE WORLD HAS TO OFFER HAHAHAHAhehehehehehe Enjoy while you can Life can be ver hurtfull
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RHP User
15 years ago
my parents would no doubt agree with you train.. Iv been what some would call a "nerd" ever since I was 4yo running MSDOS!Simple truth is that I CHOOSE to be here.. I'm not big on clubbing etc.. FB wasn't created to kill off face to face meetings but more as a way for people to keep in tough!!I agree with Fiona!! some of the most interesting people I have met.. I met on the net!!Each to their own!! Have a mint slice! :D(ps - My first post on here EVER)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Social networking sites like FB etc we not made with the intention of getting people to spend hours in front of their PCs (which I know is what has happened). They idea was an easy effective way to keep in touch and meet more people to chill with.. I didn't need sites to make me a nerd. i was born one.. i'v been PC bound since I was 4yo!! good'ol days with MS-Dos and SNAKE!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I love the interent...I get to chat with (online and I have met some of them) very interesting people..I catch up with family and friends flung across this wide globe of ours...I get to bitch about seemingly unimportant topics without fear of reprisal - well vocal and physical...and all from the comfort of my work office chair or my loung at home. Sure I go out and socialise with people in the real world - but out there I have to behave myself, be wary of who I say what too and I have to put up with the other idiots out there but here...nope...I dont have to do any of that. Its my choice if I join in or even 'listen' in to a conversation, who i spend my time with, no one is spilling any drinks on my nice clothes or eating with their mouths open in front of me.. yep this works for me. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi to all.. Thanks for all of you valid convos and opinions and these things i can " tolerate " coz its a discussion lol someone said about that FB for instance wasn created as an addiction and to get reaquanted with friends etc and thats fine i do as well B U T.... if i want to say hello to someone i yell across the fence, pick up a fone or get my ass in my hot ass ute and see them. It also seems that people have a different perosnality in " cyberland " that they can be whoever they want to be and therefore are untrue to themselves. Some of your said that you have met some wonderful interesting people and BLA BLA BLA BLA on here well let me tell u this... I am an astronaught, i once threw a stone 100km, I climbed mount everest twice then ran up it coz i was bored, i once caught a fish < --------------------------- > this big... all INTERESTING stuff but its words on a screen anyone can be ANYTHING on here.. HOW BORING get off your asses and experience the world and new people.. again some people said they dont go clubbing pubs clubs etc.. well thats fine but how hard is it to make REAL friends that you can be urself with.. AGAIN one of you said YOU CHOSE to be here.. well im very sorry for you.. despite your own admission to beiing on here have a look at yourself with an OPEN EYE.. and see if you equate to SOCIAL DEATH 1. i spend ..... so many hous on a computer vs how many hours i see REAL friends = social death 2. i have more " cyber friends " then real friends = social death 3 .i feel more comfortable talkin to people about personal stuff then friends = social death 4. i am more confident, comfortible talkin to people then in real life = social death 5. you race home to jump on the computer after work = social death 6 . you play world of warcraft = ( im not even going to reply to that one ) In short social death cyber people hide on computers and away from the world and themselves for what ever reasons and have a total lack self motivation, confidence are slowly grinding social interaction down... Happy day to all you real people out there hope you have a great day and gleebin giggerbyte compute compute 1011100100111000100011100001001001110010 to all you socialy cyber corpses....
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RHP User
15 years ago
hey focus just in addition dont you think that is a prime example of social death... the fact you dont like " drinks spilt, people eating with their mouth open etc etc " THATS LIFE you would rather spill doritos, canned cheese and mother drinks while playing WOW with ur daggy pajamas on while facebooking, youtubeing, msning, and talkin to complete strangers a world away then experience life and fun for real???? yeah its good to chillax sometimes but cmon.... u cant tell me a convo.. a bunch of letters typed on a screen from someone that could be ANYONE is better then hangin out with new or old friends in what ever scenario.............
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'trainer1984' hey focus just in addition dont you think that is a prime example of social death... the fact you dont like " drinks spilt, people eating with their mouth open etc etc " THATS LIFE you would rather spill doritos, canned cheese and mother drinks while playing WOW with ur daggy pajamas on while facebooking, youtubeing, msning, and talkin to complete strangers a world away then experience life and fun for real???? yeah its good to chillax sometimes but cmon.... u cant tell me a convo.. a bunch of letters typed on a screen from someone that could be ANYONE is better then hangin out with new or old friends in what ever scenario............. The people I spend a lot of time with online I have met in person and catch up with when ever I am in their area or they are in mine. I have a large circle of friends all over this wide world of ours and it isnt always possible to catch up in person however with the advent of web cameras I can 'call' them quite regularly and for me that is a more personal way to chat to them than over the phone because I can see their faces this way. This is how I get to catch up with new and old friends alike. as for the pjamas - you obviously havent been in my apartment because you would realise I dont wear pjamas...WOW - no way in hell...I dont do comp games...as for experienceing life for real - sure I do and I do go out into it - I even venture down your quite regularly (possibly even passed you in the aisle of your local Coles) but please dont fret over me for too much longer because I am moving to be closer to a large proportion of my social circle but thats is in no way going to stop me from being an acive online user...but hey when i am next in your area how about you take me for a lovely walk around your neighbourhood and show me exactly what it is I am missing...I am touched by your concern for me... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Cyber corpses, cybertard..and I thought RSL( & the like) = Above ground cemetary...was funny! I see the benefits of the net, being to open a whole new world of opportunities to those who wouldnt ordinarily cross paths. A few years ago, in association with TAFE, a few colleagues & I set up chat room access for ppl suffering social phobia, & other similar mental health disorders, which proved a huge success, leading all participants into some form of education/employment/reconnecting with their community. More importantly, however, was a significant improvement in a chronic & debilitating condition. As with anything, we humans tend to use and abuse the good stuff. Not rocket science & hardly containable. but hey, without the net, we wouldnt have been entertained by you expressing your opinion.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hello fello CYBERTARD, SOCIAL CORPSE followers, Just so you are all aware i am NOT BASHING THE INTERNET... i am simply cyber bashing cyber punching in the face the people that do nothing but sit on it and the people use it as their ONLY means of socialising i do like all the comment opinions from both sides of the fence though on stand by for my upcoming forum on CYBER ABUSE !!! some dude called me a cock sucker coz i wouldn let him suck me off and he got abusing so stand by for some fun cyber ranting :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
so are you expecting to be linched by the nice people here or are you just another single male for us intellegent people to play with??? i think you will find all sorts of walks of life on this site from the lonely housewife and the single mother to the corporate ceo...the the wizz kid nerds and the socially inept so who are you to say that we are wrong to be here personally i have met half the people i socialise with and the only reason i havent met the other half is because i havent got round to it yet im a single mother with 100 kids...i dont get out much...i dont do the clubs and pubs i have plenty of friends and family that i talk to often...i even leave my comfy chair sometimes and go visit them....hell some of us have long time friends and family on here i have never travelled..never wanted too...but in the last 3 months i have gone to Sydney twice and Melbourne once and next weekend im off to Canberra...to meet people that i chat too on the net more importantly on RHP...people that i would never have had a hope of knowing if i wasnt on here i have been places i would never have been if i wasnt on here so yeah the net might be my place of fun...my place to excape...50% of the time but the other 50% im off with these great people having the time of my life and no...like the fabulous Focus...i dont play stupid computer games either roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
well LONGFORD ( my last name is ford btw ) As i stated above you clarifying my point I AM NOT BASHING THE INTERNET OR PEOPLE THAT USE IT i am on the internet RIGHT now typing this so would be a hypercrit to say all people that uss are socially inept MY POINT was to the people that LIVE on the internet.... The PEOPLE that cant LIVE without it the ones that devote MAJORITY of their time to it. The PEOPLE that do MAJORITY of their socialising on here the internet is a wonderful tool to meet people hands down no arguement. MY GRIB VENT is to the COUNTLESS people the have become a slave to technology and have become socially incompetant that they cant live without this tool for communication happy reading stand bye for CYBER ABUSE VENT :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'trainer1984' well LONGFORD ( my last name is ford btw ) As i stated above you clarifying my point I AM NOT BASHING THE INTERNET OR PEOPLE THAT USE IT i am on the internet RIGHT now typing this so would be a hypercrit to say all people that uss are socially inept MY POINT was to the people that LIVE on the internet.... The PEOPLE that cant LIVE without it the ones that devote MAJORITY of their time to it. The PEOPLE that do MAJORITY of their socialising on here the internet is a wonderful tool to meet people hands down no arguement. MY GRIB VENT is to the COUNTLESS people the have become a slave to technology and have become socially incompetant that they cant live without this tool for communication happy reading stand bye for CYBER ABUSE VENT :) just so you know Mr Pyrmont...you werent above me when i posted...just thought id clear that for the record if you wanna rant go right ahead...everyone here knows i rant quite often myself but dont go putting us down because we enjoy our time on the net socalising its our life and we decide how we want to live it roxxy...not caring what your last name is lol
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RHP User
15 years ago
Its all coming undone...a simple cyber rant....eloquently displaying some excellent points...BUT...never underestimate the brains trust to pull apart even the most well intended of posts. Now you see ladies and germs, THIS is a discussion...no name calling YET (germs doesnt count cos it just doesnt). Ok, intermission bell is ringing...back to your seats..and on with the show :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
MYNAMEONYOURLIPS... SAID IT RIGHT A eloquently point made.... longford you have still MISSED THE POINT i think i may need to draw it in crayon tape it to a brick set fire to it and throw it through your window... if you consider yourself apart of the social inept, cyber addicted corpses then fine who am i to judge i am deeply sorry for you.. it was in NO way ment to offend anyone or be the cyber poison under cyber skin or in your language be the trojan virus hahahahahah and it has you because you have turned a discussion into a personal matter ( again im sorry for you ) and since you a " cyber women " and all over this cyber discussion / lingo / argument / point making / rantine etc there is no way i can will nor will i try or be bothered too and im male and so we can never win anyway i was simply ranting about the countless people.... ...oh bugger it you know what i said no point sounding like a broken record and il end this discussion buy simply saying CYBER = SOCIAL DEATH THE END !
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RHP User
15 years ago
Reading your first post reminded me to put the bins out. We all know how much of a disaster that is when they are full.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'trainer1984' MYNAMEONYOURLIPS... SAID IT RIGHT A eloquently point made.... longford you have still MISSED THE POINT i think i may need to draw it in crayon tape it to a brick set fire to it and throw it through your window... if you consider yourself apart of the social inept, cyber addicted corpses then fine who am i to judge i am deeply sorry for you.. it was in NO way ment to offend anyone or be the cyber poison under cyber skin or in your language be the trojan virus hahahahahah and it has you because you have turned a discussion into a personal matter ( again im sorry for you ) and since you a " cyber women " and all over this cyber discussion / lingo / argument / point making / rantine etc there is no way i can will nor will i try or be bothered too and im male and so we can never win anyway i was simply ranting about the countless people.... ...oh bugger it you know what i said no point sounding like a broken record and il end this discussion buy simply saying CYBER = SOCIAL DEATH THE END ! carefull when you line up Rose to take pot shots with such a vile tongue you'll end up with a rep you wont want
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm with you...100% but there's an even worse cyber f**ktard roaming out there-the kind that is an even greater time waster-the kind that approaches you-which means they must have read your profile. So you think what the hell I’ll send a 5day old photo of me with severe sleep deprivation-and if he’s coming back for more-well I can likely work with blindness it’s better than boredom and more likely he’ll have more character than some whiny loser with no real issues that likes to piss and moan over everything and project their insecurities onto you. And yet upon its receipt-there is more pursuit-and they send a photo. You think well he wouldn’t necessarily frighten the villagers in a small town in Eastern Europe to gather torches and pitchforks. (well not at this stage as I hadn’t got to know him). So you think ok I'll meet this person as they seem like the kind you would allow to approach you in the real world (ie in his approach it was not “Greetings random rhp female I'm going to bone you six ways to Sunday while wearing a gasmask, clingfilm and playing Wagner”-it was “Hi hope ur having a nice day!”). So trainer1984 –(I’ve read your profile and yes done the training list-but you’re missing a few and I’m over being the teacher as well) plus I'm definitely with you regarding this what’s the point of one million emails/phone calls before you meet in the real world via bulletproof glass and a chaperone –to find you are never going to want to meet naked. For me-it’s either going to happen or it isn’t within seconds and when you've met the best lover you’ve ever had on the whim of going home with him and his best friend for one crazy night and then staying amused/tortured for 2 years -this dicking around (sorry for the pun) online really isn’t for me, I’m online as it saves having to deal with unnecessary f***tards in person-which is what I thought most people went online to do anything (well I do) not to live there but to streamline your life. Anyways-so you go-to his house-because f*** I need an adventure after these last 18 months of trench warfare I’ve survived and you think I'd rather die in this misguided pursuit of happiness than die of freaking boredom that seems to now surround me on a daily basis-but because “mr secretive and yey twisted like me (or so I thought)” is last minute in his plans to get his place to himself- you have an ok time. It’s a first meeting after all-no drink to calm the nerves and you can't really relax because whatever your concerns there’s also the added factors of you're not quite sure if he's the decoy for the bikie gang that’s going to come bursting in the room at any minute or his boyfriend/girlfriend is going to show up and you’re just the random prop in their s&m rape/kill scenario. So the deed is then done, well-I wanted to know if I still knew how to do it after keeping to myself for a time-apparently I do-and still quite well. I go with the policy any guy that’s truly got his shit together-doesn’t care where he’s met you or how long he’s known you if he can see who you are he wants you, he doesn’t get bogged down in petty details-least the kind of evolved creature I’m seeking for anything long-term-would be so-the past doesn’t/shouldn’t matter it’s present and the future. (Idealistic-much?) So based on my performance I get rave reviews, I get told to call him, I get several messages before I even leave his street-while I’m telling my best friend on the other phone that’s called me to ensure I’m alive-it's ok call off the search party and my other friend the policeman-I have survived unscathed yet not unsullied. You then follow up-as instructed (which you think is part of the role play you've discussed) later that evening and you're now made to feel a stalker for the count them 2 sms messages (you send in reply to his several msgs that afternoon and although your phone was jammed with the >30 you had received that day let alone that many again the day before and the day before that). The only reason you gave him attention is you thought to yourself: 1.well after so much attention it wouldn’t be polite to leave him hanging ; 2. he’s younger you don’t want to crush them (bless my DNA for my family’s lack of royal lineage but great skin Liz II would die to have); 3. I can't be bothered sifting through the applicants again-and why should I have to learn a new name/address as he's healthy, fit, disease free and shown promise-he’s really, really strong-and is rough like there’s something to prove so it’s likely to be better next time when he relaxes; 4.and most importantly he tells you before you leave to call him. Frankly-I don’t care if English is your 15th language-this is conveying you are keen and totally unnecessary upon parting in any culture if she’s already taken her clothes off for you. So despite his weirdness (always a by-product of intelligence) you call a few weeks later as you were instructed /encouraged. You are then told when you call (based on all of this preamble and believing that you are still in the role-play). Wait for it….that…. you're not their type? The implied meaning is that somehow a lunatic f***tard (ie him-that I found out what the word was in his language and called him it) should be my type or only option. Because he can kick a ball or whatever it is that he thinks that makes him special or superior to me or any female? Does he not think I know that if he was all that why is he single and on a web site contacting me? Living where he does-you can go stand in the road throw a rock and get laid-I know I’ve done it. Well I didn’t even need a rock-I was at a bus stop and he was a pro-skater. We had a bus stop thing for a while…well we’d keep meeting there. Anyways this online experience has been educating and amusing it filled in a couple of weeks-as I needed something to do till TrueBlood was back on…and I was feeling nostalgic for the good old days that the show reminds me of-bizarre love triangles, six hour sex sessions, strange relationships and addictions-you know my life before the hellish 18 months of operations, medical incompetence causing more problems/infection, nearly dying, relationship breakdown etc. Truthfully-I’ve transcended sex-I’m not even looking for love anymore-I have all of that I need but it would have been good to have someone that can hold the same space of consciousness and energy-I was fairly clear in my profile what I was like and if I had to put out to get that I would have….I enjoy making someone feel good…as most don’t have the capacity mentally keep up with the other stuff I like to do. At worst, at least now I can say I have ticked off the talks like Count Dracula-as he ended up being more like freaking Renfield- unreliable-such a pity. Despite his bad behaviour-I haven’t told him go and live in a mouldy cave in ******** where he is from but I guess it is “implied”. Meanwhile-someone else has shown up in the real world without me doing anything other than being me, and he is beautiful, grown up and he’s not a cyber f***tard-and he doesn’t think I’m intense. I’m not running down this online experience-I think it’s great if it works for you I know someone that married someone they met online-but it just doesn’t work for everyone-so don’t get discouraged-like the truth they are out there. Or maybe like this guy they’re just like Zapp Branigan off Futurama they have a sexy learning disability “sexlexia” so it makes them less functional to begin with in a cyber setting unless they get "help" or disclose their disability to their partner you don't find out till it's too late. Can you believe anything anyone says online-or anywhere-really?
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RHP User
15 years ago
baby just cause you say THE END doesnt mean thats it i have nothing...but i wont let you have the last say either you wanna throw that brick through my window little boy go for it...bring it on roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Total_Recall' Quoting 'trainer1984' MYNAMEONYOURLIPS... SAID IT RIGHT A eloquently point made.... longford you have still MISSED THE POINT i think i may need to draw it in crayon tape it to a brick set fire to it and throw it through your window... if you consider yourself apart of the social inept, cyber addicted corpses then fine who am i to judge i am deeply sorry for you.. it was in NO way ment to offend anyone or be the cyber poison under cyber skin or in your language be the trojan virus hahahahahah and it has you because you have turned a discussion into a personal matter ( again im sorry for you ) and since you a " cyber women " and all over this cyber discussion / lingo / argument / point making / rantine etc there is no way i can will nor will i try or be bothered too and im male and so we can never win anyway i was simply ranting about the countless people.... ...oh bugger it you know what i said no point sounding like a broken record and il end this discussion buy simply saying CYBER = SOCIAL DEATH THE END ! carefull when you line up Rose to take pot shots with such a vile tongue you'll end up with a rep you wont want thank you Rob you make me smile...mwahhhh roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
...oh my oh my.... Earl, Mr Handle, Myname, Andreweagle, get your cute bums over here you got to watch the lovely Roxy in action and with Rob to back her up...... My heart is all a flutter...this should be good...I do love a good Roxy rant ...don't you? Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
You've gone and done it now Trainer. Roxxy, go easy on the boy for he knows not what he has done...'braces for impact'...lol I'm all for a vigorious discussion, however when it comes down to name calling and threats...then its no longer a discussion...its boardering on harrassment. So please, lets keep Forum a safe place to play in.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' baby just cause you say THE END doesnt mean thats it i have nothing...but i wont let you have the last say either you wanna throw that brick through my window little boy go for it...bring it on roxxy i was nice ladies ...see!!! im a nice pleasant lady who would never resort to threats and name calling but you cannot expect a girl to lay down and play dead when someone threatens to throw a burning brick in her window....i already have one looney tune at me...im sure another wont matter roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
very interesting reading there peoples and such nice words being used too,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, so good to see the harmony take hold of our days isnt it ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Um has someone done something to trainer he seems quiet ???? or is it his afternoon nap time poor child ,,,,, isnt it up to every individual to deside what and how they spend their days ?? after all it is THEIR LIFE . oops did i say all that was just thinking it Andy
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RHP User
15 years ago
For a pain in the butt? Coccyx actually, but lets not get bogged down in the details. I dont bother with googling anymore, RHP ooze pondies are far more informed....and fun.
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