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But I met him at The Bakery..

November 09 2012

I was having a drink with a buddy last night and she was chatting about her current man interest. I've been listening to stories of this slowly growing relationship for a few months now. It seems to me both people are pretty keen for it to continue. But It at that stage were she feels decisions need to be made.But each time I tell her "Why don't you tell him what your thinking?" She comes up with a bunch of excuses. One of which is always "But I met him on RHP". I've heard this from some other friends too.I don't get it? To many preconceived ideas about people here me thinks.If you met someone on the beach would you assume they were a whale and throw water on them?If you met them in a hospital would you think they needed Pannadol?If you met them at the local mall would you try to pinch their skateboard?It's all rubbish!! I think about the only generalization you can make about people at The Bakery is that they are not freaked out by boobies and pink bits. Something that I hardly think is a weakness.After all, I'm sure you could meet a desperate, sexually depraved, scat fan in the meat isle at Woolies any Saturday morning.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I think people just tend to assume that if you do meet anyone off here and want it to develop further, the only thing the both of you will have in common is a mutual extreme enthusiasm for sex and have nothing else in common. Or that it may lead to awkward questions later on down the track with the 'how did you two meet?' questions.But one thought that is lurking at the back of my head is that maybe she doesn't want things to develop with a guy she 'met off a sex site'? I have to admit I have a double standard when it comes to this. Earlier this year when I was single and on here, some of the guys who I was in contact with indicated a willingness to try a relationship, which I found abhorrent, although at the time I was open to the idea of a relationship with anyone else NOT from the site. So I don't want a guy I date to have been on a sex site before, yet here I am? Yeah, I can't explain it either.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    If I meet someone and we click. Then I don't care if my first vision of her was legs waiving out the top of a wheelie bin on the verge. Discarded head first by the local crack dealer after his mates had finished with her.After I've got all the disposable nappies out of her hair and she's had a blood test. I'll be all hers. Yep, even my heart. Assuming she can carry something that big?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ....and a few of my best Bakery friends have mixed happily with my normal buddies for years. I'm always proud to tell them where we met. It's not awkward after the first time. Besides, it keeps my normal mates guessing ~laughs~

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'LittleRedEngine'....and a few of my best Bakery friends have mixed happily with my normal buddies for years. I'm always proud to tell them where we met. It's not awkward after the first time. Besides, it keeps my normal mates guessing ~laughs~ you met in a bakery, over sourdough?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    if he is still here,he would only be here for the forumsx R

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    my family and friends know that I am on here so if I was to introduce them to someone I had met here and stated how and where we had meet there wouldnt be an issue.   My Mother met her mna on a dating site, my Aunt is on other as for the Bakery I see this is a place where we are open about our sexual needs/wants/desires and as many people will atest sexual compatibility is important in a relationship so this seems the best avenue for it (if youre looking for a permanent relationship)   Kisses Focus

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I met someone off here a long time ago and we did the whole living togther thing for 3 years....sadly (for me) ...he was a serial cheater (so be it) ..this hurt me ALOT..beyond compare actually..and his cheats mainly came off this site..and Perth is small   When arguing about his infidelity (s) ..he would constantly remind me that we met off a quote: "a fucking sex site" so what did I expect ?? Oh RHP had a gun to your head....sorry....confused there for a sec..thought we had free will....   Um ...I expected fidelity OR if he wanted to shift the boundaries around and wander outside the box..at least renegotiate and agree on the terms and conditions of said relationship - I loved him so was open to anything he put on the table..but that wasnt to be...he just wanted a bit on the side and adored the thrill of the chase...note we were also a active swinging couple..so trust me he wasnt like missing out at home.   I think Amuse states it perfectly in her first paragraph   Would I be open to having a relationship with a person I met from here again ? Yes..   and if they are the RITE person for you, it truly makes no difference where you met

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    A long while ago there a topic regarding the status of people you meet on this site....A lot of men were brutally honest and admitted they would not take the women they found here home to meet their parents. It was a very shocking thing to think that is how people think about the members here.....but appreciate their honesty. So judements all round and women probably assume similar I know I have asked a few men how they found this site and almost all were recommended by other men. So I assume they come looking and they will agree primarily for intimate encounters only.I stumbled in here and am so glad I did the forums would be so beneficial on a few of those vanilla sites people being honest. Learning and sharing.I have to say when I realised that there were people on here actually serioulsy looking for partners I was surprised but in reading posts I learned sometimes that was a good way to find another sexually compatable partner.Also ratios I suppose the more people you meet the more chance of finding a quality person.I have however come across many a comment over the time about people who did meet here it lasted and then ended but ce lest vie could happen anywhere.Pie anyone?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Its not just rhp its all internet meetings. Even if I meet up with a female as a friend only, then people say, ohh where did you meet so and so, and if you do not have your story ready its a very awkward moment. I have a lot of women friends off rhp, and I have to duck and weave when my so called vanilla friends ask questions. I say they came to my studio to look at my work. I have only been on here a year. My friends would be horiified if they knew I was on RHP.. Think of little old no sexual lady, someone’s Mum , you know Julie Andrews but cant sing. Its a class of culture in many ways. People will use it against you, women and men have been outed on sex sites by private eyes as they go to court for custody. Yes we get judged and harshly by being on a sex site. Her is an example, I stuffed up yesterday. My iphone I sent this massage that I thought went to one of my lovers. Hi hon, sorry I have not fixed up that thing you wanted me to do , as I am out shopping. Glad you like my new boob pictures, they must be good as my other lovers are wanking all over them. My lovers are fifo, and what the hell is is there to do in the dongers anyway It went to a very straight friend, who knows I am married and knows my hubby she sent this back “ You are a skank, and your in a relationship what are you up to? “ I said, listen its a Vegas text, it was not meant for you at all. I know she will not say anything to my hubby, he would be pissed not because I have lovers he knows that. But because it got out into our other life. That’s what he does not want for anyone to know. I mean this guy hates face book or any other internet stuff,very very private man. Its public perceptions and right or wrong it can really fuck you around. The real world is not so forgiving as the RHP world. I would still however be with a man I meet of here, if you do then perhaps you stop hunting around when your married for something missing in your life. Here you at least can be open and honest with your sexual desires. LRE you are one very sexy man with a very sexy brain. He has great hands as well girls, he can build anything

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    If I started a serious relationship with someone I met from RHP I would just tell people you met on an Internet dating site. A vanilla one. You don't need to go further than that. Yes I think lots of men see women on a sex site as a refreshing change from the boring vanilla but would they take us seriously. No. One part of them sees us as sluts... make people who cant be faithful? They still have this idea that you should only be serious or marry good girls. So... Not guys I want to meet anyway. I do think it is possible to meet and get serious about people on here. I met someone fabulous. He is more a friend than anything and I hope to know him for ever. M

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Welcome back MissV. What does you new name mean? Just wanted to say the man you had your relationship with was a cunt. That is a bullshit thing to say.... What did you expect about meeting someone from RHP? Well I expect to meet someone with common decency and principles not a cheat and liar. I hope you are over him now. Meeka

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hello Meeka...and thankyou....for you kind words and your constant support thru my many reincarnations...   Yes so over him....except for that pesky court case looming :)   His still on here...no he doesnt read the forums..(thats requries commitment - not his strong suite ) but seriously that is the only way his gonna meet anyone, from here as its the only place he lurks.....so accordingly...I guess he will always spin that line...cause I so cant see the whole infidelity thing changing   I hope you are well....me Im doing ok thanks :)             Missing my instant posting priviledges :(

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    After just came out of 6 yrs relationship, i guess Being single at the moment decided to join Rhp is definitely a good choise and a good place to be in to meet others ,and due to my heavy work load schedules and goin away lots ,this place seems perfect for me, i usually chat a bit meet up for dinner and drinks and whateva after that,... its been fantastic ,its been good in my own experienced ...and i dont see it as anything wrong or i wont persue if things goin great between me and the other person, also when two people felt for each other it doesnt matter wether they meet on here or other places, i believe people will persue it, and if i happened to mee him here, i definitely will abandon this site when asked by the other person to do so its actually more like the rite thing to do, trust is everything so if you cant provide /shows you can be trusted why bother persuing it regardless where you meet them on here or anywhere else...But one thing for sure i will miss the adult forum though ,ha,ha..its been very helpfull and an interesting place, Adult forum is great.. and i know not everybody here are looking for sex only or full of players ,cheaters or somewhere along that line, i know lots of guys here are very decent men and women, with high morals and principles and they just happened to choose to be part of Rhp becouse they enjoy meeting others, and times are in short supplies and if i happened to meet him off here, i know i only ever gonna chose and be with a good man with high moral and priciples in how his conducting his daily life activities, definitely not those useless ass holes who'll say remember where we met??!...oh my !...thats not gonna happen to me for sure , therefor i had to be extra careful and filtered them through wisely, who i met and fall for, so meeting them through here isnt goin to be an issue for me its the behaviours is the issue...assholes are not in short supplies and they are everywhere in and out of RHP.

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  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    13 years ago

    It doen't matter where you meet,its the person you meet.As said above, you just say you met on a internet dating site. Good & bad everywhere,you just have to sort it.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    For me, the possibilities are endless for meeting potential partner material. Be that potential for marriage, or just a random thing. After all in my mind it doesn't matter where I meet them, it doesn't matter under what context I meet them, what matters is that we are happy. Happiness is one of the best things that life has to offer us. I am very comfortable in speaking to people I know offline about me being on RHP, and other sites. So many people seem to be very insecure about where they meet their partners. My ex wife and I, met whilst I was doing security. She was drunk(very I might add), I was the proverbial baby sitter whilst doing security at the nightclub. I remember it quite distinctively actually. I gave her a smack on the arse as she hadn't seen me floating about, and she gave me the biggest hug, a kiss on the cheek, and then proceeded to whisper in my ear "I'm going to fuck you!!" Makes me smile alot thinking back on it now.   The thing is, if 2 people have the connection, and are BOTH open to making something happen, then it will happen. I also think that, for us as a group of people that claim to be non-judgemental about others, we sure are very quick to judge ourselves for meeting someone on a predominantly "sex" based adult site. In my view, we are only non-judgemental toward each others sexual promiscuities, fantasies, and endeavours.   So I say it loudly, and very proudly, I am a member of RHP, and what comes my way in the form of interraction, comes my way. What matters to me, is that I'm taking the journey.   I hope this helps, because if I have wandered off the beaten track, then I'm in all sorts of trouble

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Lost_Focus' my family and friends know that I am on here so if I was to introduce them to someone I had met here and stated how and where we had meet there wouldnt be an issue.   Mum, dad, this is Gary. We met at The Couples Club. Bettter have the nitroglycerin handy.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    It is estimated that 80% of all relationships in the 40 plus age group begin on line. I met my partner on a site very similar to this. It took two days for us to meet and at the time I was extremely happy being single. (Coincidentally my long term playmate owned the local bakery.) I met my partner for coffee with the idea that we could have sex a couple of times a week as a FWB situation. Two weeks later I accepted his proposal of marriage. Ten months on and we are still wonderfully happy together. Do I trust him to stay faithful? NOt on your life but then I wouldnt trust a man I met at the local church group either. How do we know what is in the future? We can only take each day as it comes. I simply tell everyone that we met on line. Anything more is nobodies business but ours.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    The majority of respondents seem to think it's fine meeting someone for something serious here? Sure they are going to be sexually overt and possibly want a more "open" relationship that a vanilla couple. But I'm guessing if that is discussed and understood at the beginning, it's OK. In fact given the nature of this place, it's something you should chat about the minute you start to feel your casual relationship stiffening.@DeviousmissM - if you are sure nitroglycerin parents, I may have to get some.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    You come to a stage in life where all around you is perfect. Perfect in your eyes. And the once who cant see it.....fuck em. I am sick and tiered to pretend what I am not...so I dont pertend. When a man meets me on RHP and is not thinking about anything seriously because of me being on RHP, he is a big pretender and in my eyes an arshole....But ok he is his own arsehole, can I change his thinking, no I cant, do I care...no not a bit. I speak with many people and yes my friends and my sons know what I am up too. I found when I am honest with people when they ask and I am blunt and tell them, they cant argue anymore. What they think is up to them, I would say many would loe to be and do and be free as most of us, but to shit scared what someone would think.   And again the bottom line on all sites, EVERYBODY WANTS SEX.....it doesnt matter how we go about it, under the line the endresult is SEX, so what?Why not shout it from the rooftop. I WANT SEX AND AN ORGASM......then I feel a life Why should I be ashamed on what site I find it?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Hear hear Litonya!Quoting 'Litonya' I WANT SEX AND AN ORGASM......then I feel a life Why should I be ashamed on what site I find it?   My close friends and family know that I am a frequent customer of the bakery. I am not ashamed to tell friends that I am on here and what goodies I get to partake of. What they think of me is irrelevant to me (only to the extent that it can/how it will affect my kids, if it will). I met someone from here when I first started nibbling at the samples on offer. It could have gone a full blown relationship, but not only was I not ready for it, I also had this thought that I can't trust a person that I meet on here. By the time I had come to my senses and realised that I am on here as well and I CAN be trusted, the moment had passed and he had moved on. C'est la vie.Now, it doesn't matter where I meet a guy, my friends and family would all assume its from here or from somewhere much worse.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    My parents both suffer from heart conditions. Better safe than sorry!

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Yes i went for a check up after my first visit your profile. My Doc' says it's ok if I limit my self to 3 visits a month.

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