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Bullshitters...and your advice for others on how "NOT to be a Bullshit Artist"

October 03 2010

OK, not that I think I'm good or anything, whatsoever, honest! It's not that... I DO understand that, in this game we play not everyone you meet is going to be 100% satisfied with their experience, and might not want to meet up again. Whether it may be due to their lack of satisfaction with your performance, stamina whatever..maybe they were not as attracted to you as they initally thought....maybe I was too fat, too noisy, too dirty, not dirty enough...jelous that the hubby was too attracted to me, and I sucked him off better than her.....hehehe.......who knows, who really cares. But anyway it's happened a couple of times now.....rejection! Alllll this is very new to me hahaa... not long out of a 14 yr relationship. I can handle the rejection, not having a sooky la la here! ..Just wonder why people have to lie? We are all supossed to be grown ups here, yet people have to tell these silly little bullshit lies, like we're all back in high school! I am here advertising I want casual, random meets with F's M's and CPL's. I don't want to be your girlfriend or the 'third person in the marriage'. So you really don't have to lie to me?! My late grandmother told me once 'Speak your mind yet still be kind'. 'If' you're contacted again and you're not so keen on meeting them again. Maybe you could say something like "Hey that was fun, but I'm not really wanting to meet people at the moment" or something, at least. Instead of saying after months and months of chatting, swapping pics etc... "I have a gf, my bad". No you don't you loser, I know everything about you lol...? But the funniest thing is, with that guy and it's happened before with another dick, and a couple, he came running back a few weeks later " I'm so sorry, forgive me, give me another chance"...? Farrrk offf mate. Not so kind Grandma I know, but that's karma baby! How do you reject prior 'dates' you'd rather not see again, without being total deceitful ass......................? It's be nice of you with experience in 'rejecting' others kindly, if you could share your ideas with others that need some help in this area.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Ok, this is something I've been practising. I say "I'm sorry, I don't feel a connection with you" or "You seem great but I am looking for something else at the moment" or "I think you look fucking awful, you repulse me and I would run screaming if I saw you in the street so no, I don't want to let you touch me, let alone get inside me, no matter how awesome you think you are at giving head/fucking outdoors/giving multiple orgasms"... Well not that last one, I try to be diplomatic at first, but I might use that last response for the ones who reply "Ooooohhhh come on! I'm much better in real life!"... Rejecting people with respect is just as important as coming on to them with respect. We are all humans here, all with wants and needs and fetishes and kinks and positives and negatives. Sometimes we don't mix - I have experienced lots of rejection but it's all a learning curve. Learning to be graceful is important! I am SO open to more ideas!!! (Because sometimes I'm seething from being rejected and other times I'm seething because the rejectee won't get it!) Can we all agree to just say "Thanks, but no thanks! I wish you well!"??? BB

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RHP User

15 years ago

Basically the thing is that people don't really want to hear the truth and others don't want to deal with confrontation. I myself find it really easy to reject someone nicely if i haven't met them (ie first message or flirt) but once you meet face to face it can be harder, i admit in this regard i can be a bit of a coward and wait till we are online next and tell them over msn or txt that 'i am sorry but there was just no spark for me/us, you are lovely but i don't think we will work out'we have had people who just stop answering our messages or txt and we just get the hint and move on we don't take it personally.And sometimes if you are honest it can end badly, people don't always react well when being rejected and they dont always hear what you are saying in the way that you mean it to sound so a lot of people do think that just telling some little white lie (or bullshit story as you put it) is just a softer way to go about things. My advice is this, dont expect people to be straight up with you, don't take things personally and just have a great time Mrs GC

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RHP User

15 years ago

needed to reject ones I have been intimate yet. There have been some that just naturally gravitate away with no hard feelings on either side. Nothing said but the messages and meets get gradually further and further apart. I have had to say a few "sorry. No spark or connection" to few I have met for the first time and many more through email before meeting. I guess I have been lucky that those I have become intimate with are those that I would have back again...and again. I tend to be very selective and take my time before progressing to the intimacy stage....usually. Fionabee

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