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Bored with life
December 18 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sex is boring? Geezus ralf your in a bad way. Comon pick yourself up, dust yourself off, tis the season to be merry, so get out to some parties and boogie :-) Fly the helicopter, you've abseiled out of one, sheesh!! Aqua
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everyday life, particularly when you are in rut, can be mundane. I don't get bored as such but I do get restless..., so that's when it's time to plan another adventure. A holiday, a new activity that you can be passionate about. Actually a new job is good as well. I think you need to feel challenged, that you are striving to do something a little outside you comfort zone regularly. Keeps you young and interesting!! ;-) I am not a fan of New Years resolutions but once year my resolution was that every month I had to either do something I had never done before or go somewhere I had never been before. Some months it was quite simple and other months it was quite dramatic and wild. Is all about getting out of the comfort zone. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Funny you don't cum across as one to let life get you down! We all have phases in life but geez (young active fiesty)would be words i feel suit you! Like your direct Witty comments on here,keep chin up! Maybe a xmas adventure is on the cards for you,after events this week both here and Pakistan I count my blessings !!sure things will turn for you 😙
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RHP User
11 years ago
Be the time of year :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Voucher. Go parachuting. Awesome fun, been way to long since my last As for the humdrum of daily life. That could be something that comes and goes, maybe in a few weeks it could go. But if it has been a persistent feeling then you should look for a change. Easy to say, hard to do, I know. There must be something that you would really like to do, something right outside your comfort zone. We humans are not very good at the monotony of comfortable living, the receptivity lacks excitement, lacks something to keep us on your toes. What that thing to do is, only you can know. It may be simple, or complicated but if you set you mind to the task you will immediately start to feel new excitement at the new future prospects. Me when I feel like that, I poke a tiger in the eye, that gets the blood flowing. Though as I age its harder to find such tigers. Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is a big part of your life Ralf..perhaps if you worked in a chocolate factory,you would feel the same way about chocolate :)...change your job...volunteer some time where the focus is not on you..you are one of the most fortunate people on the planet.enjoy that status..perhaps you have a mild form of depression Ralf,you might just need to redirect those neural pathways ..Hugs Freya xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
You, my dear, need to find yourself some new boys...... Were you doing the whole 'Geez the ceiling really needs a coat of paint' thing? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting to see some men's reaction to Ralf's comment that sex is boring. I often find random sex and hookups boring. I need really good chemistry with someone for sex to be great. Admittedly it's probably because I didn't follow my usual rule. If you can take it or leave it, you should always leave it. I also think a lot of guys that come from the "hookup" culture such as RHP don't make that much of an effort which makes it boring also. I admit I have been caught myself looking at the clock before. It's more my fault than anything else tho.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Ralf Fly the helicopter, it sounds awesome....... If the pilot is cute ..... Who knows, maybe a double treat Hope Santa brings you something special
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RHP User
11 years ago
I spent many years being nothing more than numb from the hair down. Jennylee saved me. She makes life exciting. I reckon she could save you too ...and even if she can't, I'd enjoy watching her try.
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RHP User
11 years ago
2nd - Buy a puppy
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RHP User
11 years ago
From Tuesday's with Morrie: Dedicate yourself to love others and your community and making yourself valuable to both of those. And it's true!! Eg; I once felt what you felt... I have an amazing job that pays well, I have a large circle of kinky sexual people I play with, I have a wife who plays the sexual lifestyle also with our circle of contacts, and she also gives me freedom to explore my massive sexual addiction with others, I have 3 amazing children, lots of mates, and achieved most goals I ever set myself... And yet I was bored. I woke up one day and decided to get my motorbike license (something I liked as a kid).. Got my bike and rode which was a thrill, but little did I know it would lead to complete happiness. I joined a social motorbike club and my life changed forever. The motorbike club world is a community stronger than I ever imagined.. True brotherhood.. And it's all about helping others; chairty rides, raising money for those in need, seeing first hand how I can make a difference in people's lives for the better.. Helping the homeless, the sick, the children, or people just down on there luck. I rose to Vice President of my club and specialised in bringing the other social motorbike clubs together and forming a massive network. I play a vital role in that world, I know so many selfless people, Amazing men and women who live a life of pure freedom and by their own rules, but give so much and focus so strong on helping others. It's fair to say boredom is long gone, and replaced by a feeling of finding my true self... Freedom, respect, brotherhood and doing great things.. All at the same time of looking cool and still having wild sex with other wild people!!! To ease your boredom, don't rely on material things or one off experiences ... Find a community to be apart of, one that makes you love others and the community around you.. Feel important and gives you true feelings of worth and inner peace!! Then life is free.. And you'll love every second of it.. And no one can ever take that away, and if they tried, you would fight with your life. Put yourself out there and create a passion for something dedicated to those around you. Helping others, something that gives you projects to work on and achieve. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're sexy. Intelligent. Aware. Sexually active. Healthy (I'm guessing). How can you be bored!? In this day and age!? Or any day and age!? So much to do! Though it doesn't all have to be adrenalin based. Boredom is a very luxurious complaint. So much to entertain and stimulate thought and and the senses. Smash something for the thrill of it, then find out how to fix it. I love to read to stir my mind and my thoughts get buzzing for days with the right book. Cooking too! When I got no money to go out. I stay home and get imaginative and creative improvising food out of what ever I have. Particularly stuff that takes ages to cook. Long sessions of sex are always energising as well. Especially when you get to eat what you've made after or during. Go to a park, sit in the sun or rain or wind and immerse yourself in the sensations. Even watching the people. Where are they going? what are they all doing? why are they so weird and beautiful? Birds singin', leaves played by the breeze, sounds of traffic, sirens so much to let your imagination and mind take hold of. This is all cheap shit too. Think of yourself as a mammal. A creature. A big part of but also indifferent to civilisation and just get to notice and feel with how everything around you pulsates with activity and all you gotta do is lay in it like a warm bath. Start painting, poetry. Just for pompous indulgence. That's how I feel about boredom anyway. I'm hypersensitive though. Does redballon have any books on curing boredom?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go to a retreat ... have some spiritual healing ... rebalance and get rid of all the toxic stuff life throws at us. Pamper yourself coz when you love yourself then the world will love you too and you will be back on the horse looking for that sexy ride of a lifetime sooner than you think. I'm feeling in that same funky mood too and having my pamper/healing session next week. Ive always wanted to do the hot air balloon thing ... but love white water rafting too. Hugs LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ralf, Am really sorry to hear you are feeling down and I know it would have to take a hell of a lot to put a frown on you If it was me and I was in a rut I would choose something that was as much out of my comfort zone as humanly possible so if your afraid of heights then maybe choose parachuting etc. Nothing like overcoming a fear and really stretching yourself to make you feel alive and proud of achieving something that is purely for and all about you. I sometimes bang on about it but for me, my love is rock climbing and being in the outdoors. But over the years I have also found its the friends that I go climbing with that add so much to my experiences and make it special. So going back to what your original question about what to do with your voucher. Maybe point some thought into who your going to do it with in addition to what your going to do. xox W
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way :-( Do we need another Yum cha date???? As for the voucher, how about a couple of laps in a really fast car
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RHP User
11 years ago
Long cold showers whilst banging my head on the wall and humming a loud monotonous tones seems to make me feel much better once I stop. Variations on the theme might include imbibing half a bottle of good shiraz, before, during and or after. If one bangs and hums loud enough concerned strangers knock on the door shouting "ARE YOU ALRIGHT IN THERE?' I can then entertain myself deciding to let them suffer by not answering, or running out naked shouting back, "WHOSE THERE! WHOSE THERE!' After this, you can try looking death in the eye by 1) trying to take the dogs bone back. 2) trying to sneak past the cat on the way to bed without feeding him ... ankle scars to prove this is not a good idea really ... The adrenaline rush will keep you awake half the night thinking of how you can do it better next time ... exciting stuff !!
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RHP User
11 years ago
yep you're in a shit spot....I feel for ya... Living out of this truck only getting out of it to see my girls gets fucking mind numbingly mundane... But then I think that life ain't so bad as I'm free really. I've no rent to pay, I've only got my fatherly commitments, but other than that I'm free. But that's why I'm continuing my studies to be a pilot and a light vehicle mechanic so perhaps it's time for you to say fuck the world as you know it; buy a caravan and become a grey nomad. There's plenty of life left in ya as you're only in your 40's. As for the voucher; well I'd be going flying the plane of course; it may just stir a new passion that will breathe life back into ya.... Chin up darlin else stir will be making a visit to that sex shop of yours to bend you over my knee 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Aristippusx2
11 years ago
Don't know much about the red balloon expererience but you could try volunteering. You may find assisting those in a permanent or temporary black space can provide you with the lift you need. Perhaps there may be even a opportunity to brighten some ones life and your own with a red balloon donation. Whatever you decide please keep in touch with those that love you
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RHP User
11 years ago
My life is actually fantastic in all reality, I have a great immediate and extended family, even the outlaws don't piss me off. My kids are happy and healthy, I am healthy, I don't struggle for money, my job is terrific, my bosses are incredible, I have everything I could ever want materially and then some shit I really need to get rid of. I have international holidays every year. I really have a good social life, I get plenty of sex until lately because I have just put a stop to it. I have pretty much done everything any of you have suggested from books to relaxing to volunteer work to adrenaline rushes and I feel I have no right to complain at all. I don't take that stuff for granted, I know my life is great, however...something is leaving me empty inside and I think that is someone who cares about my needs instead of asking what I can do for them and that is the groundhog day thing for me with men and sex and this site and life in general, everybody wants and nobody gives.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' I spent many years being nothing more than numb from the hair down. Jennylee saved me. She makes life exciting. I reckon she could save you too ...and even if she can't, I'd enjoy watching her try. Not having someone special to share my adventures with I think is the crux of my problem. Unfortunately there is no easy fix and I just have to try and just wait my turn.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Is a big part of your life Ralf..perhaps if you worked in a chocolate factory,you would feel the same way about chocolate :)...change your job...volunteer some time where the focus is not on you..you are one of the most fortunate people on the planet.enjoy that status..perhaps you have a mild form of depression Ralf,you might just need to redirect those neural pathways ..Hugs Freya xx that sex is a big part of my life but it isn't the amount of sex I get, it is the lack of caring for my needs that is boring me. You could be right about the depression but everything else in my life is great except the bits about me. It is almost like I am living my life for everyone else. I love my job for the fact I can help people, enlighten them, give them options and scope for growth in their own sex lives. I find my job very rewarding in that respect. The lack of business atm is boring me, too much downtime.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'thesaint83' Boredom is a very luxurious complaint. So much to entertain and stimulate thought and and the senses. Smash something for the thrill of it, then find out how to fix it. I love to read to stir my mind and my thoughts get buzzing for days with the right book. Cooking too! When I got no money to go out. I stay home and get imaginative and creative improvising food out of what ever I have. Particularly stuff that takes ages to cook. Long sessions of sex are always energising as well. Especially when you get to eat what you've made after or during. Go to a park, sit in the sun or rain or wind and immerse yourself in the sensations. Even watching the people. Where are they going? what are they all doing? why are they so weird and beautiful? Birds singin', leaves played by the breeze, sounds of traffic, sirens so much to let your imagination and mind take hold of. This is all cheap shit too. Think of yourself as a mammal. A creature. A big part of but also indifferent to civilisation and just get to notice and feel with how everything around you pulsates with activity and all you gotta do is lay in it like a warm bath. Start painting, poetry. Just for pompous indulgence. That's how I feel about boredom anyway. I'm hypersensitive though. Does redballon have any books on curing boredom? and I feel guilty even having a whinge about it especially when I have participated in every single thing you have mentioned except writing or reading poetry, I can't do cryptic crosswords either?? I indulge in a lot of things, I want someone to indulge in me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'youmeequalsfun' I'm so sorry you're feeling this way :-( Do we need another Yum cha date???? As for the voucher, how about a couple of laps in a really fast car we need yum cha :) race cars would bore me too, maybe a rally car though!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its fine to offload sometimes, sounds like you are in need something special. What it is? who it is? (don't want to mention the L word on this site) You can look and try the many options available, but that spark, that heart throbbing excitement is not something that can be picked from a menu. You will have to wait it out, and Xmas time can highlight the hole in life's perfect day to day. The need for strong arms to be held by, and a soft caring voice to make you smile and glow. And all the other things that make someone feel so special. The world is full of lots of caring selfless people, you most likely see them every day. How does one get the opportunity to open those doors to have a look. I personally don't know, but I do know its a lot easier if you have your welcome mat in place and the door unlocked. Not to let in just the next stray with puppy dog eyes, you will know when, you will be unable to resist. I am sure you know all that already, but we do every now and then need to get things off our chest, as you have done in this thread, to be listened to and maybe understood. Your posts show you as a caring and kind person, so i am sure if you have the welcome mat out something special will sooner than later be wrapping at your door. So i cross my fingers, sort of like a prayer to the world, symbolic kind of pointless, but just to let you know, that people care, I am sure many others will do the same, just cross their fingers and send you a wish. Don't worry about your post most get where you are coming from.
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
When you feel empty and lost, and on consideration most things in your life are pretty good, talk to your doctor.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meaningless Sex is simply meaningless and eventually we realise how useless it is . Something to fill the Void . It only scratches one little itch and the amount of ourselves we have to give is too much for too little . I hit a rut a couple of years ago and thought "hey , maybe this is my Mid-Life Crisis ?" I decided to turn my life around , ultimately quitting my long-term job (which I'd wanted to do for years) and choosing a completely new path . Now I'm studying Marketing online , never thought I'd end up doing that ! I also decided to get back to my roots and start focussing more on doing the stuff I used to love . This has opened up new pathways in my Life and now I feel like I've gotten over that hump . Relax Ralfie and enjoy the ride ... Life begins at 40 ;) GG♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like u are now looking for love ... To be loved ... Sex is a good 'fill in' for love but will never fill the need for that feeling of true connection and whole ness that is love. Very very elusive stuff though unfortunately ... Keep looking though ... You just never know when you will find it .... Good luck 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Your Voucher, go the rally car, that sounds amazing and so much fun.... Push your boundaries, find something that gives you that rush/excitement without the sex attached to it. Concentrate on you, maybe have a short break from here (not for to long but), I know when it gets to me that's what I do and that usually works a treat. Reassess your thoughts, your wants and needs, spend some quality time with the ones that matter, pamper yourself and remember that you're a top chick....can always come to QLD and visit......hugs to you 💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a theory that boredom is often loneliness in disguise. We humans crave intimacy and connection, including of course physical and sexual intimacy. By that I mean real depth of connection, not just the physical act of sex. We crave it emotionally as well and I think when there's a lack of human intimacy in our lives we can start to shut down, put up walls, feel flat etc. I agree wholeheartedly with Freya about the importance of recognising our privilege in this world and reaching out to others. And I agree with thesaint about boredom being a luxurious complaint. I don't say that as a judgment - neither did TS as far as I could tell - but as an observation of perspective. Many years ago I started to observe the curse of choice that was afflicting people around me. So much freedom. So much opportunity. So much choice. It all started to become ho hum, because on the scale of privilege across the world (where Australians are generally at the top of the scale) no-one around me really had to work for anything. I also read something that's really stuck in my mind. Basically it said that at a certain point in your life nothing is new anymore. You've had so many experiences directly or vicariously, and even if you haven't had the experience you can imagine it clearly in your mind, therefore nothing has that feeling of anticipation and awe anymore. At which point boredom sets in. While there are plenty more experiences to be had, the idea that none of them will be truly new is kind of sad, but I've definitely felt that way for a while. And so I think the true cure for boredom is to develop a sense of awe about the world and people. And to really, sincerely cultivate your gratitude for life and your many blessings. True gratitude changes everything. And to connect with others in a meaningful way. Find new communities - meetup or volunteering are great places to start - and have new human experiences. Also, cage diving with great whites could work ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm going to buck the trend here Ralf, how about a roadtrip? Pack the car, get your bestie and just pick a destination and stop at the little places and see what trouble you can stir up. As for the voucher..., how bout a makeover and glamour vintage photo shoot risqué variety? Just remember, life ebbs and flows; if we didn't hit these ruts the smooth ride would also get boring. (Soft smile) Indy blowing you......a kiss x
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RHP User
11 years ago
If ralf doesn't steal your idea, I will :) I LOVE road trips (as long as someone else is driving). And I suddenly find the idea of a risqué photo shoot quite titillating! On a side note, imagine a sexy, risqué of a bunch of RHP women. That could be quite the bomb. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Photo shoot! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounds like you are missing (that) feeling! Like the movie - he's just not that into you! We all want the crazy feeling someone special brings! Perhaps hitting forty you are reflective (been there)! Happy shagging xmas
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Hottie1
11 years ago
You do so much for others, from great advice on the forums to organising meet and greets. You are an amazing mother ( I know this) your someone's friend, daughter/sibling etc. everyone wants something from you, yet the intimacy and care you so rightly deserve and should demand isn't fourthcoming. When I started feeling this way I started with a conversation with my GP, she is a beautiful woman, who gets me ( and close to where you work) Now I've been told off before for advocating this but my GP prescribed a mild anxiety tablet for me. Like you, I knew what my blessings were but my life had been steadily changing and I hadn't really noticed till one day I felt lonely (despite all the good things in my life). Kids had grown up and really didn't need me, they were living their lives (exactly what we want our kids to do), my gorgeous man has been a shift worker for over 17 years, including working every weekend, so we didn't even have a social life 😔 as B_L has said, it was loneliness for me too that made me feel that way. I now find time for me and expect hubby and kids to do the same. It's easy to forget ourselves in this busy life and I love all the advice above, but I'm going to disagree to a point. You need someone to give to YOU, for YOU, because YOU are worth it! Beautiful lady, sometimes that wait for the right person is fraught with much angst. Now as your friends ( some much closer than others) we need to give to you. Young equals fun has a yum cha date with you, sir_stir is happy to give you a spanking, I love the idea of sexy photos, geez those beautiful boobs need to be on show. YOU matter to so many people, it's time you matter to YOU. Much love always, Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meditation. That really helps keep me centred. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
1 flip a coin 2 move - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There you go ralf, lots of positives !! Patience is a virtue! Your next date could be the ONE? Aqua
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RHP User
11 years ago
What works for me when I get a bit lost is to hit the exercise, mainly long bike rides, the exercise and blood to the brain, fresh air, seclusion and a destination seem to combine to cure what ails me.No iPods, just my thoughts and an open road, particularly at night with the quiet and the aromas from gardens and bush, very therapeutic. Sometimes a solution in itself, but more often the catalyst.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I think I needed it and I think it has helped me realise that is isn't the lack of things to do in my life, I am flat out doing all sorts of things, but the lack of having someone there with me to do them. Thank you all for the wonderful advice and food for thought but I think Mary has it in one, I need to look after myself because I am always too busy looking after everyone else. I need to be selfish which is a hard task for me because I love to give. Thanks also for not attacking me for my first world problems, I know how petty and ridiculous it sounds. As for the voucher, I am probably torn mostly between flying the helicopter or parachuting, so I might take BO's suggestion and toss a coin.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ill take you flying for free so keep your voucher for something more exciting :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Might not be the ideal answers but: take a walk, meditate, breath, live outside of your head, get a dog if you don't have one, meet sex partners / girlfriends by initiating conversations in real life, break routine, just pick a red balloon adventure without second thought, practice [more] gratitude, watch standup comedy, eat more raw food, (s)exercise - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I've found day to day life getting mundane...boring even…I start planning an adventure. But first I have to look for one and figure out if it's even feasible. Weighing up the costs, the time needed, etc….and what happens after the adventure is over…because real life must go on afterwards, unfortunately. But adventures are a great way to recharge the excitement batteries and bring back a bit of zing in life. They don't have to be expensive either..that's why you need to plan them carefully. For example…my brother recently rang me to tell me he was going to drive over from Cairns to visit me in Perth…he'd been feeling down with his job, and had 2 kids to raise until this year. He arrived yesterday with his girlfriend and he seems much happier. I did an adventure road trip like that a few years ago on a motorbike to the Kimberley…by myself, of course…the company would be nice, but you can't wait around for it. That trip took 5 months to plan.I'm needing another adventure now so I've been planning for a few months for a trekking trip to Iceland in February. By myself again, it's easier to plan just for myself anyway. But it will be like nothing I've ever seen before…hiking in sub zero temperatures with icicles in my beard, fur lined hood pulled tight.That's the fantasy anyway. But there's no reason I can't make it real with enough planning and preparation. And I need to grow my beard a bit longer… Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your feelings are real,not petty and ridiculous at all..You are halfway through your life..The old fashioned mid life crisis...it!s always a good thing to stop and reflect on what makes you truly happy...of course giving to others is wonderful but if it drains you.not nourishes you,then a few things clearly do need to change..Finding someone of significance to you is a goal...perhaps a new goal...I hope you find him hugs Freya xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ive know this feeling before, and it can really get you down.These extreme activities are awesome, and give you a real rush…. But its a temp high. And even days after can make you feel more bored and restless coz your looking for that rush again.This is only from my personal opinion… But i started looking for long term highs and goals.New hobby, sport, start a small business… something you love but offers a long term positive future. For me.. I joined the reserves… This offers so many challenges, new skills and people. And the options are endless. So yer, my opinion would be look past a sudden thrill and find something that'll thrill you for life
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Petsonally I'd RHP to do a Forum Girls Calendar for each state. Lol I'd say territory as well but haven't seen many/any NT or Canberra ladies post. Of course it'd be the girls choice of thene for their calendar but I picture Meeks for Miss April (Fluffy bunny tail in tow), Freya could be Ms June for end of financial year, glasses propped on nose looking business sext like naked behind a desk, Aurora Sky (LD) sizzling Miss January heat in the tropics I could go on but maybe it's a topic on it's own? Roadtrip Ralf, let's go northern beaches NSW, through Coffs Harbour, Byron, Tweed Heads, Coolie, Mt Tambourine's nice this time of year the blitz through Brisvegas to the Sunny Coast abd Hervey Bay, I have a 2 woman tent that will sleep 4. Haha 🙊
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I must be excited 😎
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ralf74...Your post, and some of the comments provided, struck a cord with me. I appreciate your honesty.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You Need to Go do a Week or weekend at the Golden Door !!! , You will feel So Different about every part of your Life !!! when you walk out the door .. Amazing xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
They say, superstition is born out of a lack of knowledge. Its true, look at the dark age's. My problem is this, the more humans come to understand the workings of life, the universe, our planet, when there is nothing left to discover, we have conquered everything, no new experience's to be had “we all learn off each other“ their will be no more mystery left, in a way no more dreams to be had, thats why childhood is such a wonderful time in our lives. We believe we can do anything. What im trying to say is the more advanced we become the harder we are to please, having everything is not the answer. Isn't it amazing that someone that has a terminal illness can be so at peace and caring for the others around them even when their young. Happiness is not trying to find the next mountain to conquer, its about finding that mountain inside of you, that place that gives you strength, beliving like a child in your dreams, take time out, slow the clock down, discover yourself, do something simple and appreciate that moment. Love every day you have!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
........................find yourself a sub who only cares about your needs. then focus your urges to help others on people less fortunately than yourself. Being around such people grounds you. Need unconditional love and a loyal best friend and constant companion ? - get a dog.
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RHP User
11 years ago
first up guys and girls there is no way any self respecting helo pilot will let a novice even touch the controls while it is airborne so I think what they are saying is go take a fighter flight best fun you will have as for other ideas try shark fishing great fun when you land a big one that will get your heart pumping . Anyway buck up and have fun I do know exactly what you are going through
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RHP User
11 years ago
Here we have these spectacular busy complicated lives but still feel dissatisfied and empty, or bored. Problem may be that our expectations of life are now so high that real life can never match. Maybe the loss of community contributes to our general disconnect and feelings of boredom/loneliness. Being deeply loved is very important but so very hard to find when so many are focused on pleasure and it is such an attractive and immediate fix. Community would have once filled many voids. We can't rely on just one person to give us all we need. Loss of community is having a very real affect on our sense of well being. Crises happen because a change is happening. It signals a time of self reflection and inner change. Always the hard times awaken us to the importance of appreciating the simple things and moments. It will pass as all things do. You're a strong lady ralf. Just ride your own waves. My apologies for the general nature of my comment. I think it is a bit relevant for all of us. Feeling down goes with being human. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you have good health and can enjoy music amovie-sex-tastes and smells then your lucky.You look at the bad and miss the fact you have life go to a rehab or elderly home and maybe you might fell better.Do as I do do something outrageous that othersdon't dare do or try dogging.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Particularly about the sex! I don't like heights (and have already been up in a chopper a few times) so wouldn't fancy any of your options for your voucher. What really thrills me is the thought of driving a fast car around a race track; throwing that powerful hunk of metal around some hairpin turns, with the scent of burning tyre rubber in my nostrils. :) I just live for the small pleasures, given that my life is also so dull and mundane and the option of getting a new job at the moment is laughable, in this financially insecure climate. A good glass of wine, a walk on the beach, or a good movie with popcorn and a choc top, usually puts the smile back on my face, if only temporarily. Or I could just watch some porn and get my vibrator out - a far more satisfying option than most of the men I've met!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ohh please ralf.Sit back have a look at your self and your life , and then give yourself a kick up the bum.At the worst you`re alive ,that`s a bloody good start.As someone who in the last 2 weeks lost a long term friend and then found out that my life was also at risk I`d say you aint got much to whinge about.Hell I`m happy waking up in the morning and being able to go to sleep at night knowing I might not be here
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's easy. Problem solved. You're looking for love? Take up Scuba Diving. It has the highest ratio of men to women. Can't do it myself. I live inland. Only scuba diving, I'll be doing is in the bath tub. Last time I tried an outdoor activity I almost drowned as I got taken under by the water. All I could think of as I met my near demise, was that when my parents found out I'd drowned, they were going to kill me!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wouldn't know what to do with a Redballoon Voucher. I've never been given one. As to "sex", I don't find that "boring" either; even with the same man after 33 years !!! In fact, it was never "boring" and these last few years, it has just become better and better !!! I don't find RHP "boring". Maybe it is because I consider myself still "new". How can RHP be "boring" ? There are such a variety of different men here !!! Each and every man is "unique" in his own way.The same goes for the women !!! Now if you are talking about a job that you do everyday, yes, that can become "boring" even if the job is an "interesting" one. The "mundane regularity" of it, makes it that way. I make my Life interesting by meeting RHP Members. Each one has a different "story" to tell. It's even better when the Member is a man that I am interested in because there is so much more for me to discover about himself. It doesn't need to just about the "sex". My Life is interesting because I'm always learning something new. For example, I've just bought myself a Smartphone !!! I've finally come out of the "Dark Ages". There are so many "simple" things that one can do to make life a bit more interesting. How about learning to paint or draw ? Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
...that's BORING
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'freefuntime' first up guys and girls there is no way any self respecting helo pilot will let a novice even touch the controls while it is airborne so I think what they are saying is go take a fighter flight best fun you will have as for other ideas try shark fishing great fun when you land a big one that will get your heart pumping . Anyway buck up and have fun I do know exactly what you are going through everyone has to start somewhere and there are dual controls from what I gather. I have no interest in joy flights, I have flown in choppers and light aircraft a lot for aerial searches in the SES, never flown one though. Sorry but I find fishing is boring as batshit. A few other things that have crossed my mind is tigermoth stunt flight or gliding. I have gliders locally though so I can do that anytime.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm unsure what i posted that fits those charcuteries - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Come on over to Perth, have a non boring weekend knee high in hotties!
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RHP User
11 years ago
to keep it interesting?...I think that I have a perfect work.liesure balanced..two days a week I work with 12 -14 year olds,and volunteer two hours a week.I support kids with learning disabilities at a local school. I love my job ,most of my working life I have been in management positions.often being responsible for other people's lives and feeling quite isolated in the workplace because I could not afford to become close friends with the staff I was supervising..For the first time in over thirty years I now have colleagues who are also close friends..such a revelation...The thing that has happened most recently is that I have become close to two of my fellow forumites...one has even moved ten minutes away from where I live..I think the other is contemplating a similar move:)... I love being a part of the RHP community,I have made friends with people in other states,one of whom lives in Perth and we meet up at least once a year.travelling to Sydney and staying in a 5 star hotel..we laugh a lot ,visit art galleries and flirt outrageously with waiters..Well she does:)... But I also enjoy my time alone.I live lose to the water in a small cottage and have a garden filled with trees ,possums and birds..I love sitting out there just communing with nature and my world...fortunate me ..hugs xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Darling, you and I know each other so I hope you'll know how to take this. Only boring people get bored, you're in a rut and you need a life change to get out of it. Go and study or join a meet up group. Start working through your bucket list... Do the things that make you happy and don't be waiting around for some bloke to save you from your boredom. You're better than that. You'll attract people into your life once you're happy in it, if you're not happy in it who is going to want to be a part of it? Get up, get out, get moving, excersise, eat really yummy, healthy food, look after yourself- make yourself into someone YOU would like to be with.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are going to do the stunt flying thing, I totally recommend some sea sickness pills. Even the best pilots can get sick in a stunt plane. Even if you have a cast iron stomach, pulling 3Gs can make things want to move. You don't want to turn a great experience into an unpleasant one and ralf (LOL) over the dashboard...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who doesn't love a delicious charcuterie..homme sausage,yum yum:) xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey ! What ever you do, don't go Christmas shopping! Going to be a few hours before i get over that!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
I wonder sometimes if the way we live our lives these days has contributed to the feelings of boredom and flatness many people experience. We have some much stimulation around us from smartphones, tv, internet, music etc that we are used to looking and experiences things in short and sharp sound bites. Perhaps we have lost the ability to amuse ourselves? I am a curious creature and love to explore how a person's mind works and what has led down the various paths in their lives. I also love making 'things', whether it be cooking, sewing, building, gardening, renovating the house. Being a tactile creature and means I love immersing myself in projects which stimulate my senses. I can lose myself in a project for hours and learn so many things whilst doing so. A simple turn to the left or the right can change someone's life so much. Who knows whether the correct turn has been made; or do we just make the most of the places we end up? When I apply this logic to your post and take into consideration your beautiful giving and generous nature, I have to ask if you have lost the right to claim time as your own, and take your own paths of exploration? Personally, part of staving off boredom is the opposite of what MissBB says. Don't get up & get moving. Find some activities that make you explore the quiet and tactile worlds that are so often overlooked these days. Other posters have commented on the down after an adrenalin rush and I see their point. Go the other way; tread down that path which leads to activities which need consistency, learning, practice, repetition. Find something that is intellectually challenging (rather than physically challenging), a new skill (or new language) to learn, or a past hobby taken up again. In other words, something which engages your brain for longer than a sound bite, which makes you use reasoning, logic, problem solving. Try CAE in the city for some great courses, and you never know, you may just meet that someone special in that environment :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Disregard my last apres Xmas party post I had a wee spell of feeling like that when I was newly single. I decide to take more chances in my life and have made a lot of new friends. Ive also pencilled in a weekend in Sydney , which I probably wouldnt have considered before. Does your voucher cover a flight simulation experience? My friend did it and we were allowed to sit in the "aircraft". It was pretty amazing. Its so good to see posts from genuinely caring people on here, they must have brightened up your spirits. There are a lot of lovely folk on RHP. xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your post really spoke to me. Lovely x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd like to offer a virtual bear hug.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey Ralf, You seem rather despondent. I guess the only time I've been in a similar situation is when I was unemployed... How did I deal with this? I focused on my training. I guess it kept me distracted, but it's also been a passion of mine for the better part of a decade. Find something you're passionate about! You've got a bit of searching to do. If people are boring you, work some new circles. Being in the same crowd or type of people and talking about the same rubbish over and over again can be absurdly irritating. I got my mate a red balloon voucher for his 30th in October. The bugger still hasn't used it! V8 supercar ride :) Maybe you need the massage or spa treatment to get away from it all and just chill out. xtothez
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissBlissBomb' Darling, you and I know each other so I hope you'll know how to take this. Only boring people get bored, you're in a rut and you need a life change to get out of it. Go and study or join a meet up group. Start working through your bucket list... Do the things that make you happy and don't be waiting around for some bloke to save you from your boredom. You're better than that. You'll attract people into your life once you're happy in it, if you're not happy in it who is going to want to be a part of it? Get up, get out, get moving, excersise, eat really yummy, healthy food, look after yourself- make yourself into someone YOU would like to be with. Could not have said it better
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nothing a good motorboat from me can't fix! Live life dangerously... it may even get noticed by the man of your dreams Xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Q 1..Personally I think you should go for the unreachable...something that you didn't think you would be game to do. Q 1...Personally I bought a yacht...if I'm not sailing it or racing it I'm working on the darn thing but I love it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
DOH..CAN'T COUNT...Q 2 follows Q 1...
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RHP User
11 years ago
We should discuss this further
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you are bored with this site why bother commenting here at all? For God's sake if you are bored on a sex site what hope is there? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
What's wrong with you...This is not a sex site.it"s the CWA knitting circle fb page,we re currently researching the average dimensions of the RHP penis..This will allow us to devise a pattern for a one size fits all Peter Heater...Unfortunately there re more big pricks here than we anticipated...Freya chief prick measurer
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' I am sorry you are feeling that way. I don't really get bored. If I do I just read a book and escape to another place. I get lost in books.Generally I like relaxing. However I did find recently that I was shutting myself off a bit. Spending too much time on my own and not using my brain. So anyway I got a new job. That was a bit stressful but it has really helped me and my confidence. It's nice getting acknowledge and thinking that you have something to offer other people. It has been great thinking about other things and using my brain again. As for the voucher. I liked going on a Balloon ride. I think one over Melbourne would be pretty spectacular. It so quiet up there and you can see for miles. It is a unique experience. Shells. Go for the balloons......do it after a night out......or with a lover.. a friend .......loose yourself for a moment........just feel it and enjoy ....xxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' What's wrong with you...This is not a sex site.it"s the CWA knitting circle fb page,we re currently researching the average dimensions of the RHP penis..This will allow us to devise a pattern for a one size fits all Peter Heater...Unfortunately there re more big pricks here than we anticipated...Freya chief prick measurer love you XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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RHP User
11 years ago
Totally get your situation, my strategy for tackling that was cliche but it got me back interested in my day to day. Challenge yourself and travel somewhere where you don't speak the language or understand the customs, I picked China. Get lost and try to make your way for a week with no plans. As for the boring sex, give it a rest for a while it'll come back. Red balloon voucher I'd recommend the drag car experience!!! Good luck, Al, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi 'Ralf', Your current ennui and history of risk-taking behaviour may suggest that you're suffering from dopamine deficiency. Boredom: the desire for desires (Leo Tolstoy)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Ralf74, Have taken the time to read through your initial post and all five pages of responses. It is is out of care first and foremost and deep personal experience secondly that I ask if you are depressed. I understand everyone's motivations with positive suggestions and that can be appreciated. By no means do I wish to be confrontational or seen as over-reacting. The comment related to (my interpretation) you possibly spreading your self too thinly and leaving nothing for the self along with you thinking that you need to be "selfish", which doesn't work for us selfless people, is something that resonates very strongly with one's own previous circumstances. Again, my motivation is purely out of care. Not to humiliate, to cause embarrassment or for any other reason. The only valid suggestion (really sorry guys and I know you all mean well) I could find was to go to your gp, a health professional, and talk to an independent person about how you feel. In the end if these feelings of yours continue all other activities can seem like distractions from what could be at the core. How do I know this, because the parallels are drawn from similar feelings earlier in the year which unfortunately led to a suicide attempt. Yes life can seem so good on paper and there can be plenty of support with good friends and family (like mine was) but if left unchecked our minds can continue to slip further into darker territory without us being really aware. Not about being morbid and there is no shame. Your feelings are legitimate and a reality. And it is with sharing that we get to gauge the severity of each other's concerns for the sake of a positive outcome. Though as much as we can be motivated to turn to the ones that care most like friends and family, we can still hold back on the severity of our feelings/desperation out of our love and care for them and for not wanting them to be too worried or overly concerned to where they end up upset on our behalf (because we are selfless). So if you feel a little helpless, dark, empty, desperate or confused day after day please, for your sake and ours, have a chat with your doc. Remember, no shame. Hope this helps mate. Cheers Nathan.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you for your considered response. I have had depression in the past very briefly, thankfully, and it feels nothing like that. I found depression to be a rut I could not climb out of, positive thoughts being turned into negative thoughts immediately like if I had something good to think, it was stamped out and crushed with something bad. I am ruling out depression as a cause for my behaviour.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tiroba' Hi 'Ralf', Your current ennui and history of risk-taking behaviour may suggest that you're suffering from dopamine deficiency. Boredom: the desire for desires (Leo Tolstoy) I just googled it and I think you are somewhat on the money. I am not exhibiting all the traits when dopamine levels fall low such as drug use, stress and the habitual use of antidepressants, nor are there symptoms such as depression, mood swings or food cravings. However, I can consider poor nutrition, lack of sleep, poor attention, chronic boredom, a loss of satisfaction, apathy and low physical energy with no desire to exercise the body. I did also look more into Apathy and I think that describes my feelings perfectly. I just recently started taking a women's multivitamin and that almost immediately picked up my mood and energy level so maybe it is as simple as a vitamin deficiency. Thank you again for posting, I really appreciate it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe look at B12 as a vitamin also, had the doc prescribe that year before last, that and a visit to a Nutritionist. The B12, well the one I was taking, did stipulate that it can have an enhancing effect on mood and did notice it after taking it for about 4 days. Was a little wary of the nutritionist visit, thinking I was going to get stuck eating something like dry crackers and bloody Kale from then on in. Though there weren't too many modifications at all and between those slight dietary changes and the purchase of a pushbike within a month there was a substantial change. So glad that you are in a position of ruling out the Black Dog, that is a relief.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sure you feel like you don't have a man to share your life with ,,, but let's face it sharing with someone can be more of a head fuck than living a free existence ,,, embrace the fact your a free spirit maybe then you'll find what u need not what u want ,,,, head up ralfy . Feel free to download :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your not bored with life ,, your just disconnected for a period ,,, I like to think of it as a growth period ( lots of periods :) before your next growth spurt :) we all get bogged just remember those that hate when your down don't get to fly when your high - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And this private jet does not accept red balloons :) Maybe a nude tandem sky dive is the answer ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had the worst year imaginable breaking up with my partner of 12 years finding out he was sleeping with my best friend and now they are a couple fighting for custody of my 2 kids finding out my 7 year old daughter has a disease that is going to most likely stop her from having children in the future and that's just the tip of the iceberg. All this has left me drained feeling low at times worthless unlovable and wondering why i should continue. I know i shouldn't feel like that but i do when my kids are with me i'm in high spirits but when i'm on my own i'm right back down in that pit. It's probably the time of year making you feel crappy too maybe do something to get your adrenaline pumping i personally would jump out of an airplane i'd love to go sky diving. All the best lovely Kymmy xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Easy Ralfie do a tandem skydive.....however take a normal plane ride first to the Whitsundays.....believe me taking your first skydive over the Whitsundays in summer time is the best....beware cyclones though a tad hectic those devils... Try it you may feel like I did when landing....steer clear of the male with the hard hard erection!!....loved the skydive & was buzzing for two weeks.... ps Ive felt that way too.........You need to find a new passion, so what will it be?.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was so bored with my life i decided to take myself to the gap at watsons bay,i stood on the edge where some had stood before me,and then i had this honest thought,if im so so bored with my life as it stands today just imagine how frigging bored im going to be when the lights go out for good,not much happening then me thinks lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'jsk6767' I was so bored with my life i decided to take myself to the gap at watsons bay,i stood on the edge where some had stood before me,and then i had this honest thought,if im so so bored with my life as it stands today just imagine how frigging bored im going to be when the lights go out for good,not much happening then me thinks lol Glad you saw the light and stepped back from the edge. Life's for living, and when we are down it usually gets better. Its a time to reassess and make changes. LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's great to see you!!! Hugs
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' Quoting 'jsk6767' I was so bored with my life i decided to take myself to the gap at watsons bay,i stood on the edge where some had stood before me,and then i had this honest thought,if im so so bored with my life as it stands today just imagine how frigging bored im going to be when the lights go out for good,not much happening then me thinks lol Glad you saw the light and stepped back from the edge. Life's for living, and when we are down it usually gets better. Its a time to reassess and make changes. LG ok first of all i would like to say hiya leo-girl its nice to meet you,im not 100% sure but i dont think we have met or exchanged messages in the forums before????????,ok secondly i would also like to say thank you very much for your very kind and thoughtful reply to my post in the bored with life thread,now here comes the awkward part,my post was all tongue in cheek,i guess i'd call it attempted jamie humour, ummm abit strange at times is jamie humour i guess it could be considered a acquired taste lol,i thought about what i was saying 3 times because i understand totally how this subject that being suicied affects so so many people world wide,i decided to go with the attempted jamie humour so long as i made sure to include the funny emoticons faces and the lol's,some who know me know that when i use these things im only joking and not meant to be taken seriously,i can totally understand how you thought i was being serious because like i said earlier i dont think we have met or exchanged messages before,so you would have not known the signs i used to indicate that i was not being serious,now i can totally understand if you or anyone else has taken offence to my post and if this is the case i do apologise whole heartedly,but having said that under no circumstance did i mean to deliberately cause offence,so in finishing up with this message i hope your not feeling pissed off or upset with me now that you have this information,if you are ummmm perhaps i could suck on ya big toe or give you a hand massage lol to try and make up for it,ok thats it for now take care stay happy and enjoy the start of the new year,jamie
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPear' It's great to see you!!! Hugs Hiya MrsP how are you doing these days,its been quite awhile since we last talked hey,i hope you and the family are all doing very well,and i know its abit late but MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEARS MWAH,im only a guest member here atm so i cant PM you but im going to part with some coin soon and become a paid member again so when i do i'll send you a PM and we can chat away as much as we like , or if you like why dont you PM me and i can reply that way just to i get my paid membership sorted out,ok i'll finish up now take care stay happy and i hope to hear from you soon,jamie xoxoxo
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