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September 21 2014

"Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness." Bertrand Russell. How boldly do you love? How brave are you in the pursuit of intimacy and connection? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    That is like asking the proverbial length of a piece of string question. That is going to depend on everybody's individual behaviour and thoughts. I suspect you will get answers from the 'jump in the deep end quickly' to the overly cautious, and everywhere I between. Of course that will also depend on what sort of relationship you are intending to get into. Good luck with this. Tall

  • MissBishere

    MissBishere

    11 years ago

    I protect my heart with 10 foot walls, ain't no one getting in there hahahaha. That was slightly tongue in cheek. I don't think you can ever say never but it would have to be pretty special for me consider it and it would have to sneak up on me. When I do love it is intense and passionate but I don't love easily. So I don't love boldly. Intimacy and connection I seek and if I have trust in that person I will show them all of me and expect the same in return, but these are separate to love. Needless to say I don't trust easily so rarely have the level of intimacy and connection I seek. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Your words echo my thoughts 100 percent. I feel exactly the same.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Was unlucky in love...and according to his friends had shocking halitosis:-) xxQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    and keep the walls up and tread carefully. But those walls are not inpenetrableAnd at times I feel them crumbling.....and it scares the crap out of me .....

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    11 years ago

    Truly madly deeply. Do you want to find it? You have to also recognise it ❤️💐🌹 🏢 even walls fall with time and love 🌅😘

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Qefenta3' Was unlucky in love...and according to his friends had shocking halitosis:-) xxQ Which might explain why he was unlucky in love ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Bertrand Russell would be the last person I would be turning to for advice on love given his hypocrisy and fickleness,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    it is funny how those words get thrown around in here as a personality trait but it only really applies to sex. I am open to a lot of what comes my way, physically, spiritually and emotionally. Opportunities knock but of we don't want to listen then maybe we miss out. In saying that, I am not throwing myself at everyone who comes knocking but in the right circumstances, I am not going to say no out of fear of love.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    My heat is open....that's the best I can offer. Foxy

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' My heat is open....that's the best I can offer. Foxy your HEAT hey Foxy! You will have them queuing up with a comment like that!! Sounds horny as hell xo

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just out of the blue, it's happened. I met a man a week ago. We went out for dinner, by the end of the meal I knew I was falling for him. I can't believe the intensity of the attraction for this person, he just drew me on, and, wonder of wonders, he really liked me too. Now I can't stop thinking about him night and day. We have seen each other almost every day or else talked on the phone. He's waiting for the bubble to pop as it were, and he pinches himself to see if he's awake, and I'm waiting for my heart to be broken. What the hell?

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    My little warm spot! Foxy

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    11 years ago

    <------ my "heat of love" is slightly open. Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    "Whats love got to do with it...." ...... at least..... until I've gotten to know someone thoroughly first and decided they should be a significant part of my life.... DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    "I asked her if she believed in love, and she smiled and said it was her most elaborate method of self-harm" - Benedict Smith

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    So falling in love is a choice then DG? I asked once, what is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone but I never got a satisfactory answer. Although I think I have figured it out now.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Takes a giant leap of faith, that some are afraid to take. It has equal risk and reward.it comes in many forms and when you least expect I love my husband. One of my best leaps of faith. 28 years and still going with all its shape changes.

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    11 years ago

    Thank you that is beautiful and I hope it works out. Truly madly deeply ☺️

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I fall fast but get bored really quickly I love the chase, and can not stand men who chase me, I guess its wanting what I cant have then once I get it I dont want it, its a problem I need to change about myself,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Im trying to work that out for myself love and being in love.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Let me clarify for you :) WHEN you love, how boldly do you do it? WHEN you pursue passion and intimacy, how brave are you? There's no suggestion in my OP that you have to think about love with every woman you meet. And in fact, the OP could just as easily be asking how brave you are in creating connection and intimacy with family, friends, colleagues etc. After all, human connection transcends sexual relating. So why not just answer the question and tell us how bold and brave you are (or aren't, if that's the case)? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

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    11 years ago

    Other people's answers are up to them. What's your answer for you? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm immensely brave when it comes to loving a man. I'll throw it all on the line. I love big and brightly and without reservation, although sometimes if I've got an idea in my mind (a belief about how he feels, for example) it might hold me back. If I can shake off any doubt though, I'm all in. When I think of the ways I've made a fool of myself for love I should cringe, but truthfully I'd do it all again. I'm a little less brave when it comes to pursuing physical intimacy, even with a man I love deeply. I'm very sexual but I have some baggage that I find I'm always fighting to overcome. Sometimes I manage to, sometimes it beats me. I'm crap at love and intimacy with friends and family. It's all in or none in for me, and all in seems to work best when it's a mind, body, heart and spirit connection eg when it includes love, sex and all that marvellous stuff. So 'closeness' outside a loving, sexual relationship is rare for me. I'm very guarded and in many ways shy. So in the case of a man I love, brave and bold. In most other cases, absolute chicken shit :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' <------ my "heat of love" is slightly open. Foxy A little bit of lube should help ease the pain then ... Tall

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'VelvetNoir' "I asked her if she believed in love, and she smiled and said it was her most elaborate method of self-harm" - Benedict Smith Being bold and brave, I hope that you then don't subscribe to that feeling... Tall

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' So falling in love is a choice then DG? I asked once, what is the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone but I never got a satisfactory answer. Although I think I have figured it out now. Need there be a difference .. ? If there is genuine feeling, and it is being reciprocated, then is love not love ? Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    "Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'LaVelvetRouge' Just out of the blue, it's happened. I met a man a week ago. We went out for dinner, by the end of the meal I knew I was falling for him. I can't believe the intensity of the attraction for this person, he just drew me on, and, wonder of wonders, he really liked me too. Now I can't stop thinking about him night and day. We have seen each other almost every day or else talked on the phone. He's waiting for the bubble to pop as it were, and he pinches himself to see if he's awake, and I'm waiting for my heart to be broken. What the hell? Good luck, it is amazing to find.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Once upon a time I would pursue love with bold abandon, child like whimsy and naivety... now, after being rejected and let down so much, I am overly cautious when considering the possibility of ever being in love again. Classic example number 1... this last Saturday I had an impromptu very blind date. We knew absolutely zero about each other, had no idea how we each looked and had never spoken.After nearly 4 hours over dinner and drinks etc I walked her home, we kissed and then I left for my place.It was without a doubt the most romantic experience I have had in a LONG time... and not too many years ago I would have pursued her with more than a passing interest as this is someone I could see myself falling in love with, now I would shy away for fear of being hurt just one more time. Once in love however, I will never shy from being forthright and bold in expressing my affections and being intimate. SG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Do be brave,it is so rare to find anyone that interests us to that level....hugs xxQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    To answer this the best I can I would have to say. I don't have any fear of what may come along and what might happen and how I might feel.I just take it for what it is and that is it really. I don't set objectives and I am not afraid of being hurt, I never have understood what people carry on about when they say these things. I love the thrill of meeting new people and if I am not attracted to them I can still be friends with them. So perhaps I am brave I really don't know !!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Amicus75' Once upon a time I would pursue love with bold abandon, child like whimsy and naivety... now, after being rejected and let down so much, I am overly cautious when considering the possibility of ever being in love again. Classic example number 1... this last Saturday I had an impromptu very blind date. We knew absolutely zero about each other, had no idea how we each looked and had never spoken.After nearly 4 hours over dinner and drinks etc I walked her home, we kissed and then I left for my place.It was without a doubt the most romantic experience I have had in a LONG time... and not too many years ago I would have pursued her with more than a passing interest as this is someone I could see myself falling in love with, now I would shy away for fear of being hurt just one more time. Once in love however, I will never shy from being forthright and bold in expressing my affections and being intimate. SG and go for it, how many people do that, walk away when a potential love might be right there in front of you. some people go all their lives looking for it. BE brave the heart is a muscle it needs exercise