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Bisexual Problems
May 26 2019
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Being bisexual makes us in the minority and no one teaches us how we should expect we should feel when we are bi, react or interact in our sexual life. The only rules we should follow are those we pick up in our life experiences. Nothing hard and fast. Just follow your feelings as best you can
So many people manufacture their feelings to conform to society and the hetro expectations.
It's taken me a lifetime to understand my feelings. I find it easier to stay single and interact with the genders the way I'm feeling at the time. I've let some people down in my life by following my bi sexual tendencies but at the end of it all, it's my life and l am not responsible for other people's happiness. Of course you should conduct yourself in an ethical manner but never pretend feelings are there if they are not.
Remember you are bi and never expect hetro or gay people will understand you. They may, but never expect itRHP User
5 years ago
I am no psychiatrist or psychologist, but where you talk about being in love with a man but not being sexually attracted to him, I would question whether you are in love with him at all. When you fall in love with someone, to me they are sexually attractive. Are you sure he is not fulfilling some lack in your life, and you are grateful for that and it just feels like love?
I'm not being or trying to be facetious, it's just that (I believe anyway) true love and sexual attraction are like hand in glove. The inverse does not necessarily apply, i.e. sexual attraction does not always equal love.
As far as the rest of your post, as a bi male I can assure you that you are not alone in feeling like you do - but just enjoy it, let it take you where it wants. You are young and adventurous - you are only one of those things for so long.AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
You are getting into a minefield area in regards to what constitutes love/lust.
I've seen professionals regarding that subject and they were very wishwashy about it. There are no defining boundaries, it's all very personalised. And throw in the world of swinging and open relationships and it brings into question the relationship of love and sex.
My last wife, whom l wouldn't have sex with again, l love and would sacrifice my life for in a heartbeat.
Throw In bisexuality in the equation and nothing makes complete sense.
So I'm with the OP, Lemon, saying it's possible to love without sexual attraction. But I'm definitely open minded with the discussion of friendship/lust/love .
Would be great to here others opinions.
Great topic Lemon_SpliceAnnieWhichway
5 years ago
Nice spacing l must say
SSExplorer
5 years ago
I deeply loves a woman and she deeply loved me. I thought we were like brother and sister until I got a serious gf and she showed me exactly how she felt...very sexy lingerie involved!
I didn’t realise how deeply I loved her as I was infatuated with the new girl so I lost that love.
We were inseperable, she was gorgeous but I never made the connection that we should be more than the closest of friends but on reflection we were definitely in love with each other and she still holds a very special place in my heart.RHP User
5 years ago
Its always strange when a guy in the couple won't touch you but he will suck your cock... Never understood that
RHP User
5 years ago
I'm experiencing something similar at the moment. I'm bisexual but mostly function that way with group sex. That being said there has been a handful of guys that I've had one on one time with.
But as I was saying there is something similar happening to me at the moment. One of the things that normally has a huge bearing on my sexual attraction to someone is how well I get along with them and their personality. There is a girl I spend a lot of time with and get a long really well with. She's definitely attractive and we have had sex in the past but for some reason that sexual appeal isn't there and I'm not really sure what the go is.
Playful2looking
5 years ago
A true bisexual loves a person for whats in their heart and how you work together..not what they have between their legs so sex (lust) and love are different... love is about the bond between two people rather than ..just sex... thats why bisexuality is different from being gay because you are attracted to both sexes but when it comes to love and respect its the person not just their tits or dick.. you can enjoy sex with a man or women ..but love is the stronger bond and a bisexual person will choose a mate on different grounds than just physical attraction.
funfindersxx
5 years ago
We are a straight couple and we apologize for commenting on what happens to us.80 -90% of couples on RHP have a Bi female.We have no idea what Bi Sexual means, Does it it mean?The Bi Wife must have a bi swing experience with the other couples female?Does being a Bi Female give HER the right to feel up a straight girl, when she has said she straight before going to the bedroom with our guys?Does being a Bi Female give you the right to keep testing "NO"Does bi mean, You are attracted to both sexes and thats the way you must play making love to female / female in a swing situation with another couple? and guys watch?
We have no problems playing with Bi couples, but 90% of Bi couples have a issue with straight couples and they will not go near them if play is restricted to that awful yukkie opposite sex.
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