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Bi-Curious Female or Partner Pleasing Mate???

March 06 2012

Is it just me or does it seem that a high percentage of bi-curious femmes are not so much into girls as they are into fulfilling their partners fantasy???Moreover they get off on what they are doing for their partner........then what they are doing for themselves and they are not really into F/F sex except for low fat/ sugar replacement style vanilla (haha) like pashing, being touched themselves (all girls can handle that) and letting their partner have their way with 2 girls/ women?Going on my inbox a lot of couple's with a 'bi-curious' female rarely play with a girl without their partner Nor do they want males to join them either- singles or a couple's male half. Yet they want me to play with Mr??? I don't feel comfortable with that leaving my partner out and pleasing her partner. I get guys watch only, for others.........I wont go there because I know I will in most cases invite him over ) Just seems like it's all about the guy and not so much the girl in saying that I suppose if she is getting off on pleasing her partner then it's all good- I just think of all the fun she is missing out on that I think would be fair enough. Sure if she doesn't want other men fine but 1. You never know until you try and 2. What about (if she is truly bi-curious) a special moment alone with a female -the dynamic is so different 1 on 1.And yes I am aware I have Woman's profile but I clearly state that I don't play with couples alone and they still ask me all the time. I would like to redirect all comments RE my profile type to the couples using singles profiles topic lol :) though I flogged it to death :)Cass xxxBe kind or ruthless it's my1st Topic :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I think lots of couples profiles on here are male driven, if women truly stated what they really wanted ( without causing distress to their husband) another man would be high on the list. I'll play with women to turn my hubby on, hell i'd do anything he asked, but that doesnt make me bisexual.....it makes me a good wife haha

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Insight, opinions and observations on the matter.Cass xxx*topic edit*...... in most cases ' I would.....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Perhaps we are actually looking at two levels of bi-curious? Curious for ourselves......and curious to do for our partner? I guess the quickest way to separate the two would be to ask of ourselves, "Would i play with another woman alone, or would i only play with her while a man/partner/husband is present"?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    There are more couples doing this to fulfill the males fantasy of having two women at once than there are genuine swingers I would think. It's supposedly every (straight) man's fantasy, perhaps because it's expected to be. As long as the female partner is willingly doing it to indulge the male and not forced, I don't expect there's any harm. I remeber reading once (way back in the 80's) that most couples experiment with swinging on the instigation of the male but those that stick with it are usually influenced by the female who, once having tried it, finds it enjoyable and wishes to revisit the experience. I guess for many guys, it's more inmportant to have had the experience and be able to say "I've done it."

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    A little chilli on their meal, but to go for the four chilli on the menu they know they just cant handle that heat.   Its bi flavour, not curious. Just a little taste of kissing, and licking boobs and tribbing   Yes they do it for the guy, and nothing wrong with a little taste test, your right one on one would be the best way to see if that’s for you, before you go out and please hubby. Though him watching may be the turn on for a woman.   Its not fair on the girls who are really into girls, I do not mind a woman going down on me but sorry I have tried the other way and its not my cup of tea. So that is selfish to expect it all your own way if you hook up with a bi woman.   I have tried fingering a girl but would rather a cock in my hand instead   I do love kissing women the licking boobs and tribbbing, but that’s as far as my tastes go, so I do not do couples or women as I think If I don’t return the favour its not the right thing to do.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I think you are 100% right Cass!   I am Bi-curious... leaning on Bi but I am lucky enough to have a guy who does support and understand my sexuality. So how do I define my sexuality? Well im extremely aroused and attracted to other women, I find sex with women satisfying and needed but I still define sex as being with a man and I need sex with a man, as in my guy, more than with a woman.   I am lucky enough to have a guy also who does understand my sexuality and would allow me to indulge and he has never been part of this or made moves to, his only request is that I am safe and secure with that person and I am honest in that I tell him who and when its happened.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    My wife MJ is Bi sexual she loves the touch, feel and taste of a women and even though I love watching her with another women, I would be more than happy for her to have a female fuck buddy.MJ has played 1 on 1 with women alone before and i'm not pushy about being there when she does. But I think that a lot of women are saying they are bi because of their hubbys. Purely for the entertainment of the husband. I worry about Mj's safety when I'm not with her, but as with her male Fb's, I have met them and socialized with them to make sure they are genuine in there intentions and know we are in a secure relationship. I would do the same if MJ wanted a female FB.Cheers,Ben

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Delicious- Not our profile ;) that's what I mean DGT I think that most would want to swap or MFM but don't want things to get messy with their partner's ego.DGT- I like MFF but I reckon I prefer 1 on 1 it's totally different for me when not considering the male and I have her all to myself. That's why I probably prefer MFMF especially bi/full swap it's more balanced whereas MMF is more about the girl and MFF is more about the guy (generally speaking.)Jensman- that's how it was for us- Sean suggested it for years but after child birth I wasn't feeling it- now I am the driving force lol :)Tuscanred- an intensity system is a great idea pmsl- 1 tongue, 2 tongues 3 etc.....I am so into girls (5 tongues) had to slap myself at kindy gym this morning!!! It's getting to the level of ridiculous like I require them for reproduction and my body clock is ticking lol.1 on1 with a girl feels the same for me as when I am with a man....in fact I think I am more into exploring a woman. With men I am more submissive ( I get off on what they get off on) and that doesn't mean I am lazy I am very active still but happy for them to lead the way. With women I think I become a bit more dominant and can't help it. I really wonder the psychology behind that. Anyone know a good sex therapist heheThis is not an ad it's an editorial or an informercial at worst hahaha :Pedit edit I need more sleep and less forum.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Ben you are totally awesome:) wish there was more men like you out there. Cass xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    There's definitely a scale to these things - discussed in another topic recently.My Ms Cara isn't Bi, she's been there and tried and just isn't into it. Like Tuscan she enjoys a woman's touch, but is not keen on reciprocating past touching and hence tends not to seek it out. Like Delicious however she does get into it with me and when really horny wont say no to much at all with the right people! She hasn't and is unlikely to ever play with a woman alone.That said in the club environment she has actually found more suitable women than men. Go figure. Maybe it's one tongue in her head but 2 or 3 when the juices take over?It does make it a little difficult on here. The majority of women (both single and as half a couple) tend to be here looking for another woman. There are of course some beautiful exceptions but Bi and Bi-curious seems to be the majority.That's cool, we know our niche and are happy to stick to it.Cheers,Mr Chick

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  • MandN

    MandN

    14 years ago

    I get the feeling many of you won't appreciate our comments here but...   Mrs N is Very BI, and I can appreciate that... She has the right to take that where she likes and with whom she likes, so long as it's a mutual and legal and consensual - whether it's friendship, relationship or just a fun fling.   Overall we know she is not silly enough to go join a SUPPOSED SINGLE GIRL, (who's Hubby/Partner will "just watch") by herself... There are so many dumb people HERE (online on the Internet) who want it all their own way! They want to meet Mrs N 1 on 2, but not meet 2 on 2 or us 2 and their F partner...   WE DON'T ASK ANYONE TO DO THAT, UNLESS THEY ASK US THAT QUESTION STRAIGHT UP, and we see how they REACT - LOL   Why do they think it's ok for their partner to be there but not the both of us ? ? ? What are they afraid of? What are they trying to get away with?   Are they really that THICK that they can't see the duplicity in their motives, actions and requests?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Mr Chick- This topic I discussed with an experienced forum poster, it stemmed from another topic. She suggested I put it up as my first topic. I try to read back through old topics to see what has been discussed heaps but only get through so many.There is no advertising in the OP which is a simple question about whether a high % of girls are in fact into girls- or are just pleasing their partners. I was joking about the advertising in my 2nd post :) Anything can be seen as advertising if you are explaining what your go is, sharing a story, showing sense of humour, wittiness, intellect, or any other side of yourself and even just having your profile on the forums as it means people see you more- It all comes down to intention- I happen to find this whole world really interesting and am thoroughly addicted.My modus operandi is to find out info, learn and stimulate chat. I enjoy doing that in the interest of the collective.I hardly think it's fair to ask others to share their stories/ view points if I don't share mine as all. I was just giving insight into how I feel about being with a girl and I find generally when I open up, others tend to as well- it's the way I approach things in the real world :) whilst tact is not one of my strong points- it is truth/ knowledge that I seek not consensus :)MandN- I am the same I wouldn't ask a couple for 1/2 of them. Unless they offered I think it lacks socially etiquette- especially if the couple says they don't do that- ??? I agreed it is a double standard.Cass xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    ALL!!! How did that happen.....so frustrating for this little pedant

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    And she is, we've discussed her going to meets solo, but it's the safety and reassurance factor that gets her. Would need to meet as couple first and if there was trust and reciprocation, either of us would meet solo. I've listed as straight but am bi-curious too so full bi swap would be on our cards too. I'm just a bit pickier than her when it comes to men. Also, I dont really know how far i'd go down that track yet, still finding my limits are expanding.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris' I think lots of couples profiles on here are male driven, if women truly stated what they really wanted ( without causing distress to their husband) another man would be high on the list. Couldn't agree more with this, it's quite interesting though that the man's desires seem to come first......Isn't this extra excitement in the bedroom supposed to be of mutual agreement? I wonder how many guys on here who are looking for that extra woman with the wife/girlfriend who is just on here to make hubby happy would agree for another male to join in. I reckon it would be a serious case of "do as I say not as I do"

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    We must be a rare minority then.., I suggested hitting up a site like this - NOT the male half... I respond to all emails and flirts - NOT the male half...   RE: the " if women truly stated what they really wanted ( without causing distress to their husband) another man would be high on the list." comment... Erm, no. Another man is not on my list. Finding a female playmate is. Whilst we do play with other couples - we do not do full swap, because I'm absolutely more interested in the female... I do what I have to so the other male doesn't feel completely left out... But that doesn't mean I want another man.   { MRS }

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'DeliciousCplBris' I think lots of couples profiles on here are male driven, if women truly stated what they really wanted ( without causing distress to their husband) another man would be high on the list.     why would this cause 'distress'? it was high on her list, but doesnt her list hold as much importance as mine? we thought so.   Mike.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'multiples_xxx' Mr Chick- This topic I discussed with an experienced forum poster, it stemmed from another topic. She suggested I put it up as my first topic. I try to read back through old topics to see what has been discussed heaps but only get through so many.There is no advertising in the OP which is a simple question about whether a high % of girls are in fact into girls- or are just pleasing their partners. I was joking about the advertising in my 2nd post :) Anything can be seen as advertising if you are explaining what your go is, sharing a story, showing sense of humour, wittiness, intellect, or any other side of yourself and even just having your profile on the forums as it means people see you more- It all comes down to intention- I happen to find this whole world really interesting and am thoroughly addicted.My modus operandi is to find out info, learn and stimulate chat. I enjoy doing that in the interest of the collective.I hardly think it's fair to ask others to share their stories/ view points if I don't share mine as all. I was just giving insight into how I feel about being with a girl and I find generally when I open up, others tend to as well- it's the way I approach things in the real world :) whilst tact is not one of my strong points- it is truth/ knowledge that I seek not consensus :)Hi Cass, definitely wasnt having a go at you. You commented that you're post was an 'editorial or informercial at worst'. Advertorial just came to mind because they are typically informational and helpful but also promote a product. I'm sure the majority of commenters here do it for the fun of it, but it's also a bit of advertising really and there's nothing wrong with that.The other topic I mentioned again just because it came to mind. There was some discussion of the Kinsey scale but I like your 5 tongues better. This is a unique topic and a good one, hence my participation.Thanks for sharing!Mr Chick

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  • DonnaBrett

    DonnaBrett

    14 years ago

    Yes there are many 'couples with bi girls' where the girls are only bi for their men. Both parties of the couple are being stupid..him for trying to force her into it..and her for going along with it!!Although that being said..from our experience, couples in this situation usually come to grief and not from the girl flipping out..it is nine times out of ten the guy who gets jealous or has issues..even though it was his idea in the first place LOLOh..also a question for Cass. How come you have a single girl profile when you are obviously a couple? Why not have a couples profile?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Mr Chick- I wasn't sure of your tone so I just wanted to clarify. I thought by the heading you put in that you were writing my post as ''just' advertising- thanks for letting me know how you meant it Mr Chick all good :)Ha advertorial that's the word I was trying to think of at 3am in the morning. :) I can relax now.RE equal play rights- I think that it's got something to do with not hurting the males ego with the exception of a few like of foreverlove7985 . To avoid jealousy issues- like women don't t get jealous (irony).Cass xxx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I had numerous adventures during my philandering days, many years before meeting Jenny Lee. At the time I was looking for some sort of satisfaction that I didn't get from my first wife but, while I had a lot of fun, I didn't find satisfaction in promiscuity. I am deeply satisfied now that I have Jenny. We connect on many levels, want the same things from life, finish each others' sentences, all that. She is also a very sexual being. She loves hearng my stories but felt that she had missed out on something hence her appearance on RHP. Since around sixteen months ago, she's had two liasons with other men, two threesomes with other couples, and a one on one with another lady, all without me. On top of that, she has invited a gent to join us for threesomes on two occasions and on another, had a couple round. I have found that sexual adventures are more exciting and satisfying when shared with her and she feels the same way. She still intends to meet up with other ladies for one on one liasons but has decided that, in any group activities, we will play together. I have not played without her since we got together. I just don't need anyone else.

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