Best way to send first message

October 31 2020

Bit of a curious one here, how do you start off your initial message to someone that has the best chance of responding?

I don't just write "hey how are you" or "hey sexy what you up to"

I usually include "hope you don't mind the message" in my opening message. I'm not a douchebag and certainly don't want to come across as one. But majority of the time I'm just left on read (if they viewed my profile and didn't reply i understand though)

So yeah, what usually gets the best responses for someone?

Comments

  • steveandhisgirl

    steveandhisgirl

    4 years ago

    how about just being yrself, and msg like a normal person would lol

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    4 years ago

    Be imaginative! Read their profile and base it around that. Keep it simple. If you want to capture someones attention, just be you.
    Most women know what they want around here and will state on their profiles.
    Ms Foxy

    PS what ever you do, do not send gallery pics of your cock straight up. It is a form of flashing. Don't do it. wait till she asks and requests.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    4 years ago

    By far the most popular approach around these parts is to send
    "Wanna fuck?"

  • teamaj2

    teamaj2

    4 years ago

    Bwal
    I can only speak for us, as everyone would appreciate different content in a message .
    Firstly , we appreciate a message that shows that the person or persons haven’t just scrolled through RHP and responded to anyone and everyone in the hope they get someone to take the bait . So not a generic message . Their message reflects they have read our profile and they are what we are seeking . We don’t respond to one , two or three words messages , which to be honest is sadly more the norm . E.g - ‘Hey’,
    ‘What’s up ‘ , ‘How about it?’.
    A message that shows a bit of personality, humour and respect . Confidence in a message is fine , cockiness is not . As we are a couple , we prefer that the message isn’t just directed at myself ( female ) . Messages such as ‘I’d love to bury my face in that cleavage ‘ isn’t going to cut it . We don’t need to be bombarded with intimate pictures with the opening message. Good luck . A x P.S. I’m glad we have a good sense of humour . Some of the messages we receive make us wonder if these guys ever get people to respond . Sorry , just had to say that.

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Everybody is different and every approach should be tailored to the person.

    Having a size fits all approach is probably partly the reason why your messages might be being left on read...

    Other factors that contribute to this issue isn’t much to do with you at all and more probably everything to do with them....

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Totally everyone is different. I would much prefer ‘hey how are you’ because it’s not such a big commitment to throw a response back to that
    Long detailed opening messages look overly keen, not hot. As for ‘hope you don’t mind the message’ it lacks confidence 🙅🏻‍♀️
    Might be generation gap tho

  • RHP User

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    I respond to “hey I read your profile and find xyz interesting. Tell me more about xyz.” or something along those lines.
    A lazy hey or an apology that you are contacting me or that I should mind the message. Not really.